1. The decision to end a relationship is based on a realistic assessment of the situation and a silent evaluation of the circumstances. You are the best judge of your feelings and their implications. It is natural to experience emotional distress as a result of the change, and it is common to feel lost, hurt, and confused about the loss. The positive aspect is that you have a clear direction in this matter: "Get out quickly" rather than lingering and wondering.
Life is full of challenges and opportunities. Having a clear understanding of your goals and direction is likely to be the most crucial factor in achieving them.
2. There was a mutual interest and attraction. Regardless of whether you consider yourself a selfish jerk or a PUA, you should be able to admit that there were also sweet and intimate moments. There was a fluttering heart and blush when you were first getting close, wasn't there?
Regardless of whether your mutual attraction was fleeting or impulsive, at the very least, you were sincere and happy when you chose to be together. For those moments, you were both the optimal choice for each other, willing and irreproachable.
3. If you fail to acknowledge the possibility of change, or if you fail to manage the situation effectively, or if you are inflexible about changes to each other, you will be angry with the other person's changes, resent your own start, and then question your own worthiness, deservingness, and goodness. Ultimately, you will be unable to accurately and clearly sort out and judge your own right and wrong, what is right and wrong, and gains and losses in this situation. It may appear that you have broken up and that you have to go, but you will still be caught up in the past, which is entangled in a mystery and a mess.
4. It is possible that they do not know each other well enough. As time goes by, they may discover more and more unknown aspects of each other, leading to a lack of positive or negative feelings towards each other's words and deeds. It is also possible that they no longer have the same level of interest in each other as they once did, or that they have developed new interests. In other words, both individuals have changed, and their preferences have shifted. The aspects they like and dislike have also changed. Everything is evolving, and people and things are different.
It is not an error to have positive feelings towards someone; there are reasons why one might not have such feelings. If you find yourself thinking about him, it is likely that you are remembering the original version of him, rather than the current one. Do you find yourself thinking about his misdeeds when you view his updates?
If you can maintain a clear perspective on the situation, your initial positive feelings may be balanced by a firm negative opinion. This clarity may help to reduce the emotional distress associated with the breakup.
I wish you the best in your future endeavors.


Comments
I understand how you feel, it's really tough to go through a breakup especially when the relationship was so unhealthy. It sounds like he didn't treat you with the respect and kindness you deserved. Maybe focusing on yourself and doing things that bring you joy can help you heal. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, and remember that you're worthy of someone who will appreciate and love you for who you are.
It's heartbreaking to hear about your experience. That kind of treatment is unacceptable, and it's clear now that he wasn't right for you. Try to channel your feelings into something productive, like writing or another creative outlet. It might also be helpful to talk to a counselor or therapist who can provide professional support as you navigate these emotions. Take one day at a time and be patient with yourself as you heal.
The pain you're feeling is valid, but it's important to recognize that this person didn't value you as they should have. It's okay to grieve the loss of the relationship, but also try to set boundaries for yourself, like limiting how much you check his social media. Focus on rebuilding your selfesteem and finding peace within yourself. Consider joining a support group or engaging in activities that make you feel empowered. You deserve a future filled with love and respect, and moving forward, you'll find that better days are ahead.