How do I handle my wife finding out about my Kuaishou private messages, especially when she is in her postpartum period and wants a divorce?

If it were simply watching videos, it might not have caused such a strong reaction, as watching videos is a common activity in itself. Many people enjoy watching videos, and they offer a wealth of diverse content, allowing us to gain insight into the rapidly evolving world around us.

It would seem that you are currently sending private messages to certain individuals, which your wife has discovered. Could I ask what your motivation is for doing so? Is it perhaps your intention to flirt?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you still want to take things further. It might also be beneficial to reflect on why you did such a thing.

Given that your wife is currently in the postpartum period, it is understandable that she may be more vulnerable and prone to emotional breakdowns. The other person heard the news and wanted to vent, and it is possible that she wants a divorce because she is really very angry. It would be beneficial to try to reconcile this.

It might be helpful to explain the purpose of asking someone for WeChat. It's important to be clear about this, as no matter what the purpose is, it could potentially make your wife unhappy. She may worry that you are cheating on her or something. The reason she is proposing a divorce is that she is still worried that you are irresponsible and playing with two women at once or something.

You might also consider asking your wife what she thinks and what she would need to forgive you. Since the situation is happening online and has not yet developed offline, it is not considered to be a serious situation.

It would be helpful to consider your wife's perspective. What might have led her to seek a divorce? Why did she feel the need to make a scene after adding you on WeChat? You might consider inviting your mother-in-law or other family members to speak with her. If you're interested in apologizing, it might be beneficial to do so promptly. It would also be helpful to explain the reason for adding WeChat and to clarify that the situation has not developed offline. This could help to demonstrate your commitment to maintaining a loyal and respectful relationship with your wife. Best wishes.

Could I ask you a question, ZQ?

Hello, I'm a mental health counselor.

After taking the time to read your account in its entirety,

From what I can gather from your narrative, it seems you are going through a challenging time. You have been playing with WeChat private messages and asking other people for WeChat, which has led to your wife finding out and wanting a divorce. It's understandable that you're unsure of what to do next.

Let's try to find a solution together.

It seems that your intention in coming here was to ask a question, which would suggest that you are not currently considering divorce. Is that correct?

To answer your question, "What should I do?," it would be helpful to understand why she wants a divorce.

Given that your wife has only recently given birth, it is understandable that the physical and lifestyle discomforts might affect her psychological state. Taking care of herself and the baby is a significant challenge at this stage, and it is likely that she would benefit from support and care from her family.

It is worth noting that many new mothers may experience varying degrees of depression at this stage. It is possible that they may lack a sense of security, and that even the slightest slight could potentially trigger a significant reaction.

It is possible that discovering you have a WeChat account with someone else may cause her some distress. It is also possible that she may become overwhelmed with a number of different emotions, which could potentially result in her proposing a divorce.

It would be ideal if you could help her to reconsider her decision to divorce, until she feels secure with you again.

I'm sure you have some idea of what to do now.

Could you please tell me how you managed to win her over?

You may wish to consider using these successful experiences again.

It is worth noting that marriage is not solely based on so-called successful experiences. Rather, it is also about treating each other with sincerity.

In this era of abundant entertainment, it is possible that, at times, we may unintentionally cross boundaries without realizing it, which can unfortunately lead to misunderstandings.

Fortunately, there is still an opportunity to address the situation and show her your sincerity.

You may need to figure this out on your own before you can show your true feelings and let her feel them.

If I might make a suggestion, I believe that sincerity is the key to repairing the relationship.

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Dear questioner,

I'm Yu Liyuan, a listening coach. Thanks for sharing!

You must have been sad and felt guilty when your wife found the Kuaishou messages and threatened to leave you. There's nothing wrong with playing Kuaishou, but you should have seen your wife's needs.

She's angry for several reasons.

Your wife is arguing with you because she wants you to care about her, be considerate, and help her. She has just given birth, so she is very weak. During the month after giving birth, she has to feed the baby and deal with the baby crying at night, so she is exhausted.

She hopes you can be more considerate. Comfort her and spend more time with her.

She was angry when she saw you playing with your phone and not paying attention to her. She doesn't want a divorce. You fell in love and got together. You have your own babies.

Apologize and make a commitment.

If you want to win your wife back, apologize, express your feelings, and make a commitment. I don't know what the content of the "private message" in your Quick Hand is, and whether the reason your wife is angry is related to the content of the private message.

If your wife is just angry that you didn't pay attention to her, say you're sorry and promise to spend more time with her and the kids.

If your wife is angry that you're on Kuaishou and not paying attention to her, we need to understand why.

What's the problem? We need to talk more. Tell us more and we'll help. Thanks!

Hello.

From your question, it's clear you're afraid. You know you've gone too far, and your wife's attitude is making you anxious and uneasy.

Men and women are very different species. Most men value physical infidelity, but women value spiritual infidelity. It's clear that the questioner still loves his wife very much, cares about her feelings, and does not want a divorce.

The current situation is not something we can decide on our own. What happened during the confinement period will undoubtedly be something a woman who is willing to bear your child will remember for the rest of her life.

The original poster came here to ask what to do. I can tell you now, it's not going to be helpful. All anyone will do is try to calm your emotions, and there's no better solution.

The original poster has not provided sufficient information to make an accurate assessment. It is unlikely that my wife would have filed for divorce simply because you requested a WeChat.

If you want to save your marriage, you need to follow the advice of the other respondents. Try to impress your wife during this period to see if there is room for reconciliation.

However, this incident will be a lifelong obstacle for you and your wife.

I advise you to find a professional family therapist, be honest with him about your feelings and thoughts, and involve your wife in the process. This will help you reconcile with your wife.

I am confident my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Thank you all for your time. I am Jiusi, on Yixinli, World and I Love You.

Dear questioner,

Hi, I'm Yi Ming, your heart exploration coach.

I'm so sorry you only gave a brief account. I'll try to give you a general assessment.

I'd be delighted to share what I know with you, and I really hope it will be a little inspiring.

1. Take a deep breath and try to calm your wife's emotions.

Let's not argue about who's right or wrong for now. It's okay to admit you're wrong if you think that's what your wife needs to hear. But let's try to calm her emotions first.

It's possible she's proposed divorce because she's struggling to accept your behavior, or perhaps it's a way of expressing her disappointment.

It's already a big challenge for women during this period.

It's so hard on her physically, and it's also a really vulnerable time mentally.

It's so important to remember that this has a lot to do with hormone levels and role changes.

It's totally normal for women's emotions to fluctuate a lot at this time.

If she finds out that you've been exchanging private messages with someone else, she might get pretty upset.

Do your best to understand her and comfort her as much as you can.

Even if she suggests divorce, it might feel like you're not really ready for it.

At this time, to reassure her, you can also use a different expression. Let her know you're there for her, but there's no rush. And let her know you love her.

She might not be ready to hear your explanations, and that's okay! If she's feeling emotional, let her vent.

It's always better to let it out than to keep it inside.

It's totally normal to feel this way. You're going through a lot right now, and it's understandable if you're feeling a bit overwhelmed. Take as much time as you need to process everything.

At the same time, give this drastic conflict some time to slow down a bit, okay?

For instance, you could agree with her and suggest that you discuss the matter again in three months.

When she's feeling a bit calmer, it'd be great to sit down and have a nice, slow chat about it.

Of course, every woman is different, so it's important to remember that we all handle things in our own way.

It's so important to communicate with her, show her respect, and try to understand her.

It's so important to remember that women's psychology can change a lot during this period. They're new mothers, and they may have a new perspective on their relationship.

It's also possible that she has a lot of pent-up frustration and anger.

If you don't want a divorce, it's so important to learn to be understanding.

2. Don't be afraid to communicate your thoughts!

I'm not quite sure what you mean by "private messages" and how far you've developed with the other person.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this!

I'd love to hear your thoughts on your own behavior.

I'd love to know how your wife defines your behavior.

I'd love to know how your wife defines your behavior.

I just want to check in with you about anything else you might have done that might have hurt your wife.

It's so important to listen to your wife's thoughts.

It's so important to remember that everyone has a different definition of infidelity.

At this time, your wife may need more care and attention from you. If you're having an affair with someone else at this time, it might be difficult for your wife to accept.

It's so important to communicate with each other and try to agree.

You can also ask your wife what she would like you to do to make things right with her.

It's so important to remember not to rush into making decisions.

3. Grow together!

It's totally normal to have some conflicts during the period when your wife is in her postpartum confinement.

As a new father, you also have the wonderful opportunity to learn and grow in your new role.

It can be tricky to find a balance between making your wife feel secure and taking care of your own needs.

It's a bit of a tricky situation, isn't it?

It's also important to remember that husbands may be going through a lot too. They might be feeling tired, stressed, or even a bit neglected. This can lead them to do things they wouldn't normally do, like chatting with other people.

This is something all new dads have to navigate.

I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm here to help in any way I can!

I just want to check in and see if you're prepared for all this.

Family structures will change, wives will change, and so on.

This is a wonderful opportunity for us to grow!

So take all the time you need to adjust to your new family situation.

Please feel free to share these with anyone you think might benefit from them.

If you're interested, you're more than welcome to read "It turns out that understanding is more important than love."

Wishing you all the best!

I'm not sure if the questioner has discussed anything other than asking the other person for WeChat. It's important to remember that women's emotions can be very sensitive during pregnancy and after giving birth. Many women can even develop depression, especially if they cannot handle any kind of stimulus. Even the slightest stimulus can greatly affect a woman's mood. During the woman's confinement period, many women will remember for the rest of their lives the harm done to them by their husbands and in-laws.

In the situation of the original poster, this may potentially lead to a loss of emotional control on the part of the wife, as well as feelings of sadness.

It would be advisable for the questioner to first sincerely admit his mistake to his wife, persuade her to take care of her health, and tell her that they can discuss any problems after the confinement. In the meantime, it would be beneficial for him to take care of his health.

It is important to remember that within 100 days after the wife gives birth, the husband should do his best to take good care of his wife and let her body recover properly. Even if the wife is resentful, it is best not to argue with her or defend himself. Giving his all is the best way to repent. It is important to remember that no matter how much the wife complains, the one thing he should insist on is not agreeing to divorce her.

Perhaps you could tell her that you were ignorant for a moment and ask for her forgiveness.

In short, regardless of how strongly your wife may be feeling, it is important to remain calm, acknowledge your mistakes, and strive to be kind and supportive to your wife and children. It may be beneficial if your wife gradually regains her composure after this sensitive period.

Hello, question owner!

It's likely that your wife is just blowing off steam when she mentions divorce, but no matter what, you should definitely pay attention to her during the postpartum period. This is because this is when women are at their weakest, and if you are not careful, you may cause postpartum depression. This could affect the child's whole life, as the mother may not have enough milk and be in a bad mood.

So, the first thing you need to do is admit your mistake. Explain it to your partner in a kind and understanding way. Let her know that you understand why what you did was wrong and that you're sorry. Only then will she be able to forgive you.

Girls care a lot about explanations and answers that are clear and definite. If you've been caught in a similar situation before (and I'm just guessing here!), you might want to reflect on yourself even more. She might not trust you for a while, which is totally understandable!

The good news is that there's a simple solution! Spend more time with her, pay more attention to her emotions, listen to her more, cook for her, and in general be a caring and attentive husband during this special period of time. This will change her attitude. And promise that it won't happen again next time. Of course, you have to mean it from the bottom of your heart, otherwise all promises and vows are just self-deceptive things. You can ask yourself, what kind of unmet desires are driving you to play dating games?

We all have desires that drive us to act in certain ways.

Step 2: Resolving conflicts

Two people have to live together day and night every day, and inevitably encounter many conflicts. At this time, if you want to continue to maintain this marriage and make it last longer, it's so important to really work through any issues you might have.

If you always avoid facing problems, it might make her feel a little bit cold-hearted, and she might even leave.

Third, show your wife that you're not perfect. We all have our flaws, and she'll appreciate that you're not afraid to show her your weaknesses.

It's important to remember that it's okay to admit when you're wrong. We all make mistakes! It's also good to know how to show vulnerability. Home is a place for love, not logic. Sometimes, it's a sign of strength to give in and show your soft side. A real man can be both flexible and strong. A prime minister can hold a ship in his belly. And, sometimes, if you know how to show weakness and give in, things may work out just fine.

Fourth, take practical actions yourself.

To make things right with her, you can't just say a few stiff words on the phone or WeChat, such as "Forgive me." Nor can you get away with just sending some vows. You need to take practical actions to show her that you are truly remorseful.

In addition to taking good care of her at home, you can also surprise her with a lovely bouquet of flowers when you get off work and tell her, "You've worked hard," or give her a small gift. This will brighten her day and show her how much you care, which might just help you get off the hook. This is also a great tip for maintaining a happy marriage!

Wishing you all the best!

My name is Gu Yi, and I am modest and humble, much like a valley.

For women, a significant source of resentment is the postpartum period.

What is the nature of your emotional disposition?

It is imperative to acknowledge that no individual is invulnerable to temptation, regardless of whether one acknowledges culpability or not. Regardless of whether one succeeds or not, this behavior has caused distress to the individual who is willing to bear one's children. It is, therefore, essential to provide an explanation to one's spouse. The most fundamental explanation is one's own understanding of the behavior in question. If one genuinely feels that one is in the wrong, then one's inquiry is meaningful.

The postpartum period represents a particularly challenging time for women, when their emotional stability is often compromised. Firstly, the physical trauma experienced by the body during pregnancy, coupled with the subsequent weakening of the body, makes it difficult for women to care for themselves. Secondly, the hormonal changes that occur during pregnancy and the subsequent adjustment period after childbirth can also contribute to emotional instability. As men, we may not fully comprehend these experiences. However, we can strive to demonstrate our love and support for our wives and children. During this period, however, we may not be as attentive as we could be.

Arguing about the relative merits of different courses of action is an ineffective use of time. It is important to understand the distinction between providing assistance and making a gesture of affection. Ultimately, the decision is yours. You have your own plan for how to love and care for the person who gave birth to your children. I hope you can provide more warmth and successfully navigate this special period. This period may only come once or twice in a woman's life, and there are not many opportunities to take good care of her. When you can show your love, it is important to do so.

How might one provide reassurance?

It is imperative to attend to every detail, regardless of whether one is in the right or wrong. This period of time is deserving of one's care and attention. Therefore, it is essential to attend to the minutiae of daily life and to provide care for the child, so that one's wife may perceive the love that one has for her.

It is important to report on both major and minor events. Additionally, it is beneficial to engage in frequent dialogue with one's spouse regarding daily activities. The development of a robust communication relationship is a crucial step in fostering intimacy between partners.

The advent of your child will undoubtedly reinforce the bonds within your family unit. However, it is imperative that you facilitate open communication with your wife to enable her to express her concerns. Failure to do so may result in prolonged depression and anxiety, which can have adverse effects on your well-being and the quality of care you provide to your child.

❀Embrace sincere change. Sincerity can facilitate the transformation of even the most recalcitrant material.

The wife has only broached the subject of divorce, so the specific course of action depends primarily on one's attitude toward this marriage. If one desires to remain in the marriage, one will naturally perform well. Conversely, if one does not wish to remain in the marriage, one will naturally be less attentive, so it is essential to understand one's most genuine and pressing thoughts in order to identify an optimal solution.

It is my sincere hope that the family will achieve a state of harmonious coexistence. Wishing you the best.

Hello, host!

There's no question that we made a mistake, and it was a big one.

The wife has just given birth and is still in the postpartum period. This is a time when she is both physically and mentally exhausted, and her heart is especially vulnerable. She needs her husband's care, love, and support. When something like this happens, it is normal for her emotions to run high and for her to want a divorce.

Since we're the ones who messed up, we need to take responsibility.

First, be sincere in your apology.

Don't try to explain yourself or make excuses. When you apologize, be honest about what you did wrong. Research shows that in cases of infidelity, trying to cover things up and lying often makes things worse and causes more harm to the other person.

Next, think about what you can do to make things right.

For instance, you could delete all your social media apps in front of your wife, let her check your phone whenever she wants, try harder to take care of your wife and the kids, or write a written promise.

At the end of the day, think about why this happened.

Take a moment to think about why you acted the way you did. Is there something going on in your relationship that you need to work on? What can you do to make things better?

After having a child, a wife is often more focused on her emotions and the child, which can make her husband feel neglected.

Or maybe they're just feeling a little empty and in need of someone to talk to. At heart, they're not actually looking to develop an extramarital affair.

This is the best way to avoid these situations altogether.

I hope these thoughts are helpful!

The poster feels somewhat uneasy and a little guilty after posting this thread. After all, his wife is still in her postpartum period.

I am here to listen and learn from you.

It is understandable that you may have made a mistake in this situation. Your wife has expressed her desire for a divorce, which is likely a result of the hurt she has experienced. It is important to remember that a woman in her postpartum period requires a great deal of care, love, and attention.

Perhaps what you did at that time may have had an impact on her self-confidence. It's also possible that your wife may have felt a sense of powerlessness.

It is therefore possible that the divorce was mentioned at this time because you were influenced by emotions such as anger, resentment and disappointment.

If I might suggest, there are three steps you could take to truly correct your mistake:

1. It would be advisable to offer a sincere apology and be prepared to withstand your wife's emotional outbursts.

Secondly, it would be greatly appreciated if you could make amends and do your utmost to take excellent care of her for the remainder of the time, at least during her confinement period.

Thirdly, in order to avoid repeating this mistake, it may be helpful to identify the underlying psychological reasons behind your desire to send private messages on Kuaishou.

While doing this, it would be beneficial to also be kind to yourself. Treat your wife well, and forgive yourself for the rest of the things that won't affect others.

Everything that happens has a certain inevitability. What has already happened is the choice you made at the time that seemed most beneficial to you.

If you make a mistake, try to correct it, but don't dwell on what has already happened. It's important to remember that the past is in the past, and we can't change it.

It would be beneficial to look forward. If you were to start taking responsibility for your actions and accept responsibility for them, your wife may see your change, and the divorce may be avoided.

While things have not further deteriorated, it would be beneficial for you, your wife, and your children if you could do your best for the future.

Perhaps it would be helpful to admit your mistake, apologize, make amends, and promise never to do it again.

Everyone makes mistakes. How we deal with them is a choice we can make for ourselves. These choices will also determine our future direction.

I truly believe you can.