How do you adjust yourself when you are slow in thinking due to insomnia?

Hello there, my friend!

Anxiety can really take a toll on our lives, especially when it leads to insomnia and slows our thinking the next day. It's so important to find ways to manage it!

Let's work through this together, my friend.

It's totally normal to feel anxious before a meeting or interview. In fact, most people have been there, and I'm no exception!

To help you feel better, we need to find the cause of your anxiety.

The main reason the questioner believes is:

(1) "I have been more anxious since I was a child," which means it is genetic. This is totally possible!

The four personality types are classified according to E (extroversion factor) and N (emotional stability factor). Among them, Lin Daiyu and Monkey King are representatives of people with unstable emotions. It's totally normal to feel this way! People with unstable emotions are easily disturbed by the outside world. For things that have not happened, they may think too much and become anxious.

(2) Related to interpersonal relationships

Similarly, the quality of our relationships with others can also affect our mood and thus cause emotional instability, which is also likely to cause anxiety. It's also very possible that this is the case.

We can't change who we are deep down, but we can accept ourselves and learn to adapt to our natural tendencies. When it comes to relationships, though, we can choose to change how we act and interact with others. The questioner is caught between living their true self and trying to be accepted by others.

This is also a process of self-integration during growth, and we are currently in the process of integration, so it's totally normal to feel a little confused.

I think the questioner is confused by the conflict between the subjective self and the objective self. The subjective self is how we think we are, and the objective self is how we are perceived by others. When we are young, we learn to regulate our own behavior based on the evaluations of important others around us (parents, teachers, etc.). If we are praised, we carry it forward; if we are criticized, we correct it. Over time, we develop qualities and behaviors that meet the needs of society.

As we enter adolescence, we start to think for ourselves more and more. Sometimes, though, our ideas don't match up with what our parents (or others) expect. This can lead to some pretty big conflicts! At this time, it's really important to listen to our true inner needs, give ourselves a general evaluation, and then think about whether the evaluation of others matches up with our own. If it doesn't, we can choose to accept the other person's opinion, or not.

It's so important to keep on affirming and denying yourself in practice.

It's only when we understand our strengths, weaknesses, and abilities, have a clear goal and direction for our lives and work, and are not influenced by others or selectively accept others' opinions that we can truly form a true self.

It's totally okay to list in detail the conflicts in interpersonal relationships, your own thoughts, the comments of others, and do a comparative analysis. You can even make trade-offs according to your own needs and strive for a win-win situation with a cooperative attitude! You can also learn about the relevant knowledge and adopt an attitude of it being better if others approve, and it being fine if they don't.

I know it can be tough, but I promise you it will get better. You will feel less worried and less anxious.

It's also a good idea to keep a record of what happens in your daily life, how you feel about it, and how it makes you feel anxious. It's natural to worry sometimes, but it's also helpful to think about what the chances are of something worrying you actually happening. And then think about how you'd react if it did happen. It's also a good idea to think about what the worst thing could be and how you'd cope if it did happen.

When we feel like we've got a handle on what might happen, it's natural for our anxiety levels to drop. After all, anxiety is often caused by a fear of the unknown.

I know it can be tough, but you can do this! It just requires slowly improving your psychological tolerance.

There are also some great self-regulation methods that can help you get a better night's sleep! Try taking a hot bath before bed, listening to soothing instrumental music, meditating, doing yoga, or doing some daily moderate exercise, deep breathing, and body relaxation exercises.

If you wake up too early, before dawn, you can just continue resting with your eyes closed. Research has shown that this can also help relieve brain fatigue.

Don't worry, occasional insomnia doesn't have a big impact on the body. It's probably best not to make it worse by worrying about it too much.

If you're still struggling, it's always a good idea to chat with a teacher. I think a teacher who's skilled in hypnosis might be able to help you out!

I really hope I can help you.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, question asker! It's like meeting someone in person when you read their words.

From your description, I can tell you've already taken the first step by sharing your anxiety-and-insomnia-19603.html" target="_blank">insomnia with us. It's so brave of you to put it out there on the screen! I admire your perseverance in fighting against it. It's not easy, but you've done so well!

Let's dive in and see what other points we can adjust based on your description!

You mentioned that you were "slow-witted due to insomnia, and emotionally detached." Insomnia is mainly caused by waking up early, and waking up early is mainly caused by anxiety. I have been anxious since I was a child. When I couldn't write in kindergarten, I would become anxious. This is a great place to start! There are two directions worth considering:

a. I'm excited to hear more about what happened before you developed the state of "insomnia causing slow thinking and apathy."

B. I'm excited to hear more about why you've been anxious since childhood!

I'm excited to suggest these two lines of inquiry because I think they'll help you see that there's a trigger for the emergence of all states. Some of these triggers are obvious, while others are more subtle. To find them, we just need to be patient in the process of searching. I believe you have that!

Then you said, "In kindergarten, I would get anxious when I couldn't write, and in elementary school I even had bowel incontinence." Here, too, there are two directions worth considering:

C. I'd love to know more about what you were feeling when you couldn't write in kindergarten.

D. I'd love to know more about what caused this anxiety!

I've raised these two lines of thinking to inspire you to take action and turn your anxiety into something concrete. Once you've done that, you can then choose the best way to deal with it and start feeling better!

Then you said, "I don't know if I was born too emotionally sensitive. The problem now is that every time I have to meet someone the next day or attend an interview, I will be anxious and wake up early the night before. Then my thoughts will be very chaotic during the day, affecting my life and work. It's been like this since junior high school." And you know what? That's okay! It's totally normal to feel this way. It's just a matter of learning to manage it.

My understanding of this is that when you have to meet someone or attend an interview the next day, you know what you have to do the next day, but you can't predict what will happen during the meeting or interview, so it's normal to feel anxious. But that's okay! It's all part of the adventure.

The great news is that what can be adjusted is the way of thinking! For example:

Let's make sure you're fully prepared for your big meeting! What preparations can be made before going to see that person (or attending that interview)?

Now for the big moment! What are you hoping to achieve by going to see that person (or attending that interview)?

Go and meet that person (or attend that interview)! Even if you don't achieve your goal, you'll gain valuable experience.

The influence of a pattern on you will, of course, make you feel powerless due to the length of time you have been influenced. But from another perspective, it will also help you to see yourself clearly and break away from the "pivot" and "experience" of being troubled by old patterns when you need to make adjustments to your thinking in the future.

I noticed that you said, "People must live their lives according to their own values and seek the approval of others, because very often people's interests need to be established on the basis of being recognized by others. I just tend to fall short at these critical moments."

Let me rephrase this for you: we absolutely need to live our lives according to our own values! And sometimes, we do need to make some compromises in order to seek the approval of others. But whether our interests are tied to the approval of others is something we can decide for ourselves. You should have heard the saying, "Those who follow different paths should not plan together," which refers to this layer of autonomy in the establishment and development of interpersonal relationships.

In interpersonal relationships, when the relationship is well established, you can say goodbye to worrying about letting each other down!

This adjustment won't happen overnight, but with your keen awareness, it'll be easy for you to adjust as long as you're willing to give yourself time!

I really hope that sharing these considerations and the direction of adjustment with you will inspire you to break through the current bottleneck!

Take good care of yourself!

Hello, I'm Xiao'e, a listening coach, and I hope I can give you some food for thought.

Let's take a look at the current situation together.

I'm really sorry to say that this vicious circle is making you miserable.

Insomnia – slow thinking – more negative thoughts – boredom and anxiety – insomnia – a vicious circle

It's totally normal to feel anxious about the future. We all do! It's often accompanied by a sense of unacceptability of a particular future.

I can see that you're struggling to accept some things about yourself. It's okay to feel this way! We all have insecurities about different aspects of our lives. It's not easy to face them, but you can do it! Let's start with some of the things you're not accepting about yourself. You're not accepting "the self who can't write," "the self who has incontinence when going to primary school," "the self who wakes up early and gets anxious the next day when there is an important social event," "the self who has chaotic thoughts during the day," and "the self who has been in a bad state since junior high school"...

It can feel really anxious and powerless, right? It often seems like most of the time in the future, you won't be the person you want to be. And it's like you know this in advance, but you can't change it. It can feel like you have to face it passively.

It's so hard when our perception and thinking reach a dead end. We just have to remember that desperate times call for desperate measures, and your self-rescue has begun in earnest.

And now for some helpful resources!

Anxiety has been your friend since junior high, hasn't it?

Think back to when things didn't go so well. Chances are, you made some changes in your thinking or behavior to avoid repeating the same mistakes. For instance, you might have thought about how you should behave and interact with others to avoid feeling like you "badly performed" at an interview. You might have even found a way to explain your performance in a positive light, like saying you woke up early the night before and weren't in the best state, which doesn't mean you're inherently bad. This might have helped you in the past and could still have a positive effect on you in certain situations.

It's totally normal to feel confused.

Now that you're older, you've become more mature and knowledgeable, and the old self-protection mode makes you feel imprisoned. So, you don't accept this vicious cycle. You've realized that this way of thinking and understanding interpersonal relationships is actually wrong and abnormal, and you're ready to make a change!

You want to change yourself, and that's a great thing!

You get it. You know you need to make some changes to break away from old ways of living and thinking. And you're ready to put in the work to do so.

? Cognitive behavioral school of psychology counselors

This school of thought usually offers short-term counseling, and the fees are not as large as those for psychotherapy. You should definitely give it a try!

Yixinli has lots of great counselors, and I can personally vouch for the one I've worked with. They're fantastic!

But remember, the final choice is always yours.

I've got some great suggestions for how you can make some positive changes!

If you're struggling with insomnia, you're not alone. There are ways to find relief. Treatment for insomnia:

If you're looking for a little help to get some rest, a sleep clinic and medication can be a great option.

(Here you'll want to work with a specialist to evaluate whether it's effective.

It's also a great idea to try to counteract this with cognitive regulation, because many somatic symptoms are indeed related to psychological factors.

Anxiety:

Give yourself the gift of meeting "the anxious self."

For example, in a safe place, take some time to imagine what you fear most when you're feeling anxious. If you were to experience that, what would it mean?

In his book, The Way of the Superior Man: A Chinese Classic on Personal Development, Tsai Tung describes it this way:

We all get stuck in difficult situations from time to time. It's not just the objective reality of the outside world that gets in our way, but also our past experiences, habits, and thinking habits. These things can automatically implant "implicit assumptions" in our thinking, which can limit our perspective and scope of thinking.

This is totally normal! We usually only have two or three "visible options" in mind when making decisions, without realizing that there are so many "possible options" out there.

Now, take a moment to imagine. What would your life be like if you didn't have those anxious thoughts and early morning awakenings? Would you be full of energy, quick-witted, or living your life to the fullest?

Let's explore the role of insomnia in our lives.

The wonderful Adler's Individual Psychology offers a fascinating explanation of the role of insomnia.

I truly believe that the thoughts of patients during insomnia are really important for two main reasons. First, these thoughts are a way for patients to stay awake. Second, the personal psychological basis that triggers insomnia can be found in these thoughts. I have found that the thoughts of people with insomnia are usually related to getting something for nothing. This often means trying to easily get something that they would not be able to get under normal circumstances, or something that requires full dedication to get.

So, insomnia is actually a psychological mechanism that tries to adapt to the "gap" between what we imagine we want and what we're actually experiencing in the moment. It's a kind of "remote action."

Then, together with the previous article, little whale, what kind of person do you want to be? Apart from avoiding the bad self, are there more troublesome but more sustainable and side-effect-free methods to pursue a better self, such as being energetic, quick-witted, and living your life to the fullest, which you expect?

? Perception: The dual achievement of living out your true self and being recognized by others.

This is what Kishimi Ichiro and Koga Fumitake say in their lovely book, The Courage to Be Disliked:

It's so lovely when we feel useful to our community or to others. It makes us feel really good about ourselves!

I can see why you might have doubts about the idea that "the benefit of others is based on the recognition of others."

Adler thought that people who sacrifice their lives for others might need a little warning.

The wonderful thing about "living your own life" and "being recognized by others" is that while you're living your own life, you can also bring benefits to the people you love. This scope isn't necessarily about your family, nor your current relationships or environment. It might be somewhere you need to stand on tiptoe to reach, or you might be able to find it as long as you change the way you see the world.

In short, dear little whale, it was so nice to meet you!

I hope your day is absolutely wonderful! ??

Hello, I can see that your long-term insomnia is affecting your work and studies. You also recognize that this is a psychological problem that requires treatment.

You learn quickly and reflect on yourself. You have high expectations of yourself, and I admire that.

The questioner said his insomnia is caused by anxiety, not external stimuli. He has been anxious since kindergarten. In kindergarten, he couldn't write questions. In elementary school, he had incontinence. Now, he is anxious in interviews and when meeting people.

The questioner is also troubled by their relationships with others. I feel that wanting to be recognized by others is difficult to reconcile with living out myself.

I'll share my views on your situation.

Let's talk about insomnia and anxiety.

Everyone gets anxious sometimes, but too much anxiety can get in the way of our lives. Like insomnia, anxiety is caused by worrying too much about something.

Anxiety and insomnia have one thing in common: the things they are anxious about are not real. They are either regrets or worries about something that may happen next. They are all internal dramas that remain in the imagination.

Some theories say anxiety and insomnia come from a lack of security. This means the individual has not been able to form a secure attachment with someone or something.

The individual then creates a mental image of something that will make them feel safe.

These individuals find it difficult to stop thinking because they imagine that if they do, they will lose their sense of security. This makes them feel tense all the time, even when they are asleep.

The original poster means insomnia when they say they wake up early, feel anxious, and are slow to think.

Our attention and energy are limited, so we focus on the imagination instead of real-life relationships. This leads to anxiety and tension, a need for security, and an even deeper immersion in the imagination.

This is why insomnia is hard to treat.

The questioner said, "People must live out their true selves and seek approval from others. I just tend to fall down at these critical moments."

They want to live out their true selves and be recognized by others. The questioner thinks this is impossible.

Why?

This is also related to how we form attachments as children. If we don't have a secure attachment, we rely on our imagination to give us a sense of security.

Such individuals remain in the imaginary dimension and find it difficult to enter the relational dimension of reality. They find it difficult to integrate imagination and reality to form a complete self.

The self develops through narcissism, motherly love, and the parent-child relationship.

If someone is stuck between narcissism and attachment, they can't move on. They can't integrate their imagination with reality. In life, there are two extremes: living your own life or letting others recognize you. There's a lack of ability to compromise.

How can this be improved?

One is to get treatment, and the other is to understand the cause of the problem and focus on reality. Active and focused involvement also means "thinking less and doing more"!

I'll stop here. I hope my answer helps, and I wish you relief.

The message says that insomnia makes it hard to think quickly, and I'd love to learn how to adjust myself.

As for the insomnia-induced slow thinking, the questioner has already thought about it for himself. It seems from the questioner's thinking that slow thinking isn't the source of the problem, but rather a result of something else. The root cause, as the questioner has figured out, lies in anxiety.

And this anxiety began in kindergarten, so it's clear that it's been a part of the questioner's life for a long time. It's also evident that this problem didn't just pop up out of nowhere.

I really hope this sharing can help you find more perspectives and ideas for dealing with this stubborn problem.

First, you might want to think about seeking help from a system consultant.

It's so hard when anxiety starts when you're young. It can feel like it's always there, like it's part of you. It might be related to something you were born with.

Some folks are just naturally cautious and prone to anxiety. If you combine that with an environment that's right for it to grow, it can really take over.

The questioner is already aware of this, and that's great!

It can feel like these psychological problems are really stubborn and don't change with just one idea, can't it?

It's clear that the questioner is struggling with some serious anxiety and insomnia. It's also affecting his studies and work. It's not easy to make big changes when you're facing these challenges.

In this case, it's always a good idea to reach out to a professional institution or professional for some extra support.

2. Self-help based on system services

It's great that you're looking for professional help, but don't forget that you can also help yourself! The fact that you've asked for help on this platform is a great start.

After all, even if you go to the hospital, the doctor can stitch up your wound for you. But remember, your body needs your muscles to work hard to help the wound heal.

So, what are some ways you can help yourself?

I'm here to help!

In addition to the great advice from other respondents, I'd like to share a few simple techniques that might be helpful.

1. Give yourself some space from your thoughts.

1. Give yourself some space from your thoughts.

It's totally normal to feel anxious when you're facing the unknown. It's like your mind is racing with thoughts and you can't seem to get a good night's sleep. It's okay to feel this way! It's just your body's way of processing all those thoughts.

It's totally normal to have lots of thoughts before bed that make you feel scared or even fearful. Your brain is just working hard! But this can make it tricky to fall asleep.

At this time, remember that your thoughts are just thoughts and that they're not facts. This will help you get out of the whirlpool of thoughts.

I've got a few tips and tricks up my sleeve that I think you'll find really helpful! Here's what you can try:

Try this: imagine that the auto-play mode is on in any of your favorite YouTubers' programs.

These pop-ups are exactly the various thoughts related to insomnia that bother you, constantly scrolling and reappearing in a loop.

You are like an outsider to this constant flow of text, and you tell yourself, "Oh, these thoughts are really interesting! They are just some pop-up comments, and they will pass by as they float past."

You've got this! Try to distinguish between you and your thoughts, and you will easily be able to step out of your anxious feelings.

2. Why not give some mindfulness exercises a try? They're a great way to help you focus on the present.

Mindfulness is a wonderful method that has been proven to be really effective in relieving anxiety. Breathing is a great anchor point in mindfulness practice!

You can try some lovely mindfulness breathing exercises to help you focus more on the present moment and not be overwhelmed by the unknown. Just focus on each inhale and exhale, without changing or controlling your breathing. Just observe the speed, rise and fall, and rhythm of your breathing.

When you get distracted, just gently bring your attention back to your breathing. You'll be amazed at how much it helps! Three to five minutes a day is great, or even fifteen to twenty minutes if you can. Either way, you'll feel the anxiety start to melt away.

I'm sending you lots of love and support! ?

I really hope the above sharing can bring you some inspiration!

I'm a psychotherapist, not a human nature expert. I'm here to care for your heart. Sending you lots of love.

Good morning, My name is Jiang 61.

Thank you for placing your trust in us and for being willing to discuss your concerns and seek assistance. From your account, it appears that you have been experiencing anxiety since childhood, which indicates that you have been dealing with stress for an extended period.

I empathize with your situation. It has likely been challenging for you. I extend my support and encouragement through a gesture of physical contact.

Let us now examine your past in order to identify potential avenues for improving your frequent insomnia.

1. The time and event of the anxiety and self-perception

You have inquired as to whether insomnia causes slow thinking and how you might adjust your thinking patterns. This is merely a superficial issue.

If the root cause is not identified, the problem will not be resolved. Let's start with the information provided and see if we can determine the core issue.

1. Two Dimensions of Time and Event

The incident occurred during the kindergarten period, when the subject was unable to write. The consequence was anxiety.

The subject experienced incontinence at the time of primary school, though the specific event is unclear.

The initial phase is analogous to the current situation.

The situation currently presents as follows: The individual is experiencing anxiety, waking up early, and confused thinking as a result of meeting people or going to job interviews. This is affecting their work and life.

Based on the time of the anxiety and the events that occurred, organize the keywords into the following categories: homework, pressure, people, meetings, and insomnia.

2. Self-Perception

The root cause of anxiety is interpersonal relationships.

There is a discrepancy between the desire to live one's true self and the need to gain the approval of others.

The inevitable result is that benefits are based on the approval of others.

The root cause of failure is the difficulty in balancing the need for recognition with the desire to maintain one's true self.

The key words identified by the questioner are care, recognition, self, and contradiction.

2. Essence and evolution

1. The essence

From the two dimensions of time and event provided by the questioner, the questioner's actual problems can be classified into two categories.

Since childhood, the individual may have been subjected to considerable pressure from family members, educators, or others in their early learning environment, which has resulted in the development of anxiety and incontinence.

After middle school, the pressure from family, school teachers, and classmates increased, causing a fear of learning and socializing.

In terms of self-perception, the questioner believes that anxiety is related to interpersonal relationships. However, it is actually caused by social phobia. Anxiety is an external manifestation of the conflict between the questioner's inner desire to be recognized and his desire to be true to himself.

2. Evolution

It is a common misconception that people are born with fear. In fact, internal worries and fears arise during the process of being raised, after being constantly hinted at, blamed, compared, and pressured.

The individual is subtly led to believe that they are not good enough or outstanding enough. This lack of clarity hinders their ability to identify their strengths and capabilities.

⭕️Being accused of always... what the questioner hears is that they are not performing well, are not meeting expectations, and lack self-efficacy.

⭕️Being compared to others in a competitive environment can lead to feelings of inadequacy and a lack of self-confidence.

If I am under pressure, I will inevitably fail and be punished.

The individual is consistently experiencing anxiety.

This is how the questioner was gradually transformed from an innocent child into someone who is unable to be themselves due to pressure, is ineffective, lacks self-confidence, and cares about the approval of others' evaluations. They are in a state of fear and anxiety and cognitive conflict.

After entering middle school, individuals typically expand their social circles, which presents opportunities to form new connections and enhance their social lives. However, in this case, the questioner's mindset was hindered by low self-confidence, low energy, and concerns about external evaluations. This led to apprehension about their ability to interact with others, integrate into groups, and communicate effectively. The questioner also exhibited a reluctance to engage with individuals from outside their immediate circle.

I am writing to inform you that social phobia has set in.

Consequently, when meeting with a new contact or being interviewed, the individual experiences a conflict between the desire to reject the other person's entry and the need to engage with them. Additionally, there is an internal struggle between the fear of being recognized and the urge to be authentic. This can result in disrupted sleep patterns, early morning wake-ups, and a general sense of chaos throughout the day.

3⃣️ Restrictive Thinking

The most critical factor affecting the questioner is that years of comparison and pressure have resulted in the development of a restrictive thought process. They have become accustomed to a fixed formulaic approach, often using the structure of "if... then..." to justify their decisions.

The fixed formula.

When the questioner is required to meet someone or attend an interview, they will inevitably experience a certain degree of anxiety. This is due to the fact that they will either consciously or unconsciously think along the following lines:

⭕️"If I provide an incorrect response, the other party may perceive me as lacking education."

⭕️ "If I am unable to answer the question, the interviewer may form the impression that I am not suitable for the role."

⭕️"If..., then..."

These same thoughts keep resurfacing.

Restrictive thinking constrains our cognitive abilities, leading us to believe that we are incapable of achieving anything and that our actions will be negatively perceived by others. Social phobia can also be attributed to the presence of numerous "if...then..." scenarios in our minds.

"It stems from a desire to be recognized and evaluated by others, which can lead to stress and anxiety."

3. Potential for improvement

The questioner is seeking to alter their mindset and inquires as to whether this could be a significant psychological issue. It is important to convey to the questioner that they are holding onto a rather fixed mindset, which is simply an idea. By modifying this idea, the questioner's state of mind will immediately shift.

This concept is the restrictive thinking mode of "if..., then...".

As individuals mature, their concepts evolve. It is therefore important to believe in the capacity to alter one's concepts and, in turn, transform the status quo.

1. Adopt a positive mindset with an open mind.

Open-minded thinking involves setting realistic goals and exploring potential solutions, rather than limiting oneself to a single, unattainable outcome. The sentence structure used in this approach is "If..., then...".

Restrictive thinking assumes the unfeasible and generates psychological pressure. In contrast, open-minded thinking eliminates the inherent pressure.

The method entails modifying the sentence structure of restrictive thinking, which is typically "If..., then...,", to align with open-minded thinking, which is "If..., you can also...".

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Envision the following scenario:

⭕️"If I inadvertently say something incorrect, I can still rectify the situation by apologizing sincerely and providing an explanation. This will prevent the other party from dwelling on the issue."

If I am unable to answer a question, I can request additional time to consider the best response or request a different question.

It is also possible to consider the following:

Is it not about thinking positively with an open mind and replacing internal pressure with motivation to find a solution, so that you feel the psychological pressure immediately relieved?

2. Deliberate practice

It is a process that requires deliberate practice to make open-minded thinking a habit. This process involves intentionally practicing open-minded thinking until it becomes a fixed pattern of your thinking, allowing you to form new thinking habits.

3. Practice Method

Each day, record five limiting thoughts from the past and transform them into open-ended sentences.

In the event that a problem is not encountered, the sentence structure "If this method does not prove effective, what other methods can be employed to resolve the issue?" can be used to prompt self-reflection and the listing of potential solutions.

I am confident that with dedicated effort, you will see a reduction in internal stress, anxiety, and concern about external opinions and recognition. Additionally, I believe you will experience an improvement in your sleep quality. I encourage you to give this approach a try. By allowing yourself time and space to engage in creative thinking, you will likely notice a positive shift in your mindset.

I would like to take this opportunity to wish you a pleasant day.

God closes a door and opens a window. Anxiety is inevitable, but we can choose not to fear it. It can be trained away. If we do not fear anxiety, it will disappear from our lives.

Hello. I want to give you a hug. I understand you very much. When answering this question, I thought: I'm going to help you, and you'll recognize my answer.

I know I'm not the only one who feels this way. I tell myself it's normal and that I should just do what I want, expressing the best I can with my rationality and care. Whether it will help in the end depends on multiple factors.

I want to be clear: people need to live out themselves and realize their self-worth. They need to be recognized by others, based on social attributes. This is not a contradiction. In fact, most people are like this.

You must believe that doing what you think is right will often lead to recognition.

You have a very good sense of awareness. You have noticed the causes of insomnia, anxiety, and slow thinking, and you have also mentioned the confusion in interpersonal relationships. You are also trying to find ways to change the current situation. It can be seen that the vigorous vitality within you is striving upward towards the sun. Having such strength is a prerequisite for happiness, and you will succeed.

Now, let's examine the key words in the question: Born emotionally sensitive Interpersonal pressure Anxiety High stress Insomnia Slow thinking Emotional indifference Do you require systemic treatment?

This question is very complicated and profound. The answer is simple: you have to hit the snake at the seven-inch point. I will give you some answers from my perspective, which is how we should face pressure and anxiety. Why do we have pressure and anxiety?

I'm going to tell you how to face anxiety so that it does not affect your daily lives or sleep.

The host mentioned that when they were in kindergarten, they would get anxious if they couldn't write their name. They even had bowel incontinence. Every time they had to meet someone the next day or go to an interview the night before, they would wake up early and have chaotic thoughts during the day, affecting their life and work. This has been the case since junior high school. If stress is on a scale of 0-10, how would the host rate themselves?

Let's examine how stress manifests before, during, and after an interview. This will help us understand the root causes of stress.

I have found that I tend to experience the greatest pressure just before an event, and then it drops during the event itself. Of course, if I haven't prepared properly and I'm stretched to the limit, that's a different matter. After the event, I feel a sense of relief. This is the whole process of stress that I experience.

In this process, we can often realize two things: 1. The anxiety before an event can make us focus our attention and prepare well, which is a good thing. However, too much stress is counterproductive and often affects thinking.

Psychologist Simon explained the inverted U-shaped curve of stress. As stress increases, our efficiency is affected. After reaching a certain critical point, as stress continues to increase, efficiency begins to decline. The opposite is true.

You have already realized this, and you're right. Stress is an unavoidable phenomenon in the process of survival. Our worry and tension about stress has evolved into anxiety. The tension and fear of anxiety has gradually turned into various obsessions, causing our thinking to slow down and consume a lot of energy and time. This makes us less happy and less efficient, and it also makes the cycle of nausea more painful.

We feel anxious because we become aware of ourselves. It's that simple. Existential psychologists have identified this phenomenon and have determined that this awareness produces unease and discomfort, which in turn creates anxiety.

This statement also shows that a self-reflective person will inevitably feel anxious. As the classics say, "reflect on yourself three times a day." Self-reflection will reveal one's shortcomings, and there will be worry and fear.

Most people are the same, unless they have already cultivated themselves well.

However, it is evident that worrying, nervous, and anxious states do not inevitably result in dire consequences. In fact, a certain degree of worry and tension can effectively prevent bad things from happening. Therefore, there is no need to fear, as fear is an ineffective response. It is futile to resist, as the intensity of fear only increases with such attempts.

We must accept these thoughts. Some emotions and thoughts are like computer bugs, and we are the same. The more complex the operation, the more the brain moves and the more chaotic it becomes, the more likely it is to have bugs. It makes wrong judgments based on some ideas that are beyond the scope or not realistic, and treats these as facts.

They distract us from doing meaningful things. However, most of the time, bugs do not affect the operation of the computer as long as we can avoid them.

If you want to be free from fear of stress, you must first be free from fear of anxiety. And if you want to be free from fear of anxiety, you must realize that fear of stress is not under conscious control. God closes a door and opens a window. The choice is yours: whether you fear anxiety or not.

Treat yourself like a house or a chessboard. Be aware of your anxiety, see it, and let it come and go freely. Accept it without obeying it. Be brave and fearless. A miracle will happen.

A quote from Portia Nelson's "Five Short Chapters of My Autobiography":

Chapter 1

I walked out into the street.

There was a deep hole in the pavement.

I fell.

I was lost and helpless.

It wasn't my fault.

I was determined to find a way out, even if it seemed like it would never happen.

Chapter 2

I strode down the street.

There was a deep hole in the pavement.

I ignored it.

I fell again.

I can't believe I fell in the same place.

But it wasn't my fault.

It took a long time to climb out again.

Chapter 3

I strode out into the street.

There was a deep hole in the pavement.

I saw it.

But I fell anyway. It's a habit.

I kept my eyes open.

I know where I am.

This time, I take responsibility.

I climbed out immediately.

Chapter 4

I strode down the same street.

There is a deep pothole in the pavement.

I went around it.

Chapter 5

I went down a different street.

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This short poem makes it clear that if we are willing to change our habits, we can change the distress caused by various negative emotions. By cutting off the negative reinforcement cycle of tension, worry, anxiety, difficulty sleeping, and inability to focus on the task at hand, we can facilitate recovery.

If you want to understand your own growth, you must do it systematically.

I advise you to do three things: first, be aware of yourself, label your emotions, and keep a diary. Then you can take some psychological tests, such as the 90-item Symptom Checklist for overall health and psychological status assessment and the PHI 168-item Psychological Health Inventory for personality status assessment. This will help you understand your own situation better.

Second, you can learn about some of the contents of Morita therapy, mindfulness meditation, or cognitive behavioral training. This will help you sever the link between negative emotions and the behavior that prevents you from concentrating. This will allow you to let go of thoughts and let actions be. I was greatly inspired by the books "Learning to Sleep," "Calming the Battle," and "Living Mindfully" by Dr. Bao Zuxiao, a psychiatrist.

The books also include numerous case studies, which demonstrate that many of the challenges and issues we face are quite common.

Third: If you have the means to seek advice and treatment, do it. For example, I have never been able to practice yoga properly. After taking some yoga classes for a while, I realized that I had been thinking about it all wrong. There is a method for everything, and with the company and guidance of others, you will naturally progress much faster.

If you want to make progress, you have to walk on the right path. This means making sacrifices and investing time and resources.

These are my feelings and suggestions, and I am confident they will be helpful. I hug the original poster once again.

From your life experience, it appears that you place a high value on external approval and the attitudes of others. There are numerous factors beyond our control, and if you continue to prioritize these concerns and devote attention to them, it will undoubtedly have a significant impact on your life. Your personal experience reflects this pattern.

Your ability to concentrate will also be affected, as it is now. The fact that you have developed insomnia is probably not a coincidence. Since you were very young, you have exhibited signs of anxiety, such as a fear of this and a fear of that.

For example, concerns about personal performance and external perceptions have been evident since an early age.

It is important to recognize the early signs of insomnia and to address them promptly. It is also essential to understand that insomnia can cause significant distress and discomfort.

It is important to understand the underlying causes of the current situation. These may be related to personality traits or specific thought patterns.

To resolve an issue, it is essential to have a clear understanding of the underlying cause. Additionally, your emotional state appears to be relatively indifferent, while your heart is experiencing a certain level of anxiety.

There are likely multiple factors contributing to this apathy. It would be beneficial to examine your family dynamics, including how you are typically treated by your parents, family members, and friends. This will help identify potential patterns and ways to address them.

It should be noted that coldness is not formed suddenly. Rather, it may be caused by unreasonable interpersonal relationships over a long period of time, as well as various kinds of retardation caused by anxiety about one's own sleeping conditions.

If you are experiencing difficulties in concentrating due to anxiety or confusion, or if you have too many tasks on your mind, it will be challenging to achieve a state of restful sleep. This can have a negative impact on your ability to function effectively during the day.

If you wish to live your life to the fullest, but are concerned about a number of issues and wish to maintain good relationships with others, I am afraid that in attempting to achieve a balance, you will fail to do so and will consequently suffer the consequences.

It is important to recognize that emotions are involved in this situation. There are ways to effectively address it, and the approach hinges on one's attitude.

If you do not maintain composure, the situation may escalate. You are concerned that you will fall behind, but what if you do?

Your indifference may not be apparent. It is important to be genuinely indifferent to human relationships, comfortable with whatever arises, and able to let things unfold naturally when challenges arise. Avoid excessive worry about outcomes. Focus on enjoying the process.

I advise that you pursue psychological counseling, as this has been an ongoing issue since childhood. This condition still requires attention, and if necessary, you can also visit the psychiatric department of the hospital for an appropriate diagnosis.

Please advise.

Dear question asker,

It is challenging to provide comprehensive advice on anxiety/sleep-anxiety-is-distressing-what-methods-can-help-me-overcome-sleep-disorders-5620.html" target="_blank">sleep disorders in the limited space of a 300-word description. Nevertheless, I hope to engage in further discussion with you in my answer and explore additional avenues for addressing your concerns.

It is advisable to focus on a single objective at a time.

In the article, you highlighted the interrelated nature of insomnia, early awakening, anxiety, emotional sensitivity, and interpersonal relationships, all of which have a significant impact on one's life and work. This has undoubtedly led to feelings of anxiety surrounding the search for a solution. However, when attempting to address multiple aspects simultaneously, it is understandable that feelings of pressure may arise, as you have noted, "a systematic treatment is needed."

For individuals, initiating modifications in one of these domains will initially impact the body as a whole, with relatively minimal challenges and resistance. Among the aforementioned aspects, inadequate sleep will impair health, affecting not only daytime learning and work efficiency but also inducing physical diseases. This target can be initially prioritized for intervention.

[One can only solve a problem if one understands it thoroughly.]

Typically, individuals tend to summarize an issue with a general description, such as the two words "insomnia" to describe sleep disorders. However, when the objective is to explore an issue in depth and identify a solution, it is necessary to replace simple problem labels with specific quantitative data.

To address early waking, it is recommended to maintain a record of the subject's normal waking time, instances of early waking, the duration of these instances, the number of days per week on which early waking occurs, whether the frequency of early mornings has increased or decreased over the course of the week, and whether early mornings have occurred for more than three days per week over the course of several weeks. When a record is maintained, the effects of improvement can be more readily discerned.

[It is recommended that early awakening from bedtime activities be eliminated.]

To enhance the quality of one's sleep, it is recommended to engage in relaxing activities prior to bedtime. These may include simple abdominal breathing exercises, body scanning, or free meditation, which can help to alleviate anxiety. Additionally, rearranging the bedroom environment to suit one's preferences, such as adjusting lighting, temperature, aromatherapy, pillows, and bed linen, can contribute to a more comfortable and restful sleep experience.

Furthermore, engaging in moderate exercise during the day and turning off one's mobile phone approximately 30 minutes before retiring for the night can also facilitate the attainment of a higher quality of sleep.

Ultimately, it is my hope that the original poster will prioritize adequate rest and adopt a more energized approach to each day.

Dear Question Asker, Thank you for your inquiry. Best regards, [Name] [Title] [Company]

I empathize with your struggles regarding sleep issues. Both difficulty falling asleep and waking up early can cause physical discomfort, which in turn leads to emotional distress.

After returning to school in March due to the pandemic, my daughter experienced difficulties with her sleep patterns. However, she has since made a full recovery and is now able to sleep independently again. I would like to share with you the solutions I employed to assist her.

Firstly, it is important to accept the fact that you wake up early. It is crucial to dismiss the thought in your mind that waking up early is a negative thing.

Upon waking, greet yourself with a polite "Good morning." This simple act can help you avoid feeling anxious, regardless of the time of day.

If you wake up and are able to get up and dressed, consider going for a brief walk or other form of exercise. Fresh air is beneficial. If you wake up early, try to avoid causing harm to yourself, disturbing others, or damaging the environment. Allow yourself to experience the moment, listen to the sounds of nature, and let your thoughts arise naturally. Avoid impatience or anxiety. If conditions permit, engage in meditation to facilitate falling asleep again.

Furthermore, it is inadvisable to nap for an extended period, particularly if you have difficulty sleeping. It is recommended to limit naps to a maximum of 30 minutes to avoid disrupting your nighttime sleep.

Furthermore, increasing physical exercise and improving physical fitness can also assist in regulating sleep patterns.

Additionally, it is recommended that you engage in some form of meditation before going to bed each night. This can help to clear your mind and promote a good night's sleep.

I hope you have a restful night's sleep.

Hello, question asker. I'm Sky from Shanghai.

You seem distressed. I'm sure you're suffering from a day of confusion and sluggish thinking after insomnia. I'm here to help.

1-You said you've been anxious since you were a child. Anxiety is a worry about future events. When you're anxious, a type of thyroid-blocking hormone is secreted, making you feel threatened and scared.

Anxiety symptoms include distorted thinking, belittling the positive, exaggerating the negative, automatisms, subconscious, and habitual thinking patterns. The sympathetic nervous system is relatively active.

2-Create a sense of security for the subconscious.

Let dopamine drive us. When we want something, our body secretes dopamine. So we just want what we want. For example, "The problem is that every time I have to meet someone or attend an interview the next day, I get anxious and wake up early in the morning, and my thoughts are very chaotic during the day, affecting my life and work. This has been the case since junior high school." - We can think, "Tomorrow will definitely go well, and even if there is any unexpected situation, I will be able to respond flexibly."

3-About interpersonal relationships

Your description mentions the problems in your relationships. Read "The Courage to Be Disliked," which talks about the three major issues in life: friendship, work, and love. Distinguish between your own issues and other people's issues. You said, "People must live their lives according to their own desires, but they also seek the approval of others. People's interests are based on the approval of others." Find a balance within yourself. Your own approval of your core values cannot be changed. Sometimes, flexibility in dealing with things in society does not come from your own compromise.

In short, change takes time. I can sense your eagerness to change, and I'm confident you'll make progress with a systematic approach. There are also many series of courses on the Zhihu platform, and I'm sure you'll find one that suits you. I also keep growing by reading books or listening to lectures.

We must let go of our burdens and enter battle relaxed.

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope you will find my reply to be of some value.

From your description, let's proceed with the following steps:

From your description, let's identify the key factors:

I experience anxiety/a-16-year-old-girl-suffering-from-insomnia-for-years-what-should-i-do-when-my-parents-dont-care-about-me-6397.html" target="_blank">insomnia because I am drawn to the sensation of anxiety.

I experience insomnia because I find it rewarding to experience anxiety.

My anxiety stems from my emotional sensitivity.

My emotional sensitivity has led to confusion in my personal relationships.

Furthermore, there is the consideration of living out one's true self and being recognized.

Finally, I hope to gain awareness and reflection on myself, with the goal of facilitating change.

I believe you possess a meticulous mind and strong logic, which stems from your sensitivity.

The issue is that I tend to experience elevated levels of anxiety and wake up early in the morning prior to scheduled meetings or interviews. During the day, my thoughts become somewhat disorganized, which has an impact on my work performance and overall productivity.

The issue is that I tend to experience elevated levels of anxiety and insomnia when I have to meet with someone or attend an interview the following day. This often leads to a state of heightened stress and disruption in my daily thought processes, which can have a negative impact on both my professional and personal life.

When we encounter a significant challenge, it can lead to a certain amount of pressure or a specific type of challenge. In many cases, emotional tension, excitement, and concerns about uncertainty can contribute to insomnia.

When faced with a significant challenge, pressure or uncertainty, it is not uncommon to experience insomnia. This is often due to emotional tension and excitement.

Furthermore, insomnia will undoubtedly impact one's mental state the following day. This can manifest as dark circles under the eyes, lethargy, excessive yawning, and difficulty concentrating. If you observe your colleagues, you will likely notice a significant number of individuals exhibiting these symptoms. Even schoolchildren may be affected by their studies due to inadequate sleep.

What changes should we implement now that we have reviewed the results?

The situation is as follows: You have an interview scheduled for the following day.

I am concerned that I may not pass the interview.

Emotional state: anxious, worried

Behavior: Insomnia, waking up early, and confused thinking the next day, which affected the interview results.

In business, there are also interviews, but some individuals are very calm, maintain a healthy diet and lifestyle, and approach the interview with a high level of energy and enthusiasm.

Why do individuals respond differently to the same event?

Our thoughts play a significant role in influencing our emotions and subsequent behaviors. If we alter our thoughts, we can expect to experience a shift in emotions, which in turn affects our actions. What are your thoughts on this matter?

Our thoughts play a significant role in influencing our emotions and subsequent behaviors. If we alter our thoughts, we can expect to experience a shift in our feelings and actions. What are your thoughts on this matter?

This is a topic that can be discussed in depth.

While we cannot control the outcome of a situation, we can utilize our critical thinking skills to alter our approach to problem-solving. I wish you the best in identifying a solution that works for you.

Hello,

You seem confused and worried.

You need to understand why you are prone to anxiety.

Insomnia has slowed your thinking.

From the text, it is clear that you lack confidence in yourself.

You are not very familiar with yourself.

You mentioned a saying:

You are your own worst enemy.

You said in the text that

People base their interests on gaining the approval of others.

I wholeheartedly agree with your point of view.

With the approval and encouragement of others,

We will gain a sense of worth and belonging.

I am convinced that there is a prerequisite.

This prerequisite makes it easier to deal with the approval or disapproval of others.

It is our own recognition of ourselves.

If we don't approve of ourselves,

We simply will not like ourselves.

We will not like or recognize our true selves.

This means that approval and affection from others will be based on a false self.

Our actions may no longer serve our real needs.

And you do things to cater to other people's opinions and evaluations.

This pattern will inevitably lead to a loss of self.

This will ultimately undermine our sense of self-worth.

You will become increasingly less confident.

You will lose vitality.

You need to change yourself.

You need to change nothing more than your attitude. Start by loving and praising yourself. I am your psychological counselor, here to accompany you as we grow together.

Hello, dear questioner!

Hi, I'm Kelly, and I love putting a face to a name!

After reading your text, I'd love to give you some advice.

[About insomnia]

If it's caused by a lack of heart and spleen, it can lead to insomnia.

This question has been on the questioner's mind for a long time, and it's so important to remember that it can affect our health in the long run.

There's another way of looking at it, too. The spleen controls thoughts and regulates blood, while the heart stores the spirit and oversees blood flow. When we overthink, it can tire the heart and spleen. The spleen and stomach are the source of blood and qi, and a weak spleen means that the qi is weak and the blood is scarce. The heart is unsupported, and a weak heart means that the spirit is not in control, which is why we see symptoms like insomnia and palpitations.

[About the growing environment-]

I study family therapy. If, as the questioner says, you want to become aware of your parents' parenting style and family atmosphere as you grow up, I'd love to know if you've experienced any major events.

[About intergenerational inheritance]

I was just like the original poster. I used to be very anxious, and I always thought I was just impatient. But after learning about family therapy, I realized that many problems can be passed down from generation to generation. For example, my mother was a very anxious person. When I was little, she always rushed me when I did things, and she would scold me if I didn't do them well. I was always worried that I wouldn't do them well, and the more I worried, the more anxious I became, and the more anxious I became, the worse I did them.

Anxiety can be short-lived or stick around for a while. When it sticks around, it's often related to caregivers and family members.

[About interpersonal relationships]

If you crave attention, I totally get it. It's only natural. And you don't need to worry too much. We all do, to a greater or lesser extent.

These problems are also related to our early experiences, such as being neglected and not being paid attention to, which can lead to feelings of longing inside.

Why do you want to talk about your family of origin? It's a great way to look back on the past and find the person you are today. I'm not blaming your parents, but it can be really helpful to understand why we're the way we are.

I'd like to offer a few suggestions for the questioner:

1: I really think it would help if you meditated and learned to meditate.

2: You can learn some great courses on Yixin with the help of a professional teacher.

3: Keep at it with your learning, make some changes to your habits, and remember to keep your inner peace.

4: You can talk to someone for a while or seek counseling (find a counselor that suits you) to explore together and find the reason.

5: I've been studying courses on the platform for about half a year now, and it's been such a rewarding experience! Studying psychology is a great way to help not just yourself, but also others. You get to learn from professional teachers and classmates, and you can also interact with other psychology enthusiasts. It's a wonderful way to find peace of mind.

I truly believe that change starts now, and that you will soon usher in a new life.

I love you, world! And I love you too!

Hello, I'm Evan.

The questioner stated that when attempting to meet someone new, he is consistently plagued by worry and anxiety. Even overthinking can cause him to have trouble sleeping. His behavior is indicative of social phobia, a psychological issue characterized by an intense fear of interpersonal relationships.

Some people have difficulty communicating with others. This communication disorder is related to anxiety and worry. The questioner's description also faces this situation, so the questioner is likely to suffer from social phobia, which is also called social anxiety disorder.

The questioner mentioned that when he was in elementary school, he would even lose control of his bowels. I initially suspected that the questioner may have been forced by his family to manage his anal desire period (3-6 years old) when he was young, which caused problems with his personality. These are all problems in the original family. The questioner needs to find the root cause. He can do this by carefully recalling the pattern of getting along with his family. What was their impression of the questioner?

Give yourself a pat on the shoulder and a little strength. You can do this. So how do you deal with social phobia? Here are some tips:

Face your negative emotions head on.

Social anxiety disorder causes the person to have negative thoughts about themselves when socializing. The person must learn to face their negative emotions head on. They must recognize that it is normal to have negative thoughts when dealing with social anxiety disorder.

When preparing to interact with strangers, it's common to have thoughts like "I look like a fool" or "I want to be rude." To overcome this, you must first recognize these thoughts when they arise, understand the root cause of social anxiety, and then conquer it.

When these thoughts arise, stop in time and tell yourself, "I'm not going to look like a fool. I'm strong and capable, and I can do it."

"I'm not great at communicating with people, but I'm excellent at other things."

Identify and analyze your fears.

The questioner must face their emotions squarely and analyze what they are afraid of. Rewrite the negative emotions in your mind in a positive and realistic way.

Ask yourself if your negative thoughts are true. For example, ask yourself, "Do I know that I will make a fool of myself?"

Then ask yourself, "Is it the end of the world if I make a mistake in front of strangers?" The answer is an emphatic no. The questioner is not going to make a fool of himself.

You are still human, just like everyone else looking at you. Even the most sociable people can feel awkward at times, so give yourself a little more leeway.

Don't overthink the negative.

The questioner feels fear in social situations because they imagine worrying situations when meeting strangers. These imagined situations affect sleep and mood. They are completely unrealistic and unhelpful.

We cannot predict what will happen. Trying to predict only paints the worst-case scenario, which is largely inconsistent with reality and causes unnecessary anxiety.

You have the power to change these exaggerated thoughts. For example, if you are going to a wedding, remember that you are not the focus of attention.

Picture yourself at the wedding, striking up conversations with others and enjoying yourself. If negative thoughts still cross your mind, simply stop thinking about them.

You are not the center of attention.

Social anxiety is often caused by the fear of being judged by others. But you need to understand that you are not the center of attention at a social event.

Focus on the organizer and other important people at the event. If they do notice you, it's not as bad as you think.

Don't try to read other people's minds. You can't know what they're thinking. And besides, their thoughts are probably not as negative as you think.

Use social situations to change negative views of yourself and stop others from making judgments about you.

Everyone gets nervous. It's only natural.

Studies have shown that more than half of people feel nervous when meeting someone they don't know. You are not alone in feeling this way. It is a normal reaction. Moreover, data shows that the number of people facing social anxiety is increasing year by year.

Know this: ordinary people around you are no different from you. You are not the only one who feels nervous. Everyone feels nervous sometimes. If people find out you are nervous, they will not criticize you or point fingers at you.

You can overcome it. Practice overcoming it.

You can overcome social phobia if you find the right approach. To overcome social phobia, you need to practice persistently. Don't expect overnight changes.

The sufferer must learn new behaviors, new ways of thinking, and new social skills. This takes effort, but it is worth it. The sufferer will master new skills and overcome or control their fears.

Practice deep breathing.

Take deep breaths when you are in or before a social situation. It's an effective way to manage nervousness. Deep breathing also reduces the physical reactions that nervousness brings about, as most of these reactions stem from rapid breathing.

You must do some breathing exercises every day. Make them second nature so you can do them naturally in stressful situations.

Breathe in through the abdomen, not the chest. Lie flat on the ground or sit upright in a chair.

Place one hand on your chest and the other on your abdomen. When you inhale, the hand on your abdomen will rise and fall, while the hand on your chest will remain stationary.

Inhale slowly and deeply through the nose for seven seconds. Exhale slowly through the mouth for eight seconds.

Gently contract your abdominal muscles to get air into your lungs. Complete five deep breaths, each separated by 10 seconds.

Psychological intervention is the answer.

If the above methods don't work for you, you need to find a professional psychologist or counselor for psychological intervention. Tell them about your negative emotions and speak openly and honestly because these sessions are confidential.

Describe how these anxiety attacks make you feel, how they usually start, and how you react to them. If necessary, maintain ongoing communication with these professionals until the anxiety attacks no longer affect you.

The questioner can overcome their fears by persevering, overcoming their fears more often, taking things slowly, and doing one thing at a time. They must maintain a positive attitude.

Be true to yourself. Be brave in the face of setbacks, don't dwell on failure, and know that you can overcome your fears and express yourself freely in social situations.

I am confident that my answer is helpful.

Hello, question asker.

You are clearly a person with good awareness and introspection skills. You have correctly identified that anxiety is affecting your sleep.

Lack of sleep leads to apathy, sluggish thinking, and a strong desire for effective advice to help.

Right?

Let's start by clarifying what anxiety is.

Anxiety is divided into three categories: realistic anxiety, neurotic anxiety, and moral anxiety.

Realistic anxiety refers to a fearful or

Anxiety reactions produce an intuition of external danger. People are afraid of poisonous snakes, thugs with weapons, and so on.

Or a runaway car, for example.

Neurotic anxiety is anxiety caused by reasons that are not external dangers.

However, there is an awareness that one's instinctive impulses could lead to a certain kind of danger. This means that the source of anxiety may

This stems from early-life repressed trauma or is inherited from the family.

Moral anxiety is the fear that one's actions violate social rules and morals.

This is because of the evaluation of others or the approval of the voice of social authority culture, which makes them anxious.

Anxiety is a survival strategy that humans have evolved to cope with.

People with hypersensitivity have a catastrophic sense of feeling because of the differences in personality and sensitivity.

You have a catastrophic sense of feeling.

From the presentation of your simple material post, I will now analyse your anxiety in relation to the following reasons:

First, you have a personality trait of hypersensitivity.

This means you have a glass heart, are relatively fragile, and the slightest thing sets off a storm.

It is in a state of chaos and turmoil.

Second, it is likely related to your prejudicial perception.

You have learned a lot, especially about psychopathology. This is a double-edged sword. On the one hand,

It helps you understand the relationship between your symptoms and feelings. However, it may also increase your anxiety.

For example:

You can't sleep at first. After checking, you find out that you may have anxiety disorder, which only reinforces your belief that

This leads to the erroneous conclusion that your sleep disorder is related to anxiety, which in turn makes you more anxious.

This makes it even harder to sleep.

Third, you engage in excessive rationalization of your thoughts.

This is an extension and development of the second point. You discover that you are overly rational about your life phenomena and symptoms.

Rational analysis and interpretation isolate emotions and feelings, which can exacerbate anxiety.

An overly rational person is like putting a gate on the flood of emotions. They are unable to find a gap.

This is perfectly normal. There is nothing wrong with insomnia.

The question is, how do you treat it?

I strongly believe that if your anxiety is due to personality factors and has a chronic nature, you should work with a psychiatrist.

Medication is the more effective option.

You can use cognitive behavior in the first phase for ten or dozens of times if you try two integrated techniques with the help of psychological treatment.

You will then move on to psychoanalysis or dynamic therapy.

The two techniques are cognitive behavior and psychoanalysis. In the first stage, you learn with the help of cognitive behavior.

You must identify your own thought processes, find the background that affects your anxiety, and challenge your unreasonable beliefs. You can do this by reconstructing your cognition.

Behavioral training and other techniques will help you better manage your negative emotions.

In the middle and late stages, treatment is carried out with the help of dynamics or psychoanalysis to integrate the personality and explore the subconscious.

I want to know exactly what the shadows or knots are that affect the manifestation of symptoms. Once I understand that, I can achieve repair and maturity of personality.

In short, in the early stages, you must manage your symptoms effectively to prevent them from affecting your life and work. In the later stages, you must integrate and adjust your personality functions.

This will lead to the gradual disappearance of symptoms.

It is important to note that this process can take a significant amount of time, typically between two and three years on the lower end and four to five years on the higher end.

I am counselor Yao, and I will support and care for you until you are well!