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How do you convince or trick your mother into taking her to the psychologist?

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How do you convince or trick your mother into taking her to the psychologist? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I feel that my mother is getting worse and worse. She frequently suspects my father of cheating on her, and every little thing sets her nerves on edge. She won't let go of the slightest hint in my father's phone. But in fact, everyone, including outsiders and children, knows exactly what kind of person my father is.

But my mother kept dwelling on these things, often accusing my father of belittling her, arguing with him, and causing chaos in the family! My mother may also be suffering from menopause, and often can't sleep at night. When she can't sleep, she gets all sorts of crazy ideas in her head. Over time, I'm afraid she'll have a nervous breakdown, and she's clinging onto things that haven't happened!

The whole family is about to go crazy, they can't be persuaded or listened to, and they have said all kinds of things about family harmony and everything going well, but it's useless. I feel that my mother is becoming more and more nervous, but I don't know how to persuade her to go to the doctor, or what kind of doctor to see, I'm completely at a loss!

I hope someone can help me with this question, thank you so much!

Charlotte Elizabeth Brown Charlotte Elizabeth Brown A total of 2042 people have been helped

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Lucy Grace Franklin Lucy Grace Franklin A total of 4479 people have been helped

Hi, I'm Duoduo Lian. I hope I can help.

I'm sad for you and relieved. Your family wants to be happy, and with you here, your mother will get better. I don't know how long this will last, and I'm sure you've tried many things.

Menopause makes it hard for her to sleep. When she can't sleep, she starts to daydream. Physical discomfort can also make it harder for her to sleep. They affect each other. Going out into nature can relieve stress. Let your mother express what's on her mind. I'm sure she sacrificed a lot raising several children.

Mom has always taken care of the family, but now she feels old and worthless. Does dad do everything better than mom? Mom may feel abandoned. Once she feels worthless, she will constantly negate herself.

Show your mother's value in everything, especially to your father. He has worked all his life to support the family and hopes his partner is healthy and happy. A companion in old age is priceless. As children, we must understand our fathers and support them so you can work with peace of mind.

Mom is demanding and pitiful. She worked hard to provide for her family when she was young, but now she feels useless. Your family is united because of your parents' teachings and example.

As children, we must also accept our parents' fate. Sometimes, it will only make things worse for our mother. She is lost in her own world. It is better to let her face it. If our father has cheated, our mother must face life even stronger. Many couples separate, but they are also doing well.

Give your mother self-care so she knows her role is important. And let your dad show her he cares.

If you need help, get professional counseling. I'm sure your love and support will help your mom.

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Amelia Rose Taylor Amelia Rose Taylor A total of 1633 people have been helped

I think the questioner needs to look at both the physical and the psychological aspects of this issue. When women reach menopause, changes in their bodily functions can lead to emotional instability, irritability, frequent mood swings, suspicion, and a somewhat neurotic temperament. Of course, not everyone is like this; some people have these symptoms, while others do not. It depends on the individual.

You can improve your constitution and alleviate the effects of physical decline through medication.

From a psychological standpoint, she needs more attention, companionship, understanding, and recognition from her partner and children. This can help reduce her sense of emptiness and loneliness while increasing her sense of security. When her emotional needs are met, she'll naturally be happy and content, and she won't lose her temper or daydream.

If family members don't understand this situation in women, it can be tough to grasp her behaviors and thoughts. It's understandable if they think she's mentally ill.

So, I think the family should accept, understand, and pay attention to my mother. They shouldn't take her to a psychologist, though. She needs to figure this out on her own. This doesn't mean the family has to do everything for her. It just means they should support her and understand her as much as they can. Even if they don't understand why she says or does strange things, they shouldn't deny or blame her. They should just listen and respond when it's appropriate.

You don't have to agree with her all the time, and you don't have to disagree and deny her either. Just agree and obey in the right places, and disagree and don't deny her in the wrong places. Of course, if the questioner and his family want to take his mother to the doctor, I don't have a problem with that. It's their family, and they should decide what's best for them.

These are just my personal opinions, but I thought I'd share them with you in case they're helpful.

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Finley Collins Finley Collins A total of 5950 people have been helped

Hello. I am Gu Daoxi Fengshou, a heart exploration coach.

Tensions at home undoubtedly impact family members' emotions, and I fully understand how the questioner feels.

I need to know when your mother started having these emotional reactions. Was there an incident that triggered it?

I need to know if her mood was stable before. And I need to know how her relationship with her husband is.

Menopause can indeed cause emotional instability due to the changes it brings. It also requires more care from the family.

A mother once told her child, "You have puberty, I have menopause, let's be careful with each other." The question asker should consider how they felt when they were going through puberty and their mother told them to behave. They were certainly inconsiderate.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes. This will help you understand your mother's emotional changes better.

She is suspicious because she feels insecure in the relationship. She wants to prove that her relationship with her husband is safe.

The questioner should try to understand the voice behind her mother's behavior.

The questioner and father should show their mother enough care. This behavior may be a way for their mother to seek attention.

It is important to understand how your mother interacts with your father and mother during the aftermath of menopause. This will help you to sort things out.

When a person forms their own subjective feelings, questioning from the outside will only have the opposite effect. It is better to let her emotions flow for a while and then wait for her to get over this period. She will feel better.

Don't label your mother. When we label, we see her as unreasonable no matter what. See things from your mother's perspective to communicate with her.

When you tell your mother that everything is fine at home, you're essentially hoping that she'll suppress her own feelings and see things from the family's perspective. You're ignoring her grievances and sadness. If you want to help her sort out her emotions, you need to try to understand her on a deeper level.

Avoid communicating when your mother is emotional. It's difficult to maintain rational communication in an emotional state. When we communicate emotionally, we close the door to listening and become a one-man show of emotional catharsis.

Observe if there are people in your life who communicate more smoothly with your mother, or who your mother is willing to listen to. Let them try to communicate with your mother about going to the doctor. It will be twice as effective.

Tell your mother that her current state of tension makes you feel very sad and that you want to accompany her to the doctor to help her relax and sort out the problem. If she doesn't want to, that's okay. You'll always be there for her.

I am certain that if the mother feels the love from the family and the help this matter brings her, she will be more willing to adopt it.

Read "The Power of Empathy" and "The Art of Communication."

Best wishes!

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Dominic Young Dominic Young A total of 7404 people have been helped

I extend my support and understanding to you in this challenging situation.

In regard to the impact of your mother's influence on you, you have expressed a desire to persuade or perhaps even deceive her into seeking psychological counseling. It is likely that you have already attempted to do so, but whenever you have mentioned her psychological issues, she has typically responded with intense emotional outbursts. It seems that there is no effective means of communicating with her.

It seems unlikely that you have attempted to deceive your mother, and it is probable that you are aware of the potential consequences. Even if you were to deceive your way into a counseling session, it is likely that the counselor would decline to assist, let alone your mother, who would undoubtedly react with further hostility.

Psychological counseling can facilitate change for those who are willing to engage in the process. It is not constructive to attempt to change your mother through persuasion or deception; such an approach is unlikely to be effective and may even be counterproductive. A counselor will not be able to provide effective guidance in such a case.

It would be prudent to first consider the underlying causes of your mother's behavior. While menopause may be a contributing factor, her needs, emotions, and the perception that she is not a person of worth may be of greater significance.

You discussed the thoughts of other family members but did not address your father's perspective.

However, inaction can also be a form of attitude. The mother suspects her husband of infidelity and monitors his phone. It would be interesting to know whether the father has ever considered providing his wife with a degree of security, tolerance, and patience to reduce her suspicions.

If menopause is inevitable, then the attention of a spouse can facilitate a woman's ability to navigate the changes associated with this stage of life. However, it seems that the father in this situation did not provide the necessary support, and was more likely to accuse his wife of being unreasonable.

The author did not provide insight into the perceptions of the other siblings. Instead, the text asserts that the children have a clear understanding of their father's character.

You articulated your own perspectives, which are likely also those of your children. You perceive your mother as engaging in frequent disputes with your father, as a source of familial disarray, as harboring erratic ideas, and as exhibiting an increasing degree of neuroticism.

The objective is to persuade the mother to cease causing trouble. This is achieved by stating, "If your father has not been unfaithful, there is no need to argue with him." The intention is to stop the mother from disturbing the lives of others. The desired outcome is peace and harmony within the family. In other words, the mother is being persuaded from the perspective of the needs of others.

The woman is experiencing menopause, and her doubts are indicative of her underlying needs. However, her family members are unable to perceive this. They are only able to observe the symptoms affecting their own lives and desire her to rapidly resume her previous role as a mother.

It may be the case that the inability to see her is causing her to increasingly express her needs through various kinds of trouble. At the surface level, the argument is being made that the action is being taken for her own good.

However, your fundamental desire is to avoid any further influence on your lives. This is the problem-solving approach.

In this situation, the initial step is to consider the needs of the mother. It is possible to empathize with her situation by imagining oneself in her position. This would entail being middle-aged, receiving less care from one's husband, and potentially experiencing feelings of dislikeness and belittlement from him, as well as praise for other women.

Children are preoccupied with their own lives, demanding only of themselves but not caring, or willing to spend money but not willing to spend time listening to their mother. I am currently experiencing menopause myself, experiencing panic and suffering from insomnia, while everyone else seems to be taking it in their stride, thinking that it will pass and that I just need to tough it out.

Even if one discloses this information to a friend, the response may be that menopause is a normal process for women and that it will eventually subside. Men, it is often suggested, experience similar changes. Therefore, it is recommended that, as long as the marriage has not been terminated, one should refrain from taking any action.

It must be acknowledged that this is merely conjecture. In the eyes of the general public, including spouses and children, mothers are perceived to have no personal needs, and their physical discomfort is believed to be transient.

If one were in the position of the mother in this scenario and had experienced a similar situation with one's own mother, what would be the desired response from one's children? The answer is straightforward: understanding, empathy, and providing support.

It is important to communicate to your mother that you are aware of her situation and that you are unable to provide assistance. However, reassure her that you will continue to support her in any way you can.

Failure to acknowledge the patient's symptoms will inevitably result in their exacerbation. This phenomenon may be likened to the metaphorical "elephant in the room," which is often circumvented by those in its presence.

However, it is an ever-present entity. Only when one becomes aware of this phenomenon, initiates communication with it, and demonstrates a willingness to cease and desist from one's current activities in order to focus on it, may it become tame and gradually diminish in size.

I frequently experience a state of mind that may be described as Buddhist and depressed. In my professional capacity as a counselor, I endeavor to maintain a positive and motivated outlook. I embrace the world with a sense of love and appreciation.

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Chloe Martinez Chloe Martinez A total of 6516 people have been helped

Let's talk about your topic together.

Let's start with emotions. Emotions are made up of three parts: subjective experiences, external manifestations, and physiological arousal. Each emotion is the result of an unmet internal demand. If we miss out on a promotion or a pay rise, we feel sad. If we lose a treasured possession that we've kept for many years, we feel angry.

As the original poster wrote, my mother frequently suspects my father of cheating, gets into arguments and fights, can't sleep at night, and becomes paranoid.

We must ask ourselves how long this has been going on and what the first argument with Dad was like. We need to know what happened then.

We must also ask ourselves what her inner needs are for constantly doubting Dad and criticizing and belittling him.

We must also consider whether our mother is exhibiting any other obvious symptoms of menopause.

We can also become aware of our emotions and ask ourselves: What is my inner need to persuade or trick my mother into seeing a psychologist? Or, I could ask myself: Did dad ever take the initiative to talk to mom?

I should take the initiative to talk to my mother. I could also ask myself, what is the ideal mother like?

I need to know what I can do.

All emotions are neither good nor bad in themselves. When you become aware of anxious emotions, you can record what your feelings are at the moment or name the emotions at the moment. Write about your feelings honestly and openly. This will help us understand the origin and impact of emotions, as well as clarify the root of the problem.

Psychology tells us that all changes are voluntary. Changing others is a kind of internal friction, while changing oneself is a kind of growth. We can have an honest conversation with mom. We can be a serious listener. We can listen to her talk about her recent feelings and her past experiences. We can also listen to her talk about the past with dad. This will help mom express her feelings. It will also help us understand her.

Mom should find time to talk to a counselor. Emotions must be expressed to relieve the heaviness and blockages in the heart. A professional counselor can precisely catch mom's emotions.

We must also accompany our family members in their daily lives. Invite your parents to go for a walk in nature with you. See the birds and flowers, hear the insects and frogs, and feel happy. Let your mother learn more about fitness sports or group activities that interest her. This will enrich her spare time. I am certain that the company and support of family members will make your mother better and better.

Read the book Life is Worth It.

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Jordan Taylor Smith Jordan Taylor Smith A total of 1387 people have been helped

I empathize with your current distress and anxiety. This tense atmosphere in the family is a significant burden for you and the entire family. The frequent suspicions that your mother harbors regarding your father's infidelity, her inability to discern the truth, and her frequent accusations against your father may be attributed to the emotional fluctuations and anxiety that menopause can induce.

Menopause represents a significant physiological transition in a woman's life. It is accompanied by changes in hormone levels, which can result in mood swings, insomnia, and an exacerbation of anxiety and nervousness.

It is of the utmost importance to demonstrate care and consideration when confronted with familial challenges. Primarily, it is essential to convey to our mother that the entire family is invested in her emotional well-being and physical health.

This emotional connection will foster a sense of love and support in your mother, encouraging her to be more receptive to assistance and to modify her attitude and behavior. Family members may choose an opportune moment to communicate with your mother in a forthright manner, expressing their affection and concern for her, thereby fostering a sense of warmth and inclusiveness within the family unit.

It is crucial to facilitate a sense of self-reflection in the mother, enabling her to recognize the potential impact of her emotional fluctuations and behaviors on the family unit. Guiding her in this reflection may help her realize that her doubts and anxieties may be influenced by factors such as menopause.

This process of introspection can assist your mother in recognizing the necessity of implementing changes and seeking assistance to cope with her emotional distress.

In addition to family care and self-reflection, the assistance of a professional psychologist is also a constructive approach to resolving the situation. It may be beneficial to share with your mother some illustrative cases or anecdotes of psychological counseling and treatment. This could help her to recognize that seeking psychological assistance is a proactive behavior, not a source of shame, but rather a means of enhancing the quality of her life.

Inform your mother that a psychologist can provide professional emotional management and psychological counseling to assist her in coping with the challenges of menopause and restoring inner balance and peace.

Furthermore, it may be beneficial to extend an invitation to other family members to participate in the solution. By uniting as a family to demonstrate love and support for your mother, collaborating to create a response plan, and cultivating positive communication methods, it is possible to mitigate family tension.

It is of the utmost importance to be patient and tolerant. It is crucial to understand that this is an issue that requires time and a process; therefore, it is inadvisable to give up and instead to continue to express love and support.

It is my sincere hope that you and your family can weather this challenging period together and rebuild a harmonious family atmosphere. Should you require additional support and guidance for the entire family, you may wish to consider seeking professional psychological counseling.

It is my sincere hope that the suggestions I have provided will prove to be of some assistance. I extend my best wishes to you and your family and hope that your future together will be filled with joy and contentment.

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Wilson Anderson If you want to be happy, be.

It sounds like your mother is going through a really tough time and it's affecting everyone in the family. Maybe we can try to gently suggest that she seeks help from a psychologist or a counselor who specializes in mental health and menopause issues. Sometimes talking to a professional can offer her support and coping strategies.

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Brunhilda Davis Industrious people are the architects of their own fortunes.

Your mother's behavior must be incredibly stressful for you and your family. It might be beneficial to have a family meeting where everyone calmly expresses their concerns about her wellbeing and together discuss the possibility of seeking medical advice, focusing on how it could help her feel better and improve family dynamics.

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Silas Anderson Life is a lighthouse, guiding through the stormy seas.

I understand how challenging this situation is for you. Perhaps you could reach out to other family members or close friends of your parents to get their support and perspective. They might be able to help convince your mother to see a doctor or therapist, especially if they bring up the idea in a caring and nonconfrontational way.

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Billie Miller Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.

This must be so hard for you to witness. Have you considered looking into support groups or online forums for families dealing with similar issues? Sometimes hearing from others who are experiencing the same thing can provide new insights and approaches to handling the situation. Plus, it could be a source of comfort knowing you're not alone in facing this challenge.

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