How do you detach yourself when a good friend of the opposite sex has a partner yet still chats with you?

Give the host a big hug! It's totally normal to feel a little lost when the boy you have a crush on doesn't choose you in the end. We've all been there!

However, if you then go on to put yourself down, saying things like, "I know I'm not good enough, my studies are worlds apart from his, I'm a nobody, and I don't have a face that people envy," then it's not going to help you at all.

It's so tricky with relationships, isn't it? They either work or they don't.

If the person you like doesn't like you back, it's not because you're not good enough. It's just that there's something missing between the two of you.

Maybe the guy just didn't understand your feelings, and that's why another person came along.

Since the other person has already told you that he has a girlfriend, you might as well wish him well. After all, you are also good friends who can chat!

So, how do you withdraw?

First, let's try to reduce the frequency of contact.

"He asked how I was two days ago, and I didn't reply. I think that was a good thing to do."

I really do think that if he cares about his girlfriend's feelings, he'll definitely not contact you again.

If he still keeps in touch with you, why not ask him out and have a nice, clear conversation with him in person?

It's totally understandable to want to spend less time in contact during this period. And when you're feeling better, you can still be friends!

Second, remember to turn all this love and attention towards yourself!

If you bloom, the butterflies will come! If you like a butterfly, don't run after it, but settle down and plant a garden. The butterfly will come because of the beauty of the garden!

It's so important to learn how to take care of yourself, my friend.

This is a great way to meet a better version of yourself! It's not a drain, it's a boost! It'll give you a stronger driving force to improve yourself.

Then, cultivate some hobbies of your own, and you'll meet lots of lovely people who share your interests!

And you know what? Shared interests will allow you to meet people with similar underlying values.

It's a great idea to develop an interest, join some circles, and meet more interesting people!

As you make new friends, you'll have lots of new experiences, hear lots of new stories, and learn lots of new things!

You deserve to meet a better version of yourself, and I'm sure you will!

It's so common for girls to blame themselves when they're going through a rough patch in a relationship.

You are absolutely wonderful just the way you are! It's so true that someone will be attracted to you because you are you.

And don't worry, during this period of time, you just need to improve yourself step by step.

First, become independent, then find love. You will meet a better version of yourself, and you'll shine like the star you are!

And you will attract a partner who is just right for you!

I really hope things work out for you. You're going to get better and better!

Hello, question asker!

I totally get where you're coming from. I can see your confusion, understand your current mood, and know that you are having a hard time making a decision, letting go, and not wanting to get deeper into it. I know you're constantly depleting yourself and not wanting to become more and more passive, and I'm here to help.

I just wanted to say hi and chat with you briefly.

1. You already have the answer in your heart. You know that the other person now has someone they love. Even though your relationship has always been good, after all, you are not official boyfriends or girlfriends. You just need to follow your heart and make the most appropriate choice.

2. Even though he has a girlfriend, he still contacts you, which is totally normal. We all need friends. If you're close, it's even more rare. You already have feelings for him, so you'll definitely pay more attention to his emotions and feelings when you get along. He's also used to getting along with you in this stress-free way. As long as he doesn't make a clear statement, he must be treating you as a good friend. Everyone doesn't like to be alone and wants to have friends by their side.

3. Now that you've confirmed that he has someone else in his heart, there's no point in dwelling on it. You have to convince yourself to let go slowly, to solemnly say goodbye to this relationship in your heart. There's absolutely nothing wrong with liking someone! But if the person you like already has someone else in their heart, don't force it. If you really like him, you definitely want him to be happy, right?

4. Give yourself time to let go. You've got to be strong and stick to your decision, or you'll only end up hurting yourself. It's not worth staying in an unproductive relationship. Do you understand?

5. Do more of the things you want to do, the things you like to do, go out more, meet more like-minded friends, slowly shift your attention, and don't spend too much time and energy on him. If you really can't bear to let go, try going back and being just ordinary friends. If you can't do it from the heart, let go completely and don't contact him again.

I really hope my answer helps! Sending you lots of love ?

Hello, question asker.

I empathize with your feelings and understand your situation. I can perceive the questioner's feelings of loss, helplessness, confusion, and the psychological desire to withdraw from the relationship. Let's examine this together:

I empathize with your feelings and circumstances. I perceive the questioner's feelings of loss, helplessness, confusion, and the psychological desire to escape from this relationship. Let's examine the situation together:

"He said he had found someone he loved, and now he was just facing one problem: the two of them were in different places... When I heard this, I felt a sense of calm, but also a sense of loss."

I believe the reason for the "calmness" is that the questioner has come to understand that such a day will inevitably arrive. When he says that he has found someone he loves, there is no emotional attachment. However, the "loss" may be more a result of one's own actions. We have all been tempted before, and although we may prepare for this day, when it truly arrives, we find that we do not care as much as we thought we would.

I believe the reason for the "calm" is that the questioner has come to understand that such a day will inevitably arrive. When he says that he has found someone he loves, there is no emotional attachment. However, the "loss" may be more a result of one's own actions. After all, one has also been tempted before. Although one is prepared for this day, when it really arrives, one finds that one does not care that much.

It might be helpful to remember that this is a normal reaction. There is no need to pay too much attention to it. All of this will gradually dissipate with the passage of time.

It might be helpful to remember that this is a normal reaction. There is no need to pay too much attention to it. All of this will gradually fade away with the passage of time.

I found myself getting used to chatting with him and gradually feeling more and more moved. I would often find myself thinking about sharing with him in my daily life, but I have since come to realize that it might be best to reduce contact.

From what I can see, the questioner is a very reasonable person. Despite being tempted, he has made a reasonable judgment and decision in light of the circumstances, and he has a good grasp of time and proportion.

Let's consider some constructive ways to create a distance between you and the other person.

Let's consider some constructive ways to create a distance between you and the other person.

It might be helpful to consider maintaining some distance.

It might be helpful to consider maintaining some distance.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider maintaining a certain distance. It's possible that he may feel the difference if you don't respond to his inquiries.

It's a different situation now. "Two days ago, he asked me how I was, and I didn't reply." This could be seen as a way to maintain a distance. When you intentionally distance yourself from him, he may sense it, and over time, he might stop visiting you as often.

It's a different situation now. "Two days ago, he asked me how I was, and I didn't reply." This could be seen as a way to maintain a distance. When you intentionally distance yourself from him, he may sense it, and over time, he might stop visiting you as often.

It might be helpful to speak clearly.

Perhaps it would be helpful to speak to him clearly and directly about your feelings.

It is not entirely clear whether the two can still be friends, as this depends on the willingness of both parties (and their definition of friends). It would be advisable to explain things clearly to the other person and let him understand your situation. It is important to consider how you phrase this, as you do not want to cause any more internal conflicts. One option could be to simply say that he has a girlfriend and you want to avoid any suspicion.

It might be helpful to distract yourself.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider other perspectives.

It might be helpful to consider that when we focus all our attention on ourselves, we may inadvertently pay less attention to the matter at hand and care less about it.

You might consider trying to engage in activities that you find enjoyable, such as spending more time chatting with friends and family, practicing your handwriting, listening to music, or going for a run.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the possibility that someone who is a good match for you will come along when the time is right.

You may find it helpful to believe in yourself.

"I feel like I'm not quite at the same level as him in terms of my studies, and I recognize that I'm not the most extraordinary person. I'm not sure if my face is particularly inspiring to others."

It seems that the questioner may have a somewhat low evaluation of themselves. It's important to remember that everyone has different standards when it comes to choosing a spouse and ways of thinking. There's no need to belittle yourself or disown yourself just because he didn't choose you. Everyone has their own unique qualities, so it's best to just be yourself.

I believe that someone who appreciates you will come around at the right time. Until then, I encourage you to keep working on being the best version of yourself. Believe in yourself!

I hope my answer will be of some help to the original poster. Wishing you well!

I hope my answer will be of some assistance to the original poster. Best wishes!

Hello, question asker!

In your statement, you felt a little lost when you heard that your friend, with whom you often chat, had a boyfriend. You were used to chatting with him, and you always thought of sharing your daily life with him. You were a little attracted to him, but he chose someone else. Your reason tells you that you should reduce contact to avoid getting deeply involved, but you know you'll be just fine!

I really feel for you, being so sensible. I totally understand how you feel and what you're going through.

While feeling lost, don't belittle yourself! Is it because you're not good enough? Is it because you didn't study as hard as the other person?

Is it because you don't have an enviable appearance? Everyone is unique, and that's a wonderful thing! Learn to accept yourself for what you are, whether it's perfect or imperfect.

Then, love yourself! Be more confident in yourself when attributing problems, and you'll find you attribute them less internally.

The fact that he didn't choose you has nothing to do with what you said! If you don't believe me, you can ask him and tell him how you feel!

I like you and I'm willing to share everything with you! What made you choose someone else? He probably couldn't answer right away either. But that's okay! Relationships are about the feelings of two people. If the feelings are right, there's a reason to continue.

You know what? The person he chose was not you, and that's okay! You did the right thing by not responding when he sought you out to chat.

It doesn't matter what position you hold in his heart, his choice has already caused you pain. But don't worry! There's an easy way to reduce self-defeating behavior and stop the pain in time. All you have to do is cut off contact with him and tell him that it's not that you're being petty, but that there's something wrong with your relationship and you need to go into seclusion to adjust.

Now, let's dive deep into your inner world and explore the amazing realm of your emotions! What are they? What feelings do they bring?

Are there any parts of your body that are uncomfortable? Great! Be aware of them and soothe them.

It's time to figure out what kind of relationship you have with him! Is it a romantic relationship between a man and a woman? Or is it a kind of dependence or habit that you have slowly made part of yourself after chatting with someone for a long time? When you learn that it doesn't belong to you, you might feel a sense of loss, but that's okay!

Ask yourself if this is the case. If so, then go for it! Comfort it, empathize with it, and allow it to exist.

If you still feel uncomfortable, try something new! Distancing yourself from the feeling is a great way to look at it from a different perspective.

There are so many great ways to cope with your emotions! The right way is to exercise, listen to music, record your emotions in writing, and write down your emotions. Talking to someone is also a great way to get things off your chest.

Just like now, come here and talk about it! We're all here for you, ready to help you sort through your emotions and become more self-aware. Together, we can support your growth!

You did it! We are so happy you came out.

There is so much love in the world, and the world and I love you!