How does an unmarried middle-aged person reinvent themselves in the face of a complex situation?

Hello, I am Teng Ying, your psychological counselor.

I can see that you're anxious. It's clear that you're not happy with yourself right now. The confusion you're facing at work is really getting to you. It's affecting your mood and state of mind.

You are acutely aware of your mood and state of mind and you take action when you face a crisis. This is commendable.

You need to sort out the current problems.

From what you have said, I can identify the following problems as being troubling to you:

1. You are unhappy with your current work environment. You have discovered several things about the company that are unacceptable, and you have been treated unfairly. It is clear that you are not getting the support you need at work, that your supervisor is treating you unfairly or putting you under pressure in other ways, and that you are facing difficulties in your workplace relationships.

1. You are unhappy with your current working environment. You have discovered several things about the company that are unfair and you have been treated poorly. It seems that you are not getting the support you need at work, that your superior is treating you unfairly or putting you under pressure in other ways, and that you are facing difficulties in terms of workplace relationships.

2. You're unsure of your next move. You've expressed interest in changing jobs, but you feel you lack the necessary advantages. Furthermore, you've already explored this option previously. Currently, it's challenging to identify suitable opportunities.

This makes you feel hopeless while facing your current predicament. You feel a lot of internal pressure from this pessimistic outlook.

3. Your current state of health has been affected. You are experiencing a heightened sense of crisis, chaos, and powerlessness. You are unable to sleep at night or wake up early, and you feel dizzy and tired. You are also unable to eat.

Solve the problem.

I'll now share my views on the three problems we've just discussed.

First, adjust yourself. The workplace is complex and, to some extent, seems a bit ruthless because there are many things that are beyond one's control.

You're right—individual power is limited. Contending with it is a losing battle. I'm going to adjust my thinking and focus on adapting.

There are many unspoken rules in the workplace. Learn them and you'll gain a certain degree of initiative and prevent losses. Focus on improving the quality of your work. The workplace is complex, but it always comes down to one thing: work ability is the "hard currency" of the workplace.

As long as you do a good job, the boss will know not to give you a hard time.

Second, you need to focus on self-improvement. Given the current context of pandemics and wars, the global economic downturn, and the fact that this is not a good time to change jobs, you need to make the most of this opportunity to improve yourself.

In times of turmoil like these, you must quietly improve yourself, accumulate strength, and prepare adequately for future opportunities.

You say the company environment is in chaos. This is the perfect time to take a step back, hide away, study, and recharge. The more chaotic the situation, the more complicated interpersonal relationships become. People are also easily influenced by negative thoughts when they are anxious. Stay away from people and trouble. This will calm your mind and enhance your value.

When you learn and grow, you gain confidence. You also gain a new perspective. You stop worrying about what's in front of you and start planning for the future.

Third, self-care. If you feel unsure of your own value and dissatisfied with everything, you need to address this.

Affirm and accept yourself. You will feel differently when you look at things from a different perspective. Your ability to be observant of yourself is a great strength. Use it to make timely adjustments better than others.

You can find more things to do that make you feel relaxed, or you can talk to someone you trust. Stress needs to be released, and there are plenty of ways to do this, including distracting yourself or talking about it.

Your anxiety and stress have affected your health and mental state. You should see a professional psychiatrist for a diagnosis to see if there is any way to effectively relieve these. You should also seek regular psychological counseling from a professional psychological counselor. These will all be helpful to you.

Hello, I'm Evan, and I'm here to help!

From the description, we can see that the subject is currently exploring their career and future options, which is an exciting time! While others may not have all the answers, it's an opportunity for the subject to discover and define their own path.

Here, give the questioner a big, warm pat on the shoulder and some much-needed strength. It's totally normal not to have a plan for our future career. We all know that we don't know everything about ourselves, and that we're still figuring out what we want, what we want to do, and what we can do. But that's the exciting part! Finding a path that suits us is the first step to going further and further down our career path.

From the questioner's own account, there are several problems mentioned by the questioner, including the distress of being almost forty and still single, conflicts in interpersonal relationships at work, the pressure of work, and anxiety about one's lack of competitiveness when considering a job change. All kinds of negative emotions are rushing towards the questioner like a tide, reminding the questioner of Shakespeare's famous quote: "To be or not to be is the question." I personally think that there are too many problems, which make the questioner dizzy and unable to sort things out. Indeed, I don't know where to start—but I'm excited to help!

I wish I could give you more detailed advice, but I can't on this platform. So I'll just give you some simple advice:

Now for the fun part! It's time to find out what the root cause of the anxiety is.

What makes the questioner anxious? It could be the worry about interpersonal relationships, the lack of recognition of their work ability, or the lack of recognition of themselves. Whatever it is, we can help!

This is where the magic happens! The questioner gets to search for and perceive what exactly is affecting them and causing anxiety, and record it on paper.

Now for the fun part! It's time to find out what negative emotions cause the subject to feel anxious, and figure out what the root cause of the anxiety is. For example, the subject feels that there are problems with the interpersonal relationships at work, that someone is giving them a hard time, and that their work is not going well.

The questioner said that they are always targeted by others. Why is this? What happened that caused the questioner's work relationships to be so bad? Let's find out together!

Now, let's figure out the root cause of your real problem. Once we know that, the questioner can respond accordingly based on their own problem.

Let's zero in on the biggest problem at the moment!

The questioner can try writing down on a piece of paper the things they want to solve in their lives and see what problems they need to solve. This is a great way to identify the areas in your life that you want to focus on and work on making positive changes! Some of the areas that the questioner has highlighted as being problematic are being targeted at work, interpersonal relationships, remaining unmarried in middle age, and having a hard time finding a job after changing jobs. These are all things that the questioner can work on and make positive changes in their lives!

Now for the fun part! Rank the importance of the things according to your own feelings to find out your biggest and most important problem at the moment.

Once you've identified the most pressing problem, it's time to find a solution! If you can't solve it yourself, don't worry. There are plenty of people around you who can help. Look for resources and support, and you'll be amazed at what you can achieve!

Discuss it with your family! You might be able to help the questioner solve this problem. When facing anxiety, don't dwell on it. Instead, focus on the positive! After a while, you'll get used to it and your mentality will change.

And remember, there are always more ways than there are difficulties!

Now for the fun part! It's time to list the worst possible outcomes.

Now for the fun part! What is the worst possible outcome, and what is the worst possible outcome for the questioner? List them all out and see if you have any amazing coping strategies, or if you really can't accept them.

Instead of worrying about this and that, it's time to get creative! List these worst outcomes and prepare a response strategy ASAP. For example, what if you're difficult? When it really happens, you'll be ready to respond with your strategy, and the questioner's anxiety will be less severe!

It's important to remember that there are always more ways than there are difficulties! A gentleman strives for continuous self-improvement. If you want a good result, you can only get it by constantly facing the real you and pursuing the better you!

Be aware of your own verbal habits!

It's so common to find ourselves in situations that aren't ideal. And when that happens, we often find ourselves saying things like, "I'm so annoyed" or "I messed up again today." These negative words reflect an exaggerated and emotional response to things. But here's the thing: when we say these negative words, we're actually making the situation worse. We're deepening our negative thoughts.

The questioner should avoid using these types of words. Let's turn those negative emotions into a positive! Replace these negative words with positive thoughts and praise. For example, replace "terrible" with "unfavorable" or "there is still room for improvement" and "disaster" with "challenge" or "inconvenience."

Look for the positive!

Nothing is perfect, and that's okay! We all have our strengths and weaknesses. The question owner should recognize that there are definitely some areas that could use improvement. Take a deep breath and tackle the problem one step at a time. It's important to remember that there's no need to feel singled out. Instead, view it as an opportunity to grow and develop your skills. Even if you don't complete it perfectly, you'll still gain valuable insights and abilities. When you start to feel negative thoughts creeping in, pause and shift your focus to something positive.

Don't think negatively and give up just because you are facing some problems. Do your best to make things right and don't give up easily. You've got this! You'll gain something valuable until the very last second.

For example, a game was lost. This is quite unpleasant in itself, but the process of summarizing the reasons is an amazing opportunity to learn new methods so that you can avoid making the same mistakes in future games!

Seek outside help!

If you feel that the above methods aren't working for you, don't worry! You can actively seek external help from a professional psychologist or counselor for psychological intervention. These professionals are there to help you! You can speak boldly and confidently, because these interventions are confidential, so you should be honest.

Let's dive deep into how these anxiety attacks make you feel, how they usually kick off, and how you handle them. If you need a helping hand, these professionals are here for you until these anxiety attacks are a distant memory.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

Hello! I'm psychological counselor Cai Li.

I am confident that my thoughts will be of some inspiration or help to you.

You mentioned that you're middle-aged, unmarried, and childless. I believe this has a significant impact on your situation.

I don't know the specifics, but I'm going to make an educated guess. If I'm wrong, feel free to let me know. It's possible you once put your emotional life on hold for career advancement. Or perhaps you're feeling frustrated because you're in your mid-life and aren't satisfied with your career or family.

♥️Your question made me think of a picture: you are trapped in a cage, desperately trying to escape by banging your body against the bars, but to no avail. It's a sad picture.

You say it's not easy to find a better opportunity right now, so just ride the donkey and find it first. Work has become unbearable, which is a problem.

You have to ride the donkey steadily before you can find the horse.

♥️You have too many thoughts racing through your mind all the time. You need to let them go.

You can spend 23 hours out of 24 thinking (you can't sleep well anyway), but you must ensure that you spend one hour a day working without thinking. Don't take it too seriously, just work normally like your colleagues, and occasionally goof off.

♥️After work, you should try meditation. See how you think in a meditative state. Read a book you want to read. See how you think in a reading state. Do some exercise. Go for a walk. See how you think in a state of exercise. Use your creativity. Think as much as you like.

Think in different states more often. You can't stop it anyway, so make it more interesting!

I don't know if this will help you, but I'm sending love to you and the world.

Give the questioner a hug! I can totally understand the questioner's inner restlessness. In midlife, people face more and more problems and responsibilities, and whether they like it or not, what they see, hear, and feel around them all affect their state of mind.

Generally speaking, society has a pretty good idea of what middle-aged people are all about. They're at a certain age, they've got a stable family life, and they've got a stable job. And they're ready to take on the world! They're also expected to start a family, establish a career, work hard, and so on. But with the development and progress of society, people's lives have undergone some pretty big changes. And with that, society's definition of middle-aged people and the responsibilities assigned to them have also changed. It's been a wild ride!

For the questioner, it can be seen that many people around them have fallen in love, gotten married, and had children. It is estimated that some of them have already had a second child. Then, when they hear their relatives, friends, colleagues, or other passers-by talking about it, or when they read or hear various information in the mass media, and see the happiness of other couples or married couples, while they are still single, an indescribable feeling of bitterness will arise in their hearts. Coupled with some of the problems encountered at work, it is normal to feel a bit irritated. But this is an opportunity for growth!

Embrace your current state of life and your choices! There's a reason you're alone, even if you're not aware of it. Discover what's going on in your mind, what you're expressing through your restlessness, and what you're longing for.

As for the problems encountered at work, they can also be said to be a reflection of the questioner's attitude towards interpersonal relationships. This also requires the questioner to be aware of what role they often play in interpersonal interactions and to see what kind of interpersonal relationship they want. The law of interpersonal relationships is that if you want others to treat you a certain way, you must treat yourself and others a certain way. This is an amazing law!

Once you've gained a deep understanding of yourself, it's time to make a life plan! You can identify your current and future life goals and directions, including your own work development. Organize all of this into a clear and definite train of thought, and then follow it step by step. You'll no longer be troubled by these immediate problems and will feel more at peace.

Hello, I'm Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach.

He knows you're stressed. It seems like a career crisis is making you worry and feel anxious. But the first sentence, "As a middle-aged, unmarried, childless woman," is full of self-pity.

You see yourself as a middle-aged woman, unmarried, and childless. Have you also become lonely because you don't have a family?

I understand you. You want someone to understand you, love you, care for you, support you, and have an arm to lean on when you are tired and suffering.

Work is only part of our lives. A good life lies in exploring it for ourselves.

As you said, stress is always present in a chaotic work environment. You have to understand workplace politics.

Dealing with people is what work is all about. We envy people who are popular, but we have enemies too. Everyone has their own problems, but we keep going.

When we realize that work is only a part of life, we have a lot more in our lives. As long as we want to be happy, no one can control us.

Back to work. What's the boss thinking? He's thinking about how to improve the company and create more benefits.

So, whether it's survival of the fittest or personnel adjustments, they're all aimed at this ultimate goal.

No matter who you are, you should focus on doing your job well and improving your skills. Don't worry about what others are doing.

A new car still comes with a spare tire.

2. Find your own pleasures and values.

Dear you, You're still single for a reason. There's someone out there for you. When we focus on something, we succeed. Focus on your love life and you'll find success.

For example, make new friends and use your work to build connections and resources. Age is just a number if you believe in yourself.

Your writing shows you understand the past and why you feel the way you do. This is awareness, and I admire you for it. However, you are focusing on external factors. We should take responsibility for our own actions. This will help you move forward.

You can explore psychology on the Yi Xinli platform. Read articles, listen to audio, and write. These are good ways to heal yourself. We all need to experience things on the path to growth.

I hope this helps. I love you.

Click "Find a coach" to continue communicating and growing with me one-on-one.

Hello!

In this issue, you can feel your energy field. Shakespeare's words, combined with your own life, are like a doubt about choices.

"I can't work like this anymore." You've tried your best, and you know it.

If you wake up every day feeling like you're in crisis rather than happy, it seems like work has lost its meaning. It's not just about earning a living—work should also bring a sense of spiritual abundance, a feeling of self-worth, and a sense of being seen.

I think it's important to recognize the value of women's social work.

I truly believe that women have an indispensable social value in social work.

Just because you're facing a bottleneck at work doesn't mean you're not reaching your full potential as a woman or adding value to social work.

2. Sense of rhythm

It's important to reduce self-attack and accept your feelings and emotions. It's also important to let yourself recover slowly, because the more anxious you are, the more likely you are to feel depressed.

The questioner wanted to know if we could share the life stories of others.

When I feel like something's not right, I take a trip. I change my environment to one where I can fully adapt.

And on your journey, find a rhythm that works for you.

Talk about your recent reading experiences with good friends. Reading can be a great way to relax, especially in today's fast-paced world. It's a wonderful pleasure to read and understand words in context.

3. Sometimes you have to say no, and sometimes you have to let things go.

If you were once unwilling to compromise, you should be aware of this when your energy is low, and you should not compromise so easily.

Make a clear decision to follow the path you want, even if it seems like you don't have the support you need.

Hating the environment created by others will bring unwholesome things to the body and mind.

Not worrying about what other people say lets you focus on your own work.

Their growth requires them to take responsibility for their own lives. We can gradually disengage and avoid getting emotionally involved.

At the same time, they value their own sensitivity.

Hello! This is what is known as a midlife crisis, which everyone encounters to a greater or lesser extent.

And you are a bit special: unmarried and childless!

This is your objective reality. You can do it! Any avoidance or worry will only increase your anxiety and bring no benefit.

In the face of such a situation, you should definitely try:

1. Let it all out! You've still got what it takes to cope, or you can learn to cope with the current situation.

But remember, carrying emotional baggage will definitely make the journey an exceptionally difficult one.

There are so many ways you can vent your emotions! You can talk, cry, exercise, shop, yell, and more!

2. When you are emotionally stable and have the ability to think, you can absolutely sort out your current problems!

The truth is, age and not having children aren't your main concerns. But this issue has always been there, right? And now you're ready to tackle it head-on! The anxiety caused by personal problems has been superimposed on the process of not getting ahead at work. But now you're ready to take control!

3. Once you know what the problem is, you can seek your own way of dealing with it and responding to it. (It is true that there are certain difficulties, but if you don't deal with it, it will definitely exist. But you can definitely deal with it!)

4. When you're feeling stuck, take a deep breath and think about what matters most to you. I've got a great method for you: the elimination method!

Now for the fun part! It's time to list the things that have the greatest impact on you, or the things you can think of right now, the parts you care about the most. You don't need to list too many, just ten or less.

Now for the fun part! It's time to use your own reasons to eliminate the least important item.

The process is quite brutal, but you can do it!

If you need a little help, you can always ask someone else to guide you through the method!

I'm rooting for you! If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to contact me.

Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I really feel for you. It's the holiday season, a time to relax and enjoy yourself, but you're still struggling. I'm here to support you.

It's great you're taking this holiday. It'll give you a chance to reflect, think more deeply, and come to this platform with questions based on self-awareness. That's what psychology says, right? As long as you're aware, it's the start of healing. You're already on the path to healing.

Next, I'll share some ideas on how to handle things moving forward based on my own experience.

First, let's look at your request. You said you want to find out how others adjust their mentality and find a way out when they encounter psychological changes or major events. I think the first thing to be sure of is that those who can adjust their mentality and find a way out must first accept the reality, that is, accept the situation.

How do you handle it? In other words, when you know what's going on, you're not stressed out and can look at the problem from a third-party point of view.

Take a moment to think about yourself right now. Step outside of your own situation and look at the company you feel, and whether the people judging you and the things that are happening to you are really the situation you feel. If necessary, listen to other people's opinions and find a solution!

Make sure you're being objective. A scientific approach is the best way to go.

Second, when you've thought about it and realize it's about you, I hope you can accept that and then find a way to deal with it. In other words, if someone really judges you, let's see if it's really the chaotic environment you mentioned, or if there's something wrong with us in some way. Let's see if it's the professional crisis that triggered the emotional change, or if the emotional change triggered the professional crisis. Why did I say that?

I think it's important to care about your people, especially those in their middle years, who aren't married or have no kids.

Second, you're single with no kids. Have you ever thought about why that makes you feel a certain way? It might be affecting how you see the changes in your colleagues at work. Just a thought.

If your finances allow, I really think you should look for a professional psychological counselor. It's a scientific and effective process, and it'll be over quickly. I care about you, and I think these current changes in your body need to be addressed. Having a good body will help you have a good mood, and a good mood will help you change your views on work. So I hope you can find a counselor to help you get out of your current situation faster.

I hope you get better, work well, and enjoy life!

I love you, and I think the world loves you too!

Go ahead, panic! It's only natural for everyone to feel guilty and panic when faced with the unknown or the unpredictable.

Perhaps the old saying is the only response: if you can't fight back, just enjoy it! It may sound a bit passive, but in many cases, people are passive because they don't want to accept or face the truth. The reason is that everyone wants to take the initiative and make choices!

In fact, most of the time, people are exhausted and racking their brains, trying every possible way, only to find that there is really only a limited amount they can do. They have tried everything they can think of, and while the result is still full of crises and not satisfactory, it's also full of possibilities! At this point, after feeling anxious, helpless, and unwilling, it seems that there is only one option left: "That's it then." But there's no need to be discouraged!

Otherwise, what else can you do?

Who knows what tomorrow will bring? You might need to prepare for the worst, or maybe you're just scaring yourself. Perhaps the change will be unexpectedly good, or maybe you'll find a better perspective when you accept the inevitable. The possibilities are endless!

Unknown is not always scary, right?

To be a worker or to be a woman, that's a question too. And there's so much more to life than just work! If you're not sure what to do next, just put it aside for now and do something else. It's totally possible, and it'll be great!

I wish you all the happiness in the world!

Hello, question owner! My name is Ziding Yaxiang, and I'm thrilled to be able to help you solve your problems.

After carefully reading the questioner's confession, I realized that the middle-aged unmarried woman is experiencing a career bottleneck at work. This is something that everyone who is in a bottleneck period will encounter. They cannot find a good way out, and they are full of tension and anxiety. But they feel powerless in the face of being hurt by this environment. This is an opportunity for growth!

I know you can relate to this!

Now, let's dive in and explore the issues at hand!

1. No career advancement. At a crossroads in your career, you have the exciting opportunity to find a new way out and start anew! Or, you can choose to accept the status quo and continue on in a daze.

As a workaholic, the latter is relatively difficult for the subject to accept, but the current situation has to be temporarily accepted with reluctance.

2. Work has a certain impact on life. The sense of crisis at work has caused the questioner to have some pretty serious problems in his life, but he's working on them! He's unable to sleep or enjoy his food, but he's determined to get back to a place of feeling good.

And there's more! You might also experience dizziness and fatigue. It's important to get enough rest to perform at your best at work.

3. Psychological trauma. Being excluded from work and not being affirmed, coupled with the gradual dissipation of the sense of superiority from school days, a sense of loss and work-related anxiety, all lead to emotional instability. But there is hope! With the right tools and support, you can overcome these challenges and emerge stronger than ever.

There is a way out of this! You can withdraw from the workaholic state.

Now, let's dive into some more questions!

First, consider the problem from a different perspective. Why doesn't the question asker get married?

Or have you not yet met a close friend? Well, why don't we change the current battlefield?

You can give some thought to your personal problems. And although the reason for being single is unclear, you can spend some time thinking about your personal problems. Making friends is a great way to help you deal with your current emotions!

Second, get out there and enjoy more social activities and sports! Take part in community activities and sports to share the not-so-great emotions from work.

Work it out with your sports agent! Don't let this emotion settle for a long time.

Finally, if this job really makes you feel so depressed, aggrieved, and uncomfortable, why not take the plunge and make a change? Change jobs, change departments, or change careers! Although there will be many uncertain factors in the future, and gains and losses are inevitable, it all depends on how you make your own choices.

And don't forget to get plenty of rest and see a doctor when appropriate if you feel unwell and dizzy for a long time!

I really hope the above will inspire and help you!

I hope you are WONDERFUL!

Hello!

I am a mindfulness coach, and I can tell you with certainty that learning is the treasure of the body.

From your description, I can clearly see your inner anxiety, worry, panic, sense of crisis, pain, and feeling of being overwhelmed.

I won't go into the details of your recent psychological turmoil, but I will give you three pieces of advice.

First, understand and accept your current state.

Doing so will make your heart feel slightly lighter, which will help you think about what to do next.

You say you are a nearly middle-aged woman who is unmarried and has no children. You have recently felt various emotional fluctuations brought on by a workplace crisis. You want to find a new way out but feel you have no advantages. This has led to an unprecedented sense of crisis and anxiety. Understandably, most people encountering a workplace crisis will feel especially powerless and worried. You also feel powerless because of your age and the fact that you are unmarried and have no children. It is not easy for nearly middle-aged women to find a new job. You have to try to understand yourself and comfort yourself. See that anxious part of yourself that wants to change the status quo but doesn't know how for the time being. This will free up your mind to think about other things. Otherwise, your mind will be filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

You must allow yourself to understand and accept yourself if you want to change the current situation. It may sound contradictory, but that is the truth. Change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, you must view your own state rationally.

Rational thinking helps you understand yourself and reality better.

Look at it rationally. You need to do two things:

You have strengths. Everyone does.

You said you don't think you have any advantages in finding a new job, but you're wrong. You do have advantages, because everyone does, and you are no exception.

Your age is not a disadvantage, but your work experience is. Your status as an unmarried, childless professional may make some companies hesitant, but there are still plenty of companies that will hire you. You need to see the bright spots in yourself and believe in your abilities.

Second, understand that the status quo can be changed because you can change it.

When you exert your subjective initiative, the various states of your mind will naturally change slowly. You must learn to view yourself with a developmental perspective. Viewing yourself over the length of your life allows you to see that you have plenty of time and energy to improve and perfect yourself. You must see the power of time.

I advise you to focus on yourself and consider how you can improve your situation.

When you assess your situation rationally, you will know what to do. Focus on yourself and do it.

For example, identify the most important task for you right now and complete it to the best of your ability. If you don't prioritize your tasks and don't grasp the main contradiction, you will likely become anxious and unable to complete everything. Find the most important task and complete it.

You can also find ways to deal with problems caused by others at work. For example, you can have a good chat with the other person or ignore them and just do your own work. Since you haven't found a way out yet, you should just focus on doing your current job well.

If you're looking for a way out, adjust your goals, find what you care about most at work, and lower your expectations in other areas. You'll find a job that suits you.

Talk to a trusted friend or family member about your negative emotions. This kind of communication will make you feel better because it helps you process your emotions.

You can also record all the thoughts that come into your head. The act of writing may also make you feel better because it allows you to express your negative emotions. You can do something to improve the situation.

Take action and the various negative emotions in your heart will naturally be resolved. Action is the enemy of negative emotions.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you. If you would like to communicate further, simply click on "Find a coach to interpret – online conversation" at the bottom of the page, and I will communicate with you one-on-one.

Hello, my dear friend. I want you to know that I'm here for you, and I'm sending you a big, warm hug.

It's true that people in middle age face many life issues.

On the one hand, there's work, and on the other, there's family. You might even have to face the aging of your parents and your own aging.

In the book Your Happiness Curve, the author offers some great solutions to the midlife crisis from the perspectives of psychology, economics, and big data. The solutions are based on wisdom, self-help, and mutual assistance, which I think you'll find really helpful!

It's totally normal to feel confused when you're facing a career crisis, and it's also normal to have other things going on in your life, like emotional issues, prejudice against middle-aged women, and concerns about the future. These things can all contribute to your current state of mind. Many people of the same age experience this, and it's called a midlife crisis.

But don't worry! A crisis is also an opportunity.

I don't know all the details of your situation, but I suspect that your career dilemma is just one part of what you're going through, which you've described as a midlife crisis. It's likely that your age and relationship status are also factors.

So, what can you do? I wish I could tell you exactly what you can do, but I'm happy to share some commonalities with you.

First, try to accept the situation you're in, whether it's at work, emotionally, or otherwise.

You can tell yourself, "Okay, this situation is really messed up, and it's really difficult to deal with." Just think of it as a hand of cards that I've been dealt. You've got this!

It's so important to accept things as they are if you want to make changes. If you don't accept things, it's easy to spend all your energy and willpower on things like "Why should I?"

Second, try to separate the problem from the person.

You can even visualize the problem and give it a name! This is a great way to externalize the problem.

Then, take a deep breath and talk to your problem. It's okay to calm it down, take a moment to collect yourself, and don't worry. You're trying to find a solution, and we're here to support you every step of the way.

Third, it's time to identify the problem you want to solve the most at the moment.

Let's say your work is a bit chaotic. Do you think you could persevere, or do you think it might be time for a change?

So, where is your competitive edge? If you don't have enough of an advantage in your current position, you might want to think about continuing to learn to increase your competitiveness, or even switching to a related field!

You can also combine your interests with the company's growth or even your own personal interests and hobbies to find the perfect path for you!

And whatever you want to do, whether it's a side business or something else!

It's time to find solutions to the current situation and take action! Only by taking action can you resist anxiety and confusion. You've got this!

You can also talk to a counselor if you'd like.

Hi! I'm a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes pessimistic, but I try to be positive and motivated as much as I can. I love the world and I love you!