How should a male salesman with a home-based work mindset handle such a situation?

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, your answerer.

It seems like the questioner doesn't fully agree with some of the company's rules and feels a bit hurt by them. This makes them a bit resistant to some of the company's rules and unsure of what to do.

It's important to understand a profession fully so we can avoid getting lost along the way.

The sales profession is known for its many meetings. Many insurance and direct sales companies require their employees to attend meetings to learn about product marketing techniques. Some people find these meetings helpful, but others find them boring. However, this has become the norm.

At meetings, people are often encouraged to share what they've learned and what they've been up to, and to exchange ideas. Some people feel that they can make progress together by sharing and learning from each other, but others, especially those who are not doing well, don't like to face such situations.

Sometimes at meetings, people are asked to analyze new knowledge they've learned about products or the industry. This requires employees to keep investing in their work outside of work, and often meetings still take up their free time. So, many people feel like they're working all the time, with no time to spare. They feel like doing this job is not only exhausting for the sake of improving performance, but also uses up a lot of their energy even outside of work. This is why many people don't like to work in sales.

But this kind of career has always been this way, so if it's unavoidable and can't be changed, the questioner may need to adjust to this kind of work environment and work intensity.

If you really can't adapt, I'd say it's time to consider a new career direction. Do your homework on the industry first, and then go for it.

He is an excellent young man.

If I may, I would like to ask you a personal question: do you enjoy your current job?

Or perhaps it's just a job you have to do to make ends meet?

I'm 32 years old. I believe my first job was as a golf receptionist.

As a newcomer to society, I have yet to develop a sense of preference. I am grateful to have a job and a reliable source of income. I have been in this field for approximately three to four years, during which time I have had the opportunity to gain experience in a variety of work environments.

My second job was particularly formative in terms of my personal growth and sense of value. It was in customer service management in the e-commerce sector. I began as a junior employee and was often asked to work overtime because I was meticulous in my work. One additional night was added on. My boss trusted me and provided a lot of encouragement, so I was happy to do it. I really liked my work and felt valued. I was appreciated by my boss and often went to attract investment from all over the country. I spent three years in this role. Later, due to relationship problems and physical reasons, I left this company. However, I will always remember this job, even if it was challenging, because I felt valued.

In recent years, I have been fortunate to embark on an entrepreneurial journey in the beauty industry. I believe many women find fulfillment in this field, but I must admit that launching a business comes with its fair share of challenges. From paying the rent to hiring staff, there are many responsibilities that come with being a business owner. While others may perceive you as a small boss, only you truly understand the intricacies of the role. Despite these challenges, I find immense joy in this profession because it aligns with my deep passion for beauty. Currently, the ongoing situation in Beijing has limited my outdoor activities, but it has also given me the opportunity to indulge in a newfound love for reading. I've been delving into Adler psychology, Mr. Fan Deng's insightful lectures, and other knowledge-rich materials. It has been an incredible journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

I hope you don't mind me going on at such length. It's simply because I believe that, whether in the past or the present, the only person who can make decisions for me is myself. What a job can bring you, and what a leader can bring you, depends on what you want and your own attitude. If you feel you can't adapt to your boss's style, it might be worth looking for another one. If it's your own reason, it could be helpful to talk to your colleagues and see how they adapt to such a boss.

I hope you can read my reply. I apologize for the inconvenience of typing out every word. I hope it brings you a little happiness.

— Someone who is sincere

Hello, my name is Flower.

Could I perhaps have the original words of the questioner quoted? I wonder if we could discuss this in steps? What are the key issues here? I'm sure we can come up with new ideas and approaches. Perhaps we could give examples? I love you all, the world and everything in it.

First of all, I want to extend my support to the questioner, even from a distance. I can imagine that it must be challenging to navigate the conflicting demands of reducing work pressure while facing pressure from your leader. At the same time, it must be difficult to find ways to avoid the weekly meetings you don't like! Perhaps, let's explore these from a different perspective.

? A summary of the main issues that the questioner is facing is as follows:

At the meeting, they have to report on their performance and what they have learned, which can sometimes feel a bit tedious.

Despite the questioner's proposal to alter the meeting process, it has not been accepted. Instead, the leader has requested a meeting with the questioner, citing the need to avoid the meeting as the reason for this request.

The 25-year-old questioner needs to take high blood pressure medication every day, hoping to protect himself by reducing stress.

? How might we address these significant challenges?

I must admit that I am not particularly enthusiastic about the weekly meetings. The leader maintains that they are intended to be beneficial, offering training and other forms of assistance.

I feel that some aspects of the meeting may not be as helpful as they could be. I understand the main purpose is to discuss performance and areas for improvement. I am open to this, and I am happy to discuss my performance in private messages. I also appreciate the opportunity to reflect on what we have learned at the end of each meeting.

Could I perhaps inquire as to whether there is a particular reason why this question was posed in this way?

It would be helpful to consider the possibility that some people may dislike meetings because they are uncomfortable with the inner psychology and self-needs that meetings often evoke.

If I might offer my own perspective, I would probably also prefer to be asked about my performance in a private message from my leader. After all, reporting performance in public seems to invite praise if the performance is good, but also envy and criticism if the performance is not good, but also encouragement. I wonder if the questioner also has these concerns?

If there is, it may be an indication that we place a great deal of value on the opinions of others. This could potentially be one of the reasons why the questioner is reluctant to participate in the meeting.

If the questioner feels that those things are not helpful, it would be interesting to understand what the questioner expects to learn in the meeting. It would also be valuable to gain insight into the specific thoughts, expectations, and needs behind those who don't want to participate in the meeting.

The questioner may wish to consider this carefully.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to put ourselves in the other person's shoes and consider why a leader might choose to have a meeting instead of a private chat.

If we were in a position to provide individual, private feedback on each employee's specific work, how much time would that realistically take? What are the potential benefits of group feedback?

Perhaps we can find commonalities, be more targeted, and learn from each other. It seems that company systems must have their reason for existence, after all, existence justifies reason.

However, we can also raise objections based on our needs. For example, I wonder if there might be a better way to do this. I must admit, I'm not a big fan of these meetings.

I suggested a potential change to the meeting process, but unfortunately, there was no response and the current approach was maintained. When an objection is raised and it doesn't work, it might be helpful to consider why.

It may be the case that no one has yet found a solution that is demonstrably superior to the current one. What the questioner may need is to identify a demand that most people agree with and are willing to do, establish a solution, and improve the meeting process.

It is possible to discuss failure cases without attacking each other and share opinions in a non-aggressive manner. Similarly, you can share successful sales cases, sales experiences, and methods, and discuss the sales theories you have learned. You can then put them into practice afterwards.

If I might suggest, in order to effect change, it would be helpful to have a concrete plan in place.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take a moment to reassess and recognize the difficulty, dislike, and stress of the routine.

If the most difficult, most offensive, and most stressful items are each worth 10 points, could I inquire as to how the questioner would rate the difficulty, offensiveness, and stressfulness of the weekly meetings? Is this level of difficulty completely unacceptable?

Could we perhaps consider ways to reduce the difficulty level? If we focus on the weekly meeting, we may perceive it as taking up a significant amount of time and having little meaning.

If we consider the time separately, we can see that there are 24 hours in a day, excluding 8 hours of sleep and 2 hours of eating, leaving 14 hours. This means that a week is 14*7=98 hours, with the weekly meeting taking up 2/98, which is about 2.04%. When we use numerical data for statistics, we can see that these two hours are just a small part of the week.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the three aspects of difficulty, repulsiveness, and stress, and to think about what the questioner might be willing to do to reduce their scores.

It might be helpful to consider the value of meetings in a more positive light and to try to reduce the pressure of working on your own.

Could it be that we dislike meetings because we view them as a task we would rather avoid?

It would be beneficial to consider the advantages of meetings. For instance, we could cultivate the positive habit of promptly recording our performance, gain insight into statistical trends, and assess our weekly progress before the meeting.

As an alternative, you might consider reviewing the sales situation of the week before the meeting. This could be an opportunity to acknowledge your achievements and identify areas for improvement. You may find that this approach is more valuable than simply preparing a report.

It might also be helpful to view reporting as a way of sharing information, communicating with colleagues, and engaging in a non-judgmental discussion. This could be an effective approach for reducing stress in complex work situations.

As an alternative, you might consider using online documents and online forms to record your performance in a timely manner, which could help to alleviate the need to recall information before the summary. If the meeting is particularly challenging, it might be helpful to focus on other tasks.

I hope the above sharing is helpful to the questioner, and I wish you the best.

Hi there, I get where you're coming from with the career issues you're facing!

First, I don't know what level you're at in the company, but you don't seem very experienced. It seems like you're still having trouble adapting to some of the rules at work.

If you're just starting out and doing basic work, it's important to show you're reliable and responsive at work to gain the trust of others. There are two things to keep in mind: 1. Don't be afraid to make mistakes.

2. Don't underestimate the importance of basic work. If you're afraid of making mistakes, you might avoid problems, which could give the impression that you're not working hard.

If you don't pay attention to the basics, your manager might think you're not motivated or cooperative.

Second, the way we understand management is a bit biased. In fact, all management has its flaws. From an individual's point of view, management that makes you feel uncomfortable is bad management.

From most people's perspective, it's probably easier to manage the non-existence. If it's excessive behavior against an individual, it's okay to fight back.

If not, it might be best to just go with the flow.

Finally, I noticed that you were already 25 years old and needed medication for high blood pressure. Even if there's a family genetic factor, it seems a bit early to develop at this stage.

If you're feeling stressed and have a short fuse, you might avoid meetings because they make you more anxious. If that's the case, I suggest you exercise more. Exercise can help reduce anxiety, and if you're less anxious, you might be able to last until the end of the meeting like everyone else.

Hope this is useful!

Some meetings come and go every day, and there are always so many meetings every month. Some companies even have meetings every day of the week! It might not be something very important, but it just makes people feel uncomfortable because it doesn't bring any economic benefits or growth.

A lot of meetings are actually a waste of time. They drain your patience and take up your time. You can also see how your current situation affects you. Do you often find your time taken up after work? This is a clear way to experience being exploited.

As a salesperson, you probably already know that you're under a lot of pressure. The wrinkles around your eyes and eyebrows, your gray hair, some of your spots, and high blood pressure are the result of time passing, because you've lost a lot of time.

You also get a lot of overtime and stress. Working from home might give you a little break. Your weekly meetings seem to be full of unnecessary chatter, not because there is something wonderful to report, or a promotion or raise to discuss.

Instead, the leader started giving lectures and checking up on everyone to see if they'd done their jobs right. They even had to talk frankly about what they'd learned.

It's really formalistic. You're so young but already have high blood pressure, which is heartbreaking. Even so, your leader doesn't seem to have any compassion for you.

You still have to come in, and you'll still get private messages. Every time you see one, it might also ruin your mood. After so many years, you'll know what kind of work you really need. I suggest you take the career psychological test to understand what you really need and see if you need to look for new job opportunities. Good luck.

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