How to better deal with interpersonal relationships and personal conflicts?

Hello, host! I'm so happy to be here!

After reading your description, I totally get what you're asking! I'm sending you a big, warm hug!

From your description, I can tell that you have some anxiety about interpersonal relationships. But don't worry! I'm here to help. Because you value interpersonal relationships very highly, you experience some anxiety and worry. But I'm going to help you with that! In this regard, I will give you a hug in four dimensions.

You brought up the challenge of making friends, which is something many of us have faced. It's a sign that there's a solution out there! Don't fret, there's a way forward.

The great thing is, everyone has their own pace in life, whether it's making friends or doing things. This means that some people make friends quickly, while others take longer – and that's totally fine!

But here's the great news: This is not a problem either! As long as you achieve the desired effect, it doesn't really matter what the process is.

In this regard, I have also summarized some amazing methods to help you alleviate your current situation, and I really hope they can help you to some extent ♥️.

(1) Being introverted and making friends slowly are absolutely no problem at all! You should be proud of who you are and enjoy your own company. There's no need to try to be someone you're not. If you try to be a social butterfly, you'll miss out on all the amazing things you can do on your own.

(2) You are also very good, and you also have your own bright spots. People who like you will naturally come closer to you. So, you can be yourself in the present, and it's going to be great!

(3) Making friends is important, and it's a two-way street that requires the efforts of both sides. Relying on the efforts of one side alone won't achieve the desired results, but that's okay! You don't need to spend too much time on every relationship.

(4) You can learn some amazing dating skills on video to improve your own dating methods. For example, when making friends, you can start with common interests and find common ground to chat.

(5) Make a distinction between colleagues, so you know which ones you can be close to and which ones are just colleagues. Having such a distinction is a great way to build strong, meaningful friendships on both sides!

The world and I love you so much! ?

Wishing you the very best!

Hello! I totally get where you're coming from with your troubles with interpersonal relationships.

First of all, remember that interpersonal communication is a skill, and skills can be practiced! So the first piece of advice I have for you is to observe. Take a look at your colleagues around you and see what they do. Find the part you can do and give it a try!

Second, choose the right people to socialize with. The first choice is influential people in the office area and colleagues around you. You'll have more opportunities to socialize with colleagues around you, which is great! When the other person needs help, you can help them out.

Another great way to get closer to someone is to ask them to do a small favor and then thank them. It's also really easy to socialize with influential people. They'll usually reach out to you, so just go along with it!

Then, be sure to ask the other person some small questions and just be a fan!

If you're not the most outgoing person, don't worry! Just go along with it and be friendly. There are bound to be people in your area who like to start conversations.

Of course, it's not just about having great interpersonal skills. It's also about having other strengths. That's why it's a great idea to learn some office skills in your spare time. That way, you'll be ready for any performance opportunities that come your way. And when that day comes, you'll be the one everyone turns to for help.

I wish you the best of luck!

Greetings,

I am fortunate to be in a position to offer you some guidance.

From your written description, it is evident that you possess a high level of enthusiasm. However, due to your personal early life experiences and your own personality traits, you tend to be somewhat reticent in your approach to others. For instance, in the workplace, you aspire to cultivate a sense of warmth and sincerity in your interactions with others, with the aim of establishing a more stable and grounded relationship.

However, the workplace environment you are currently situated in is characterised by efficiency and a fast pace, as well as a high level of proficiency in interpersonal relationships. This has led you to perceive a discrepancy between your own attributes and those of your colleagues, resulting in a sense of unease and distress.

In light of your personality traits and the actual situation in the workplace, I will assist you in analyzing the situation through the following content to determine whether I can be of assistance.

Your starting point is optimal for your desire to integrate into the workplace and into a circle. Therefore, how might you integrate?

One must also consider whether the atmosphere of this circle is conducive to one's personal growth and development. Furthermore, is it accurate to conclude that in the workplace, one can only more effectively integrate into the group if they align with the prevailing social dynamics?

These three aspects require your attention and consideration.

In light of your expressed desire to integrate into the workplace and fit in with the atmosphere of this circle, it seems plausible that the circle in question may be related to your studies. After all, all students who have graduated from related majors have a common language. At first blush, it appears that the integration process might be academic in nature. However, you have also mentioned that interpersonal skills are a significant advantage in your environment.

Those who are adept at navigating interpersonal relationships in this environment often enjoy a high degree of popularity. Consequently, they may elicit feelings of admiration and envy from others, prompting the question: What is it about their interpersonal skills that evokes such a response?

One might inquire whether the attention in question is of the kind that is directed toward the individual in a social context, or whether it is of a more personal, caring nature.

Alternatively, is it because you lack proficiency in this area and therefore envy those who possess this particular skill? These two scenarios are, in fact, quite distinct.

One can posit that if an individual experiences envy when observing others receiving attention and does not receive it themselves, it may indicate a lack of security in the relationship and a potential deficit in self-confidence. This may manifest as the belief that one is not as competent or valuable as others, leading to a perception of being undervalued.

Conversely, one may perceive the positive attributes of others, thereby fostering a sense of belonging. For instance, an individual may excel in social interactions, demonstrate a high level of professional competence, and exude a contagious enthusiasm. These similarities indicate an aptitude for observing others and a desire to possess and display similar attributes, thereby establishing a sense of presence in one's surroundings.

It is therefore necessary to determine what it is about others that we envy. When we analyse the part of ourselves that envies others' attention, we must determine whether we require the attention of others in order to feel secure in this environment.

In the workplace, interpersonal relationships are undoubtedly important, but professional ability is equally so. If one simply envies the strengths of others, it would be beneficial to read books about interpersonal relationships on a daily basis in order to gradually adapt to the rhythm of this environment. This approach should enable one to integrate well and regain confidence.

Additionally, the process of transitioning from unfamiliar to familiar can be prolonged due to a lack of initial enthusiasm. During this period, if one feels that they are not being taken seriously, it can lead to a sense of being misunderstood, which may subsequently affect their ability to survive in the professional environment.

In light of the aforementioned considerations, it is evident that the suitability of a professional workplace is contingent upon a number of factors. In the event that the organisation in question prioritises technical capabilities, it is reasonable to conclude that the individual's proficiency in this area will be the primary focus, with the leaders and colleagues demonstrating a greater inclination towards professional conduct.

It can be reasonably assumed that even if an individual's interpersonal skills are lacking, through daily improvement and continuous improvement of one's professional level, integration can be achieved. It would be prudent to avoid hasty conclusions; it is possible that the process of going from unfamiliar to familiar is destined to be ignored.

It would be prudent to undertake an analysis of the environment in question, with a view to formulating a personal and comprehensive plan that is tailored to the specific circumstances.

Additionally, your demeanor conveys a sense of honesty. You are not inclined to engage in lengthy conversations and display a gentle disposition. These traits are advantageous in the workplace. Your honesty reflects sincerity, your reserved nature indicates a thoughtful approach, and your ability to adapt to different situations demonstrates your composure. Gentleness is a quality that is not commonly associated with women in the workplace, yet you possess it.

In comparison to the experienced veterans around you, you may perceive yourself to be lacking in certain areas. However, these perceived weaknesses are, in fact, your strengths, which distinguish you from your colleagues.

It is therefore imperative that we utilise this advantage in a prudent manner and foster it meticulously. To establish a distinctive personal identity within this collective, it is essential to embody sincerity, professionalism, and benevolence, thereby creating a unique persona.

It is inevitable that we will experience feelings of envy towards others, but it is crucial to understand that these feelings are simply a reflection of how they choose to express themselves. Our true selves are shaped by our individual circumstances and experiences, and it is up to us to determine how we want to present ourselves to the world.

It is therefore not essential to be particularly adept at social interaction; rather, it is more important to cultivate a distinctive personal image that will leave a lasting impression. This will enable you to stand out from your peers with relative ease, while also ensuring that you interact with others in a manner that is both gentle and sincere.

Your distinctiveness is evident, and this is a significant advantage that will facilitate your distinction in the professional sphere. It is my hope that you will ascertain your authentic self and recognize the capacity to adapt to this work environment and identify a work-life equilibrium that aligns with your needs.

I wish you the utmost success.

Good evening, questioner. I was moved to respond to your question.

Firstly, I do not believe that a condition such as yours can be classified as "social phobia." You may have applied this label to yourself. If you wish to improve your interpersonal relationships and become more socially active, we must remove this label.

Social phobia is a subtype of phobia. Phobia was originally called horror neurosis and is a type of neurosis. It is mainly manifested by an excessive and unreasonable fear of some objective things or situations in the outside world. Patients are aware that this fear response is excessive or unreasonable, yet it persists and is challenging to control.

Fear attacks are often accompanied by significant anxiety and autonomic symptoms. In an effort to avoid or endure the objective things or situations that cause fear, patients may find themselves unable to engage in normal activities. Common subtypes of phobias include agoraphobia, social phobia, and specific phobias.

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Secondly, a clear understanding of oneself allows for more effective decision-making and social interaction.

Third, if you are committed to change, it would be beneficial to focus on building self-confidence and enhancing your psychological abilities. These include self-confidence, resilience in the face of setbacks, problem-solving skills, emotional management, and comprehensive abilities that will also promote your interpersonal skills in unfamiliar environments or when initiating contact. For instance, emotional management is an important aspect to consider. When you are first starting or first making contact, what are your inner emotions? What kind of emotional vocabulary can you express?

Once these feelings have been identified, an evaluation of the situation can be conducted to determine which abilities may require development.

Fourth, through psychological training, the questioner can learn about Morita training. When I conduct Morita training for my clients, many of them report similar experiences. They learn to adapt and be natural, establish new cognitive relationships, and at the same time heal past wounds.

My name is Yingying, and I am a counselor.

I would like to extend my warmest regards to the world and to you.

Good day, questioner. I am delighted to have this opportunity to address your question.

From what the questioner has shared, it seems that they may be experiencing some frustration in their interpersonal relationships. We all have our own unique personalities and temperaments, and socializing is something that can be learned. Whether someone is introverted or extroverted, everyone has their own social circle and social skills.

Gently pat the questioner on the shoulder to offer a little encouragement. With continued practice, your communication skills will undoubtedly improve, and you will become increasingly at ease.

In light of the questioner's decision to pose the question on the platform, I would like to offer some straightforward advice.

1. Consider ways to enhance your oral communication skills.

When communicating with others, it is advisable to pay attention to your volume and tone of voice. When speaking to others, it is recommended to adjust your volume according to the situation, and to try to maintain the same volume and tone as the other person.

If you're looking to connect with someone on a deeper level, you might consider imitating their accent. Many people have unique accents that can help foster a sense of closeness.

If the questioner is interested in fostering a closer connection with the other person, they might consider speaking with a slight accent, which could help to create a sense of closeness. However, it's essential to strike a balance and ensure that the accent is not the sole focus, but rather a subtle aspect of the conversation. Simply imitating the accent without incorporating the other person's speech patterns might not yield the desired result.

2. It is advisable to choose topics of conversation according to the nature of the relationship.

If you have just met a colleague, it is generally advisable to avoid discussing personal topics. Instead, focus on work-related matters or factual content. It is important to be mindful of the fact that personal information should not be sought in a way that might be perceived as intrusive or offensive.

If you feel you have nothing to talk about with your colleagues, you might consider discussing the weather or recent news events. Alternatively, you could compliment your colleagues on their clothes or hairstyles. For example, "Sister Li, you look very energetic in a different outfit today. Have you encountered something good recently?"

I must say, that is a very nice hat. Might I inquire as to where you purchased it? I have been craving something delicious lately. Would you be so kind as to share any recommendations you may have?

In short, these topics can be great conversation starters in the office. Small talk with colleagues can be a good way to build mutual understanding.

3. Consider exploring the topic further.

After chatting with colleagues, the questioner may wish to consider discussing more in-depth topics. However, this is dependent on the level of intimacy between you and your colleagues. If you have been getting along well with your colleagues recently, it may be appropriate to talk about each other's families.

If it is appropriate, you could perhaps discuss your colleagues' children, their usual hobbies, and their interests. These are all topics that can be expanded upon, allowing you to deepen your relationships with your colleagues.

As a general rule, it is preferable to ask open questions rather than closed questions. For example, instead of asking "How do you keep such a good figure, Ms. Zhang?", it would be more appropriate to ask "What is your secret for keeping such a good figure, Ms. Zhang?

If it isn't an imposition, could I ask what kind of exercise you usually do?

It is generally advisable to avoid sensitive topics.

It is also advisable to avoid discussing sensitive topics at work. For instance, it is generally considered unprofessional to criticise your boss or supervisor.

If the questioner is not interested in chatting, they are welcome to remain silent. If someone does ask the questioner a question, they can simply say, "I think that's pretty good," or "It's all good." Some controversial issues include personal income figures and workplace relationships.

5. It might be helpful to observe the social behavior of others.

It might be helpful to observe those who are skilled in social interaction and emotional intelligence. How do they speak to people, with facial expressions and eye contact with the person they are talking to? You may find there are things you can learn from them to improve your interpersonal skills.

You might consider trying to imitate the way those experts express themselves, which could help you to gradually improve your communication skills.

It might be helpful to consider smiling more.

It may be helpful to consider smiling more when communicating with others. People often enjoy interacting with those who are humorous, and it can make them happy.

It might be helpful to learn to laugh at yourself. You could also try using more humorous language. As long as you make others laugh, they will probably enjoy interacting with you.

I believe that by summarizing more, learning more, and practicing more, the questioner can gradually improve their interpersonal skills.

I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner.

I want to give the original poster a big hug. It seems like they're alone in a corner of the city, tired in front of the computer. It's about relationship problems and inner conflicts.

The questioner doesn't know how to communicate. Many people have this problem. People don't need to communicate just for the sake of it. This can cause tension. Communication can be for kind purposes, like expressing love and care. It can also be for expressing emotions and thoughts.

When we focus on the meaning of communication, not the form, it's easier to connect with others. Sometimes, focusing too much on form can make us feel awkward and cause anxiety.

If we try to fit in with a group just to fit in, we will isolate others. We have no love, acceptance, goodwill, or gift of human connection to offer. Our beautiful attitude towards social interaction is just a way to fill our emptiness and insecurities. This is a kind of malignant dependence.

We must love and accept ourselves before we can love and accept others. If we cannot do this, we will look for ways to be accepted by the group.

The questioner should love and accept themselves and learn to live in peace!

If we have a sincere heart, we don't have to say anything. We have already entered the other person's heart. Sometimes we see such people. They don't say a lot. They don't think about how they want to communicate. They just communicate with sincerity, openness, tolerance, acceptance of themselves, and love for the other person. They can easily achieve communication and enter the hearts of others.

What we say and how we say it is less important than our attitude, outlook, and inner qualities. We can keep a kind, open, and warm heart. We can let go of our anxieties and tensions. We can give ourselves enough security and love. We can accept ourselves while communicating with others. We can maintain a good attitude in communication. These things may help us connect with others.

The questioner seems to be introverted. There is nothing wrong with this. Everyone has a different circle that suits them. A circle that really suits you doesn't require much effort to adapt to. Sometimes you can't adapt to a group, and it's not our problem. We can listen to our hearts and decide whether this group is one we really want to be a part of.

No one can fit into every group. Everyone has a group that suits them. We need to draw a line with some groups to avoid wasting energy. This is not regret, but self-protection and self-respect. We need to accept ourselves. If we don't, we'll stay in superficial relationships.

The questioner can evaluate the situation. Some circles don't benefit us at work, while others do. The circles we want to integrate into are compatible with our energy fields, and we can feel warmth, openness, and goodwill in them. People focus on the bigger picture, which makes us feel safe and allows us to integrate into them.

If we encounter such circles, we should cherish them. Most circles neither reject nor resist us, and we should maintain a certain degree of integration. At this time, the questioner may be able to maintain a semi-marginal status, maintaining respect and care for the circle while also maintaining their own boundaries.

Most work circles are fine. Not every circle must blend in.

Many people are in this state at work and feel comfortable. The questioner can learn from them. If there are such people, they can learn from them about their mentality or find out what they are thinking. Most importantly, you have to maintain your self-confidence and embrace optimism.

I hope this helps. There are people like you and me in this big city. We grew up together and we are not alone. I love you!

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling a bit confused right now, and I want you to know I'm here for you.

It seems you may be experiencing some interpersonal challenges. I'm here to offer you a warm embrace and support.

I can relate to your situation to some extent.

I tend to find that integrating into new environments presents a challenge for me.

I believe that may be because I had a less than ideal experience when I first started out in a new environment.

I began to exercise caution in my approach to interpersonal relationships.

At a later point in time, I came to realize that this approach wasn't entirely effective, given that we humans are social creatures.

I began to observe my colleagues and how they managed their relationships.

For instance, I discovered that during my internship at a French bank, my colleagues would utilize their lunch breaks to visit the gym located in the building across from the office.

In the afternoon, I would inquire about their gym routines, whether they had hired a trainer, and what kind of training they did.

If you're unsure of how to communicate with your colleagues, you might find it helpful to observe how others interact with them. You may be able to learn something from this, such as how to discuss topics like food, weekend plans, or current events.

As a general rule, it is probably best to avoid discussing topics like politics and religion. There is a wide range of other subjects you can talk about instead.

If you feel that previous negative experiences in interpersonal relationships have made it challenging for you to feel comfortable in the workplace, you might consider seeking guidance from a professional counselor to help you address these issues.

With time and effort, you may find that the conflict within you begins to resolve itself.

I truly hope that the issue you're facing can be resolved soon.

I must admit that I can only think of these things at the moment.

I hope my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you. As the respondent, I strive to study hard every day.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and the entire world. Wishing you the best!

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.

I can see how you're feeling anxious, panicked, unsure of yourself, and lacking confidence because you're struggling to fit in with the social group you want to be part of.

Everyone has their own pace and way of building social relationships. So, while you want others to be comfortable in their social relationships, maybe they're envious of your calm and composed approach?

You want to be able to handle social relationships as well as others because you don't accept your own slow start in social relationships. You think this state is not good and that you will be disliked, rejected. You can't accept this state of yourself, and you are not very aware of this part of yourself, so you unintentionally project the feelings of not being able to accept yourself for not performing well in social relationships onto others. You think that others will not accept this self either, and you become anxious, panicked, and insecure, wanting to become like others.

It's important to remember that you can't have the same social patterns as others because you are you. It's common sense to be aware of the psychological needs behind your desire to be like others in social relationships. For example, you might want to be accepted, recognized, needed, affirmed, popular, or you might be afraid of rejection, dislike, or denial.

When you can recognize the underlying needs behind your desire to fit in with others in social situations, you can respond to these needs in a more satisfying way. For example, you'll be true to yourself in relationships, especially by showcasing your strengths and avoiding your weaknesses. This isn't just human nature — it's also the key to being needed and welcomed in a long-lasting relationship.

Everyone has different strengths, and being good at something will not only make you more confident, but also more appreciated, needed, and popular.

So, accept your anxieties and insecurities. You don't have to be someone else; you just need to be true to yourself. Being rejected in a relationship doesn't mean you're bad or unpopular. It's probably because you're not the other person's type, or your interests and hobbies are different. Face the rejection in the relationship with an open mind, and then try to cultivate more interests and passions in your spare time.

Follow your heart and be true to yourself. When you can fully accept yourself from the inside out, it'll help you build better relationships with others.

I love you, world!

Dear question owner, My name is Xiaobai, and I hope this message will help alleviate your concerns.

In light of your account, I am compelled to extend a gesture of empathy and support.

In this context, it is my intention to present my views and suggestions in the hope that they will prove helpful to you.

Let us first examine the particular circumstances that the questioner faced and attempt to comprehend and evaluate them.

Upon entering the workplace, I was uncertain of my ability to integrate effectively within a group. In addition to fulfilling my responsibilities, I lacked the requisite skills to communicate effectively with my colleagues and was unsure of how to foster positive relationships. I tend to process information at a slower pace, which is not aligned with the accelerated pace of modern society. I recognize that this may be challenging for others to accept. I admire individuals who are adept at navigating interpersonal relationships, even if they possess limited professional skills.

I frequently experience concern regarding my ability to maintain employment due to my difficulty in navigating interpersonal relationships directly. I am apprehensive that if I were to change jobs, I would encounter a similar challenge. Once I have established a rapport with an individual, I am able to interact effectively. However, the process of fostering a connection with someone I am not already acquainted with is more arduous for me. I lack the ability to advance the relationship and currently find myself adrift.

Initially, I conveyed to others that I was honest, reticent, and gentle. In this context, my sense of presence was relatively low, and I eventually felt that I could recede into the background. I sensed that my presence could be an embarrassment to others. I was also aware that this kind of social anxiety could foster a sense of relaxation and happiness in those around me.

First and foremost, it is important to note that I am also an introvert, not competitive, and even somewhat socially anxious. However, I would like to emphasize that there is no need to become extroverted. Being introverted is perfectly acceptable, and when the opportunity arises to speak up, it is crucial to be courageous.

As the adage states, a gentleman may be introverted but not weak, and he may speak out against injustice.

It was stated that one's ability to interact with others has a significant impact on one's ability to maintain employment. It is evident that the management of interpersonal relationships has resulted in considerable distress.

"It is not necessary to cater to the interests of others, but when it comes to our own interests or when we need to stand on our own, we must be convincing." Being introverted is also a type of personality, not a defect. It is important to allow some people to have a quiet youth.

It is, however, important to note that there is no need to be afraid of socializing.

One should challenge oneself, strive for self-improvement, and become stronger.

This can be achieved.

1. It is essential to establish a robust interpersonal foundation. Initially, it is vital to identify a select group of individuals with whom you have a strong and positive connection. This may include close friends, colleagues with whom you have a good rapport, and clients with whom you collaborate. These individuals serve as the cornerstone of your interpersonal network, and it is crucial to prioritize maintaining a positive and harmonious relationship with them.

2. It is important to maintain positive contact with those who are important to you. It is not feasible to treat everyone equally in interpersonal relationships; there will always be a difference between those who are important to you and those who are less important. While some people can maintain occasional contact, it is crucial to take the initiative to maintain positive contact with those who are more important to you.

3. It is important to learn how to sell oneself. When one wishes to establish a relationship with another individual, it is crucial to present oneself in a way that is both concise and engaging. Additionally, it is beneficial to provide the other person with a range of suitable topics to choose from during the introduction.

For example, one might discuss one's hobbies, whereupon the other person may express interest in a particular hobby.

4. It is not necessary to maintain old relationships that are no longer useful. The human network also needs to be updated and replaced. Some old relationships are no longer useful and have even become a burden, so they need to be replaced with new relationships.

It is not necessary to be unfeeling and terminate relationships with individuals, provided that one does not proactively maintain them. This approach does not indicate ingratitude or a lack of consideration; it merely allows for the efficient allocation of time and resources.

5. Adhere to the fundamental tenets of human relationships. It is imperative to recognize that when engaging in human relationships, the primary consideration should not be "what can others do for me," but rather "what can I do for others." When interacting with others, it is essential to prioritize the act of offering assistance to them.

6. Provide assistance to others. Providing assistance to others is not only a source of personal satisfaction; it is also the most crucial skill in navigating interpersonal relationships.

It is imperative to extend assistance to anyone in one's network who is experiencing difficulties or requiring aid. In the event that one is unable to provide direct assistance, it is crucial to demonstrate support through expressions of care and compassion.

In conclusion, the aforementioned views and suggestions are presented for your consideration. It is recommended that you persevere in your endeavours.

My name is Xiaobai, and I am free of concern. I extend love and affection to the world.

Hello, question asker.

From what you've shared, it seems like you might be struggling with feelings of inferiority. I can sense that you're a kindhearted individual who genuinely wants to connect with everyone in the workplace.

You mention that you tend to take your time in forming relationships and that you're uncertain about how to navigate them at work. This might be affecting your ability to persist in the workplace. You're able to connect with people you know at a gradual pace. You feel like you're not as confident as you'd like to be and that you envy people who are good at socializing.

They are at ease in the workplace and can win over others even if they make a small mistake at work. With a little practice, you can do it too.

First, consider looking outward. In the workplace, it is often the case that those who are more socially adept are more popular. A kind word can be a source of warmth and comfort, and it's possible that you may feel a certain envy towards those who are more socially capable.

I wonder if I might ask whether you envy the social cow, or whether this feeling is something you envy.

Secondly, it might be helpful to take a moment to reflect inwardly. In your written description, you mention that when you enter the workplace, you feel uncertain about how to fit in with a group and communicate with other colleagues. It's understandable that you might not know what to say to better fit in.

It can feel as though there is an invisible wall in front of you, and it can seem impossible to get past it. I would like to ask: what are you afraid of?

Could it be that you're afraid others won't recognize you and you'll feel ashamed? Have you perhaps lost a bit of your self-confidence?

Then, you may wish to consider ways of improving yourself and finding your confidence again. It can be helpful to accept your imperfections and allow yourself to have shortcomings. There is nothing wrong with such shortcomings, but they may inspire you to run forward, as a child without an umbrella must run hard!

You might find it helpful to read the book The Art of Conversation. You could also look into videos about speaking with high emotional intelligence, which might help you to make gradual changes.

While you may sometimes envy others, you also hope to become more like them. This suggests that you are kind and motivated at heart, which is a great starting point for anyone.

I wonder if you might be willing to give it a try?

Ultimately, it's not about trying to make others think you're amazing, but rather about being able to look up to yourself from the bottom of your heart. If you can accept harsh words, you may also find yourself treating people falsely. As we grow up, we often discover that this is the reality.