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How to deal with a female college student who lacks paternal love and easily develops a fondness for the opposite sex?

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How to deal with a female college student who lacks paternal love and easily develops a fondness for the opposite sex? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

Due to a lack of paternal affection from a young age, I am particularly susceptible to developing fondness for the opposite sex. Recently, I have fallen for a boy, and I want to be in a relationship, feeling unstoppable. However, I do not want this, and I want to control it. What should I do?

Johnathan Johnathan A total of 9996 people have been helped

Hello, I'm Will, your counselor.

I want to commend you for your perceptiveness. Let's delve deeper into the link between "lack of parental love since childhood," "falling for a boy," and "wanting to fall in love."

"Lack of paternal love since childhood" could be the result of some family issues or something outside of our control.

The only two things we can control are how we see and understand this event, and how it affects us in the future.

"Falling in love with a boy" is actually a perfectly normal thing to want at that age. We're all attracted to the opposite sex and there's nothing wrong with that. It's also the university years, so there's no direct pressure from life and work.

"I really want to fall in love." Given the age and environment, it's likely that the questioner's desire for love and longing for a beautiful love affair will also come to pass.

Looking back, we might need to do some more research to understand why we associate these three elements. I can see that the questioner used

The use of serious and important keywords such as "complete character," "self-growth," and "meaning of life" indicates that the questioner may perceive seemingly ordinary situations in others as being caused by their own reasons.

It would be a good idea for the questioner to keep an eye on things and try to figure out the difference between what might be the result of a lack of parental love from an early age and what are normal psychological and practical needs.

Wishing you the best, and sending love from me and the world!

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Frances Lynn Growth itself contains the germ of happiness.

I understand how you feel, and it's important to acknowledge your emotions. Perhaps talking to a trusted friend or family member about what you're going through can help provide support and clarity.

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Addison Perez The more you apply diligence, the more you achieve mastery.

It sounds like you're experiencing some strong feelings right now. It might be helpful to take a step back and reflect on why these emotions are surfacing now. Sometimes understanding the root of our feelings can give us more control over them.

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Isabella York We learn from the experiences of others as well as from our own.

Consider focusing on selfgrowth and activities that make you happy. By investing time in yourself, you may find that your feelings towards this person start to shift and become more manageable.

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Tallulah Dove Life is a collage of ideas and ideals.

Seeking professional guidance from a therapist could be beneficial. They can offer strategies to deal with these intense emotions and help you explore healthier ways to address your need for affection.

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Galatea Jackson Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.

It's okay to have these feelings, but if you believe they are not in your best interest, setting boundaries can be a powerful tool. Try to limit the time spent thinking about or interacting with the person until you feel more in control.

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