Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.
In fact, when you see someone you like, you feel nervous and excited! Even when you're in their company, your heart races and you can't think straight. This is what love is like! When my husband and I first started to like each other, this was how I felt: I was nervous and excited when I saw him, and when I wasn't seeing him, I couldn't wait to see him again. I wanted him to pay more attention to me, I wanted him to see me, and I was especially concerned about his opinion of me and his attitude towards me...
My advice to you is:
Embrace your feelings and reactions! They're totally normal in the early stages of a relationship. Treasure them and soak up this subtle and beautiful emotion.
When we fall in love with someone who is not related to us by blood, it's an incredible feeling! We want to treat her well, give her the best of everything, worry about her, be concerned about her, care about her attitude and comments towards us, and want to be with her all the time. However, when we are with her, we are always nervous and uncomfortable, and pay attention to her reaction to our every move... We even feel that the person we love is not just an ordinary person, but a god-like being!
This is the initial passion of love! You'll be infatuated with each other, think the other person is perfect, and want to be with them all the time. There's a subtle feeling between you, and it's a very beautiful feeling!
Love is such an incredible feeling!
Oh, the feeling is so wonderful!
It's an incredible feeling! It has a hazy beauty to it that you can't put your finger on, but it's something you'll find particularly wonderful.
I experienced and lived it myself, and even now when I think back on it, I feel particularly happy. That kind of nervousness and discomfort is the taste of youth, the taste of love, and the taste of happiness. So don't feel uneasy because you feel this way. Accept your feelings and reactions. This is a very normal phenomenon in the early stages of a relationship. Cherish and feel it, and experience this subtle and beautiful emotion.
If you're absolutely certain that you like her and she doesn't have a boyfriend, then go for it! If you're not sure whether she likes you or not, don't worry. There are plenty of ways to help your relationship develop.
Absolutely! If we really like someone, we can work hard to make the person we like like us back. For example, we can make the person we like like us back by assessing our strengths and weaknesses correctly.
There's this amazing tool called SWOT analysis. The four initials stand for Strengths (S), Weaknesses (W), Opportunities (O), and Threats (T).
There's this amazing tool called SWOT analysis. The four initials stand for S for your strengths, W for your weaknesses, O for opportunities, and T for possible threats.
This amazing tool can help us accurately assess our strengths and weaknesses. Then, by showcasing our charm and minimizing or eliminating potential threats, you can make the person you love fall in love with you too!
I'd like to share an example that I think you'll find really interesting!
There was a guy who, when he recalled the time when he was wooing his wife, felt that his chances were somewhat slim. But he was determined to make her his! The gap between the two of them was still very large: the woman was beautiful and tall, and many boys wanted to woo her; she was good at her studies and had good interpersonal skills; the guy, on the other hand, was only average-looking, from a poor family, dressed in a rather rustic way, and was either not funny or not witty – the disadvantages were obvious. But he was confident that he could turn it all around!
But wait, there's more! He also has some amazing strengths: a good personality, affinity, hardworking, dedicated, considerate, motivated, resilient, and flexible. He's not one to give up easily!
At that time, after a few encounters, he made an incredible discovery: the goddess did not dislike him and was willing to share things about her family with him. By patiently listening, he learned that because she had been fostered by her grandparents when she was young and lacked the companionship and support of her parents, she was brimming with potential! She lacked self-confidence, felt insecure, was easily nervous, and when she got nervous, she got stomachaches.
The fantastic thing about SWOT analysis is that it allows us to specifically look at the four aspects of both genders.
Male:
We have so many amazing strengths!
We are:
Strengths: Affinity, willingness to give, motivation, hard work, resilience, flexibility, excellent people skills, and communication skills!
Weaknesses: poor family background, average appearance, unadorned clothing, overly honest
Chances are you'll impress the other person with your attentive care, find empathy through patient listening, and give the other person a sense of security with your long-term persistence!
Threats: other competitors, loss of trust, leaving because of a lack of security.
But don't worry! We can overcome these challenges together.
Woman:
Woman:
Male:
Strengths:
Affinity, willing to give, motivated, hardworking, resilient and flexible, good at taking care of people, good at communication
Weak
She's got it all! She's beautiful, intelligent, generous, rational, and has great interpersonal skills.
He's got so many amazing strengths! He's beautiful, intelligent, generous, rational, and has great interpersonal skills.
Weaknesses: lack of security, lack of self-confidence, weak body.
But don't worry! These are things you can work on.
Opportunities: Give the other person a positive response, stimulate their motivation, and share your innermost secrets!
Threats: There's a chance he might suffocate her, and she might lose the amazing treatment she's been getting.
So, when you're pursuing someone you like, use the SWOT analysis to your advantage! Highlight your strengths and avoid your weaknesses, turning a crisis into an opportunity. Show off your strengths and make them irreplaceable!
This guy was amazing! He showed his strengths in so many ways. He was always willing to give and care for others. Every day, he would prepare warm water for the other person to warm their stomach. When ordering food, he would deliberately order something easy to digest. If the other person had a bad stomachache, he would stay by their side the whole time. It was this attentive care and wholehearted devotion that made the goddess fall in love with him.
It's important to remember that the strengths need to be attractive to each other in order for there to be chemistry. If your strengths are not what the other person cares about, it's a great idea to evaluate whether the other person is suitable for you!
However, it should be emphasized that the strengths need to be attractive to each other in order for there to be chemistry. If your strengths are not what the other person cares about, then you get to evaluate whether the other person is suitable for you!
This is what we call complementary strengths!
The good news is that as long as you have the chance to show off your best qualities and the other person is at least open to it, there's hope! Take the boy in the example. He's great at communicating, and the other person is happy to respond, so he's got a big advantage with his strong communication skills.
Now, let's talk about the disadvantages. The first thing we need to do is understand what our own disadvantages are. We also need to understand what the possible negative effects are and how to reduce and eliminate them. But here's the exciting part: we can actually turn these disadvantages into opportunities for ourselves!
This guy is a great example of someone who makes up for a lack of financial resources and average appearance through sheer hard work and dedication. He's confident and generous, which makes him incredibly attractive to others. However, if he's too shy or timid when dating because of his humble background, it might not be as effective.
At that time, he was eager to take on more part-time jobs. When he went out with the woman, he always paid the bill and often bought her small gifts, so that she could feel his sincerity and attentiveness. The woman, in turn, was excited to consider for him and choose suitable places to spend money, and also gave him some gifts in return.
The best part is that the relationship isn't constrained by material conditions. It actually grows stronger through mutual understanding!
And there's more! We also need to understand the other person's weaknesses. Instead of attacking them or seeking self-balance, we can show acceptance and meet their needs. This can be our chance to win their love!
For example, when you understand that the other person lacks a sense of security and confidence, you can often affirm and praise the other person, and they'll feel like you really care about and appreciate them!
And finally, to truly turn a crisis into an opportunity, you've got to transform the threat into an opportunity for both parties to experience trials together or to show their charm. That's how you'll become a unique existence in each other's eyes!
I hope this is helpful for you! I wish you all the best!
Comments
I understand those feelings can be really overwhelming. Maybe try to focus on breathing deeply and slowly when you're around her, it can help calm your nerves a bit. Also, remind yourself that it's okay to feel this way and that everyone gets nervous sometimes. Just be yourself and take things one step at a time.
Feeling nervous is such a natural response, especially around someone special. One thing that might help is to prepare some light topics or questions beforehand so you have something easy to chat about. This could make the interaction feel smoother and less pressured. And remember, she probably likes seeing you too!
Nervousness can be tough but it also shows how much you care. Try to channel that energy into something positive. Perhaps practice what you'd like to say in front of a mirror or with a friend. Sometimes just getting used to the idea of talking can make the actual moment feel easier. Trust that with time, the anxiety will lessen as you grow more comfortable.