How to deal with high pressure, low self-esteem, and increasingly severe paranoia?

Hello, question asker!

I want to know what happened to make you feel this way.

I want to know when the questioner didn't feel this way. And what did they do at that time?

You need to do something to keep your emotions stable.

You are not alone. Many people feel this way, and I did too. But I got stronger by studying psychology.

You are not alone. You will find your potential if you don't give up.

I don't know the specific situation of the questioner, but I'm going to give them a few tips to help relieve their emotions. I'm certain they'll find them helpful.

Stop blaming yourself and stop labeling yourself.

The questioner's description and analysis of their own shortcomings are accurate, but excessive self-blame is misguided. Many people in the country fail to get into university.

You are in college, which means you are not actually that bad. I know you can do better than this. Stop blaming yourself and stop labeling yourself. You are better than you think. You are just blinded by self-blame and labels.

②You need to learn to compare yourself with your past self.

There's always someone who's better than you. When you compare yourself to others, compare your strengths with their strengths and your weaknesses with their weaknesses. Is that fair to you? If you want to change, compare yourself to yourself and to the past. Compare what you did yesterday and how much you've improved. You'll gain strength as you continue to do so.

You need to discover your interests and focus on learning them.

Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and I know the questioner definitely has them too. The most important thing for the questioner to do is to learn well and become proficient in the hobbies they are good at. That way, they can show their strengths to others over time.

Accept yourself!

You must accept and understand yourself if you want to focus your energy on action and stop fighting emotions like remorse, guilt, and regret.

First, accept negative thoughts and emotions. Then, tell yourself, "I know, I'll deal with it later. For now, I need to focus on finishing this task." Affirm yourself and your past efforts, even if they didn't meet expectations. This is how you regain motivation.

We should tell ourselves often, "Today, I am already the best I can be!"

fifth, discover and explore small successes.

Every time you feel a sense of accomplishment in your daily life, or receive feedback from the outside world, you must promptly write it down in a few words as your "gratitude diary" (I personally use "happy things" to keep track of them). Refer back to it often in the future.

You must believe in the power of accumulation.

No matter how big a rock is, it cannot stop a seed from sprouting. The reason is that once the seed starts to sprout, the division of cells, although not fast, will never end. Everyone knows the truth behind the saying "a drop of water can wear through a stone." People at the starting point are like a cell or a drop of water, but most people mistakenly believe or hope that they are strong and sharp like a laser beam from the start. This is unrealistic.

We must cultivate patience through learning and use it to wait for the unimaginable benefits and strength that can be gained after long-term accumulation.

You need to build up your knowledge.

Arming the mind with knowledge, the more you learn, the wider your perspective. When faced with anything, you can respond with a calm mind and easily understand the ins and outs of a situation. This is how you cultivate a calm and composed state of mind, and it's the best way to develop the temperament to calmly respond to things.

You can do sports, talk to someone, or seek help from a professional counselor.

Finally, I want to say that it's okay. Everyone has some self-doubt in their hearts, but it's nothing to be ashamed of. The important thing is to not give up and actively find your own way. I promise you that things will get better.

Come on!