How to deal with the constant feeling of being sick and anxiety every day?

Hello, question asker. I know you're hurting. I'm here for you.

Here are some tips for dealing with anxiety:

1️⃣ Accept your emotions. There is no such thing as a good or bad emotion.

All emotions are valuable. If we're always calm, we're missing out. We all have anxious moments. Don't feel bad about it. Deal with it calmly and accept it as part of life.

Trying to get rid of it makes it worse.

2. Don't suppress your emotions. We're emotional creatures. We feel joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness.

Don't try to control your emotions. Let them out naturally, but stop before you overdo it. Reading and meditation are good ways to vent and relieve stress.

We can also listen to music, go for a walk, and communicate more with friends.

3️⃣ Seek help. The questioner has thought about ending their life, but chose to survive out of love for their parents.

If we can't get help from inside, we can get it from outside. Our parents, friends, or counselors can help.

I hope the original poster can escape their pain.

Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

I'm so happy I got to read your request for help! I really hope that sharing my experience can help you in some way. From what you've told me, it seems like you really want to be noticed, valued, cared for, accompanied, listened to, comforted, encouraged, and supported.

Take a moment to think about what you were feeling and what you needed when you were feeling unwell. Then, you can share this with your parents in a kind and honest way. Even though your parents may have some expectations and demands, your health and happiness are the most important things.

I'd love to know your thoughts on this!

It's totally normal to feel like you don't measure up when you're trying to impress your parents. We all want to be the best we can be for our folks! But, if your parents were a bit too demanding, you might have learned that you're only worthy of love if you're perfect. What do you think?

It's okay to feel helpless and in pain. It just means you want to change your current state. It's totally normal to not see the resources and strength you have to get yourself out of trouble when you're in that state.

If it's tough for you to ask for a helping hand from your folks, you can learn to treat yourself the way you'd like to be treated, be the parent you'd like to be, and make up for that part of your growth that was missing or lacking.

Even though your parents might have done some things that hurt you, they were probably just trying to love you in their own way.

If you've ever felt that your parents' love has hurt you, you know it's time to have a heart-to-heart with them. It's likely that they were also brought up in this way and grew up with a deep inner lack of love. They are unable to love, and when they are not aware of this part of their own trauma in their upbringing, and still understand it more as love, they will bring this part of the trauma into their parent-child relationship. But you can change all that! You can establish a truly nourishing and supportive parent-child relationship. All you have to do is tell your parents your true feelings.

I think so, don't you?

Mature, nurturing love is always there for you when you need it most. It's a strong support when you're feeling helpless and in pain. May you have such love!

I really think you'd benefit from reading "The Bond of Parents" and "Neglected Children."

I believe the present is good! I am grateful to have met you.

From what you've shared, I can sense the inner anxiety, pain, and suffering you're experiencing. I'm sending you a hug to support you through this.

I would like to discuss this topic further with you.

1. Could I ask you to confirm?

You feel that "you are sick and it is not good," but I'm not sure what illness you think you have. Is it something that's easily diagnosed? I suggest that you go to a professional and reliable hospital for an examination and diagnosis, so that you will not be anxious about your own beliefs.

It might be helpful to consider that your anxiety and the emotions behind it are based on the assumption that "what you think" is completely true. If it can be diagnosed through some relevant auxiliary examinations in the hospital, it might be beneficial to go to the hospital for an examination. A definite result could potentially give you peace of mind.

2. It might be helpful to consider the psychological needs that may be influencing your behavior.

Could I ask you why you always feel that you are sick and that it is not good? Is it that you hope to gain the attention, importance and acceptance of your family in this way, or is it that you want to escape from your current life or work in this way?

It would be beneficial for you to explore for yourself what kind of needs you are trying to satisfy in this way. Once you see the real reason behind your behavior and satisfy these psychological needs, you may find that you no longer feel sick and think it is bad.

It is natural for us to want to be healthy, even if we are facing a serious illness. We all have an instinct to survive and a hope for recovery. So, it would be helpful to understand why you have this belief. It might be beneficial to take some time to explore it further, as this could help you to feel less anxious and to find solutions to the problems that anxiety is causing for you.

3. Try to look at it in a positive way.

It is important to face this illness head on, whether or not you have been diagnosed. As the saying goes, "as long as there's life, there's hope."

It might also be helpful to explore what feelings and emotions this illness has brought you, as this could be a factor in your anxiety. Do you feel ashamed, or do you feel hopeless, or do you have other feelings?

It would be beneficial for you to explore these things yourself and write down the thoughts and reasons that trigger your anxiety. This will help you to identify the thoughts that make you anxious. When you sort through these thoughts while writing, you may discover that they are just thoughts and do not really exist.

I believe that, with time and effort, your anxiety will be greatly reduced.

If you're still struggling to resolve your anxiety on your own, you might benefit from talking to someone you trust, a listening platform counselor, or a professional counselor. Having an extra person to help you see, face, and solve problems could help you cope better with future events, which might in turn reduce your anxiety.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. I wish you the best!

The question is, how can we summarize your current situation? You lack anxiety/lack-of-self-confidence-and-feeling-inferior-is-it-related-to-a-childs-growth-experience-6943.html" target="_blank">confidence in living, yet you have no determination to die. This results in a lack of fulfillment in your current state, yet you are not actively pursuing the alternative. Is this an accurate assessment?

Furthermore, the situation is compounded by the fact that you have numerous concerns, which creates a multitude of external and internal limitations.

This will result in a complete depletion of your already limited energy, leaving you with no capacity to make decisions.

If you wish to live a good life, you may already have a serious illness (physical or mental). You want to be cured, but the treatment process is painful, not to mention that all medicine has side effects and may even have long-term effects that you may not be able to bear.

In the event that you decide to take your own life, you may find yourself in a state of helplessness, lying in bed and looking at the ceiling. You may realize that you lack the strength to even leave your house or neighborhood, and that you have lost the ability to commit suicide.

You are experiencing a high level of confusion and a lack of strength to determine the appropriate course of action. There are numerous methods to address anxiety, including both pharmacological and non-pharmacological approaches. If you require guidance, you can consult with a medical professional or counselor, or conduct online research.

Given your current mental state, it would be advisable to seek assistance.

In regard to apologizing to your parents, I believe that if you love them, the first step is to love yourself. Your self-love is the most beneficial form of love for your parents.

Consider the following scenario: A divorced mother is leading a challenging life with her child. The mother harbors significant resentment and chooses to scold and beat her child as a means of expressing her frustration. Is this an appropriate course of action?

You may believe this is not an optimal outcome, but is it possible that the mother was unable to contain her anger any longer and lacked an effective outlet for releasing her frustration? If she suppressed her emotions and they ultimately led to her demise from a terminal illness, the impact on the child would likely be more significant than if the mother had expressed her anger directly.

It would be prudent to consider the broader implications of this decision. Allowing your parents to experience a period of concern is preferable to the potential loss of your presence in their lives.

It is advisable to seek assistance from a trusted individual or a capable professional in the real world. While this forum cannot provide definitive answers, seeking comfort is an acceptable course of action.