How to emerge from the emotional collapse facing a major illness?

Hello, Problem Owner, From your description, I can sense your inner anxiety, worry, and helplessness.

From what I can see, you seem to be someone who gets anxious quite easily. It seems that you often comfort yourself by saying that as long as you are healthy, it's fine.

However, a physical examination a few days ago revealed that there may be some underlying health issues that require attention. This has understandably caused you some distress and made it difficult for you to face the situation at the moment.

It would be helpful to understand your feelings. It seems that the only part of your life that could reassure and calm you is gone, and your anxiety has nowhere to go, which could potentially lead to feelings of distress.

It might be helpful to try to accept your anxiety.

It might be helpful to allow yourself to be in the present moment and to stay with your anxiety for a while, without rushing to fight it.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what is causing your anxiety and what you are afraid of. Why are you afraid?

If I may ask, what do you think the worst possible outcome might be? And if that were to happen, would you be able to accept it?

It might be helpful to try to face and solve the problem.

It's possible that you've been avoiding the issue by saying, "As long as you are healthy."

It might be helpful to try to face the issues that make you anxious and think about what you could do to feel better.

If you are truly concerned about your physical health, you may wish to consider visiting a medical professional at a hospital for further examination and advice.

No matter what happens, it's important to face the issue and find a solution. One effective approach to managing anxiety is to engage in physical activity.

It might be helpful to consider your own beliefs about what is and is not reasonable.

It might be helpful to remember that the idea of being healthy is not always straightforward, and that it's possible to experience illness as an ordinary person who eats a varied diet.

It might be unproductive to fixate on an unreasonable idea as the source of your anxieties.

I hope this finds you well.

Good morning!

When anxiety strikes, it's important to remember that your health is the most important thing. Everything will pass, and you will be able to overcome this. It's not helpful to suppress your emotions without exploring what is causing your anxiety. This will not solve the problem and could even make it worse. Anxiety can cause a series of problems, but you are not alone in this.

For instance, I'm currently experiencing insomnia. I've come to accept this as a part of my reality. Even when I try to relax with reading or drawing, I still find it difficult to fall asleep. I'm grateful for this opportunity to engage in a constructive dialogue about anxiety with you.

It may be helpful to accept the reality and the resulting anxiety.

I do have some problems in my life, which may be the reason for my emotional reactions.

If I might suggest, perhaps it would be helpful to say to yourself, "I'm anxious." This may not change the problem temporarily, but it could help to calm your restless and irritable heart.

Could I ask what causes our anxiety? Is it education?

Could it be work? Or perhaps family?

Could it be relationships? Or perhaps money?

It's also possible that there might be some underlying health issues. Please don't worry, my dear.

Anxiety is not something that should be feared. It is a natural response that serves to remind us to protect ourselves. We can overcome it by listening to the reason behind it, then seeing it, solving the problem, and becoming a stronger version of ourselves.

It may be helpful to consider that certain physical problems can often be the result of an accumulation of emotions.

In traditional culture, there is a saying that we often fall ill because we have not cultivated ourselves enough and we are trapped by the "small self." This can result in a conflict between our actions and the reactions our body produces.

It's understandable that resistance will continue. Perhaps it would be helpful to think of an example to understand this better. An adolescent child will often do the opposite of what they're told.

It's because they feel like they're ready to make their own decisions. When you don't let them do what they want, they'll do it anyway, to show they can.

It may be helpful to consider that we and our bodies react in similar ways. Resisting may perpetuate the behavior, but when we accept it, there is potential for improvement.

Dear one, I understand that you may be struggling to express your emotions and feelings. However, I encourage you to try to do so from today onwards. You are always welcome to seek support from the psychological circle of Yixin.

For instance, I am currently experiencing a sense of calm or distress, and I am seeking a specific form of treatment. In addition to receiving support from others, I am wondering if I can also meet my own needs.

It would be beneficial to embrace positive beliefs.

I wonder if you might have heard the story "The Last Leaf" by O. Henry? It concerns a person in the terminal stage of an illness, and the doctor says he is hopeless, just like the leaves on the tree outside the window will sooner or later fall off and wither, turning into soil.

The individual in the neighboring hospital room became aware of this and drew a leaf on the window. The patient observed that for one, two, or three days, there was always a leaf outside the window that hadn't fallen. This led him to reflect on the possibility that his life might be like this leaf and might have the potential to continue a little longer.

He survived and recovered as a result. Perhaps we could all benefit from finding ourselves a leaf like this and planting some positive beliefs.

Having a belief in something gives us hope and the courage to face it, and it can also bring about positive changes.

I would like to conclude by mentioning some books on anxiety.

I have found "Anxiety Workbook" and "Anxiety SOS" to be particularly helpful. They offer insight into how we can approach anxiety in a constructive manner, recognizing its presence, accepting it, and working to foster a positive relationship with it. They also provide guidance on utilizing anxiety as a tool for healing past wounds and gradually letting it go. Additionally, "Anxiety Psychology" is a valuable resource that introduces various common anxieties and their associated challenges. It is a comprehensive guide that I have found to be a valuable reference on the subject.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. I wish you all the best.

Hello question asker! I'm happy to answer your question!

First, give the questioner a reassuring pat on the shoulder. It's tough to face health problems and anxiety. From the questioner's description, the questioner doesn't have a clear mental illness, but is just prone to anxiety. When did the anxiety start, and has the questioner encountered anything before?

If the questioner can handle things that he is familiar with well, will he feel less anxious? It is normal to feel anxious when suddenly ill. We should distinguish whether this feeling is common or unique.

Is the questioner the only one who feels anxious or worried?

When most people encounter a situation like the questioner's, do they all feel anxious?

The questioner must think about it carefully.

Some people will feel anxious if they are in the same situation. It is normal for the questioner to worry about their health. The main thing is how to deal with the situation.

The questioner can also ask the doctor if this is a common problem, how to prevent it, how often to take tests, and how to live a healthy life. If you are not satisfied with the advice, you can go to a health manager for a professional assessment.

If it's caught early, treatment can stop it getting worse. This will make the questioner's body stronger and less anxious.

I can only give simple suggestions to address the questioner's anxiety.

Write down the worst possible outcome.

Many people get anxious about public speaking. Write down all your negative thoughts. Once you've written them down, you can look at them objectively. This will help you to relax.

The worst case scenario isn't that bad.

The questioner has a problem with his current physical condition and is anxious. Even though the doctor has not yet diagnosed the condition, the questioner still cannot let go. Then the questioner can try to write down the worst possible outcome.

What's the worst that could happen? Is it something you could accept?

If you get sick, can the hospital cure you? If not, can the country's medical resources cure you?

If it can be cured, what is the questioner worried about? Write it down.

List your problems.

List the three problems that trouble you most at the moment, and write three solutions for each.

If the questioner can't solve the problem, they can see a counselor.

Accept your emotions.

You are prone to anxiety. This is a self-protection mechanism, but it can cause you to feel bad. If you are anxious, try to empty your mind.

You have to learn to accept yourself, relax, and eat sweet food when you need it. Do something you like to relax, so you can face the next day with a good attitude.

I hope this helps.

Greetings. Reading your words evokes a sense of palpable tension.

(The questioner inquired as to whether the subject might have a significant illness. The subject was advised to refrain from excessive concern until the results of the hospital examination were known. It was suggested that the symptoms may be indicative of a false alarm, and the subject was encouraged to maintain good health.)

A significant physical illness can rapidly disrupt an individual's mental state, creating a sense of overwhelming uncertainty and doubt about one's fundamental beliefs.

What is the optimal method for accepting such a fact?

What strategies might be employed to more effectively confront illness and construct a new foundation of faith?

What is the optimal method for accepting such a fact?

Firstly, it is important to note that when faced with a sudden and critical illness, individuals may experience a period of emotional and cognitive confusion and helplessness. It is essential to allow oneself this time to process the situation. Consequently, it is normal for an individual to have a range of intense emotions in response to such news. It is crucial to accept these feelings and not to experience guilt or anxiety as a result of them. The renowned American psychoanalyst, Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, proposed a model of five stages of emotional response to illness: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

The process is divided into five distinct psychological stages: denial, anger, struggle, depression, and acceptance.

The initial response to a critical illness is often one of denial and isolation.

It is common for patients, regardless of whether they were initially informed of their illness or became aware of it later, to initially react with denial. Denial is a temporary self-defense mechanism that serves to alleviate pain, facilitate the regaining of a sense of self, and inspire the development of more moderate psychological defense mechanisms, which eventually lead to a degree of acceptance.

The second stage is characterised by anger.

Once initial denial is no longer a viable coping mechanism, feelings of anger, agitation, jealousy, and resentment emerge. This often leads to the question, "Why me?" Anger can be attributed to a disruption in the natural order of life, an inability to fully enjoy life, and a realization of one's life plan.

It is not uncommon for individuals in this stage to direct their anger towards others.

Stage 3: Negotiation

This stage is characterized by a process of bargaining with the harsh realities of the situation, negotiating and buying time, and setting a self-imposed deadline for the fulfillment of a wish or promise.

Stage 4: Depression

As the patient progresses through the later stages of the disease, they become increasingly unable to deny their condition. They display an increasing number of symptoms and exhibit a corresponding decline in strength. They are no longer able to maintain a sense of humor or remain indifferent. They are also no longer able to complain. In its place, they experience a profound sense of loss and anxiety. This anxiety stems from concerns about life, emotions, work, and other matters, as well as the sadness that accompanies the patient's anticipation of saying goodbye to the world forever.

Stage 5: Acceptance

After traversing the preceding stages, the subject ultimately reached a state of acceptance regarding his physical illness. This stage was characterized by the absence of depression and anger. At this juncture, the subject ceased to lament the loss of the positive aspects of his life. Instead, he demonstrated an ability to adapt to his circumstances, formulate plans for the future, and attain a sense of tranquility.

What strategies might be employed to more effectively confront illness and cultivate a renewed sense of spiritual support?

2. A methodology for rebuilding confidence and the conviction that the body will improve with active treatment is to recognize the mind's capacity for self-healing, contingent on active engagement. Upon accepting this fact, both physically and mentally, individuals can begin to rebuild hope in their lives and combat their current predicament.

3. To relieve anxiety, the original poster, you are experiencing a degree of anxiety about an eventuality that has yet to materialise. It is hoped that you will be able to demonstrate self-awareness and self-suggestion, recognise that you are once again experiencing elevated anxiety levels in response to this situation, and then seek ways to relieve anxiety. This may include talking to friends and family to release and comfort anxious thoughts, thereby preventing you from becoming overwhelmed by your own thoughts. It is recommended that you engage in physical exercise, pursue other activities, and seek distractions. It should be noted that for many situations, anxiety will recede when action is taken.

I would like to conclude by extending my best wishes to the host for their continued well-being and happiness.

Hello!

I'm in a position to offer you some advice.

From what you've told me, you place a lot of value on your physical health, so you focus on that first. You've always kept a healthy mindset before physical exams, and you feel that as long as your physical health is good, the rest is not a problem. So, your emotions will remain relatively stable with this kind of reassurance.

Now, a physical exam has revealed some physical problems, and you may be facing a major illness that you find hard to accept. You feel that this belief and standard that you have always adhered to may be broken, and it's tough to deal with.

I've pulled out two words from your text: "probable." Does this major illness mean we don't have a solid answer yet, and it's all just speculation?

If it's just speculation or a possibility based on the exam results, we can put this sense of collapse, anxiety, and fear on hold for now.

Can you explain why you think that?

Our health depends on our attitude, what we eat and drink, and our daily routine. So if we don't have any problems with our diet and routine, we need to adjust our attitude. As you said in the opening paragraph, we can comfort ourselves by telling ourselves that as long as we are healthy, everything is fine.

Then you might say, "This is a pretty serious illness, and the same approach that worked for minor problems isn't going to be as effective now."

Let's take a step back and look at this illness from a different angle to see if we can find a way to ease your anxiety.

First of all, a major illness is usually the result of a number of small problems that build up over time. Did you also insist on having physical examinations before this?

If there was nothing wrong with the previous physical exam, the chance of facing a major illness this time is pretty slim.

If we do have a major illness, our first reaction shouldn't be to be afraid. It's an opportunity to adjust our pace of life, lifestyle, eating habits, and living habits.

We can also ask the doctor what caused the disease. Did we ignore it in the past, which allowed this major disease to appear?

It's a good idea to test your health status soon, so that way, if a major illness is on the horizon, we can prepare for it.

And if we catch it early, we can treat it early. If the problem is hidden again, the consequences in the future will be obvious.

So this time, this problem that may be diagnosed is actually a good thing. Then you might say, "If that's the case, it involves some financial expenses, work leave, or a pause in your life, and the subsequent major life changes are unacceptable to you.

If you have a major illness, it means that we might not have done something perfectly in the past. Our bodies need a break to deal with the current state of our health at their own pace so that we can live better lives in the future.

If we can't accept it or if we're constantly overwhelmed, our physical condition will spiral and it'll take longer to recover. So first, let's figure out what's wrong with our health.

Given this situation, we can use a scientific approach to understand it better and make the right decisions and adjustments.

I think that over time, your body will start to feel more like itself again, and you'll be able to handle the day-to-day with a bit more stability. In the coming weeks and months, you'll also gain more insight and experience in the world of health and wellness, which will help you navigate whatever the future brings.

All the best to you!

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Hello, dear question asker!

I can tell from your question that you're feeling really anxious right now, worried about facing a major illness. I totally get it! Life is not easy for us adults, and our bodies are the primary productive force. So it's totally normal for you to be feeling worried and anxious. You wrote, "My mental state collapsed instantly, and I couldn't convince myself to get out of the doldrums." It seems like this incident has affected you beyond the level of normal anxiety.

It's totally normal to feel frozen when you're scared. It's like your mind freezes up and you can't think straight, especially when you're facing something new and scary. I can imagine that you must have been really shocked by the diagnosis!

I'm so sorry to hear you're facing a major illness. I'm here to support you in any way I can. On a practical level, you mentioned that a medical examination revealed you have a physical problem. Is this true? Have you undergone further diagnosis or consulted an expert?

I'd love to know what the specialist and attending physician have to say about this. Do you have a specific treatment plan in place?

I hope you've had a chance to go to another hospital to confirm the test results.

I can see that you still have confidence in the treatment of physical illnesses. You will definitely try and ask about some of the medical solutions and methods mentioned above. Doctors and experts will definitely give you a definite result, and the rest is up to the treatment and recovery.

As a patient, all we can do is stand together with the doctor and face the illness together to overcome it. For our part, we need to relax, so that the treatment and recovery will be more effective. You've got this!

I also read that you used to be able to comfort and adjust yourself, so you must know yourself very well and know what methods are beneficial to you! But this time you feel unable to comfort and adjust yourself, so you are asking for help here... I think from this, you must also have some knowledge of psychology and know where to get help!

I don't know if you've tried meditation, but it might be worth a try!

Meditation is a wonderful tool that can help you with so many things! It can relieve stress, anxiety, depression, sadness, and other emotional problems. It can also help with sleep difficulties, improve sleep quality, and assist in improving physical problems such as pain, cancer, anorexia, and immunity. There are so many benefits to meditation, and you can look them up online to learn more!

Many hospitals at home and abroad now promote mindfulness meditation as a program for recovery after a serious illness. The great news is that it's really simple to get started! Just head over to the homepage of Yi Xinli, where you'll find the "Meditation Planet" with lots of different meditation exercises. I'm sure you'll find one that suits you perfectly!

And one more thing: during this time, be sure to love and care for yourself! The English writer Oscar Wilde once said, "To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance!"

You said it yourself: as long as you're healthy, that's all that matters!

I've got a few tips for you on how to take care of your body:

Prioritize sleep, limit sugar intake, clean up your home environment, eat nutritious food, drink enough water every day, move for at least 15 minutes every day, work and rest regularly, and reduce the time spent on electronic products, especially in the morning and evening. And don't forget to nourish yourself!

You are also caring for yourself and relieving anxiety by leaving a message here for help! We're all here for you!

So many people have seen your question, and everyone has offered some perspective from a different angle. It's so great to see how many people are here for you! You are not alone!

I really hope you get well soon!

It's so great to see you taking care of yourself! I'm really happy to hear you're doing some meditation. It's so true that it can help with anxiety and stress. And it's also good for your brain! Research has found that long-term meditation can increase the brain's gamma wave activity compared to normal. Gamma waves are closely related to psychological processes such as attention, memory, and learning. Meditation practitioners have significantly enhanced activation in the left prefrontal brain region, and this enhancement is related to enhanced positive emotions. So, it's really helping you feel good!

Meditation is a wonderful way to improve the sleep quality of cancer patients, which in turn improves their quality of life. It can also help to boost the immune system and increase the number of antibodies to the influenza virus in the body.

Hello, dear host. I know it's tough to stay calm when you're facing a sudden health issue. Words can only do so much, but I hope they can give you some strength to face the future bravely.

From what you've told me, it seems like you usually have some anxiety or other emotions, but you're pretty good at regulating them. It seems like you find ways to distract yourself from your worries by focusing on the idea that health is the most important thing and nothing else matters.

But, sadly, a medical exam report has rocked your peace of mind. It might be a major illness, and you can't use the same words to comfort yourself as before because your health is sending out warning signs.

So, from what you've shared in your question, I think we can find two ways to help you feel less anxious.

The first thing you can do is to remind yourself that you can relieve your anxiety.

In the past, you may have thought, "As long as I'm healthy, nothing else matters."

And then there's another way of looking at it: "If you are not healthy, then everything is a problem."

You can try asking yourself, "What does poor health mean to you?" It's okay if you don't know right away. Take your time. Does it mean that there is no hope for anything in life?

Does it mean that everything in your life has fallen apart? Does it mean that from now on, there will only be problems in your life and nothing else?

I really don't think that even if you have some physical health problems, they're probably not that serious, don't you think?

It's clear from your words of comfort that you're saying that the "as long as..." part is a conditional statement. But if that condition doesn't happen, then the whole thing falls apart.

So, when we want to relieve an emotion, it's not about setting conditions or suppressing it. It's about acknowledging its existence, allowing the emotion to occur, and becoming aware of the flow of the emotion in the body.

For example, when you're feeling anxious, you might notice a tight feeling in your stomach, or even nausea or diarrhea. These are all your body's way of telling you that you're feeling anxious inside.

So, is there any other wording that can replace your original wording that helps you to relieve your anxiety? For example,

"Anxiety makes me feel bad and makes me feel nervous. I know I'm experiencing anxiety, and it's okay to have these feelings. It's just a part of life."

"I allow myself to have all kinds of emotions, and I will face everything in life with a happy and joyful heart."

Of course, you may have a better idea! These two sentences are just to give you a little something to think about.

Second, let's focus on the present.

You mentioned in your question that "you may face a major illness." First of all, it can be determined that the hospital did not specify the physical condition, and there is a 50% chance that you may face a major illness, and a 50% chance that you may be healthy.

However, you'll probably find that although there's a 50-50 chance of each possibility, you're focusing on the event of "possibly suffering from a major illness." That's totally understandable! It's natural to worry about things that haven't happened yet. But remember, it may not even be true.

This kind of attention is something we're all used to, because our bodies are wired to protect us. When something feels unsafe, our brains kick into gear, looking out for our safety and assessing the situation. Then our bodies react, paying attention to potential illnesses, researching treatments, and following up with the doctor's diagnosis.

This series of reactions is enough to keep our body and brain in a state of tension and anxiety, making it really difficult to relax.

We all face similar situations in our daily lives, and it's totally normal to feel anxious in these moments. For instance, if a task assigned by the boss is due soon and has not yet been completed, it's natural to feel a bit worried. Our subconscious mind might even have some concerns about being criticized by the boss or having our salary docked for not finishing the work. When facing a crowd of hundreds of people and giving a speech on stage, it's only human to feel a little anxious. Our subconscious mind might even have some concerns about being rejected by the audience for not speaking well.

So, it's clear that the brain and subconscious are feeling afraid and worried, but they're also doing their best to protect you.

It's so important to bring our awareness back to the present and not fantasize too much about things that haven't happened yet. This kind of excessive fantasy will constantly stimulate the brain to send out signals of tension and anxiety, so it's really helpful to give our minds a break!

Ready to learn how to do it?

You can try breathing exercises, paying attention to your inhale and exhale, and how the breath flows through your body. It's really helpful!

It's totally normal to have lots of thoughts and ideas when you're practicing breathing. Don't worry about it! Just let your mind wander and let the thoughts come and go, and then gently bring your awareness back to your breathing. Just do this again and again.

I promise you, if you give yourself just 10 minutes a day to do this exercise, your anxiety will slowly start to ease.

Life isn't always smooth sailing, and that's okay! The real test is how we each deal with difficulties. I believe you are a strong person, and I know you'll face it bravely. The world and I love you! ?

Let's be real, physical health problems can cause deep anxiety. I get it. You used to be someone who was good at comforting yourself and believed that most difficulties could be overcome. But when one day, in addition to most difficulties, a health problem is placed in front of you, it's a whole new ballgame. Physical health problems were probably unconsciously avoided by us before, but now they're right in front of us. It's only natural to feel afraid, but we can't let that stop us. Let's take a look at what ta really looks like!

1⃣️Who is he/she? Where does he/she come from?

Tell me which system or organ in the body is affected. From your description, I can only get a general idea, and I'm not sure of the specific name. OK, let's put that aside for now and wait for the doctor and professional examination to give us an answer.

2⃣️I need to know how strong ta is.

Tell me what the worst-case scenario for these kinds of problems is. Give me the general situation.

I need a professional answer to this question.

3⃣️I need to know how long I'll have to fight this if it's the most serious situation. And if it's a general situation, I need to know how long it'll take.

I need to know what I need to give up and what I need to bear.

4⃣️I need to know what tools and resources I have to deal with this.

Once you've answered the above questions, you'll have a better understanding of your sudden opponent. You've taken the first step by recognizing the challenge. Don't let an unexpected difficulty discourage you. You can overcome it.

Good day, I am writing in response to your query.

The questioner indicated that they had experienced physical issues and were concerned about the possibility of a significant health issue in the recent past.

"Maybe" indicates uncertainty. There is no result yet, and it is unproductive for the questioner to be anxious, which will negatively impact his mood.

Please remain calm and await the outcome. This will allow you to adjust your expectations to align with reality, rather than dwelling on hypothetical scenarios that may lead to unnecessary worry.

You may wish to consider undertaking some meditation training.

Should the anticipated outcome not be achieved, it is essential to maintain composure and act promptly.

It is essential to manage emotions and allow rational analysis to guide subsequent decisions and actions. In this context, it is crucial to emphasise the importance of maintaining calm emotions, which should be repeated three times: "calm, calm, calm."

It is not as straightforward as it sounds. Emotions are the most primitive animal drives, deeply imprinted in our brains.

When our ancestors faced a charging tiger on the grassland tens of thousands of years ago, they relied solely on the "fight or flight" instinct in that split second. This instinct has been passed down from generation to generation during human evolution.

Although the need to worry about seeing tigers is no longer a concern, our reaction to serious illness or other emergencies remains the same. Individuals with strong psychological attributes, such as pilots and doctors, rely on regular simulations and training.

The Kübler-Ross model proposes five stages of grief:

1. "Denial": "It is not possible."

2. "Anger": "This is an unfair situation."

3. "Bargaining": "Please allow me to live long enough to see my son graduate. I would be grateful if you could give me a few more years."

4. "Depression": "I am no longer interested in continuing to live, and I question the value of doing so."

5. "Acceptance": "I must accept the situation and move forward."

(From Wikipedia, with minor edits)

The majority of individuals will progress through these five stages when they receive a serious illness diagnosis. From a rational perspective, the initial four stages are not conducive to personal growth and may even prove counterproductive.

In medical school, a teacher once stated, "Out of 50 female students in the class, six will develop breast cancer over the course of their lifetime. The incidence rate for American women is 13%, which is comparable to the prostate cancer rate for men." Instead of dwelling on the question of "why me?

It is preferable to accept the situation calmly and with a positive outlook. Instead of dwelling on the negative, focus on the next steps and move forward with a constructive mindset.

Please proceed to the next stage of the process and do not hesitate to contact us if you have any questions or concerns.

Please accept my congratulations on your good health.

Good morning, I am writing in response to your query.

My name is Sunshine, and I am grateful to have this opportunity to connect with you here at Yixin.

The question requests assistance with coping mechanisms for emotional distress associated with a significant health challenge.

In reality, anyone who encounters such a situation may experience a breakdown. This demonstrates our collective responsibility to prioritize our physical health.

This potential illness is an opportunity to prioritize self-care and address underlying health concerns.

In most cases, a gradual process will occur rather than a sudden serious illness.

As long as we seize the moment to "report the news," we will be able to make some positive and helpful responses, rather than "doing nothing/sitting back and waiting to die." What are your thoughts on this matter?

First, let us examine the particulars of the situation as outlined by the questioner in order to gain a deeper understanding and analysis.

When faced with anxiety, individuals often find comfort in the belief that their overall health and well-being are the most important factors, and that they can always find a way to calm down.

It is important to note that anxiety is a common experience. Regardless of the specific emotion involved, developing a positive relationship with it can lead to effective management. Conversely, if we consistently avoid or resist anxiety, it can become increasingly disruptive.

The questioner stated that they typically reassure themselves that as long as they are healthy, which is an effective outcome of "self-care and suggestion." As long as we perceive "anxiety" as a minor issue, as the questioner noted, "there is no cause for concern, and it can always relieve anxiety," this is an excellent example of self-awareness and an appropriate attitude toward behavior. Similarly, even if something significant occurs, we can also learn to regard it as "no big deal/take it lightly." Will the anxiety simply "submit" to you?

A medical examination conducted a few days ago revealed potential health issues that could lead to a major illness. This information has significantly impacted my outlook and ability to remain optimistic. I am seeking guidance on how to effectively address this situation.

A few days ago, I discovered some physical issues that led me to consider the possibility of a significant health concern. While the situation is still evolving, the possibility of a major illness cannot be ruled out at this stage.

It may be the case that the fear experienced is merely an imagined one, not reflective of the actual situation. Could this be a contributing factor to the heightened anxiety levels observed?

It would be prudent to avoid psychologically self-fulfilling expectations.

It is important to remain calm and await the outcome. This allows us to transition from a fantasy or imaginative state to a more realistic perspective. It is unnecessary to worry unnecessarily.

In the event that the illness is indeed significant, it is possible to experience a range of emotions, including avoidance, fear, anxiety, and emotional distress. However, it is important not to become overly invested in these feelings. Instead, it may be helpful to view the illness from a different perspective. The illness serves as a reminder to value our health and well-being. It is never too late to prioritize self-care. Even if the illness is severe, there is hope for a positive outcome if we accept it and support ourselves through the challenging period. This is an opportunity for transformation and growth.

Please advise.

In light of the circumstances presented by the questioner, it may be advisable to approach the matter in the following manner:

[1] Acceptance of anxiety is recommended.

It is also possible that you have been experiencing anxiety for an extended period. However, it is important to note that it is manageable as long as we can learn to "live with it in peace."

[2] It is important to note that anxiety, in and of itself, is not inherently negative. However, when it becomes unproductive and hinders our ability to function effectively, it can have a detrimental impact. Therefore, it is crucial to identify the underlying cause of the anxiety and understand its true purpose. This will help us to respond in a constructive manner and prepare for future challenges.

Are we, as a result of being physically and mentally prepared, now capable of dealing with any and all problems that may arise?

[3] Our body is, in fact, the most reliable and devoted ally. It alerts us to potential challenges and encourages us to prioritize self-care. Conversely, our body also bestows tangible benefits when we treat it with care. I recall that Ms. Wu Zhihong published a book titled "The Body Knows the Answer." When our body and mind perceive something, we can simply observe the emotions and feelings they evoke. This allows us to respond effectively. Our body can be viewed as a "flawless" healer. We are fortunate to have such an invaluable ally, one that can help us prevent issues before they arise.

[4] From recognizing emotions to learning to manage emotions, the questioner has already made significant progress. To further reduce the anxiety level and alleviate suspicion of panic, it is essential to distinguish between the anxiety caused by imagination and the reality of the situation. Awareness is the first step, followed by learning to manage emotions effectively. The questioner can utilize self-suggestion, distraction, meditation/exercise, or talking to someone to address anxiety. For reference, I recommend reading "Managing Anxiety."

[5] If you still feel inadequate after self-regulation, you may wish to consider seeking the assistance of a more professional psychological teacher to eliminate "anxiety/hypochondria" and learn how to manage emotions in a targeted manner. I believe that there are only "three things" in the world (your own affairs/other people's affairs/God's affairs), and the only thing we can do is manage our own affairs. I believe that you, with your strong self-awareness, can definitely deal with your own affairs clearly no matter what happens!

It is crucial to recognize that regardless of the nature of the challenge or illness we are facing, it is essential to first assess our emotional and physical state. Once we have done so, it is vital to identify ways to ensure our physical and mental comfort. This will enable us to cope effectively with the situation at hand and maintain a sense of control. By doing so, we can adopt a mindset of resilience and confidence, ready to face whatever may come our way.

In summary, this is based on my understanding and response to the question posed by the questioner. It is my hope that this will prove both enlightening and helpful. Should you be interested in the article, "Anxiety is here, let's be friends!," you are encouraged to take a look.

I am Sunshine, and I extend my warmest regards to you and the world.

Hello, question asker. It's a pleasure to meet you.

I can tell that the questioner cares a lot about their health and even their life. Now, the questioner might be facing a serious illness, and the belief that "peace is a blessing" that the questioner usually comforts themselves with is also facing collapse.

Before we get the result, we make an optimistic plan, hoping it's just a false alarm. But we also have to make a worst-case plan, in case we really get a serious illness.

You might be wondering if current medicine can treat it, if it can be supported financially, and if it will affect your life.

Imagine the day you were born. Your parents and family were really excited about your arrival. It's incredible how quickly time passes, and I hope I never forget the start of my life.

If you're looking for some comfort, I'd suggest reading a book. Shi Tiesheng's "My Life and the Altar" is a great choice. You can find it in paperback, and it was a great source of inspiration for me during a challenging period.

At the end of the day, life is our own. This book might take you to a place that will make you stronger.

Take the time to appreciate the beauty of life.

Our souls are always with us, wherever we are. The scenery we've seen, the hardships we've experienced, and our inner world have all shaped who we are. We come to this world not just to bask in the sunshine, but to weather the rain and wind as well.

We may be the tiniest beings in the universe, but we're also the most unique.

I truly hope you have good health, courage, contentment, peace, and happiness.

I offer you a hug that encompasses all directions.

There is a psychological theory about the five stages of grief. It is thought that these stages were first identified as a result of observations made about the psychological development that many people often go through when they themselves face death or when a loved one dies.

It is thought that there are five stages of grief:

1. Denial. For example, when we learn that we are going to die, we may initially tell ourselves that this is not true, that I am not going to die, etc.

2. Anger: At this stage, we may come to understand that the facts may be true, such as a serious illness has been diagnosed. We may then experience feelings of anger, wondering why it is me, and why God is not looking after me.

3. Bargaining: At this stage, people may attempt to postpone death by seeking out beneficial treatments, accessing quality medical care, and fulfilling unmet aspirations.

4. Depression: At this stage, we may come to understand that all bargaining is ultimately futile, that death is drawing ever closer, and we may experience feelings of sadness and depression.

5. Acceptance: At this stage, we may come to recognize that this is an unavoidable conclusion. It may be difficult to reconcile with our beliefs, but it is important to acknowledge that neither God nor doctors can intervene in this process. We can only accept it.

It is important to note that not everyone will necessarily experience all of these stages. Additionally, these stages are not exclusive to serious illness. Other losses, such as the death of a loved one, the death of a pet, disability caused by a major natural disaster such as an earthquake, and the grief caused by major psychological trauma, are all losses to some extent for us.

Everyone's experience of loss is unique, depending on their background and circumstances. Grief is a deeply personal journey, and the grieving process can vary greatly from one person to another.

If I might make a suggestion, it is perfectly normal to experience a period of emotional distress when faced with a potentially serious illness. If you feel unable to cope at the moment, it might be helpful to allow yourself to remain in this state for a while.

If I might suggest, it would be helpful to set a deadline for yourself. It could be as short as a week or as long as a month. The important thing is to have a clear end point in mind.

During this period, it may be helpful to allow yourself to stay in this mood and to remind yourself that this is a ritual for you, and that it is important for you to continue moving forward.

When the time is up, it's important to come out and acknowledge that the time has come to accept reality and keep moving forward.

Perhaps it would be best not to dwell on why. Instead, try to accept this as a part of fate and move forward.

You might find it helpful to read the book Necessary Losses.

I often find myself balancing two seemingly contradictory identities: that of a Buddhist and that of someone who is depressed. I also strive to be an empathetic and motivating counselor, and I believe that the world is a beautiful place.