How to handle the situation where a boy is always concerned about his girlfriend's past affecting their work and life?

The questioner is honest about how he feels and what he's been through. This takes courage.

"At first I didn't mind her past, but after two or three months, I learned about stories between her and an ex. I became bitter." What kind of stories?

Between the girlfriend and an ex.

Is the questioner bothered by the story or the people in it?

Or both?

During this period, I got over my virgin complex and learned to understand her past.

It's not easy!

"I can't help but ask questions about my ex. My girlfriend doesn't like it, and I can't sleep at night. This affects our work, rest, and lives. "It seems that the questioner is trying to keep you two apart.

It also seems to examine what happened between his girlfriend and her ex.

What does the questioner feel when he talks to his girlfriend about her ex? What does he hope to find out?

"I want to know how I can stop caring about my girlfriend's exes so I can calm my mind and advance my relationship with her normally and healthily."

Once you know what benefits this will have for you, use a different method to help you in your relationship with your girlfriend. This is not easy, so it will take time to explore and try.

I hope this helps. Best wishes!

Hello!

I can give you advice.

You love your girlfriend and want your relationship to be just for the two of you.

You realize your girlfriend is good. She's had sex before. There's no right or wrong in her nature when it comes to sex.

Your girlfriend has also been emotionally involved in previous relationships and hopes to stay with the other person for a long time. She trusts relationships and can establish a good intimate relationship with the other person.

You want your girlfriend to be yours alone. You feel she has treated other boys well. It's natural to feel envious and jealous.

But you've let go of your virginity complex and can understand her past. You still want to know more about her and the other guy.

You feel insecure about the girl. You think you're not good enough. You think you can learn from her past relationships with other guys so you can please her more.

Your actions can be seen as preparations for marriage. You don't want to miss anything.

You like each other. Have you also found that the other person likes you?

If you and your girlfriend trust each other, you can work together to manage your future marriage.

Then you can trust her as much as she trusts you. This will make you feel safer.

If there were no exes, you probably wouldn't have met her. She has improved as a person because of her experiences. These experiences are part of life, not who she is.

We need to look at this objectively and with mutual respect to connect better. We'll also understand the value of our relationship. Cherish the present! The past is gone, and the future is uncertain.

You can find a way to interact that's right for you and makes your relationship stronger.

Best wishes.

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Hello!

First of all, congratulations on meeting a girl who makes your heart flutter at first sight! And on a very purposeful blind date where everyone is more concerned about the word "suitable."

You mentioned you had a girlfriend before, but you didn't have sex. That shows you're a man who values traditional virtues and respects women, which is rare in today's society. It also makes me wonder if your parents were strict with you when you were young. Maybe they explained a lot about respecting women, which is why you're still a virgin.

Is your girlfriend a cheerful and warm-hearted person? I bet that's why you fell in love at first sight!

But when you learned that she had had relationships with several men, and you had never done so, it made you feel that there was something a little unfair in your relationship.

You said you didn't mind at first, and I totally get it! When we're in the honeymoon phase of love, it seems like we can handle anything. But as we discover that the love grows deeper, our possessiveness grows stronger, and we want the person to be ours and ours alone! After two or three months, you discovered some stories about her and her ex-boyfriend, and it made you feel painful, even unable to sleep at night. Your state of mind affected the work and life of the two of you. You want to calm your heart and move forward with the relationship normally and healthily. It is also evident that you care about this relationship, so you have initiated the question.

Then let's dive right in!

1. Take a moment to think about what you care about about her and her ex.

It's totally normal to feel insecure and anxious when you hear stories about your exes. It's only natural to want to know about their relationship status when you're in a new relationship. It's okay to ask questions, but try to remember that your ex's relationship is their own journey, and you're on your own path.

Have you already had sex with her? Do you ever find yourself wondering how your sex life compares to what you've had in the past?

2. Take a moment to think about whether your questions and anxieties are having a positive effect on your relationship. If you feel like they're not, don't worry! Just think about what would make you feel better.

I think it's really important to believe that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and that you have your own amazing qualities too! So, how about making a list of all your strengths?

And just because something doesn't go well for the time being, it doesn't mean it won't in the future. Don't fret! Focus on the bigger picture, give yourself more room for change, accept yourself as you are, believe in yourself, plan for small improvements, and your heart will calm down.

It's so important to remember that relationships are a two-way street. You can talk openly and honestly about anything, including sex. Asking her how she feels and talking about your own feelings and how you're making progress together will bring you closer together. It's a win-win!

It's true that relationships between the sexes are easy to talk about, but quite difficult to put into practice! But you must also believe that where there is effort, there is always a result. Don't you agree?

Okay, that's enough for now. I just know your relationship will progress even better! The world and we love you!

Hello!

I'm a mindfulness coach, and I believe learning is the greatest treasure of the body.

From what you've said, I can tell you're struggling with a lot of negative emotions, including inner conflict, worry, anxiety, pain, and helplessness.

You're bothered by your inability to move on from your girlfriend's past. I won't get into the specifics here, but I have three pieces of advice for you:

First, I suggest you try to accept your current situation.

It'll help your mind feel a bit easier, which will help you figure out what to do next.

You say you're a 27-year-old guy who met your girlfriend on a blind date. You had a good feeling about each other and quickly confirmed the relationship. You've had a frank exchange about your love histories. You know how many people she's been with and had sex with. You don't care about the so-called "first time," but you do care about some of the stories she has with her ex. This makes you very upset. Every time you talk to your girlfriend for a long time, you're both unhappy. You don't want it to be like this, and it's painful. In fact, your state of mind is understandable. Most people care about their partner's past. Everyone wants to be their partner's only and most important person. This kind of state of mind is understandable because there's a distance between "knowing" and "doing." Sometimes it's just difficult to do. So you have to try to accept your state of mind and "see" the painful part of yourself that wants to get along well with your girlfriend but can't control the urge to mind her past for the time being. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things. Otherwise, your brain will be filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

It's also important to accept yourself if you want to make changes. I know it sounds a bit strange, but it's true because you have to let things be if you want to see change.

Secondly, I suggest you take a rational look at your own situation.

Rational thinking can help you understand yourself and reality better.

To get a more objective view of the situation, there are three things you can do:

First, remember that everyone has a past, and that past is something that can't be changed.

You might still be thinking, "If only she didn't have that kind of past," but you need to understand that this kind of thinking won't make it true. Everyone has a past, and that's an unchangeable fact. You might have to accept it, even if you don't want to.

Second, remember that loving someone is loving them for who they are.

As you said in your description, you're trying not to mind her past, but you just can't do it. Right now, you need to understand that the her you like now is "made up" of her past. You can also say that it is her previous romantic history that has made her the way she is now, the her you like. Those past experiences are part of her growth. If you love her, you have to love her for who she is, and "who she is" must include her past.

Third, remember that things don't have to stay the same just because you don't want them to. You can change them if you want to.

When you take the initiative and put in the effort, your mindset will shift, and so will the dynamic of your relationship with her.

If you look at it rationally like this, some of those negative emotions might start to dissipate.

I'd suggest focusing on yourself and thinking about what you can do to feel better.

When you take a step back and look at the big picture, you might also see what you need to do. At this point, it's time to focus on yourself and do your best.

For instance, if you find yourself asking your girlfriend about her ex, you can remind yourself that the past is set in stone. You like her for who she is now, so focus on the present and future. Repeat this to yourself a few times, and your thoughts will probably change. You'll then be more focused on the present and future, which might lift your mood.

You can also learn to take responsibility and be accountable when you think about your girlfriend's past. That is, when you think about her past, stop and think about the consequences of doing so. You'll think about it for a long time, affecting your work and life. It'll make both of you unhappy and affect your relationship with each other. After this, you'll likely stop asking about her past so that you can spend more time and energy on managing your relationship well.

You can also talk more with your girlfriend about the present and the future. You could plan for the future, talk about getting married, where to settle down, and other things. This would help you focus your conversation on the present and the future. As you said in your description, you both like each other very much and want to settle down. This will also make you feel better. In short, you need to know that you can do something to improve the current situation.

When you start taking action, all those negative emotions will start to disappear because, as they say, action is the best antidote to negative emotions.

I hope this helps. If you want to chat some more, just click on "Find a coach" at the bottom and we can talk one-on-one.

Dear questioner, It appears that both parties have a strong affinity for one another, yet there seems to be a discrepancy in perspectives regarding the partner's past experiences. Is this an accurate interpretation? The subsequent analysis may prove insightful.

1. The virgin complex is at work. It is a common phenomenon that everyone possesses a certain degree of virgin complex; however, the severity of this complex can vary considerably from person to person. In cases where the virgin complex is particularly pronounced, it can manifest as a desire to exert control and possessiveness. This is because, as the level of love intensifies, the individual may perceive the object of their affection as belonging exclusively to them. When a partner discovers that their partner has not experienced their first sexual encounter, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and a sense of not having fully possessed the other person. This can result in the individual engaging in behaviors that belittle or diminish their partner, without fully recognizing the underlying issue.

2. His perfectionism is a significant source of distress. The subject is deeply in love with his girlfriend but feels compelled to demand that she be pure. However, his girlfriend does not meet his expectations, which causes him considerable distress.

When we love someone deeply, we idealize the person in front of us. This is a common phenomenon. Despite loving each other very much, we are particularly concerned about the other person's past. Consequently, we perceive the other person's past as an imperfect existence, rendering them an imperfect partner. However, can we accept such a partner? This is the fundamental conflict that the questioner is grappling with.

It is recommended that:

It is imperative to accept, respect, and view the other person's past in a rational manner. It is crucial to respect and accept the other person's past, as it is a fixed reality that cannot be altered. Attempting to change the past is futile and will only result in the dissolution of the relationship. It is, therefore, essential to consider whether this is the desired outcome.

Thus, accepting the other person is also an indication of respect.

It is imperative to adjust one's mentality and refrain from excessive preoccupation with the past. While each individual possesses a unique history, it is crucial to recognize that past experiences do not necessarily predict future outcomes. In the future, mutual respect, understanding, and acceptance will be essential for a healthy relationship. However, fixating on past events can be detrimental, as it diverts attention from present and future concerns. Therefore, it is essential to adapt one's mentality to align with the realities of the present.

It is important to communicate effectively with one's partner. When a couple is certain that they want to continue their relationship, they can employ non-violent communication techniques to navigate their emotions and interactions. For instance, if a partner desires to understand their partner's past experiences, they can express their desire to know more and request that their partner not divulge personal information. This demonstrates a willingness to engage in a constructive and respectful dialogue about the past while maintaining control over the direction of the relationship. The partner can then inquire about their partner's perspective on their past experiences.

What insights have been gained from this process? Let us collectively endeavor to cultivate a harmonious and mutually respectful relationship.

Dear Question Asker, I can discern a considerable degree of anxiety, worry, and confusion from your description.

On the one hand, there is a clear indication of mutual liking and the desire to settle down. On the other hand, the lack of sexual intercourse with the former girlfriend and the discovery of multiple relationships with the current girlfriend give rise to significant concerns and anxiety, which in turn engender feelings of conflict.

To the extent that it affects your normal work and study, you are aware that a change is necessary, but you lack the knowledge required to effect such a change in order to promote a normal and healthy relationship with your girlfriend.

Despite claiming to have overcome the virgin complex, you continue to inquire about your girlfriend's previous sexual partners, a practice that causes distress for both of you.

It is evident that, at the conscious level, an effort is being made to accept and understand the situation. However, at the subconscious level, this ability has not yet been achieved, resulting in the manifestation of anxiety and worry.

Thus, it is imperative to ascertain the root of the anxiety and worry.

The consistency of your girlfriend's behavior

Your girlfriend has had sexual intercourse with all of her previous romantic partners. Due to cognitive bias, you may assume that individuals who refrain from sexual activity before marriage are also likely to remain faithful after marriage.

It is reasonable to conclude that the subject will experience concern regarding the continuation of his partner's sexual history and its potential impact on the stability of their relationship.

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In their innermost selves, many men harbor a desire to possess the woman they desire exclusively.

This male chauvinist ideology seeks to establish a dominant position, and it is shaped by societal expectations regarding the role of men.

For example, research indicates that men are more likely to exhibit aggressive, possessive, and dominant behaviors.

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It is inevitable that one will inquire about one's partner's previous romantic relationships, which may evoke images of the partner and their former partners.

It is possible that the subject may experience a sense of unease and apprehension, concerned that their partner may draw comparisons between them and their previous partners, particularly in relation to their experiences in relationships.

Furthermore, a lack of confidence in one's own abilities to surpass one's partner's previous partners may result in feelings of inadequacy and instability in the relationship.

The key to a long-lasting and stable relationship is not merely fidelity; rather, it is the capacity for self-discipline in regard to the concepts of "love" and "responsibility," founded upon the principles of equality between the two parties.

Love is not merely a relationship between two individuals; it is also an experience of profound emotion.

I wish you the best of success.

The host was preoccupied with his girlfriend's previous relationship. After overcoming the virgin complex, he became embroiled in a dispute with her former partner, which had a detrimental impact on their professional and personal lives.

We can identify two key factors: the Oedipus complex and jealousy.

In an intimate relationship, a moderate degree of virginity complex and jealousy is a normal expression of valuing and loving the other person.

If the level of jealousy is excessive and outweighs the level of love for the other person, it can have a negative impact on both their work life and their relationship. In such cases, it may be necessary to identify the underlying psychological cause.

The source of the issue may not be the girlfriend and her former partner, but rather the relationship between the individual and their parents.

The term "jealousy" is straightforward to comprehend in its literal sense.

In essence, it is a feeling of inferiority and resentment towards others.

In the context of relationships, feelings of jealousy often stem from a sense of conscious defeat in competition and can be conceptualised as a triangular relationship.

This triangular relationship typically has its roots in the parent-child dynamic, which is what we refer to as the Oedipus triangle in psychological literature.

A competitive relationship between children and their opposite-sex parent typically emerges between the ages of three and six.

It is not uncommon for children at this age to express their desires in a manner that may be perceived as childish. For instance, they may indicate a preference for marrying their mother or father.

Children at this age have a strong sense of attachment to their mother or father and perceive them as their exclusive source of love and care. They may not easily accept the idea of a parent of the same sex having a similar level of involvement in their lives.

If parents adopt an inappropriate attitude towards their children at this time, the children will experience psychological conflict, wanting to win their parents' love but being afraid to do so.

The virgin complex is the desire for the perfect mother, and jealousy is the rejection of potential or existing competitors around the opposite-sex parent.

Based on the host's behavior, it is possible that she experienced challenges in her childhood, particularly in her relationship with her mother and with her parents in a triangular dynamic. These experiences may have manifested in her adult relationships, as evidenced by her desire for a perfect mother figure and her tendency to reject potential competitors in her intimate partnerships.

What is the recommended course of action to resolve this issue?

Given the complexity of the issues involved, it is advisable to seek psychological counseling at the earliest opportunity.

The following suggestions are offered for your consideration as a means of self-regulation:

1. It is important to recognize that no mother or girlfriend is perfect.

2. It is important to recognize that your mother is your father's partner, and that they love you both. There is no need for you to compete with your father for your mother's affection.

3. Your girlfriend can be different from your mother. Your girlfriend's exes are not competing with you. They are in the past, and your current girlfriend belongs to you. They have not defeated you; you have defeated them. There is no need to concern yourself with their future position in your girlfriend's affections.

4. You have the freedom to express your love for your girlfriend in a confident and open manner.

5. Do not allow feelings of guilt to impede your progress. You have the capacity to surpass the achievements of your girlfriend's previous partner.

6. Determine whether you wish to retain your girlfriend or terminate the relationship. If you wish to retain her, prioritize your relationship with your girlfriend and disengage from other emotional influences. By consistently reinforcing the relationship, you can resolve other emotional issues and achieve emotional equilibrium.

As previously stated.

I am Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor, and I wish you all the best.

It looks like you've moved on from worrying about your girlfriend's past, but it seems like your right hand has picked up some concerns about it again. It's possible you still have some feelings of jealousy and concern about her past. This is something you need to think about. If you always care about your girlfriend's past, it might affect the current state of your relationship.

Your emotions have taken a negative turn, which has made you feel very tense. It may even affect your work and life. You've only been with one person and are still a virgin, while your partner has been with a few people and is also a virgin.

This setting may still be pretty good. You're both virgins in terms of sex, and you probably feel very pure. You've also heard some stories between her and an ex. Why did these stories happen? You still need to think about it.

Shouldn't you be able to understand her past a bit better? It all started with love, and it led both parties to make appropriate compromises. You also hope to settle down, so it's best to realize that there's no way we can change the past.

This is a crucial time. You can use the present to understand your partner's personality and values. This will help you decide if they're a good fit for you. Your girlfriend's exes are in the past. You can start new chapters with your girlfriend.

A relationship that has ended is over. As her current partner, you really shouldn't dwell too much on the past. They had some love stories, and that was their past. These things are inalienable and remain in her memory. You are now her important partner. Don't compare yourself with others. See where you stand now. I recommend that you seek the necessary psychological counseling to reconcile your emotions and resolve your conflicts. Best wishes.

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Good morning! I hope you don't mind me sharing my thoughts on your question. I can relate to the questioner's feelings because I understand the desire to love and understand your girlfriend with the hope of eventually entering into marriage.

It might be helpful to consider whether the distress you're feeling about this question is related to your ideas about marital emotions. For instance, you mentioned the "virgin complex," which is a term used to describe a certain emotional state. It seems that you've already made some progress in addressing this complex by making conscious adjustments, even though your true inner self may still be blocked. It's important to remember that we all have a vulnerable child inside, and we often manifest inner issues as a result of certain concepts that we don't fully examine or protect.

Second, it is related to our growth environment and the external world, such as the original family, the concepts of the ancestors, and the collective subconscious. It can also be related. Psychological counseling can help us explore the pain deep within ourselves. Third, it seems that sometimes the questioner may feel that they are better than others because of this reason. The questioner initially introduced in the question that they had had a relationship, but it did not happen. "I have broken through the virgin complex." "My girlfriend has had several relationships and had sex." Summarize some memorable keywords. It might be helpful for the questioner to ask themselves what their inner voice is telling them when they see this reply.

It may be helpful to consider that the voice inside could be the problem you need to face and deal with.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to consider breaking through your own limitations, taking the first step to change bravely, and going out to discover a new world.

I am a counseling psychologist, if I may introduce myself.

I would like to express my love for the world and for you!

From the message, I can discern your dedication and care for this relationship. I can also see that you are trying very hard to overcome the painful stories of your girlfriend and ex-girlfriends in this relationship, and have successfully abandoned the virgin complex, as well as demonstrating a certain degree of understanding for her past.

It is challenging to make such an effort, and your girlfriend has demonstrated remarkable honesty and affection, as well as consideration for your feelings.

This provides a solid foundation for the relationship. It is essential to establish trust, address challenges together, and seek external assistance to foster a healthy and stable relationship.

This establishes a solid foundation for the relationship. It is essential to trust each other, address relationship challenges together, and seek assistance from others to foster a healthy and stable relationship.

In light of an unchangeable past, what steps can be taken to mitigate the negative impact on the current relationship?

The following is provided for your consideration, with the hope that it will offer new insights and stimulate fresh thinking:

First, adopt a new perspective on the issue. Consider the other side of the argument and you will gain a different insight.

Jealousy stems from the innate drive to monopolize love in human relationships and the promotion of the virgin complex in human culture and society.

The influence is split between biological and cultural factors. We are all affected by these factors without being aware of it. This is also the reason why the original poster was initially constrained by the virgin complex.

However, the strength of your love and the honesty of your girlfriend should enable you to overcome these issues.

In addition to the substantial support of love, there are other perspectives that can assist in navigating the current challenges.

You have the opportunity to build a future with your girlfriend, while her former partners are confined to the past.

When we direct our attention to the more positive and promising aspects, the emotions and content that strongly influence us will naturally become less significant.

2. When inquiring about past relationships, direct the discussion toward the insights gained by your girlfriend and how they can be applied to her relationship with you.

It is important to note that spending an excessive amount of time dwelling on past events may lead to an increase in distress for both parties involved. However, if these events are utilized as a means of enhancing the relationship, they can contribute to its growth and stability.

Furthermore, the insights gained from being in a relationship are often invaluable. This can also prepare you for potential challenges in your relationship.

2. Concentrate the discussion on the relationship and endeavour to enhance the present situation and foster a positive outlook for the future.

2. Concentrate the discussion on the relationship and work to enhance the present situation and future prospects.

When we focus excessively on a single level, we may encounter a phenomenon known as "narrow thinking." This refers to a process where individuals' somatic sensations, perceptions, emotions, or thinking consciousness are intensely concentrated in a specific direction, resulting in a narrow, constrained, and limited scope of influence.

This is one of the reasons why the ex-partner's actions have had an adverse effect on your relationship with your girlfriend.

It is recommended that you make an effort to diversify and enrich your everyday conversations. This will help to improve your relationship with your partner, enable you to get to know each other better and allow you to envisage the future you both desire.

By incorporating more material and depth into your conversations, you can ensure that the ex-story is no longer a prominent topic, thus avoiding any potential damage to your existing relationship.

3. Refer to your own experience of successfully overcoming the virgin complex as a point of reference. Invite your girlfriend to provide a reminder when necessary to avoid becoming mired in an unproductive line of thought.

Once you have successfully silenced the voice, there is a clear path to overcoming the influence of your ex's stories. Reviewing how you did it will provide valuable details to help you deal with the impact of your ex's stories again.

In addition, it would be beneficial to involve your girlfriend in this process and request her assistance in overcoming this challenge. When you are on good terms, kindly inform her that you would appreciate it if she refrained from asking for details when she is unable to do so. Furthermore, you should take the initiative to guide the conversation towards how these stories have a positive impact on building your relationship, thus turning a one-person battle into a two-person alliance.

I am a psychologist who does not delve into the intricacies of human nature, but rather focuses on the emotional well-being of individuals. I extend my best wishes to you.

I am a psychologist who does not focus on human nature, but rather on the human heart. I wish you well.

Hello!

I can see why you'd think that. It's a natural thing for any boy to want his beloved girl to be completely his own, just like you! And it's true that every girl who loves deeply will be open and give herself completely to the boy she deeply loves and trusts.

Allow this to happen naturally!

As mentioned above, this is only natural – most people will think and act in this way – at the time, you don't know the outcome, you just want to do it now – just as your girlfriend chose to tell you frankly, and you minded – these are all very natural reactions and expressions – then let it happen naturally – there is an order to the encounters in life, it's not just the first time that matters, but every encounter is important – and every encounter is an opportunity to learn and grow!

❤️Embrace yourself and let your emotions flow!

If you really care about it and have emotions about it, then just live with those emotions for now. Name your emotions, and see if they are jealousy, jealousy that she, a girl, has actually had sex with someone, that you have never done it before and feel like you are missing out.

You still feel inferior, but you can change that! You can learn how to talk to girls just like everyone else. Give yourself and your girlfriend some time to work together to solve this problem.

It's okay! While you're going through this, your partner is going through it too. If you really love each other, you'll definitely find a way to work through this together!