How to overcome the fear of interviews when they always end in failure?

Since graduating from university, I have had several unsuccessful interviews. I recently interviewed for a position at a state-owned enterprise, but I was not selected for the role due to inadequate preparation.

As a result, the interviewer is now somewhat reluctant to proceed with the interview. I empathize with your frustration, apprehension, frustration, and helplessness.

First, allow me to extend my support and encouragement to the original poster.

It is not uncommon for an interview to end unsuccessfully. In fact, it is a scenario that almost everyone will face at some point.

The current job market is a buyer's market, with an oversupply of talent and a lot of room for employers to choose from. However, recent graduates lack work experience and interview experience, which makes them prone to failure. In particular, the most recent interview was for a state-owned enterprise, which is a highly sought-after position in the current job market and will face intense competition. There are few recruitment quotas, and almost 95% of interviewees will fail.

Next, we will examine potential solutions to this problem.

First, it is recommended that you adjust your perception and recognize that interview failures are a common occurrence. It is possible that the optimal job opportunity for you has not yet presented itself. Therefore, you can assume that participating in more interviews will increase the likelihood of securing your desired position.

Secondly, it is important to regain confidence and avoid self-negation following a failed interview.

It is not always the case that a job is a good fit for a person's abilities. Conversely, a person's abilities may not always align with the requirements of a particular role. When a role is a good fit for a person's abilities, it is likely to be a positive experience for both parties. However, if a role does not align with a person's abilities, it may lead to challenges over time.

From this perspective, it is advisable to conduct a comprehensive assessment of your personality and abilities, identify the areas of overlap between your preferences, skills, and strengths, and then develop targeted preparations.

It is important to learn from any mistakes made during the interview process. After the interview, it is advisable to create a record and summary in a timely manner. Additionally, it is beneficial to research interview tips online and, if possible, attend training sessions to enhance interview skills.

In my view, the most important skill is the ability to identify the purpose behind an interview question. This is similar to the approach used in educational exercises, where it is possible to answer a question correctly if you understand which knowledge point it is testing.

Please find below a few more specific tips for your reference:

1) Research the interview process at the target company or similar organizations. If possible, contact the individual who conducted the interview to gain further insight.

2) Make use of the resources at your disposal. For instance, if there are individuals in your network who work in state-owned enterprises or as civil servants, you can inquire with them about the abilities the company values when recruiting new employees and the points they will evaluate. This may help you identify common ground.

3) If possible, arrange to meet with a friend who works in HR to practice for the interview. This will help you to understand the format and to identify areas for improvement.

4) Remain calm and in control. The competition in state-owned enterprises is intense, so view this as an opportunity to hone your skills for the next interview.

My name is Tianyang, a coach at XinTan. I wish you the best of luck in your job search and hope you receive your dream offer soon.

Firstly, it is important to note that in the event of repeated interview failures, particularly when the reasons are attributed to "not performing well" or "not being prepared," this self-reflection, while a valuable starting point, may also become a psychological hindrance that prevents forward progression. It is essential to shift our perspective and view this process from a more positive and strategic standpoint, ensuring that each attempt becomes a stepping stone for personal growth, rather than a hindrance.

1. Accept failure and adjust your mindset.

It is important to remember that failing at interviews is not uncommon. In today's job market, there is a high level of competition for the same positions. Therefore, one or several failed interviews should not be seen as a defining factor in determining your value or ability.

Recognizing this is the first step to overcoming psychological barriers. Accepting failure is part of the growth process, teaching us resilience and reflection, rather than causing self-doubt.

Don't blame external factors for your shortcomings. Instead, identify the specific abilities or experiences that led to your perceived inadequacy during the interview.

What communication styles or attitudes might have caused the interviewer to misunderstand you? This analysis will help you identify the specific issue more accurately, rather than assuming a lack of preparation.

2. In-depth analysis and precise preparation

The first step in this process is to conduct a comprehensive self-assessment. This should include identifying your career goals, personal strengths, professional skills, and areas for improvement.

This allows you to gain a clearer understanding of your position in the job market and develop a more targeted job search strategy.

Prior to the interview, it is essential to research the target company and position. Every company has its own unique culture and values, and every position has its own specific requirements. Beforehand, it is crucial to gain an in-depth understanding of the target company's background, scope of business, development trends, and the specific responsibilities and expected results of the position.

This approach allows you to demonstrate your enthusiasm and interest in the company, while also providing accurate responses to questions related to the position.

Mock interviews and feedback: Identify trusted colleagues or associates to act as mock interviewers and conduct multiple mock interviews. This will not only familiarize you with the interview process, but also allow you to identify and correct problems in your expression, logic, appearance, etc. in practice.

Most importantly, their immediate feedback allows for rapid adjustments and continuous improvement.

It is advisable to prepare answers to the most frequently asked questions, which often include self-introduction, career planning, and personal strengths and weaknesses. By preparing answers to these questions in advance and practising different ways of expressing them, you can feel more at ease during the interview.

Psychological adjustment and stress management: It is unavoidable to experience some degree of nervousness before an interview. However, excessive tension can impair performance. Learning techniques such as deep breathing and positive thinking can help you remain calm and confident.

Additionally, maintaining a reasonable schedule, getting sufficient rest, and engaging in moderate exercise can also be effective stress management techniques.

3. Accept the result and proceed with your next steps.

It is important to accept the uncertainty that is inherent in the interview process, regardless of the amount of preparation that has been done. Learning to accept this uncertainty is an important life skill.

Do not view a failed interview as a setback; rather, see it as a stepping stone on the path to success.

After each interview, regardless of the outcome, it is important to promptly summarize the key learnings. This should include an evaluation of your performance and an identification of areas for improvement.

What aspects of your performance could be improved? Make a note of these reflections as a valuable reference for your next interview.

It is important to remember that every failure is a step towards success.

Maintain a positive outlook and continue learning. Staying positive is essential during the job search. Believe in your abilities and value, and trust that there are always opportunities available.

Furthermore, it is important to continue developing your professional and soft skills, as they are key to increasing your competitiveness.

In conclusion,

When you think and act in this way, you will find that the psychological barriers that previously held you back are gradually disappearing. This is because you are no longer attributing your failures to external factors, but rather looking for the causes within yourself and actively seeking solutions.

You have acquired the skills to prepare more effectively for interviews and to perform at your best on the day. Furthermore, you have developed the ability to respond to setbacks in a way that allows you to learn and grow from them.

It is important to remember that every effort, no matter how small, contributes to your overall success. Over time, these efforts will accumulate and become a powerful driving force, propelling you towards your goals.

Hello, I'm Xintan coach Fei Yun. Life is a journey, not for appreciation, but for growth.

Understand your mood. Setbacks make you feel difficult and afraid. There are two things you need to prepare for an interview: before and during. Let's share and discuss.

?1. Prepare for the interview.

Know yourself and your enemy, and you can win a hundred battles without a single loss. First, understand the company you're applying to. Know its size, history, culture, and founder's resume. Know the position you're applying for, your salary expectations, and your strengths. Show how you fit the position.

The employer will also assess your on-site expression skills, ability to adapt, and psychological quality.

You need to prepare for the interview. There is no time limit.

2. Performance during the interview

There will be pressure when facing an interviewer who decides your fate. Too much pressure can affect your performance.

The other person's role depends on you. If you see them as a leader, you're a subordinate. If you see them as an equal, they're just an ordinary person. If you see them as someone who can choose or eliminate you, you're at their mercy.

This helps you stay calm during the interview and answer flexibly. Some people get nervous when they give a speech. One trick is to think of the audience as "cabbage."

Breathe. Think happy thoughts.

Finally, be nervous. Tell yourself, "I'm nervous because I care about this interview."

When you accept the tension, the emotion stops.

Stress is not the problem, but fighting it is.

3. Summarize and review.

You can't gain experience without going through it. You've had several interviews and have learned a lot. These lessons are inseparable from a timely summary and review.

Edison invented the light bulb with a positive attitude. When a reporter said he had failed 2,000 times, he said that wasn't failure. He had found 2,000+ materials not suitable for filament.

We say "don't repeat the same mistake twice." This means it's important to review and reflect on your own patterns, like your thinking, emotions, and behavior, to make changes.

What are you not prepared for? Is it that the company didn't investigate, or that you lack a plan?

If you think you'll do badly, practise at home. Being nervous is because we can't control the future. If you practise for an interview, you'll stay calm.

The book "Jump Out of Your Head and Into Your Life" says to try it. Many fears are imagined, and language has power. If you change fear into excitement, people's feelings and behavior will be different.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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This is a common issue, particularly among those new to the workplace. There is often a lack of clarity regarding what to expect during an interview, which can lead to anxiety about whether they will be able to handle it. At the same time, there is often a hope of securing the position, which can give rise to concerns that if they do not perform well in the interview and do not get the job, they may miss out on their ideal role and career path, which could have implications for their future professional development.

In the face of such a situation, the first thing you need to do is accept your inner anxiety and fear and prepare to face the interview with such emotions. Secondly, do a good job of preparing before the interview, such as having a brief introduction of relevant personal information and documents and completing relevant information about the position you are applying for. Doing a good job of preparing will help you feel more at ease.

I have previously been in a similar situation. When applying for a mechanic position, in addition to answering some simple questions, I was asked to operate the machinery and complete the machining and processing of the mechanical tools and products. At the time, I was also quite nervous and concerned that I would not be able to pass. However, the master who interviewed me reassured me that I had done well.

Fear of the unknown can be described as an instinctive reaction to life's challenges. On the one hand, this reaction encourages individuals to focus their attention and engage in thoughtful reflection to enhance their abilities and develop effective responses to the unknown. On the other hand, it serves as a form of self-protection, prompting individuals to exercise caution and avoid hasty actions.

If the fear reaches a certain level and there is a significant and intense somatic response that seriously affects an individual's normal work and life, it can be said to be a disorder. If it does not reach this level, it can be said to be an instinctive reaction. From the situation described by the questioner, it seems that the individual tends to react instinctively. It is recommended that you accept the situation and face it head on. If you are still feeling nervous, try breathing to relax and adjust your breathing to relax yourself, to relieve anxiety and fear.

The above represents my personal opinion, which I offer for the questioner's consideration.

Hello, my name is Zeyu.

If we would like to overcome our fear of interviews, we might consider changing our beliefs about interviews.

The question inquires about the author's experiences with interviews and the emotions that may accompany them. The author has participated in several interviews since graduating from university, but they have not been successful. Additionally, the author was recently unable to interview with a state-owned enterprise due to various circumstances. This has led to a certain level of apprehension and discomfort with interviews. Let's first examine the emotional aspects. What do resistance and fear mean to us?

Perhaps what we resist and fear is not the interview itself, but the possibility of fearing that we may not be able to find a job. Is that really the case? The answer is, of course, that it is not. If it is just a simple job, we can find it at any time. The problem is that we want to find a job we like.

It's important to remember that job interviews are a common part of the job search process, especially during graduation season. While it's natural to feel disappointed when we don't get the job we wanted, it's essential to consider all factors that may have contributed to the outcome. It's not always a reflection of personal ability, but rather a complex interplay of factors. It's understandable to feel a sense of resistance when faced with challenging job searches. It's natural to feel uncertain and to question our ability to find the right job. However, it's crucial to recognize that having hope and resilience are essential for navigating these challenges.

It is also understandable that, coupled with the disappointment of failure, emotional instability is a normal reaction.

It would be beneficial to overcome resistance and fear, which may require us to give ourselves the courage to start over. If we regard interview failure as the norm and success as the exception, it may help to mentally unwind and stop being so tense. For emotions such as resistance and fear, we could try to find positive experiences and evidence to give ourselves hope and allow ourselves to feel fear and resistance.

If we lack relevant experience in the matter of interviews, we might consider sharing our concerns with trusted teachers, peers, or family members to gain their support and comfort. When we can muster the courage to start over, I believe we will be able to find a job that suits us well.

From your description, it's clear you're eager to find work and interviews are a great way to start. It's understandable you're a bit nervous, but you've already taken the first step by reaching out to me. I'm here to help you prepare for interviews and seize the opportunities that come your way.

You want to know how you can overcome your fear of interviews. Since you have given relatively little information, I will give my opinion from a theoretical perspective.

First, you mentioned that since graduating from university, you've had the chance to participate in several interviews. I'm sure you'll be successful in your next one! I don't know when you graduated, but I'm excited to hear more about your journey.

So, how long has it been since you graduated? I'd love to hear more about what your life is like now that you're out in the big wide world!

Do you live at home with your parents or on your own? How did you pay for your living expenses after graduation?

Do you earn it yourself or do your parents give it to you? Either way, it's great that you have your own income!

How do you pay for your living expenses when you don't have an income?

If this period is relatively long, a fantastic opportunity may arise in which you can still have money or someone willing to pay your living expenses if you don't work. Then you may not be in a hurry to find a job, or you may not need to work. You may intentionally or unintentionally fail the interviews and fail to find a job. It's just that your life seems very busy, you are busy sending resumes and going to interviews, and then failing. But don't worry! This is just a temporary blip. You'll find the perfect job for you in no time!

It looks like you're trying to change the status quo, but in fact you're trying to maintain the status quo, the status quo of not working. This requires a prerequisite: money to pay living expenses. But don't worry! There are plenty of ways to earn money.

After all, every year you need money for food, clothing, and housing. If you can solve the problem of food, clothing, and housing without working, then you may not want to work. But then you will feel that after graduating from university, it is time to enter society and earn your own living—and that is an exciting prospect!

So work hard, and don't let the job search succeed! I don't know your specific situation, but I'm sure you'll find the perfect fit.

In other words, you are trying to make yourself unable to successfully pass the interview by maintaining a state of being unable to find a job, not preparing for the interview, and being afraid of the interview. Don't take this personally!

The second is the technical flow. For example, if you say you are not prepared for the interview, and after failing an interview more than once, you should at least learn from your experience and do a little preparation for the interview based on the position you are applying for, and learn about the industry, the company, the position, etc. This is your chance to shine!

So, let's get ready for your big interview! The first thing you need to do is make a strategy. Look online for questions that interviewers are likely to ask. These are basically about the position, major, and personal situation, with a little more about the company and industry. List these questions, and then the night before each interview, spend an hour organizing the answers for the next day's interview. You've got this!

It is a great idea to set a time, such as 9 to 10 pm the night before. You can then determine how long it will take based on your list of questions and answers. Be sure to set a time, the more specific the better!

Then spend a little time reading your compiled information three times, preferably out loud or in front of a mirror, to your family. This is a great way to repeat your answers and help you feel more confident during the interview!

I am often a pessimistic counselor, but I also have a positive and motivated side. I love the world, and I love you!

Hello, questioner! I am Jia Ao Bu Xun, your heart exploration coach.

Job hunting and finding a job is difficult. I work in recruitment and know the details. You say you've done many interviews since graduation and failed. Have you identified why? You also have feelings of resistance and fear. How will you overcome them in future interviews?

I failed the interview. What can I do to succeed in the future?

Interviews may seem easy, but they require a great deal of skill. You have participated in so many interviews, so you must have analyzed and summarized each one. Have you identified any patterns or techniques? Interviews place a great deal of importance on "eye contact." In addition to the candidate's appearance, they also place great importance on the individual's "overall quality." If you don't prepare well, you will certainly be unable to succeed.

I want to know how to overcome my fear and resistance to interviews.

☀️Confront difficulties head-on: Many people feel like they are taking an exam when it comes to interviews, and face them with a nervous test-taking mentality, but they don't know that the essence of an interview is communication. On the one hand, an interview is a process that allows the interviewer to get to know you, and to show yourself in front of them. You should still respond with an attitude of communication. Confronting difficulties head-on can reduce nervousness. There is no right or wrong in an interview. Before going, you should strengthen your knowledge and expertise in the relevant industry, and improve your ability to respond. This is the best way to build self-confidence and overcome nervousness.

☀️Lower your psychological expectations: Your mindset during the interview is crucial. "Do your best and prepare for the worst." Don't take the outcome too seriously. Lowering your expectations will help you not to obsess over the interview. Don't put psychological pressure on yourself. Relax and give yourself positive mental suggestions. Tell yourself that being nervous won't solve any problems. Use this to overcome your nervousness during the interview.

☀️Improve professional competence: You're nervous during an interview because you're worried about your professional competence. Interview questions can change unpredictably, and the perspective of the interview can change in a myriad of ways. If your professional competence is insufficient, it's inevitable that you'll be fearful. Before attending an interview, you need to learn more about the industry, including relevant information about the company conducting the interview. During the interview, think clearly and don't answer irrelevant questions. Improve your professional competence to overcome the fear of interviews. Before the interview, you should accumulate professional knowledge, improve your abilities in all aspects, and prepare for the interview in a targeted manner. This is called not fighting an unprepared battle.

☀️ Mental adjustment before the exam: Prepare well for the interview. Don't let fear hold you back. When waiting for the interview, take a deep breath and calm down. Think about the professional knowledge points you have memorized before and go over them again. You can do this. With a smile on your face, you can communicate with the interviewer with confidence. Sincerity is very important, and I believe you can do it.

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The STAR method is the best way to answer interview questions. This book teaches you how to use your actual experiences to answer interview questions effectively and improve your personal expression.

The Art of Interviewing: Author Wang Xinyu. This book provides a detailed analysis of all aspects of the interview, including self-introduction, behavioral interviews, and pressure interviews, and provides a large number of practical cases and coping strategies. It is the ideal reference for job seekers in various industries. You will find what you need here.

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Hello, questioner! It's totally normal and understandable to feel resistant and fearful when facing interview failure.

It's totally normal to feel this way, but don't let it get in the way of your career goals! Here are some tips to help you gradually overcome this psychological barrier:

1. Face and accept your emotions: It's totally normal to feel a bit nervous and scared, and it's important not to be too hard on yourself for it. Give yourself some time and space to accept these emotions before you can start to deal with them in a positive way.

2. Take a good, honest look at what didn't go so well. Think back to your previous interviews, especially the recent one with the state-owned enterprise. Ask yourself: What could I have done better? Was it a lack of preparation? Maybe I didn't have the right skills. Was I too nervous? Did I stumble over my words?

You've got this! Once you identify the problem, you can start making targeted improvements.

3. Develop an improvement plan:

— Improve your skills: Based on what you've learned, you can now focus on learning and improving relevant skills or knowledge in a targeted manner.

—Mock interviews: Don't be afraid to ask friends and family or take an interview skills training course to practice mock interviews! This will help you become familiar with the interview process and reduce your nervousness.

— Be sure to do your homework! Look into the company, the job, and any common questions you might get. Being prepared will boost your confidence!

— Psychological adjustment: It's a great idea to learn some relaxation techniques, like deep breathing and meditation. These can really help you stay calm during the interview.

4. Adjust your mindset:

— Positive thinking: Don't be afraid to view failure as an opportunity for growth! Every interview is a learning experience that brings you closer to success.

— Build self-confidence: Take a moment to reflect on your strengths and achievements. Remind yourself that you are capable of doing the job!

— Set small goals: It's okay to break down big goals (such as finding the perfect job) into small goals (such as preparing a perfect resume, answering a difficult question successfully, etc.). You've got this! Each small goal you achieve will boost your confidence.

5. Seek support when you need it!

— Talk to others: Share your feelings with friends, family, or career mentors. They'll be there for you, cheering you on and offering support.

— Join a community: It's a great idea to join a job search or industry-related community where you can exchange experiences with like-minded people and encourage each other.

— Be patient and persistent! Job hunting and interviews are a process that may take time and patience. We all face a few failures along the way, but don't give up! Persevere, and success will come.

We all face challenges in our careers. The important thing is to learn from them and grow. With a little help from the above methods, you can gradually overcome the psychological barriers of the interview and become more confident and composed.

Hi, I'm Deng Hong, a listening coach. I'm here to listen to all your thoughts and feelings with all my heart. Please feel free to chat with me anytime!

Good morning. My name is Super Sister from Yixinli.

You indicated that you were unsuccessful in the recent interview due to a lack of preparation. Could you please elaborate on your understanding of the criteria for adequate preparation?

There are numerous instances in life where one might find themselves dissatisfied. In some cases, this is due to external factors, while in others, it is a result of personal reasons. One effective strategy is to create a comprehensive list of the necessary preparations for a successful interview and then conduct a regular review of one's performance, identifying both areas of strength and areas that require improvement.

Once one has exerted their utmost effort, it is imperative to accept that success is a consequence of one's own merit, whereas failure is indicative of circumstances beyond one's control. It is crucial to recognize that the future may hold even more promising opportunities.

Since antiquity, fear has been, at its core, an apprehension of survival and the unknown.

It is therefore to be expected that you are fearful. This is a common experience.

As a result of uncertainty regarding the outcome of the next interview, you may experience apprehension about securing a favorable position, which could potentially impact your ability to provide for yourself. It is understandable to acknowledge these concerns and address them in a constructive manner. By recognizing your fear and acknowledging its presence, you can begin to confront it directly. Only through acceptance and confrontation can you ultimately overcome these fears and pursue your desired outcomes.

I am particularly fond of the following passage, and it is my hope that it will also imbue you with courage.

Fear has the potential to impede cognitive processes.

Fear impedes cognitive processes.

Fear can be considered a metaphorical "death god," in that it ultimately leads to destruction.

I will confront my deepest fears.

I will permit it to traverse my corporeal form.

Once the emotion has dissipated,

I will comprehend its trajectory.

In its wake, nothing remains.

I am alone.

It is my hope that we can all learn to face the challenges of life with courage and to confront our fears with composure.

The questioner, the present is good! Be grateful to have met you.

Your description shows you are anxious, afraid, and defeated after failing the interview. Hugs!

Let's talk about this together.

1. Seeing your emotions

Seeing that you have failed several interviews will make you feel frustrated and doubt your abilities. Seeing that you have not succeeded in an interview since graduating will make you feel anxious and afraid of interviews.

If you failed because you weren't prepared or didn't perform well, you might feel self-blame and resentment. You might also worry more when applying for jobs later.

These emotions are worth seeing so you can move on.

You can write down these emotions, talk to friends or family, or talk to listeners or counselors. First, let your emotions out, then think about the event in a new way.

2. Failure is just feedback.

There is no failure, only feedback. You didn't get the job, but you still have a lot of experience to draw on.

You learn from your mistakes.

Just because you don't get the job now doesn't mean you'll fail next time. You might learn from this and get the job you want.

3. Be yourself.

The job market is still tough for many people, even after graduation. It's okay to take some time to find the right job. Relax, be yourself, and keep learning. You have unique skills and strengths that will serve you well.

Compare the requirements for your dream job on the job board and see what you need to do to meet them. Learn as much as you can and find ways to help others. Focusing on improving yourself will give you more motivation to become more energetic and attract good things and people to you.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

Hi, I'm Coach Yu, and I'd like to talk about this topic with you.

Emotional perception is our ability to recognize, control, and regulate our own emotions. It's also a key aspect of emotional intelligence.

In "The Plastic Me," Chen Jiejun notes that many people struggle to manage their emotions and reactions because they confuse feelings, emotions, and thoughts.

What are feelings? They're the physical and biological reactions of the body to external factors.

For instance, if someone stabs you with a needle, you feel pain. If it's cold outside, you feel cold. Feelings include reactions to external and internal stimuli.

What are emotions? They're how we react to feelings.

For instance, if it's a hot day and you're feeling annoyed or excited because your palms are sweaty and your heart's racing, that's an emotional response. Emotions and feelings generally respond through the peripheral nervous system of the nervous system.

Thoughts are how we make sense of our feelings and emotions.

Since thoughts involve understanding and interpretation, they generally originate in the central nervous system, not the peripheral nervous system.

As the questioner wrote, after graduating from university, I have taken part in several interviews but have not been successful. A few days ago, I missed out on this opportunity again because I was not prepared. Now I have some resistance and fear towards interviews.

Next, we can take another look at this process to see if we can understand our emotional changes and then manage and express our emotions to solve this problem of emotional perception.

What were my feelings and thoughts after a few failed interviews? Was it because I wasn't prepared?

Did I not do well? Do I get another chance?

How can we make the most of it next time?

We can also ask ourselves what an interview means to us and what job hunting means to us.

How would I describe what's going on in my heart right now?

We can also ask ourselves what's driving our resistance to the interview and why we're afraid of it.

If you're not feeling any of those emotions or thoughts, what's your reaction?

We can also ask ourselves what our ideal self is and what our ideal job interview experience would be like.

What can I do to fix this?

It's often said that failure is the mother of success, but not all failure experiences can help us succeed in the end. People often attribute success and failure to three dimensions: stability, control points, and controllability.

If we credit ourselves for success, it makes us feel good about ourselves. But if we blame ourselves for failure, it makes us feel bad. As the questioner said, if we don't prepare and don't do well, it makes us less motivated to succeed.

So, feelings, emotions, and thoughts are actually the result of a smooth coordination between the nervous system and the brain. When this coordination is seamless, you feel calm inside.

It's always a good idea to keep track of how you're feeling. Write down what you're thinking and feeling in the moment. This will help us understand the causes and effects of emotions and also help us figure out the root of the problem.

It's also important to be aware of the needs behind our emotions. What do we really want? Knowing what we want will help us distinguish between what we want and

What do others want me to want? As Winnicott said, healing happens when your true self begins to emerge.

We need to get to know ourselves and face the real us.

If this is an issue for you, it can be tough to overcome it straight away. It's a good idea to find a family member or friend you trust who you can talk to. If you need to, you can also look for a counselor. It's important to have someone you can talk to about your feelings.

We also need to keep exploring ways to improve ourselves and become more aware of ourselves. Over time, we'll learn our own unique value and create a system for assessing ourselves. You'll be able to face life with confidence and make choices with confidence.

I'd like to suggest we read "The Plastic Me."

Hello, questioner. I can see the confusion you are facing now, and I'm here to help.

You have graduated from university and have participated in several interviews since then, but you haven't been successful.

These bad experiences will make you doubt yourself and make you feel like you're not good enough just before going to an interview.

This is called "learned helplessness" in psychology.

In recent years, the country has been hit by the epidemic. It is becoming increasingly common for companies to choose to hire someone with work experience over a recent university graduate, even if they are hiring and conducting interviews.

There are plenty of books on interview skills on the market.

The questioner should buy a book on this subject.

And there is one more thing you need to know.

You must tailor your approach to each interview. Some skills are not transferable.

I have also failed an interview before. I later realized where I went wrong. I went to an interview at a multinational company and copied what I had prepared for the previous interview at a state-owned enterprise.

The personnel department of the multinational company that I interviewed with saw that I knew so little about their company and passed me over, of course.

There are other reasons that can also lead to your interview failure.

If you don't calculate the commuting time to the company you're going to interview with in advance, you might be late.

When you realize you're almost late, your heart is racing.

Panic at an interview is a surefire way to mess up.

On the day of the interview, you must leave the house two to three hours early to prevent any unexpected situations on the way, which could affect your performance.

I am confident that the problem you are facing will be resolved soon.

That's all I can think of.

I am the respondent, and I am confident that my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you. I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world loves you too. Best wishes!

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