How to possess the ability to face the malice and injuries in life with courage and calmness?

If I may, I would like to share a few feelings with the energetic questioner.

When you can face pressure, it might be helpful to consider sharing it with others, discussing it with a trusted individual, and finding an answer together. You've already taken an important first step by sharing it with others.

Everyone experiences life in their own way, and this is reflected in how they respond to the challenges they face. Some people are able to face and overcome a range of difficulties with courage and resilience, while others may find it more difficult to cope and may retreat or give up. Your question is a valuable one, and it's important to approach life with a positive mindset.

When we are uncertain about our direction, it can be challenging to move forward. Having a clear sense of purpose and the belief that we can achieve our goals is essential for navigating these moments.

It is my personal belief that if you are a working person, you should try to find a job you enjoy, even if the pay is not as high as you would like at the moment. Having confidence in yourself and your ability to persevere is also important.

In life, we all have different approaches. Some people embrace a more poetic way of living, while others face challenges with resilience. This is the pattern of life.

It would be beneficial to do what you should do at your age and at the right time.

For instance, when it's time to go to school, it would be beneficial to study hard and learn the knowledge you need. When it's time to fall in love, it's perfectly acceptable to do so. When it's time to sleep, it's advisable to go to bed. And when it's time to eat, it's important to nourish your body. A regular life is the foundation of all firm beliefs.

It is important to have enough knowledge and confidence in yourself. For example, if I am a common person, I can do the things common people do. What common people do is, in the current epidemic situation, not to cause trouble for the country. We can do this, believe in what we can do, and not do things outside the rules.

If I were a factory worker, I would strive to do my job well and ensure that your process does not impede the work of the entire team. I believe this would be beneficial.

The second is to study hard. With sufficient knowledge, we can gain insight into why others may become leaders.

I wonder why the country adopted such a policy and why the leader chose me instead of him. I also wonder if his attitude and approach to work might be worth learning from.

It may be helpful to summarize your own shortcomings and failures, ask those around you for advice with a humble attitude, give up bad habits, and make progress every day.

I hope this is helpful for you. I believe you will continue to improve with time.

Hello. When you posed this question, you demonstrated considerable courage in advocating for yourself. Regardless of the challenges you have faced, you have taken steps to find ways to cope, which is a commendable effort.

As human beings, we inevitably encounter challenges and setbacks in our professional lives. These difficulties may arise from a variety of sources, including mistakes at work, unmet goals, or the attitudes of others. When we are unable to meet the expectations of our colleagues, we may feel inferior, angry, or dissatisfied with ourselves. This can lead to a sense of suffering.

To a large extent, stress and suffering reflect your level of happiness. What is happiness?

It is your disposition toward circumstances and the fortitude of your inner resolve. Happiness is the capacity to identify a source of resilience within yourself, regardless of external factors, to maintain psychological equilibrium, and to view challenges with a constructive perspective.

No individual's life is without challenges. The journey towards dynamic balance is an ongoing process. Behind the perceived difficulties, setbacks, and stress, lies an opportunity for introspection, self-care, and resilience.

Our inner self is in a constant state of flux, undergoing repeated trauma and repair cycles.

When problems and setbacks arise, it is essential to take a step back and assess the situation calmly. This involves evaluating whether the decision made was the right one, identifying areas for improvement, and determining how to move forward more effectively. It is crucial to avoid letting negative emotions such as anger, inferiority, and depression cloud judgment. Reflection is the key to identifying solutions and achieving positive outcomes.

Reflection is the process of becoming a more effective and well-rounded version of yourself. It entails developing a resilient and compassionate inner core. This journey begins with self-awareness and introspection, rather than relying solely on external sources of guidance.

Inner seeking is defined as the act of loving oneself.

What are your core objectives? What are your key strengths?

What are the disadvantages? How can these disadvantages be corrected to improve the individual's performance?

When you shift your focus from external factors to your own personal development, you will have endless motivation to invest in your own growth and understanding, rather than worrying about external factors.

In today's interconnected world, our universe can be viewed as a super quantum field, with emotions as variables that are constantly affected by this field. It is evident that positive emotions can transmit positive energy, while negative emotions can also transmit negative energy. When individuals possess the power of happiness, their emotions will generate positive and positive energy. When these forces continue to be transmitted, they will have a chain reaction, affecting everyone around us, and we will start a different life.

I recommend reading the books Courage to Be Disliked and Love Needs to Be Learned, which I believe will be beneficial.

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Hello,

You seem to be asking how to become self-aware and have a strong inner self.

You can ask this question to show that you may have encountered something that is not understood or affirmed. Let me give you a hug.

In this fast-paced era, it's about being yourself.

Different schools of psychology have different views.

Our current personality and behavior may come from our early experiences. If we didn't gain recognition early on, it will be difficult for us to be ourselves.

Object relations theory: We didn't become ourselves, or we're very fragile, mainly because when we were babies, we didn't find a good enough object, so we formed a false self to protect ourselves.

The systems theory perspective is good because our current behavior is the result of interactions within the system and active choices.

How to break the pattern:

The splitting view: Know your defense mechanisms and heal childhood trauma.

Find a good object and repair your fragile self.

Systems theory: All actions and consequences are choices made by the adaptive system. To change the result, you must either do something new or think differently about what you're doing.

Everyone's confused for different reasons. You didn't say why, so I'll talk about this from a broader perspective.

I hope this helps. Please let me know if you have any questions. Thanks.

Hello, dear!

You want to become a courageous and open-minded person, and you want to find the inner strength to face the various pressures life puts on you. I think this can be interpreted as facing the various demands life makes on you, such as being a good person, being successful, being an outstanding person, being confident, being rich, and so on. You can do it! You can face these demands head-on with a firm voice and an open attitude. Don't let these pressures lead you; lead yourself! You can resist these pressures and emerge stronger than ever.

You also mentioned how to face maliciousness and harm in life with courage, which I think is a great idea! Some of the stress in your life may come from facing strong interpersonal relationships, not knowing how to defend yourself, bravely expressing your own voice, defending your own boundaries, and frankly getting along with people who are malicious.

I think that whether we are facing maliciousness, aggressive relationships, bullying, or the various pressures society puts on us, our inner feelings are probably similar for everyone. And that's a good thing! Most of us feel anger, fear, and uncertainty about what to do, but we can overcome these feelings together.

This is a totally natural emotional response. Deep down, you really want to be courageous, open, and steadfast in the face of these external upheavals.

I think that when you face these external pressures and malicious intent, it's totally normal to feel a bit overwhelmed. But you've got this! When you vaguely become aware of these very vulnerable parts within you, your heart will long for a powerful force to illuminate a path for you, to lead you away from all kinds of confusion and to stand in the midst of clarity and strength. And you will find it!

Everyone desires courage, strength, and clarity. These are the keys to stability and happiness in our fast-moving world! But here's an interesting twist: sometimes, the desire for courage is actually an escape from and denial of the true self. For example, we might not feel strong enough, courageous enough, or clear enough. The hope of becoming a courageous person is often used to cover up the part of ourselves that lacks courage and clarity.

The logic behind this is to escape, as well as to deny and dislike this aspect of oneself for not being courageous enough. This pursuit of courage is often a disguised form of self-attack. This path of courage is doomed to failure and will only make oneself more scarred and exhausted. But there's another way!

I think the first step to gaining courage and strength is to admit that the current self may be without courage, without strength, without direction, and very vulnerable. But here's the good news: you can change all that! For this aspect and fact of yourself, you must deeply understand and accept it, and see this self that has no courage, no strength, and no direction. And then, you can start to build a new, stronger self!

Be there for this self, cheer this self on, stand by this self's side, and say, "I see you, and I'm here for you! I see your current fear, I see your current confusion. It's okay, I'm with you. It's okay to be afraid, it's okay to be unsure of how to respond. You've got this!"

Embrace that vulnerable self of yours! Allow your awareness and permission to guide you into a state of relaxation. Even when faced with external harm and malice, you gave your full attention to that uncomfortable self in the moment, and that is something to celebrate!

At that moment, you will probably feel a sense of relief and support, as if a weight has been lifted from your shoulders. You will feel safe and understood, and any external harm will not leave scars in your heart.

After going through this process, I'm excited to tell you that I think you'll feel like true strength is growing from within you! Rather than deliberately seeking to become brave and strong, it is by honestly accepting, facing, and embracing your own vulnerability that this vulnerability is nourished and supported by yourself. Then, as the vulnerability relaxes, what remains is a clear sense of yourself!

It is a you that knows how to protect yourself and respond appropriately to the outside world!

This courage and strength already exist within you! They're just temporarily overshadowed by feelings of vulnerability and powerlessness, which make you think you're powerless. But the truth is, you're just temporarily feeling vulnerable and confused. You can listen to, understand, and accept your vulnerability and confusion, and then this depressed state will feel relaxed and leave you!

You will return to a state of strength and clarity!

Haha, I don't know if I've confused you, but this is a path you can definitely try out for yourself! It's a great way to verify for yourself whether or not this is something you'd like to try.

Recovering your strength is an amazing journey! It all starts with understanding and accepting the part of yourself that has lost its strength.

I really hope this helps! Take care!

Hello!

Hug yourself. I feel down, but I listen to my heart and try to break through and grow. I want to connect with the world, feel happy, and accept myself.

Why not find what you like doing and stick with it?

There is no color to life. People add color to life. The best color is to fill yourself up, grow yourself, and enrich your spirit. This kind of emptiness is not a sense of inferiority. Your heart is full of energy, the ability to love me, and the comfort of finding a way to reconcile with the world. The pain we endure may be the same, but the way we feel and interpret the pain is changing.

How can we find ourselves in today's fast-changing world?

If you're confused, disoriented, or indecisive, it's because you lack clarity. You need to connect with yourself and understand your true desires. This requires self-awareness, a positive outlook, and knowledge. Mental growth helps you break free from confusion, expand your boundaries, and connect with the world around you.

How do you heal yourself?

1. Learn to relieve stress.

Stress is everywhere, but you can reduce it by learning to view it correctly, finding ways to relieve it, and dealing with life emotionally. Only by valuing your own energy can you have a chance to change your life.

Ways to relieve stress: 1. Give yourself positive encouragement. 2. Don't evaluate yourself in an absolute way. 3. Look at yourself with an objective perspective.

2. Improve your life and relationships.

In college, I read an article about why people are unhappy. The main reason was "interpersonal relationships." I thought that if you are open-minded and cheerful, you can resolve all unpleasant emotions. But I learned that relationships are sensitive and fragile. After entering society, I learned how difficult it is to establish a healthy relationship. The best way is to learn to do subtraction, while paying attention to the strength of the heart. Don't be demanding of others, but do your own part well. People with the same frequency will "like attracts like," forming a supportive relationship with love and stability.

Growing up is not something that happens overnight. It is a process of trial and error. The important thing is to know your own goals. Without a goal, it is difficult to reach the other side.

3. Be confident and accept yourself.

A seed needs the wind and rain of all four seasons to grow. At first, it doesn't know what is good for it and what is bad, but time will tell. Only those who have gained wisdom and strength will be able to change the way they feel about the world and truly achieve confidence and freedom.

The questioner wants happiness. Don't be depressed. Accept yourself. Hug yourself. Encourage and strengthen yourself. Read and think positively. Life will reward you.

Best wishes!

Greetings, host.

"How might one cultivate the courage and capacity to confront life's adversities with an open mind?"

In my estimation, this is an excellent question that warrants reflection on the fundamental aspects of human existence, namely the pursuit of happiness and the attainment of a meaningful life. The original poster alluded to two potential sources of pressure, namely:

1. External pressures: societal, interpersonal, and existential.

2. Internal pressure: the internal chaos.

It seems prudent to consider the answer to this question from these two perspectives.

The confusion that arises from an inability to understand oneself.

The key to navigating the internal chaos is to gain self-knowledge, which can be achieved by answering the three fundamental questions: "Who am I? Where did I come from? Where am I going?"

Those who lack self-knowledge tend to seek external validation and material comforts to enhance their sense of self-worth and existence.

A lack of knowledge regarding one's origin and the underlying reasons for one's current state of being impedes the ability to regulate emotions and relinquish the considerable psychological burden that often accompanies such a state.

In the absence of a clear sense of direction, exerting significant effort may paradoxically intensify feelings of being adrift and uncertain. This can give rise to a pervasive concern about missing out on opportunities and potentially disadvantageous outcomes in the future.

This is the primary objective of adolescence, as outlined by Erikson in his eight-stage model of human development. The adolescent years are a crucial period for the formation of self-identity.

Specific tools that can be employed to facilitate an understanding of one's purpose include the Johari Window, the Big Five Personality Test, the Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality test, and the archetypes (shadows, personality masks, self, anima, and animus) as postulated by Jung. The objective of self-knowledge is to enable more effective planning of one's life and the identification of a developmental trajectory that aligns with one's needs, while simultaneously addressing internal conflict and achieving self-identity.

How to Bravely Face External Pressures

The process of developing a comprehensive understanding of oneself, identifying one's life's purpose, and determining one's deepest aspirations is inherently challenging. Sustaining the commitment to pursue this path is even more arduous.

Such actions may result in opposition from family members, incomprehension from friends, ridicule from opponents, and even self-doubt and denial within the individual, in addition to fear of the uncertainty of the future.

At this juncture, it is of particular importance to cultivate a robust sense of self-identity and self-worth. This enables one to defy public opinion, to withstand the disapproval of others, and to disregard external evaluations, as one is fully cognizant of one's intentions and actions.

In my own experience, I have found three techniques to be particularly useful for developing a sense of self-identity and worth.

1. Exercise

The significance of maintaining a robust and resilient physique is readily apparent. Frequent, moderate aerobic exercise has been demonstrated to not only enhance one's emotional state and promote feelings of physical and mental well-being but also foster self-control and self-discipline.

The time required for activities such as running or hiking with friends on the weekends is minimal, typically only half an hour per session.

2. It is recommended that you read more.

Reading is an activity that requires a minimal investment of time and resources but offers a substantial return in terms of knowledge and personal growth. It can enhance one's understanding and self-image while also providing a sense of self-worth and preventing the negative effects of emptiness.

One may also choose to join a book club, where one can share notes on the books one has read. This can be considered a form of exercise and an opportunity for growth, as well as a way to meet like-minded individuals.

3. Cultivate a leisure activity.

Hobbies can assist in the restoration of self-confidence and recognition when confronted with self-doubt and the challenges of life. One may choose to learn an instrument, engage in calligraphy, painting, or dance.

These three aspects can assist in maintaining a sense of self-worth in the face of external doubts, negativity, and malice. They can also provide the mental fortitude to remain true to one's own values and beliefs.

The following represents a synthesis of my thoughts on the matter. It is my hope that they will prove to be of some assistance.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a modest, self-effacing person who is consistent in my approach.

Sometimes, a simple answer doesn't fully capture the complexity of the issue.

Facing pressure and confusion.

I often see in short video public account articles how much money someone suddenly makes from one thing, and it seems like they've easily reached a pinnacle in their lives. So we start looking back at what we've done and realize that we haven't achieved much, let alone know when we'll reach their level. The more we look, the more confused we become.

I think that people who are also young people have their own life pressures, but why can they live life with a better sense of ceremony, and why can they deal with this pressure so well that their lives seem so full of poetry? All these doubts and suspicions make us feel a great sense of denial and disapproval of ourselves.

After seeing so much of this information, we start to doubt ourselves, lose confidence, stop believing in our choices, and stop accepting better situations. We start to want to try but find that we don't have the ability or reason to persevere. As a result, we feel more and more pressure and become less and less satisfied with our current lives.

How to adjust your state of mind.

Stress is a problem that affects everyone in the modern world. No matter how good things are today or how different people's experiences are, everyone faces challenges in their work. It's also fair to say that nobody's completely happy on this road. For this reason, the beauty we see in the world can hopefully inspire us to seek out more beauty.

We should know what we're confused about: whether it's that our current work lacks purpose or that our current life lacks direction. We know the source of our confusion and then quietly hone our skills while waiting for the flowers to bloom. One minute on stage requires ten years of hard work offstage. Every perfect performance comes from thousands of hours of practice.

❀For the unsteady. This is actually the most common problem we encounter because there are so many temptations in this world. We have lots of ideas we want to try out and we're also determined to give it our all. This makes us think a lot and feel like we have lots of possibilities, which makes it difficult for us to stick to a path.

This is a normal state of affairs, so we need to be aware of ourselves.

Wishing you the best!

Our lives are full of both kindness and malice. When we encounter malice, we are essentially judging certain malicious thoughts and behaviors. It can be challenging to determine and control how others treat us.

It is also important to consider your own standards of judgment. What kind of behavior is considered malicious, and what is considered some kind of pressure and confusion? We are living in the 21st century, and it is becoming increasingly clear that we are facing a number of uncertainties. It is not always easy to predict which individuals or financial instruments will perform well in the face of these challenges.

How might we find the courage to face the challenges that life presents?

We all have the capacity to face harm and to cope with the various pressures that life inevitably throws our way.

We must also learn to navigate the chaos, confusion, and indecision that can arise within ourselves.

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In the face of the ever-changing external world, we can still do our best to find solutions. You can already see a reconciliation in your current situation, and understand your thoughts a little better, as well as how events affect your perceptions.

It would be beneficial to maintain a more determined and positive attitude, and to be brave in finding solutions.

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It might be helpful to take the initiative to face difficulties and allow yourself to grow from them.

It is important to remember that when we encounter malice from others, it can also be an opportunity for personal growth. While the methods they use to express themselves are their own business and may not align with our values, it is not necessarily our responsibility to intervene. Given the challenges we face in the world, it is essential to prioritize our own well-being and protection.

While it may not be possible to save the world, it is important to learn how to protect yourself and to gain a clearer understanding of your own needs and desires. By maintaining a sense of stability in your main tasks, side tasks, and sub-tasks, you can find your true self and become less affected by external stressors and the malicious intent of others.

It might be helpful to remember that these things often come from outside ourselves. We all have a firm and certain inner self, as well as lots of thoughts inside our heads. We also have certain levels of achievement that we aspire to reach and a certain vision of the life we want to live.

Your true self has the potential to protect you. It can be beneficial to recognize how you want to live your life, what is most important to you, and how to balance career planning, living habits, and interpersonal relationships. This can help you gradually learn to make choices and become more aware of your desires.

For those who have clearly malicious intentions, we can consider refusing and attempting to overcome the harm they have caused themselves. This is because they do not care about us, and we do not care about others, regardless of what they say. When we feel pain, we can also try talking to someone. I wish you well.

Could I ask you a question, ZQ?

Hello, thank you for your question. I will do my best to answer it.

I believe that your expression of it is vague and not specific enough.

Your question is quite vague and not specific enough for me to be able to answer it. For example, you mentioned stress.

However, given the many types of stress, it is challenging to provide a straightforward answer to this question.

However, if I might make one further suggestion, it would be to consider the importance of becoming self-aware in the present moment.

And develop the self.

From what you've said, I get the impression that you're very concerned about yourself.

It seems that you are entering a stage of self-growth and personality development.

There are undoubtedly a plethora of avenues through which one can foster personal growth.

For those just starting out on their journey of growth, it might be helpful to focus on becoming your true self, both in your personal life and as you navigate the complexities of social interaction.

I believe the reason is that when we go

I believe that when we work hard at something, the very act of doing it can give us some traction.

This traction is likely what is commonly referred to as a push, which can be a driving force even when one might be inclined to give up. However, one can still find a way out by persevering.

In this way, you may find that you achieve some practical gains and results.

This could include things like income, money, and personal social identity.

These can help you connect with some new possibilities. In society, it is possible that we may encounter some difficulties.

It is possible that we may encounter some difficulties along the way.

Nevertheless, there is still a way forward.

Perhaps it would be helpful to start by identifying our familiar areas.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to find something that we ourselves feel.

It's important to remember that it's not about what other people think of you.

However, it is important to consider the role of income, livelihood, and money in this process. The identity and social processes that result from these factors are real and valid, and it is essential to acknowledge this. The basic methods that lead to further growth and development are also worthy of attention.

If you are fortunate enough to gain some practical skills, you may wish to consider reading books or taking courses.

It may be helpful to learn to name your feelings and experiences. This could allow you to annotate your experiences in a way that is meaningful to you.

It is important to remember to take your time and allow yourself to mature, even in the field you are involved in, you should try to make your unique personality shine through.

When you gradually settle down and allow yourself to become your own person, it is often through certain aspects of what you do.

That is who you are.

Dear Question Asker,

The question is somewhat vague. In response, I will provide a concise overview of my perspective on this matter.

The social environment is inherently unpredictable. Enhancing one's capacity to affirm oneself and be true to oneself is analogous to discovering a martial arts manual that is tailored to one's individual needs. Attaining proficiency in these skills will facilitate more effective navigation of the social landscape.

The phenomenon of confusion is a normal and necessary aspect of the human experience. It can be defined as a state of uncertainty or ambiguity, accompanied by a lack of clarity or understanding.

It is a normal and necessary consequence of the exploratory process to experience a certain degree of confusion. This confusion often arises from an excess of thinking and a corresponding lack of action.

The only constant in the world is change, and plans are often unable to adapt to this reality. While there is no perfect plan, adjustments can be made in real-time based on the evolving situation. The key is to take action and assess the feasibility of our ideas through practical application.

In the absence of a definitive answer, it is advisable to proceed with a degree of audacity. Even if the outcome proves to be erroneous, the experience will undoubtedly prove invaluable.

Bravery is not an innate quality; rather, it is a deliberate choice made when one is aware of the potential consequences and is still willing to take the risk. In order to make this choice, one must have a reasonable grasp and prediction of the actual situation.

The quality of courage is not an inherent trait; rather, it is a decision that is made when one is cognizant of the potential outcomes and is still willing to assume the risk. The prerequisite for this decision is that one has a reasonable understanding and prediction of the actual situation, as opposed to making an arbitrary choice.

Affirmation of the self is a crucial step in navigating the unpredictable social environment. It entails recognizing one's inherent worth and capacity for growth, despite the uncertainty that characterizes our external reality.

We are afforded the freedom to choose, and the choices we make are predicated on our predictions regarding the situation, which are subsequently validated by reality. To illustrate, if I believe I can accomplish a task proficiently and subsequently demonstrate this ability through diligent effort, I will gain a sense of personal value and enhance my self-identity.

Notwithstanding the inability to experience this sense of value, it remains an inherent truth that one is, in fact, full of value most of the time. Those who find it challenging to feel a sense of value are likely to have become accustomed to ignoring their own value in life.

I recently read the book Parenting Your Inner Child, which I believe will be of great assistance in addressing your question. I am Ka-Crack T, and I extend my best wishes to you and the world.

Hello, question asker. My name is Evan.

From the author's account, it is evident that the author is currently experiencing confusion, disorientation, and indecision. It is only natural to feel pressure in life.

The country is now facing an epidemic, and individuals are also facing great pressure and challenges amidst various challenges.

You can face life's challenges with courage. Find the right way, get inspired, and boost your energy and motivation. Then you will be brave enough to face the pressures of life.

I'm going to give you some simple suggestions on how to face the pressures and challenges of life with courage.

Break down your goals and pressure.

At the beginning, it's natural to find a long-term goal daunting. But you can conquer it by breaking it down into smaller, more manageable steps.

Don't take on more than you can handle. Distribute your stress and difficulties, and focus on your own experiences and feelings. Make up your own mind, and take small steps forward in life every time.

Taking small steps forward every day means embracing opportunities and striving for perfection. This brings you one step closer to achieving your goal.

Make up your own mind.

There is no easy path in life. Choose a meaningful and worthwhile path and move forward, no matter how difficult it is. Use all your energy and fighting spirit to face the challenges ahead, just like the Olympic gold medalists who are eyeing their goal. Recharge, run, jump, and prove that you deserve a round of applause.

Furthermore, you may have to endure and tolerate malicious harm to reach your ideal position, but you can do it!

You can reach the shore. Don't yield to difficulties and challenges. You can defeat the pressure life brings you. Appear and perform with spirit. Move forward with pride and courage!

Gather strength from your rich inner world and the external environment, and live the best life you can! Take action and move forward step by step, and your goal will soon be reached.

Celebrate when you achieve a small goal.

Time is always moving forward, and time is always running out. When the subject is asleep, it stops. Otherwise, it always progresses. You must realize that slow but steady progress is better than nothing.

You should celebrate every step further you take, as long as you stick to your daily schedule.

You have to want it and be able to get up every time you fall, dust yourself off, and keep going if you want to get something meaningful and valuable in life. You have to long for it, overcome every obstacle, and not let anything distract you. You have to use all your energy to achieve it.

Cheer yourself on. Celebrate every time you take a step upwards. Encourage yourself.

Take control of what you can control.

Know what you want, what you can do, what you should do, and what you're going to do. The future is unknowable, and it may not be as you expect, but you can decide the present and plan for the future you want.

The questioner can and should create an effective action plan. It is crucial to make you feel that you are managing and controlling your life, not letting life control you. It is better to think of a response plan to problems in advance than to simply worry. If the questioner still chooses to worry, then plan to worry only at a certain time of the day.

Paying attention to the present is the best way to prepare for obstacles and difficulties in the future. This way, you'll be ready to face them head-on.

Life is not easy. You must cherish every moment. When facing pressures, don't forget to take care of your body. It's as important as maintaining your mental state. Your physical state is a major support for you to face pressures.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.

I am Xing Ying, a psychological counselor at One Mind, and a national level-3 certified counselor.

Your question is poignant and will resonate with many individuals who prioritize the significance of their existence. I can relate to that sentiment.

From your question, I have identified several key terms and aim to elucidate their potential meanings.

The initial keyword is "confusion."

The question of direction is a fundamental one in philosophy, particularly in relation to the human experience. It can be defined as the philosophical question of life: "Where am I going?"

The second keyword is:

The question of identity is a fundamental philosophical issue that many individuals grapple with throughout their lives. It often arises when there is a discrepancy between one's perceived self and one's actual self.

The third keyword is stress.

The discrepancy between one's desired and actual outcomes is a significant source of stress.

The fourth keyword is "rapid development."

A comparison between the development of the external environment and the speed of my growth reveals that when the external environment changes at a much faster rate than my own growth, individuals experience a sense of panic. Conversely, when my own growth rate is greater than or equal to the rate of change in the external environment, I feel a sense of control.

The aforementioned keywords reflect the current state of inner confusion.

The distinction between confusion and indecision is one of degree. Confusion pertains to uncertainty about the choice of direction, whereas indecision concerns a lack of clarity regarding one's inner needs.

There are numerous potential avenues of inquiry, yet I am uncertain about the optimal direction and the capacity to regulate my inner desires. This is a common phenomenon.

It can be expected that anyone embarking on a period of exploration will experience a certain degree of confusion. Even those who appear to be particularly powerful and determined will not necessarily believe that they have always been so, or that they have always been clear in their thinking, or that they have never been lost. The fact is that the degree and frequency of such experiences will vary from one individual to another.

Furthermore, individuals experience similar confusion when exploring novel concepts.

Those who remain in a single location and refrain from contemplation will never experience confusion, nor will they consider the extent of their determination.

Similarly, when one considers the vast expanse of the globe and the myriad possibilities it presents, a multitude of questions inevitably arise. What does each destination offer in terms of visual appeal? Which locale holds the most allure? What challenges might be encountered along the way? Do financial resources suffice for the journey? Is the local language comprehensible? Will the destination prove to be a source of disappointment? These concerns often emerge simultaneously.

One thing, however, is certain: the desire to venture forth and behold the world is a powerful motivator.

Therefore, when one experiences these sentiments, it is advisable to offer oneself encouragement and recognition. This is because the individual is already on the path towards exploration.

In the event of such confusion, what course of action should be taken?

1. It is important to note that confusion and a lack of direction are not uncommon experiences. In fact, they can be beneficial in that they provide an opportunity for growth. It is essential to accept and affirm oneself in these moments.

2. Expand the range of possibilities and heed your inner voice. One's preferences are not innate; they are shaped by experience. The more one sees, the more one knows. Therefore, see the world more, be curious, and view it from different perspectives. This may entail reading books, traveling, or interacting with diverse individuals to learn about their life stories and experiences. For instance, one might learn about different industries and gain exposure to diverse knowledge. One's interests will serve as a compass, guiding one toward a fulfilling path.

3. One should strive to customize one's own victories and accumulate a sense of certainty. It is recommended to set small, clear goals, such as developing a liking for psychology. It is unwise to consider becoming an industry leader at any given time, and it is similarly unproductive to compare oneself to others. One should endeavor to customize small goals that one can accomplish. For example, one might consider writing a psychological article or answering questions on a daily (or weekly) basis, regularly communicating with individuals in the industry whom one knows, or reading a few books annually. In short, these goals should be related to one's objectives, not too difficult, clearly measurable, and recorded. Once completed, one should cross them off.

A longitudinal perspective reveals that it is replete with rewards.

4. Tolerate a temporary lack of organization. When new information, knowledge, and ideas enter the cognitive system, a period of chaos is to be expected. Even if one purchases new furniture for the home and rearranges it, the house will remain disorderly for a time. The integration of these new elements into the existing internal system is an unavoidable process of chaos.

The relationship between pressure and rapid development is a complex one.

This set of words reflects our current level of confidence in our own growth. When the pressure from the external environment is excessive or the pace of change is rapid and beyond our capabilities, we may experience a sense of loss of control, a sense of failure, and in more severe cases, a sense of despair. These feelings can render individuals powerless and temporarily difficult to interact with.

Conversely, when an individual's growth rate and ability are aligned with or slightly below the external pressure and pace of change, they will demonstrate a willingness to take on challenges and engage in the process, leading to a sense of accomplishment that enhances their confidence.

It is therefore essential to maintain equilibrium between external pressure and personal strength, including the equilibrium between external speed and personal growth.

The following section will delineate the methodology for achieving this objective.

1. Perform an objective assessment of external pressures and one's own abilities, rather than an evaluation.

2. One should alter one's objective from the pursuit of a specific goal to the safeguarding of one's confidence.

3. Evaluate and prioritize the important and urgent goals in objective reality, taking into account the necessity of making trade-offs.

4. Subdivide the most crucial objectives after making compromises (see the aforementioned Tailored Victory Accumulation of a sense of certainty and ensure the inclusion of some of these objectives in the breakdown of objectives).

5. It is important to maintain the ability to learn and to set a scope for the speed of growth. It is advisable to be as detailed as possible in this regard. It is unproductive to compare one's ability in a given area with the development speed of the entire world, as this will inevitably lead to frustration. To illustrate, when one is first learning video production technology, it is more beneficial to compare oneself with individuals at the same level who have similar foundations, rather than comparing oneself with the entire short video industry.

6. Develop a positive outlook. The degree of difficulty encountered is related not only to one's aspirations but also to one's current capabilities. The advent of greater challenges signifies an enhancement in one's abilities. This provides a means of self-affirmation.

7. Adopt a perspective of change and development to view the difficulties encountered in the present. Given the current state of one's abilities, the difficulties may appear significant. However, as abilities grow, the difficulties will become less pronounced.

Ultimately, the most crucial piece of advice is to communicate proactively and listen to one's inner voice. For instance, given the extensive nature of this advice, it is sufficient to focus on the sentence that resonates with you the most and share which sentence has had the greatest impact. Your feedback is highly valuable to me.

I am currently engaged in a process of learning through silence.

Firstly, it is evident that you have endured a considerable amount of mistreatment and endured some degree of harm. It is reasonable to assume that you have experienced feelings of injustice, distress, and confusion. It is likely that many individuals globally have encountered similar circumstances.

The question thus arises as to how one might best respond to such a situation.

1. Regardless of the circumstances, it is imperative to disengage from the individual who is causing you harm. Primarily, an individual who consistently inflicts harm upon you is not a genuine friend. Remaining in their presence will inevitably result in repeated instances of harm. Consequently, the most direct and effective course of action is to distance yourself from the source of harm and the individual who is causing you distress.

It is essential to differentiate between individuals who are genuinely supportive and those who may potentially pose a threat, in order to safeguard one's personal safety and wellbeing.

Secondly, it is important to distinguish between friends and acquaintances. It is essential to understand the nature of friendship and to identify the characteristics of a good friend. When one is in the company of a good friend, one feels protected and loved, is happy, has stable emotions, and is able to perform well in studies and work. However, not everyone is worthy of one's company. It is therefore important to identify those individuals who are willing to offer support and who make one feel as though one is improving when in their presence. These individuals can be considered one's true friends.

3. Reinforce your inner self. It is inevitable that we will all experience pain at the hands of others, whether it be unintentional, ignorant, or malicious. I often remind myself that those who have endured pain have two options: 1) those who retaliate against the perpetrators and 2) those who have experienced pain themselves and seek to bring happiness to others. I choose the latter approach. Therefore, it is crucial to recognize that harm is an inherent part of life. To navigate this reality, we must prioritize the strengthening of our inner world, enabling us to discern between benevolent and malevolent intentions and simultaneously address our own pain when we are hurt.

4. In the event of being harmed, it is imperative not to remain silent. It is necessary to demonstrate persistence towards the perpetrator, clarify one's position, and demonstrate that one is not a passive victim, but rather a determined advocate for one's own rights. Personal and property safety are protected through discipline, the law, and other means, with the use of legal instruments for self-defense.

Some individuals have been subjected to bullying for an extended period, even resulting in tragic outcomes, due to their passive acceptance of the situation. They have opted for an appropriate course of action to address the issue and safeguard their interests.

It is imperative that we learn to protect ourselves. One effective method is to identify individuals who can serve as our allies. Instead of attempting to educate adults, it is more prudent to select those who embody the qualities we seek. Instead of investing time in teaching adults to be gentle, kind, respectful, thrifty, and accommodating, it is more productive to seek out individuals who already exemplify these traits.