How to rebuild psychological energy and recover after a breakup with a boyfriend and the death of a pet?

Hello, question asker. I can see that you're feeling confused right now, and I'm here to support you.

I can see that you are going through some emotional difficulties at the moment. Please accept my warmest wishes for your wellbeing.

If I understand correctly, you are currently taking medication for depression. I would gently encourage you to follow your doctor's advice and continue taking the medication as prescribed.

Given your situation, it might be helpful to try to find something you enjoy doing.

For instance, I have found that answering questions helps me cope with the anxiety, unease, and fear caused by the rebound of the epidemic here in Shanghai.

Of course, you don't have to follow my example. I just thought I'd share my experience in case it helps.

You might consider exploring other activities that pique your interest, such as singing, painting, or dancing.

I recall watching a previous episode of a variety show (Avenue of Stars) in which two finalists discussed how they had used singing to overcome depression.

It might be helpful to encourage the questioner to try to keep themselves occupied every day, as a way of enriching their life.

When you have things to occupy your time, you may find that your thoughts are less preoccupied with the death of your dog at home and the breakup with your boyfriend.

If it is feasible for you, I would also recommend exploring the option of psychological counseling.

It might be beneficial for you, who are experiencing depression and taking medication, to consider receiving psychological counseling as well.

I truly hope that the issue you're facing can be resolved as soon as possible.

At this moment, I can only think of these things.

I hope my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you. I am here to provide an answer, and I study hard every day.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and wish you the best.

It is recommended that you provide comfort to those who are vulnerable, frightened, and helpless. You are a kind, sensitive, and loving individual.

Firstly, I am unaware of your age, but I believe it is time for you to attempt to become more independent and mature, regardless of your age. As you are aware, your boyfriend and dog were your primary sources of spiritual support and energy to navigate the world. However, they cannot always be with you and cannot fully replace your inner feelings and energy.

It is evident that you are aware of this concept.

Secondly, I am also fond of dogs and the act of raising them. The departure of a dog can be a significant emotional challenge for its owner. One potential solution is to adopt another dog when circumstances allow. I hypothesize that your boyfriend's departure may also be related to your current low mood and anxiety.

Thirdly, it is possible that the family in which one is currently residing may be unable to provide the level of security and energy that is required. It is unclear whether the individual in question has yet graduated or obtained employment, but it is assumed that they have a source of income that is sufficient to support themselves. It would be beneficial for the individual to consider leaving their current family and living independently. This would assist in developing a sense of independence and would help to boost inner energy.

In addition, you indicated that you previously relied on antidepressant medication. Therefore, it is important to exercise caution and avoid this again if possible. If necessary, it may be beneficial to seek psychological counseling or treatment.

In addition to a pet dog, it is advisable to cultivate a social nature. Sports such as badminton or other forms of tennis that are suitable for the individual in question will help to improve their mood. It is recommended that communication be maintained, as this will facilitate gradual improvement.

I am looking forward to maintaining communication with you via my personal public account, which is titled "A Young Person Acting Like a Fake (ID: qingnianJIA2020)."

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"Previously, I relied on my dog and boyfriend for emotional support. Their presence provided a sense of comfort and stability. However, following the anxiety/why-do-a-21-year-old-college-girl-feel-a-loss-of-freedom-in-the-past-two-or-three-years-4503.html" target="_blank">loss of my dog and the dissolution of my relationship, I am experiencing heightened levels of anxiety and a sense of helplessness.

Please advise.

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1. The human emotional world requires an anchor, which can be a person, object, or spiritual world. Boyfriends and dogs are things that you gradually cultivate and become accustomed to in your daily life. They have become an integral part of your daily routine and are difficult to let go of.

However, when that day comes and these things are removed or taken away by others, you will experience a psychological void. It is as if your soul has been extracted, and a vital organ in your body has ceased functioning.

It is important to note that at this time, you are experiencing a state of illness. This illness stems from a lack of suitable substitutes to fill the gap in your life. However, the underlying cause is a lack of psychological energy to heal yourself. This prevents you from quickly distinguishing between your own identity and that of others, as well as between what you possess and what is externally obtainable and disposable.

2. Consider acquiring a new dog as a source of psychological comfort. Secondly, it is important to distract yourself and refocus your attention on your most important current priorities.

It can be work or family. Make use of this opportunity to spend more time with them.

I am currently taking medication for depression. Despite not experiencing any significant mood swings, I have been feeling low in mood recently. I am experiencing feelings of panic and unhappiness on a regular basis. I am concerned that these feelings are affecting my ability to function effectively. How can I improve my situation?

Please advise.

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1. You are aware of the issue, but lack the ability to resolve it independently. In this case, seeking external assistance is crucial to achieve your objective. Without it, overcoming the current challenge will be challenging.

This external force can serve as a new source of sustenance, or as a source of affection from your family.

2. If your financial situation allows, or if you have the time, consider taking some time off. Go somewhere far away by yourself, at least somewhere where you can find comfort, and lie quietly for a while.

It is also advisable to find a reliable friend or confidant to provide support and guidance, particularly in ensuring your safety and preventing the pitfalls of self-absorption.

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, your answerer. From your description, it's clear that you previously relied on the security of your dog and boyfriend. Now that your dog has passed and your boyfriend has ended things, you're feeling a little lost. But don't worry! You can rebuild and get better by turning inward. Your family can't reassure you, but you can reassure yourself. You've got this!

Now, let's dive in and analyze the root cause of this situation!

1. There's an exciting opportunity to gain a more balanced understanding of interpersonal relationships, which will help you build good connections with the outside world!

From the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner was previously more willing to pin his hopes on his gentle dog and boyfriend. This shows that he has a great support system in place! Although it is not clear why the questioner feels this way about his family, in terms of the overall laws of society, the Chinese people have always upheld the concept that blood is thicker than water. This means that in the vast majority of cases, family members are the ones you can most rely on and trust.

Family members may lack competence and may not be as attractive as opposite-sex friends, but their love for you is the most selfless and trustworthy. Therefore, the questioner may have some prejudices and misunderstandings about family relationships, but there's so much to love about family!

Dogs are loyal creatures with a lifespan that's relatively short. They bring joy and companionship to our lives, and they feel the pain of loss just like we do. But they can't understand and comfort us like a close friend. As for boyfriends, they're passionate and intimate at the start of a relationship. As the relationship deepens, they consider practical factors and their own values. This kind of relationship is exciting and full of possibilities!

2. Actively seeking inward, but feeling a little lost and frightened

When the questioner feels that external relationships are not as reliable as they seem, they embark on an exciting journey of internal exploration, seeking to build inner psychological strength. However, they also feel a sense of helplessness and disorientation, which presents an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

3. Seeking guidance and support

Although the questioner is currently taking medication to heal, he feels that the strength from his family is difficult to reassure him. This presents an opportunity for him to seek other powerful and warm forces from the outside world. He just needs to find the right mentor or friend to guide him out of the fog and find the right direction in life.

1. Don't isolate yourself from the crowd! Instead, try to integrate into the crowd in an appropriate way and gain external support.

It's important to remember that while a single drop of water may seem insignificant, when many drops come together, they can create a powerful and inspiring force. Even when we experience challenges and setbacks along the way, the sense of strength and unity that emerges when we truly come together is truly amazing!

So, let's not be a drop of water cut off from the river. Let's find a way to merge with the river and sing with the water!

So, it's a great idea for the questioner to open their mind and embrace the good in their family members, even if they have to ignore the bad feelings that the other person brings to them. They might not be able to give them a sense of security in a way that makes them happy, but when we interact with them with a heart of gratitude, tolerance, and love, we'll feel the power of self-growth and the support from others even more! And while this support may seem weak at times, it's something we can't easily get from others.

And there are so many other relatives, friends, classmates, colleagues, neighbors, and more! Each person is unique, and we can learn to appreciate that, to complement each other, and to respect the value of each person. In the process, we will also slowly establish good relationships with the outside world. We will be able to obtain a lot of social resources and receive more support and encouragement. And we will feel our own value in the process of helping others, and experience the joy of warming others!

2. Seeking professional help is the best way to rebuild yourself!

We all want to become better, find our own value, and become independent in body and mind. We want to be independent, not dependent on others. But where does this strength come from? I believe this is the direction the original poster needs most right now. This strength comes from comprehensively improving oneself and enriching one's life.

Every day, we not only need food to give us the strength to live, but also ideas to bring us spiritual awakening. Therefore, I hope that the questioner can first arrange his daily life well and take care of his daily life and diet, which will make him feel that life is concrete and fulfilling. Secondly, I suggest that the questioner read more books that are beneficial to self-growth, such as the incredible One Hundred Years of Solitude. This book tells us that throughout our lives, many people will enter our lives and leave from our lives. We must learn to accept this state of affairs and at the same time take each passer-by in our lives seriously.

It is also recommended that the questioner enrich their life by cultivating their interests and hobbies. They can cultivate their health through learning about health preservation and exercise, and cultivate their sentiments and make themselves feel calm and at peace through learning music and painting. They can also broaden their horizons and thinking by making friends, so that they can better integrate into various environments.

Absolutely! The questioner is encouraged to seek the help of a professional counselor if they feel the need. This could be a great way to gain a deeper understanding of themselves, find the perfect direction for adapting to life, and quickly identify the ideal life goals and directions to effectively rebuild themselves.

I'm really excited to see what the future holds for the questioner! I hope they can find their way out of the fog and find the light that will guide them soon.

Hello,

I'd hug you and comfort you!

Your boyfriend left and your dog died.

This makes you depressed, sad, and anxious.

Is that right?

I don't know how long you've been depressed.

How has this affected you? For example, sleep, etc.

Let's talk about what caused this breakdown.

I don't know what your family situation is like, but I think you may lack a sense of security.

You were too dependent on your ex-boyfriend and dog because you lacked security.

This dependence builds security.

You regret your boyfriend and dog leaving and feel anxious.

This will make you sad and lonely, which will make your depression worse.

You are a girl with a strong sense of awareness and perception. You know you need to rely on yourself to build strength within your heart. This is rare, and it's a great start!

How do I get out of this situation?

First, you need to deal with your grief.

If you are sad about your ex-boyfriend and dog leaving, you need to grieve.

There are several ways to deal with grief.

Write two letters.

Write letters to your ex and dog.

Express your emotions.

Allow yourself to grieve.

Use the empty chair technique to deal with grief.

Find a safe space and two chairs.

Imagine your ex and the dog sitting in another chair.

Then say what you want to say and feel to your ex and the dog.

Also, say goodbye to your past self and start anew!

Addition: Say goodbye to your ex, dog, and yourself three times each.

Plan your future.

Think about what you need to do in the near future. Consider your career and life plans and how to make them happen.

If your symptoms get worse, you need to follow your treatment plan and consider counseling.

I wish you a speedy recovery!

I'm counselor Yao. I'll support you!

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a pretty modest and self-effacing person, but I'm also consistent.

The dog that we loved so much has died, we have broken up with our partner, and our family cannot give us the corresponding sense of security. This situation seems terrible, but let's look at it from a different perspective together.

Our relationship with the outside world is so important!

We all live in different environments and we all want to feel different things from our surroundings. But we can't do that on our own. We need other people and other things around us to give us the feelings we need. To do that, we need to understand the world around us and our environment.

So, how should we understand and view the death of a dog that has been with us for many years, or the breakup of a boyfriend and the lack of security in one's own family? As creatures of nature, we all have a life cycle, so the death of a dog is understandable. When life reaches a certain limit, it is time to go to the other world to fulfill one's mission. For this reason, we can express our feelings by holding a small ceremony, which is a lovely way to honor the memory of our dear friend.

When it comes to relationships with boyfriends and family, it's so important to be independent inside. But the happiness that comes from being with someone special is only temporary, so it's essential to find true happiness within. That's why the happiness that comes from family and friends should be a wonderful bonus!

Having an accurate understanding of the relationship between the external world and the self will help us solve many problems. We'll be able to think differently about what naturally concerns and motivates us. As a result, we'll be much happier! And you're looking for answers, hoping to be guided by everyone, and even more hoping to come out of this state on your own. In fact, many problems are clear in your heart, but we all need a reason and certainty to accept the status quo in reality.

Let me tell you how you can give your mental energy a boost!

An accurate understanding is the best defense you've got! It means you have a simple understanding of the laws of development of things in the world. This helps you convince yourself and accept your surrounding environment, which is also the foundation of your inner strength.

Find a field of work that allows you to realize your self-worth. You are amazing, and you have so much to offer! Even if your work isn't directly related to your strengths, there are still plenty of ways to shine. So, show the world what you've got!

As the saying goes, "a mule or a horse, let's take it out for a walk." So, only if we find a field that suits us can we see a deeper sense of self-worth. If time permits and if our emotions require it, we can choose a field, first find the basic value of the self, and then we can extend it. With self-love, there will inevitably be a passion.

The recently popular song "Lonely Hero" says that most people's journey in the world is a lonely and heroic process. It's not just you. Everyone is breaking out of the situation in this mood, so let's face it head-on. Be open-minded and let go a little. It's certainly good to have family and loved ones by your side, but if not, we can slowly meet and build a life together. Through your own planning and hard work, life will always develop in the direction you want.

Wishing you all the best!

Greetings!

As a heart exploration coach, I believe that learning is the most valuable asset of the human body.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a low mood, feelings of unhappiness, panic, pain, and a sense of helplessness.

I will not delve into the concerns you have expressed regarding the dissolution of your romantic relationship and the demise of your canine companion. However, I do have three recommendations for you:

Firstly, it is recommended that you attempt to accept your current circumstances.

Such an approach will result in a slight alleviation of distress, which in turn will facilitate the formulation of a plan of action.

You previously indicated that when confronted with challenging circumstances, you consistently sought solace in the company of your dog and your boyfriend. However, following the demise of your dog and the dissolution of your relationship with your boyfriend, you have become increasingly prone to feelings of distress. It is probable that if another individual were to find themselves in a similar situation, they would exhibit a comparable response. This is because when an individual is accustomed to seeking external support, the absence of such a source can precipitate feelings of unease and apprehension. Consequently, it is essential to cultivate an acceptance of your current state. This entails recognizing the internalized fear and lack of coping mechanisms, which can otherwise occupy a significant portion of your mental energy. By doing so, you can redirect your mental resources toward more constructive pursuits, preventing the accumulation of negative emotions.

Furthermore, allowing oneself to accept the current situation facilitates the potential for change. This may appear paradoxical, but it is based on the premise that change is contingent upon the absence of change.

Secondly, it is recommended that you adopt a rational perspective on your own state of mind.

Rational thinking can facilitate a more nuanced understanding of one's own identity and the external world.

A rational approach necessitates the completion of two requisite tasks:

One must understand that the construction of mental energy is more about introspection because this is a more enduring process.

Additionally, you indicated in your description that you wish to address your inner panic and anxiety independently, with the objective of accumulating mental energy. Furthermore, you perceive it as unfavorable to consistently seek external solutions. I concur with this assessment.

Secondly, it is important to recognise that the status quo can be altered, given the capacity for change inherent in the individual.

When one exerts their subjective initiative, the inner state will naturally change at a gradual pace. It is essential to have self-belief.

When viewed through a rational lens, some of the negative emotions may be resolved.

It is once again recommended that you focus on yourself and consider what you can do to improve your emotional state.

Upon rational assessment of one's condition, it may become evident what actions are required. At this juncture, it is advisable to focus on oneself and strive to do one's best.

For example, allowing oneself a period of time to recuperate can be beneficial, as it allows the body to heal itself. Furthermore, the body has the innate capacity to heal itself. By allowing oneself time to recuperate, one can gradually accumulate mental energy.

Additionally, it is recommended that you attempt to fulfill your own needs and provide yourself with a sense of security. This may include paying attention to your own needs, feeling respected, engaging in activities you enjoy, and so forth. Over time, you may also begin to feel powerful as a result of learning to love yourself.

Additionally, one might consider recalling past experiences, such as a time when one lacked a romantic partner or a pet, yet was in a positive frame of mind, and what one did during that period. One could attempt to engage in similar activities currently, with the potential for positive outcomes.

One may also consider seeking the assistance of a counselor. The involvement of an external support system may facilitate the process of introspection and self-reflection. Ultimately, it is essential to recognize that one has the capacity to take action and effect positive change in one's current circumstances.

Once action is initiated, the various negative emotions will gradually dissipate, as action is often the most effective method of combating such emotions.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to you. Should you wish to engage in further communication, you are invited to click on the "Find a Coach" link at the foot of this page, which will enable me to communicate with you on an individual basis.

Dear question asker,

From what you've shared, I can see you're going through a lot. The loss of your dog, the end of your relationship with your boyfriend, and the feeling of being adrift and overwhelmed. It's understandable that your family isn't providing the support you need at this time.

I can imagine it must feel a little unfair, losing the psychological support you had there. I would love to be able to give you a warm hug.

It would be helpful to consider ways of dealing with feelings of panic and insecurity, and of building psychological energy. It is not always helpful to rely on others. From this text, I can feel and make my own psychological judgment. You are very clear about building psychological energy, which is a very good self-awareness!

How might you go about building it? This may be the answer you're looking for.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider other sources of support. You had two previous sources of support: your dog and your boyfriend.

The sense of security they provide may help you to feel a sense of value and purpose. What steps have you taken to try to improve your situation during this challenging time?

People who are depressed and who like to keep pets are often kind-hearted. It might be worth considering adopting a pet again. In fact, small animals are also very cute, and they seem to understand human nature.

Secondly, it is worth noting that this is an era of value exchange. It is possible that the boyfriend's departure may have been due to a discrepancy in certain values. In an intimate relationship, it would be beneficial to consider whether there is alignment in values between the two parties. It may also be helpful to discuss certain topics before marriage.

For instance, it might be helpful to consider which city you envision living in together in the future and how you might divide up your focus assets.

It may be helpful to consider the five abilities of love as a complete system that complements and reinforces each other. Favoring just one ability may lead to less optimal results with more effort.

Perhaps it would be helpful to look within, improve yourself, and discover the path to happiness. We all define happiness differently, and the definition of happiness lies within oneself.

I would like to suggest a book for you to consider: "Meet the Unknown Self." It may be helpful in finding the answers you are looking for. Additionally, with the internet being such a valuable resource, have you thought about using it to improve yourself?

For example, studying psychology, marriage and family courses, and emotional intelligence classes are all ways to improve your inner happiness. Would you perhaps be willing to give it a try?

Finally, there is a saying that goes, "When the waters reach the end of the road, there is a view; when a person reaches the end of the road, there is rebirth." It is important to remember that even if you lose everything, there is always tomorrow.

It might be helpful to remember that your significant other is not necessarily on the same level as you, and that's okay. Hang in there!

I truly believe that you can find a way out of this situation.

The things you used to rely on or depend on are no longer there. This could be a collapse of your beliefs. Your dog and your boyfriend have both left you. How painful an experience is this! We will all experience some painful things at some point.

For instance, when you're worried about your own survival while everyone else is traveling, you're working overtime. While others can afford the finest delicacies, you can only afford simple meals. Or, rather than comparing ourselves with others and feeling depressed, we can compare ourselves with our past selves. It seems that even now in 2022, we were not happier then.

Here's how you can rebuild your inner energy to make yourself better:

In the past, I always turned to my dog and boyfriend for comfort.

Thinking of the two of them helps me feel at ease and not afraid.

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It feels like your life has come to a standstill, and you're facing a lot of challenges. You feel like the good times are gone, and you're in a state of helplessness and fear.

To heal, you need the right environment.

Different places have different vibes.

It's time to accept what happened in the past and move on.

You used to have a happy life, but things have changed a lot recently. Your closest friends and supporters have moved on, leaving you on your own.

Maybe we need to build a stronger foundation. You can also have your own friends, a trusted family, and trust in yourself. This is something you can think about. If you feel that other people cannot make you feel relaxed, you can try trusting yourself.

You are your own guardian angel. You can rely on yourself to become more stable and trust yourself more. Perhaps you have also been diagnosed with depression, which also requires psychological counseling because people often don't open up to certain perceptions.

Or maybe some of your social needs aren't being met, which is worth looking into. You have your own anxieties and unhappiness. At the same time, it's good to realize that it's also healthy to have some calm in our emotions.

It's important to recognize your own strengths and realize that you also have moments of calm when you can brew a cup of tea, read a book, especially books about healing and relaxation, such as "The Little Seed of Happiness," "I Like This World of Utility," "The Life Organizing Action Plan," and "The Psychological Thing: 25 Secret Words Hidden in Everyone's Heart." You can also train for the meditation planet and join a supportive group to practice self-awareness. Best of luck!

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