I am a divorced woman who has endured too many hardships and now feel very abnormal.

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

I am glad I read your message for help. I am here to support you and I hope that my sharing can give you the support you need.

From your description, it's clear you dislike, deny, and don't accept your inner self. You've put yourself in the role of a powerless victim as a result.

Let me be clear: it is not the events or people in our lives that make us feel sad or upset. It is our emotional response to these events and people that causes these feelings.

When faced with unsatisfactory experiences and encounters in life, it is crucial to make appropriate attributions. If we attribute the harm to external, special, uncontrollable factors, we will have more confidence and less self-blame and denial.

There is no shame in divorce. Getting married and getting divorced are both a kind of ability. You are braver than people who are stuck in a draining relationship and lack the courage to end it. Take responsibility for your choices and take the initiative to end a draining relationship. Praise yourself for being brave and decisive.

Divorce is not a reflection on your worthiness. Marriage is the result of the interactions between two people, and it requires two people to support each other. In a relationship that suits you, you don't need to be perfect. You just need to be true to yourself.

I am Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.