I am a full-time mother of two children, and life feels devoid of any zest; filled with negative thoughts?

As a stay-at-home mother, I empathize with your situation and encourage you to embrace the challenges.

It is important to note that stay-at-home mothers play a significant and valuable role in their families and children's lives.

Additionally, my negativity stems from the fact that I am a full-time mother. It is possible that our experiences diverge, but I aim to share my journey with you in the hope of providing strength and assistance.

Following my resignation from my position and the subsequent transition to a full-time maternal role, I experienced a period of pronounced negativity.

The daily routine of childcare, domestic tasks, and the management of minor issues appears to comprise the majority of responsibilities, and these tasks consume a significant amount of time and energy, limiting opportunities for social and personal pursuits.

Over time, I became increasingly sloppy and negative, to the point where I felt that life held no interest for me whatsoever. I came to view being a full-time mother as a profoundly sad and terrible experience.

Following a lengthy period of domestic work and the subsequent resting period, I will often experience a profound sense of exhaustion and despondency, perceiving the day as yet another tedious and disordered one devoid of purpose.

After waking up, I quickly wash up and then prepare complementary food for my child. I do not have the opportunity to bid my husband farewell as he departs for work, nor do I have the time to engage in a meaningful conversation with him. In the midst of the chaos and commotion, my child wakes up and goes out, marking the beginning of another day spent navigating the challenges of parenting alone.

However, the most distressing aspect of this situation was the way in which other people reacted to me when I took my child out for a walk. They would often look at me with sympathy or pity.

They engage in hushed discourse, speculating about my "happiness" and the circumstances that allow me to forego the rigors of gainful employment while being supported by another individual.

"You are not obliged to work; you are supported!" For a mother who is a full-time carer, this is arguably the most damaging comment.

As a result of this kind of evaluation, I felt that my choice was being denied, that my contribution to the family was being denied, and that my personal value was being denied.

Such dismissals engendered a sense of cheapness and undignified treatment.

Over time, I also heard a whispering sound from working mothers, who discussed with envious or sympathetic looks: "You're fortunate to be able to stay at home with your child full-time. I also want to stay at home with my child, but my family needs me to work. However, you should also be cautious, as being a stay-at-home mother is a high-risk occupation."

It must be acknowledged that these mothers are correct in their assessment. When viewed from a societal perspective, mothers who are full-time caregivers are indeed at a higher risk.

Anxiety and stress once again took hold of me.

It was a dilemma, and it was painful and made me feel inferior. Gradually, I began to feel resigned to my fate.

During this period, I came to understand that when I was in a negative emotional state as a mother, my child would also experience distress, resulting in a chain of unfortunate events.

During this period of low mood, I considered the notion that my ability to influence my child was limited. I reflected on the premise that the primary objective of a stay-at-home mother is to raise their child in a positive and nurturing manner.

At this juncture, I came to recognize the veracity of the adage, "It is imperative to nurture oneself in order to effectively nurture one's children."

My initial objective was to establish an effective organizational structure.

Firstly, a list of the tasks that must be completed on a daily basis was compiled and printed on A4 paper. This list was then affixed to the wall by the entrance to the residence. This process is analogous to the preparation of a daily report at the workplace.

Secondly, a weekly menu for the infant's supplementary nourishment should be created, a list compiled, printed, and affixed to the wall adjacent to the entrance.

The third method is to create a timetable from 6:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. This allows the parent to record the activities undertaken by the child and themselves every hour.

I undertook this task for one reason only: to demonstrate to my family how busy I was and how hard I was working. While I did not seek their praise, I did require their recognition.

It is imperative that my family recognize the significant contribution that a stay-at-home mother makes to the normal and orderly functioning of a family.

Initially, my family perceived the remaining two tables as superfluous and absurd, with the exception of the table of supplementary foods for my child. However, I persisted, and after a month, I was able to bind the three tables together and write a summary and conclusion.

This is the result of my efforts, presented in the form of a written report.

Once I had commenced focusing on these seemingly inconsequential tasks, I ceased to be concerned with the opinions of others.

As a result, my family began to alter their perceptions of me. They began to offer affirmation and convey a sense of pride in my role as a stay-at-home mother.

I captured an image of the aforementioned bound A4 book of daily entries and disseminated it among my social circle.

"I was rather juvenile and ostentatious in my actions. My intention was merely to demonstrate to my acquaintances that I have KPIs as a full-time mother, and that my significance is no less than that of a professional in the workforce."

Despite the increase in likes and comments from friends, I did not experience a sense of relaxation.

As my children mature, I anticipate having more time to engage in reading and study.

The concept of topic separation, as discussed in the book The Courage to Be Disliked, has had a profound impact on my personal development. It has enabled me to gain a sense of self-confidence.

Life presents us with a multitude of constraints, which may initially appear to be primarily related to time, money, and interpersonal relationships. However, a deeper analysis reveals that these constraints are, in fact, largely psychological in nature.

The significance of the past is not inherent, but rather contingent upon one's perspective. Our views of the past can be altered.

Anger is, in fact, merely a means of control.

I have a profound comprehension of the following:

Emotions and negativity cause distress and, if left unresolved, can lead to self-suppression and anger. This is because there is often a lack of appropriate outlets for expressing and transforming these emotions.

As a full-time mother, the issues one encounters are often minor and inconsequential, and one's sense of self-worth is frequently diminished. It is not uncommon to be overlooked or dismissed.

Nevertheless, affirmation and support are essential.

If we are unable to effect change in others, we must turn our attention to modifying our own stereotypes of stay-at-home mothers.

It is my hope that this contribution will provide you with the fortitude and assistance you require, and that you will soon be able to identify a means of expressing your frustrations in a constructive manner.

Hello, dear questioner! I am Whale Social Worker 53 Hz~

After reading the questioner's description, I can feel that the questioner is experiencing some difficulties in family life. But don't worry! I'm here to help. Let's give the questioner a warm hug and get started on a solution.

As a full-time mother, you have the incredible opportunity to take care of two children at home and deal with a lot of household chores. I think it must be very rewarding. I really think the questioner is amazing!

The questioner said that they can't control their emotions very well and always have some negative ideas. I think I can understand the questioner very well. The attitude of the husband will affect our emotions, as will the confusion about our children's future and the various potential dangers in life. So the questioner really needs to be understood in their current state. But I'm sure they will get there!

Absolutely! We can definitely try to have some life and development of our own. We also have the right to pursue self-realization. When we have a certain amount of capital and strength in our hands, in fact, many problems are not worth our worry and consideration. We should definitely communicate with your husband and help each other, because educating children is the responsibility of the whole family. And no matter what, we should do something we love every week, leave the children with your husband, take good care of yourself, and love yourself!

Wishing you all the best! (Whale social worker?)