I am afraid that my behavior will cause others to act in a certain way. Why?

Greetings.

The act of patting someone on the shoulder.

The underlying concern is that one's actions may prompt others to react in a specific manner. This prompts the question: Why?

From the aforementioned description of the problem, it can be discerned that there is an underlying sense of internal anxiety that arises in the context of typical social interactions. This is compounded by a self-imposed stipulation that one should not inconvenience others. Consequently, when actions are in conflict with these self-imposed requirements, a concomitant sense of anxiety is also generated.

The sales associate was engaged in the act of wrapping another item and was not observing the customer or merely loitering. At that juncture, the customer was reluctant to approach the sales associate.

I was overwhelmed by emotion. Ultimately, I consulted the store's mini program on my phone to ascertain the name.

I frequently observe a reluctance on my part to cause even the slightest inconvenience to others. What are the underlying causes of this phenomenon?

This sentiment appears to have persisted for an extended period.

As previously stated, this kind of buying scene is a common occurrence in everyday life. However, in a crowd, some individuals are more outgoing and will immediately approach the seller to inquire about a product. Others may be less confident and may hesitate to ask questions, feeling embarrassed, shy, or anxious about the potential outcome of the interaction. The issue, therefore, is not in the act of asking but rather in the way one perceives and anticipates the response. This perception can influence one's comfort level and willingness to engage in such interactions.

Secondly, individuals who were raised in relatively strict families where mistakes were not tolerated and where parents were overly critical of their children may also exhibit fear and other unnatural or fearful emotions when interacting with the broader social environment. This is because such individuals have not fully accepted themselves and have internalized the strict expectations placed upon them by their parents. When confronted with challenges, these individuals may become overly sensitive and fearful of making mistakes, leading to feelings of shame.

For example, inquiring about the name of a particular type of bread or approaching another individual to confirm a detail is a typical and natural interaction. However, if an individual is excessively concerned about the other person's reaction and evaluation, it can result in a state of mental anxiety.

The question then becomes: How do I deal with these emotions? The example I provided was that of purchasing bread. However, life is multifaceted, and thus, the solution must be as well. If you find yourself consistently experiencing these kinds of problems when dealing with interpersonal relationships, it is imperative that you rebuild your self-perception, improve your self-esteem, and enhance your self-confidence.

For example, it is important to recognize that socializing is not a rigid standard, and that praise is not contingent on meeting a specific set of criteria. Instead, it is essential to understand that socializing stems from one's intrinsic needs and that it is crucial to identify and express these needs in a natural manner. Even if an individual makes a mistake, as long as they are able to express themselves, it is not a cause for concern. By shifting the focus from the outcome to the process of expression, it is possible to gradually reduce anxiety and develop the ability to communicate in a natural and graceful manner.

Secondly, it is imperative to abandon the notion of perfectionism and accept oneself unconditionally. Communication with others is a fundamental human need. As long as the communication is not with an extremist or bigot, communication between people can be respectful and understanding, and become smooth and relaxed. Therefore, if one identifies as perfectionistic, such as always using self-internalized negative standards to observe and understand, it is essential to correct oneself in a timely manner, while simultaneously loosening the strict standards of the past. This process entails learning to accept one's own imperfections, even if socializing is not one's strong suit. By focusing on the recognition and expression of one's own needs, it is possible to allow oneself to be one's true self, and to feel more relaxed and comfortable in the process.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to you.

I wish you the best of success!