I am afraid to communicate with people who look very beautiful, how can I alleviate this?

Some surveys have indicated that individuals who dress in a particularly stylish or attractive manner may tend to be more outgoing and assertive. This could potentially lead to a certain degree of vulnerability in such individuals.

It is possible that when you feel scared of interacting with people who look beautiful, it may be a kind of inferiority complex and lack of confidence in yourself, as well as uncertainty about the outside world. Some people who look better may also have a lot on their mind, which could make the other person seem difficult to talk to.

And you recently considered applying for a position at the bakery next to the supermarket. However, when you observed a salesperson, you noticed their makeup was particularly well-done. It seemed to exude a confidence and poise that you found intriguing.

Although you didn't dare to look at her closely, you could also tell that the other person was indeed very beautiful. At the same time, you may also feel your own insignificance. Very often, we are afraid of many things, because we are afraid of being outshone by others. This is also a similar situation at this moment.

Perhaps it would be best to avoid communication with her for now, as you're unsure of her true character. It's possible that we may eventually have to interact with such individuals, so it's important to understand their qualities. There's no need to compare ourselves too much. With dedication and effort, anyone can become a kind and admirable person. It's essential to identify our own goals and roles.

Could I ask you a question, ZQ?

Hello! I'm Yunshan.

You're afraid of dealing with good-looking people. I don't think this is a big problem. Let's talk about it!

1. Beautiful means outstanding, special, advantageous, extraordinary, etc. Paying attention to someone who is beautiful can make you feel pressure and inferior. This is normal. Most people feel this way, but different people respond in different ways.

2. How to deal with it: Think about your feelings, tell yourself it's okay, and face the person again.

Observe what you think is beautiful about the person, write it down, then write down your own strengths and compare them. Find what you are good at, repeat it, and boost your confidence.

Mindfulness meditation can help you improve your inner state and self-perception. With time, it will help.

Everyone feels inferior to some degree. Understand this and use it to motivate yourself to keep improving.

You can!

I love you, world! I am Yunshan.

From your writing, I feel you are sensitive with a lot of emotions. I'm not sure if you are a boy or girl, or how old you are. I also had this problem as a boy.

I hug you and encourage you.

People who take care of themselves are showing respect for themselves and others. When you dress nicely at work, you show respect for your job and for your living environment. You also show that you are friendly towards others.

This is normal. You can be more relaxed in sports or at home.

You are also meticulous and capable, and you dress nicely for formal occasions.

If you're a boy and afraid of communicating with pretty girls, you may have self-doubt due to setbacks in puberty. If you're a girl, you can relate.

Do you think the other person is better looking than you? This shows you lack confidence and feel inferior.

Boost your confidence and take the first step.

Third, girls who you think are pretty on the outside and girls and boys you think are average on the outside are all ordinary people. Some of them may even be worse than you in other ways. So, you need to keep your mind level. The key is to accept yourself, understand your strengths and weaknesses, and enhance your self-confidence.

You will stop judging people by their appearance and be less afraid.

Good luck! I look forward to change.

Pretentious young people (ID: qingnianJIA2020) looking forward to communicating with you.

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Hello.

I don't know how old the questioner is.

Everyone likes to interact with beautiful people. We all hope to meet people who are refined and bring us a sense of comfort and happiness. This stimulates our desire to socialize, to immerse ourselves in it, and feel happy. However, we may also worry about not doing well or being influenced by vanity. We may be afraid of making a fool of ourselves and being afraid of socializing.

This is a normal psychological state.

You asked the questioner's age earlier for a reason.

This is because, generally speaking, when social experience is lacking and the mind is immature, we pay too much attention to external information and focus on establishing judgment standards using extroverted criteria. This is also why when we meet a "god of men" or "goddess," we unconsciously feel a little flustered.

As people grow older, gain social experience, and expand their knowledge, their values become more complete. Their standards for judging the outside world and evaluating themselves become very objective. They know how to take both the inside and outside into account. They look at the outside while not neglecting the inner growth.

The questioner feels apprehensive and uneasy because of their inferiority complex. To change this, you must learn to accept yourself fully in order to adapt to the present.

Accept yourself and accept your differences.

It is human nature to be envious of those who have advantages over us. In a society where physical appearance is often considered the primary determinant of success, it can be challenging to recognize one's own strengths. However, the more a person accepts themselves, the less likely they are to be influenced by external factors and hinder their own growth and development.

[Strive to change and improve yourself]

Many people lack self-awareness and fail to recognize their own strengths and weaknesses. They make light of their shortcomings because they don't understand the importance of self-knowledge. To develop and improve oneself, one must be aware of oneself and see oneself clearly. People who have improved themselves have usually tapped into their inner strength. This is the best gift that age has brought him, and it has also become his most powerful advantage.

[Reduce unnecessary conflicts and focus on the present]

The questioner has undoubtedly seen or read about people who "are not paying attention in class, but are instead paying attention to 'beautiful women'."

This is confusing the goal and putting the cart before the horse. When doing something, you need to figure out why you're doing it. Otherwise, you won't be able to do it well. This is to describe those people who "are not paying attention in class and use it to look at pretty girls." The questioner went to the bakery to find a job. He must first remember the purpose of his trip. If he always forgets his purpose due to the influence of side branches, it will only make him more conflicted and will not bring any favorable returns.

You've got this!

Good day.

My name is Zeng Chen, and I am a heart exploration coach. I have carefully read the post and observed your fear from the content.

Furthermore, I would like to commend you for your courage in expressing your distress and seeking assistance on this platform. This will undoubtedly assist you in gaining a deeper understanding and recognition of yourself, enabling you to make necessary adjustments and achieve a more positive self-perception.

I will now share my observations and thoughts on the post, which may help you to view yourself from a more diverse perspective.

1. Identify the underlying psychological needs associated with the emotions in question.

From the aforementioned post, it can be observed that the host is experiencing a certain degree of apprehension when communicating with a woman who is perceived as being particularly attractive. I can empathise with these concerns.

Let us examine together what psychological needs may be driving this fear. Understanding our emotions is the key to understanding ourselves.

This process can be used to identify our own needs and understand the psychology behind our fears.

The host may wish to locate a place to relax her body, recall the scene in question, enter into a state of mindfulness, and inquire of herself what she is truly afraid of. In the original post, the host indicated that she appeared to be very beautiful, as if illuminated by a layer of sunlight.

How might she gain insight into this phenomenon?

Is it confidence? Is it the kind of self-acceptance that comes from within?

These are matters that require further investigation.

2. You may wish to consider recording.

In the aforementioned post, the host indicated that he experiences a certain degree of apprehension when presented with an extremely attractive woman. This sentiment is echoed in numerous other instances.

You may also wish to consider maintaining a record of when, where, and how you met a beautiful lady, the nature of your interaction, and your internal state at the time. Additionally, it may be helpful to document any images that came to mind.

Such records can then be analyzed for patterns, which can help us gain insight into our own behavior and understanding of ourselves.

Identify the root cause of your apprehension. Journaling is an effective method for understanding your emotions.

3. Attempt to establish a connection with your body.

As noted in the aforementioned post, the host expressed a desire to overcome this challenge. However, I consistently perceive a sense of restriction.

At this juncture, it may be helpful to identify the source of the constraint. Frequently, when emotions arise, the body responds in a corresponding manner.

It is also possible to gain insight into one's own state of mind by observing the body's reactions and to achieve relaxation by establishing a connection with the body.

There is a psychological perspective that maintaining both tension and relaxation simultaneously is not feasible for the human body. When experiencing emotional distress, the body often exhibits stiffness or tension, which can cause discomfort.

Once we have relaxed our body, our emotions will be relieved, which should facilitate communication with the host.

To connect with your body, focus your attention on the areas that are causing discomfort. With time, these areas will relax.

I hope these tips have been helpful and inspiring for you. If you have any questions or would like to discuss further, please click on "Find a Coach." We can work together to overcome this problem and support you on your journey.

After reading your description, I get the feeling that you're afraid of people who seem very attractive. You also mentioned that these very attractive people seem to have a layer of sunlight shining on them that is blinding.

It's totally normal to have these feelings, but it might help to know that they're actually an image of the subconscious mind. Have you ever heard of the subconscious mind?

The subconscious mind doesn't always make sense to us, right? It's more like an abstract, scattered feeling. So, when you feel a certain way towards someone who is good-looking, it's actually an expression in the real world of a very abstract feeling in the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind projects its own very abstract and indescribable feelings onto a specific person in reality in order to express its own feelings.

It's okay, we can't always use reason and logic to understand these confusing feelings. Sometimes we need to explore them from a feeling level.

You said, "Whenever I see someone who is good-looking, I feel so scared that I dare not look at her," which shows that this kind of good-looking person symbolizes strength in your subconscious mind. It's like they're someone unattainable, someone aloof, someone like a goddess. At this moment, it's your subconscious mind projecting your feelings of weakness, lack of sense of existence, and frailty.

I'm curious to know how you'll respond when I say this.

Our brains can sometimes have trouble understanding our own feelings. This is because the mind and the subconscious aren't always on the same page. We might get stuck on external, concrete things when solving problems, but this kind of problem can be solved by bypassing the mind and going straight to the subconscious level to understand.

The analysis just now shows that you subconsciously have a strong sense of inferiority and weakness, and you have projected your inferiority and weakness through this pretty salesperson.

Then, to get past this problem, the first thing you need to do is recognize that you have this kind of psychology. My analysis just now was to guide you through the process of seeing this psychology. Once you've seen it, it's important not to judge yourself for this kind of weakness and inferiority. Instead, take some time to explore with tolerance and curiosity: Why do I have such a strong sense of inferiority lately? What am I afraid of in the moment?

It would be really helpful for us to focus on exploring why we have this subconscious projection within ourselves, rather than focusing on other people and things in the outside world.

If you're having trouble exploring on your own, don't worry! You can find a psychoanalytic counselor to help you explore in a way that's very precise and effective.

Once you face and overcome the fear of inferiority, you'll be on your way to solving the problem today!

Many people feel the same way, just to a different degree. Let go of this thought.

I will give a detailed answer to your feedback.

Why are you nervous around pretty girls?

Reason analysis:

I think I know why.

Reason 1: Is there a reason? It may be someone important to you. They may have told you that you are not pretty enough, or they may have often compared you to someone who is pretty. Or maybe someone who was once very pretty gave you negative feedback, which has caused you to lack the courage to face it now. What you can't face may seem like a person, but it is actually more about how to view what is behind the pretty things. Pretty itself does not have any meaning. Everyone's standards for what is considered pretty are not the same.

Reason 2: The beautiful woman who avoided you has probably hurt you in the past. People tend to seek out what's good for them and avoid what's bad.

Beautiful things are liked by everyone, but you're different. You've been hurt and your ideas about beauty have changed. Ask yourself these questions next time something similar happens:

What's the problem? How do I feel?

When do you feel this way? You'll understand why.

Reason 3: Low self-confidence and the wrong ideas about beauty.

The wrong ideas about beauty make you afraid to look. This makes you more nervous, which confirms your ideas. You can't get out of this vicious circle.

Specific suggestions

1. See a psychologist. Your social life is affected.