I am being manipulated by a high-level male, pretending I've never dated, and being manipulated by PUA. What should I do?

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first!

I'm thrilled to see that you've reached out for help! I'm here to support you and help in any way I can.

From your brief description, I can feel the true feelings of your heart and the anger you feel after being let down. I can also feel your desire to find love and be loved in return!

Intimacy is a relationship between two people, but it's also a relationship with your inner self! All the people who appear in your life are attracted to you, especially partners in intimate relationships.

Your feelings are being toyed with and betrayed because you have an inner lack of love and a better feeling for love is just around the corner! You may not be aware of this inner lack and deficiency in yourself, but that's about to change. When choosing someone, you'll focus more on whether this part of your inner lack and deficiency is being met and responded to. This makes it difficult for you to comprehensively, objectively, and accurately understand and evaluate a person. But that's about to change!

In other words, in the process of spending time with this person, you initially feel loved, valued, cared for, and needed. This is a part of you that may be extremely lacking and missing, and one that you have not tried to give to yourself through your own efforts—but now you can!

When this part of your needs in an intimate relationship is well responded to and satisfied, you will find that a harmonious and nourishing intimate relationship is much more than that. For example, there is also the most basic trust, respect, support, encouragement, and companionship for each other...all of which are very important and largely determine the quality of the intimate relationship.

So, the more hurt you feel in an intimate relationship, the more it's a great opportunity to become aware of that part of yourself that is lacking and missing. This is your chance to learn how to love yourself better!

Absolutely! When you meet your own needs and give yourself that satisfaction first through your own efforts, your feelings will be much more resilient.

At the same time, you must also understand that as an adult, when you have clearly realized the harm that a scumbag has done to you, then you can try to bravely and honestly express your true feelings and needs inside, so that he can clearly realize that some of his actions and behavior have deeply hurt you, and that you cannot be treated like this. How he treats you is not something you can decide or control, but how you respond to being hurt is something you can determine, and you can do it!

You've got to read "Will it get better when you grow up?"!

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!