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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Good morning, I'm Will.
After reading your question, I feel your sadness and longing for your sister. I hug you.
Let's talk about this.
(1) Know the difference between what you can control and what you can't.
"A mental patient killed several people." This is beyond our control.
"They're still under 10 years old, and I sometimes feel that they're very emotional." If your feelings are sometimes close to the truth, that is also beyond our control.
"I'm sometimes afraid of meeting an emotional blind date." If you go on a blind date the next day and the person is emotional, it is beyond our control.
Is that really true?
You're afraid that life will be unpredictable again.
One reason is that "I know life is sometimes unpredictable, but I fear it will happen again."
(2) Is impermanence always bad?
If we think about impermanence some more, what is it? It could be the uncertainty and change that we talk about.
The changing of the seasons and the flow of everything in the universe is a natural law. I am here answering your question, but in the next moment, I may be doing something else. The answer will remain here, the words static. Viewers will have different feelings even when they read the same passage.
You resist and fear impermanence because your sister suddenly passed away a few years ago.
This event has hit you hard, making it difficult to move on.
An event like this will make anyone sad and distressed. If it lasts too long or makes you think negatively, you may need to adjust.
(3) You may need to say goodbye psychologically.
Your subconscious may want to remember your sister forever, or you may worry that forgetting her is betraying the past.
Allow yourself to grieve at a fixed time or place.
For example, every month or year, or at a certain time of day.
Record your mood in a journal.
If she can live on in our hearts, that would be a better comfort for everyone.
(4) Heal yourself and welcome a better tomorrow.
Security as a child is influenced by parents, family, and the environment. As we grow up, we often have to find our own sense of security.
We can control our diet, sleep, and breathing.
Every moment forms our lives.
I recommend the book The Miracle of Mindfulness to the original poster. Mindfulness can help us live in the present, perceive ourselves, and enhance our sense of security.
I also recommend meditation. There are resources on this platform, such as Meditation Planet, which can help you relax, focus on your breathing, and pay attention to your emotions and thoughts. Accept impermanence and be content with yourself.
That's all I can think of. If you like it, please like and follow.
I love you, world!
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This news really hits hard, especially thinking about how fragile life can be. It's natural to feel scared and worry about your loved ones after reading something like that. My heart goes out to you, losing your sister must have been incredibly tough.
It's okay to feel scared, but try to focus on the positive aspects of your relatives' lives and the joy they bring. Kids can be emotionally volatile as part of their development, it doesn't necessarily mean anything serious.
I understand where you're coming from. Sometimes tragic news can stir up our deepest fears. But remember, most people with mental illness are not violent. Try to cherish each moment with your young relatives; they need stability and love.
The unpredictability of life is indeed frightening. But amidst all this fear, it's important to create a safe and loving environment for your family. Maybe talking to a professional could help ease some of these worries.
I'm sorry to hear about your struggles with these fears. It's important to take care of your mental health too. Perhaps finding ways to manage anxiety could help you feel more at peace with the uncertainties in life.