I am suffering from depression and anxiety, life is so tiring, what should I do?

If I may, I would like to offer you a hug, both for the person you once were and for the person you are now.

Before answering your question, I was reminded of Pu Cunxin. Before becoming a renowned actor, Pu Cunxin relocated to the countryside as a young, educated individual and subsequently held a position as a factory worker in a welfare factory upon returning.

Due to the effects of polio surgery, there is a difference in the length of his legs.

He was 24 or 25 when he was accepted into the theater troupe. He has been playing bit parts for more than ten years.

Some might say that Pu Cunxin started too late. It could be perceived that he has already lost at the starting line, and that there are multiple starting lines.

But Pu Cunxin has a different perspective. He believes that there are many ways to begin a journey in life.

It is important to remember that people who start late still have the same chance of success as others. After all, life is a marathon, not a 100-meter sprint.

Let's take a moment to reflect on your achievements. You were able to gain admission to a highly competitive high school based on your own merits.

This suggests that you were once quite talented. However, circumstances have unfortunately not been in your favor.

Now, at this stage of your life, you are older than your peers. You are only a freshman at 22 years old.

I can understand why this bothers you.

Twenty-two is not that old, even if you do go to university. You'll still be in your twenties.

Many of the people I know had to repeat a grade or two before getting into university. By the time they were 25 or 26, they were finally able to start their studies.

It is worth noting that they went on to develop very well later in life. When a university classmate went to college, his family already had children who were more than two years old.

He went to school with us and graduated together. He has since enjoyed considerable success in his career and family life.

Now that there is a difference in age between you and your classmates, communication may become a bit more challenging. However, regardless of the age difference, they are at least 17 or 18 years old, which is the typical age for university enrollment.

Seventeen or eighteen year olds are basically adults. While there may be a slight age difference between you, if you communicate with them with all your heart, it's likely that you'll be able to connect and get along with them.

Perhaps it would be helpful to try to keep your mind at ease. You might find it beneficial to treat them as your peers and to try to get along with them.

I hope this is helpful for you. I wish you well in your transition to university life and in your studies.

Hello, classmate! I hope you're having a great day! I just read your words and it made me think of a saying: "It's exam season again, and while some are happy, others are sad!"

From what you've told me, you were a well-behaved and sensible person before, with top grades, ranking among the top 70 in the county in the middle school entrance exam, and entering the best high school's rocket class. The class was full of talented people, and then you became self-conscious, and your test scores kept declining. I can see how that would make you feel a bit panicked and worried, even if you don't show it on your phone.

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First of all, from what you've told me, it's clear you have the potential to learn. Your excellent middle school grades show that it's not a problem of learning ability. As you said, the school is full of talented people, so the pressure is naturally high, and then you feel inferior.

I just want to ask: why are you so hard on yourself? Is there someone behind you who wants you to be better?

Or maybe you're being a little too hard on yourself?

I was so nervous during my first college entrance exam that I didn't write an essay in Chinese. I was so hard on myself for the rest of the exams, and I didn't do as well as I'd hoped on the college entrance exam. I just can't seem to get out of this downward spiral!

After the first failure, the voice of "I can't" can feel like a magic spell that makes it hard to move forward. It's like it's pushing you back, but you know you can do it!

It's so easy to get caught up in negative thinking. When you think and think with the voice of "I can't do it," it can feel like your brain is hardworking, but in fact it's just lazy. Because you're not thinking and exploring downward, as soon as you think, "I can't do it," you'll be bounced back into the pain and stop thinking.

I hope you can accept this analysis.

In the first year of university, I didn't want to go to school; I just wanted to die. I was so overwhelmed and felt so helpless that I took a year off. This pattern repeated itself throughout your high school career, and then you entered university again.

People have an innate desire for self-breakthrough and self-realization. It's only natural! But, unfortunately, this can also lead to feelings of inadequacy and a tendency to give in to the voice in our heads that says "I can't do it."

How can you get out of that "I can't" mindset?

I've got two perspectives for you.

The other is the perspective of doing things.

The other perspective is about communicating with people.

1. Take a moment to check your goals and see what you can do next.

Taking action will help you to connect with your true self and break free from the cycle of negative self-perception.

2. Go out and communicate with people!

To get out of the duel, you need to meet real people. It's so important to communicate with people at this time! It's best to meet and communicate with people in person, because meeting and communicating will allow you to be in the moment, rather than living in a fantasy world.

3. You can find a professional counselor, who will be more helpful for your self-growth. And remember, if you don't limit yourself, no one can limit you!

I'm sure you'll agree!

Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to express my empathy for you based on my understanding of your situation, including your symptoms, concerns about studies and life in general. Best regards, [Name]

As a former patient with these issues, I can attest to the effectiveness of continuous learning and practice in addressing the root causes of anxiety and depression. It requires time and patience to optimize one's psychological model, but it is a worthwhile investment.

It is essential to have a correct psychological understanding and attitude towards depression and other mental health issues.

It is important to note that anxiety and depression are often caused by a combination of factors, including mental attitudes, perceptions, and thinking limitations.

Furthermore, it is essential to understand the distress caused by anxiety and depression. Regardless of the specific degree or symptoms, they can all be treated and cured.

2. As you noted, these symptoms are impeding your ability to study effectively.

It is important to recognize that depression requires a greater level of understanding, care, and self-support.

Regardless of the level of support you receive from your family and external sources, it is essential to understand and support yourself first.

3. Adopt a constructive mindset, accept the situation, and embrace the symptoms.

It is important to recognize that the symptoms are already present, regardless of personal preference. Learning to accept them rather than rejecting them is essential for managing the situation effectively.

Furthermore, the pattern of occurrence of anxiety and depressive symptoms is actually a result of some of your unreasonable cognitions, which lead to emotional generalization and exacerbate the symptoms.

4. Do not attempt to alleviate anxiety, depression, or other feelings through overly negative thoughts or behaviors.

This line of thinking is unproductive and leads to a vicious cycle.

While the presence of symptoms can make individuals feel out of control and unable to escape discomfort,

However, suppressing it through extreme thinking and attempts to eliminate the depression will only exacerbate the problem.

5. Focus on the positive aspects of the situation.

It is not advisable to attempt to alter circumstances that are beyond your control. Similarly, it is unwise to try to exert excessive control over situations that you cannot influence. The best course of action is to accept the way things are and let events unfold as they may.

A persistent focus on the negative aspects of one's life and circumstances can lead to a self-defeating mindset.

You also mentioned that academic difficulties are a significant issue at school.

It is therefore important not to place excessive pressure on yourself with regard to your studies. It is sufficient to do your best. Given that you are already experiencing anxiety and depression, it is vital to accept yourself, set realistic goals and tackle the challenge in a gradual manner.

7. Anxiety and depression are merely manifestations of generalized emotions.

You also indicated in your correspondence that you have experienced discouragement, and that you have attributed this to anxiety and depression.

It is crucial to learn how to adapt your mindset, gain self-awareness, attribute situations accurately, and invest in learning more effective strategies.

8. You also indicated that your situation has improved significantly, which is a positive development. However, your text did not provide specific details about the factors contributing to your fatigue.

Anxiety and depressive symptoms are only considered to be generalized when emotions are a factor.

It is important to relax and avoid placing excessive pressure on yourself. Focus on doing your best and learning something new each day.

9. Frequently, individuals experience a sense of stagnation or uncertainty when confronted with significant challenges. What, then, are the underlying factors that contribute to this feeling of being stuck?

First, it is important to recognize that negative thoughts can have a controlling influence. These thoughts may manifest in various ways, such as comparing oneself to others, judging oneself harshly, or succumbing to the belief that one is unable to succeed. Additionally, dwelling on past failures or anticipating unfavorable outcomes can also contribute to this phenomenon.

Secondly, perfectionism and overly ambitious goals. This can manifest as a tendency to wait until all the necessary preparations have been made before taking action, or having overly high expectations for the results, or setting a goal that is clearly beyond one's current abilities and resources.

As an example, if you have not yet completed a single book this year, but have set a goal of reading 100 books next year when planning your studies, then this goal may be too ambitious for you. The further away a goal is from reality, the more challenging it can be to get started.

Third, it is advisable to avoid uncomfortable feelings. When faced with a new situation or a challenging task, it is common to experience a range of uncomfortable emotions, including fear, tension, anxiety, worry, pain, and insecurity.

It is not uncommon for individuals to avoid new tasks or challenges because they are reluctant to experience the discomfort that such situations may entail. By continually avoiding the challenges that arise in life, we become accustomed to remaining within the confines of our comfort zone, which can lead to a prolonged period of stagnation and a tendency to dwell on concerns and anxieties.

Fourth, there is a discrepancy between our stated values and our actions. If our actions and goals are not aligned with our stated values, we experience a sense of being trapped in a situation that does not serve our best interests.

10. It is important to understand that negative thoughts are merely thoughts and do not directly determine our actions or prevent us from achieving our desired outcomes. In fact, there is no inherent conflict between negative thoughts and taking action to achieve our desired results.

To overcome a challenging situation, it is essential to learn to accept uncomfortable feelings. It is beneficial to view all emotional feelings and symptoms as unavoidable aspects of life.

When they arise, do not avoid them, reject them, or engage in argument. Instead, greet them, invite them in, and take a seat. Then, inquire as to their purpose.

"Identify the individual, ascertain their objective, and then inform them that you are aware of their intention. Furthermore, extend an invitation for them to remain for as long as they see fit, with the understanding that they may come and go as they please.

11. When we can provide such a spacious, free, and respectful place in our hearts for all emotions and feelings, all less pleasant emotions and feelings may dissipate on their own, thus allowing us to act without hindrance.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

Hello, questioner. My name is Wang Enhoo, and I am a psychological counselor.

I would like to discuss your topic with you.

1. "Suffering from depression" from the perspective of depression treatment requires medication, psychological counseling, and social reintegration. From your description, it seems that you are taking medication and have now returned to school. I'm not sure if you are receiving ongoing psychological counseling.

It might be helpful to know that most universities have psychological counseling centers where students can get free counseling.

In terms of the psychological causes of depression, it is related to the setbacks we have experienced before and our mentality in the face of setbacks. In high school, we had low self-esteem; we performed poorly on the first college entrance examination; the second examination was even worse; we were not happy with the university we went to; and we were expelled.

It would be beneficial to address these setbacks and the negative emotions they bring with them, in order to accept past traumatic events and avoid dwelling on the past. Seeking professional psychological counseling could be a helpful step.

2. "Anxiety, it's exhausting to live like this." While going back to college has temporarily lifted the crisis, it seems that the important traumatic events that happened before have not yet been fully addressed. It's possible that the accumulation of negative emotions might lead to feelings of worry and anxiety.

It would be beneficial to organize our hearts, find the goal we really want, make a plan, and implement it step by step, so that we can become more stable and at ease.

From birth onwards, we will experience various traumas, which will undoubtedly be painful. However, we can also grow and develop from them.

It may be helpful to consider facing your challenges head-on, accepting them as part of your journey, and working to grow and evolve beyond them. This process can help you become the best version of yourself.

I hope my answer will be of some assistance to you.

Hello, this student:

I am sad for you, but I am also happy for you. Why?

First of all, I feel sorry for you. Your failure to perform well in the first college entrance examination caused a series of subsequent reactions, which ultimately led to depression. You slowly developed from a confident and outstanding student to a depressed loser. Anyone would feel sad.

You need to understand that everyone is aggressive when they are born. As a child, you sublimated your aggression very well, and your grades were excellent. Everyone looked up to you. Unfortunately, you later gave up the intelligent use of aggression due to a series of setbacks, and instead used the most self-defeating method: attacking yourself inwardly, doubting yourself, and blaming yourself.

I feel sorry for you.

You're on the right track. It's time to recognize that you're not alone in this. You've been so focused on your inner struggles that you've neglected the outside world. Now, your defense mechanism is returning to rationality, and it's ready to help you in a smarter way. You've started releasing some of your aggression and turning your attention to the outside world for help. This is a great start! It's a ray of hope!

The Yiyi Psychology platform has countless excellent teachers who can help you.

Let me be clear: I know you said you were obedient and well-behaved as a child. Let me be frank: that is not a compliment. The problem does not lie with you. Being obedient and well-behaved (in most cases) means that your parents were either stricter with you or gave you too much love when you were young. They often raised you in the way they thought was best. This means that you had little motivation of your own, or that the motivation you did have was often negated by them. Over time, you came to believe that they were always right and you were always wrong. This is why you became obedient and well-behaved!

When this pattern progresses relatively smoothly, that is, when you don't encounter any setbacks, everything is fine. But once you encounter a setback, for example, when you find that everyone around you is doing better than you, the pattern from your childhood—you are right, I am wrong—starts up again, so you begin to doubt yourself, become anxious, and in this way you cannot concentrate on your studies. As a result, your grades decline, and when your grades decline, you doubt yourself even more and blame yourself, which creates a vicious cycle until you become depressed and are hospitalized.

You must see your own problems clearly if you want to solve them. Psychology has many techniques that can help, but I'm not going to write about them here. Think about it and come to a conclusion. First, find the answer yourself because the answer you can find yourself is the one that suits you best! Use other people's answers as a reference.

Hello,

Host:

I am Zeng Chen, a mindfulness coach. I have carefully read the post, and I understand your anxiety and tiredness.

You have also faced your inner feelings head-on and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help you to better understand and understand yourself. This will allow you to adjust yourself and encounter a better self.

Next, I will share my observations and thoughts from the post, which will help you look at things from a more diverse perspective.

1. Accept and allow your emotions.

The host has depression, anxiety, and feels tired from living. The good news is that he now feels much better than before.

We can take a look at what we can do for ourselves now. The host may try to accept and allow their emotions to exist.

We must accept that fighting against our emotions and trying to suppress them only makes them more painful.

This is like wading through a river. The more we try to suppress our emotions, the more we strengthen their existence. This kind of confrontation also seriously consumes us.

Your post brought to mind the renowned psychologist Wu Zhihong. In his book The Body Knows the Answer, he candidly shared his personal experience with depression.

He stated that suffering from depression is akin to falling into a well. Many individuals react by attempting to climb out, yet they are unable to do so.

He did not simply react to his emotions. Instead, he understood and accepted his emotions, looked at why he felt this way, and understood and accepted the current self. He looked at his underlying logic.

He discovered another way out of the well. He could get out.

The poster should try to accept their emotions, understand their emotions, see what their emotions are trying to tell them, and see their own needs behind their emotions. This will help us better understand and know ourselves.

2. Talking about depression

Depression is dissatisfaction with oneself in the past. Anxiety is worry about oneself in the future.

The post revealed that the poster used to get good grades and was admitted to a top-tier high school class. It was simply because the class was filled with outstanding individuals.

I have an inferiority complex. I also didn't do well on the first college entrance exam, and I've always blamed myself.

And I didn't do well the second time either. I'm certain that going through all this, the host must have been very sad during those days!

I understand you especially well. The original poster mentioned your own inferiority complex and self-blame in their description.

Low self-esteem and self-blame can indeed lead to depression. What is low self-esteem?

Low self-esteem is not allowing yourself to be good enough.

If you don't allow yourself to be good enough and you don't look the way you want to, you will blame yourself, attack yourself, and deny yourself. Landlord, think back and see if this is you.

Engaging in self-attack and self-negation too much will affect our emotions and, over time, may lead to depression.

Furthermore, self-attack and self-negation will undoubtedly lead to significant mental depletion. It is not uncommon to feel tired even when one has not exerted any effort.

Because energy is consumed internally. The answer is clear: at this time, we will not have the energy or motivation to improve ourselves.

3. Learn to care for yourself.

From a psychological point of view, self-attack and self-negation have a significant impact on us. It's something we can observe or imagine.

If someone always denies themselves, always blames themselves, and always attacks themselves, they will feel terrible.

This is why our own cruelty towards ourselves is often the last straw that breaks us.

On the contrary, self-care is what gives us the strength to go further. Venus was right when she said people should learn to care for themselves in times of adversity.

When we are in adversity, our hearts and strength are naturally weaker. Blaming ourselves at this time is a waste of energy. We must care for ourselves.

This is equivalent to recharging our batteries. The landlord must stop self-negation and attacks and learn to care for themselves.

4. Self-acceptance

Self-acceptance is simple: accept what you cannot change and focus on what you can change and adjust. This will lead to a better version of yourself. Accepting yourself as you are and accepting the parts of yourself that you cannot change stops you from attacking yourself. It also allows you to see yourself in a richer and more diverse way.

Blaming ourselves is a waste of time. Accepting ourselves is the only way to see ourselves in a more balanced way, as a whole.

We see our strengths and recognize our weaknesses. The more we accept ourselves, the more satisfied we are with ourselves and the more confident we become.

I hope this has been helpful and inspiring for you. If you have any questions, click on Find a Coach so we can communicate and work together to overcome these problems.

Hello. I understand how you feel. Academic failure can lead to anxiety and depression, which is mentally draining for anyone. First of all, you've got this. You've gotten out of the emotional quagmire.

From your description, it's clear that you've been struggling with depression. I want to know if you've been taking your medication as prescribed and if you've been attending follow-up appointments on time. For depression, it's crucial to follow your doctor's advice, and you need to understand this.

If you are concerned about missing out on something, you should discuss it with your doctor right away.

Secondly, you should exercise. Exercise produces dopamine, which makes people happy and effectively reduces anxiety. If you don't exercise, you should start. Exercise at least three times a week until you sweat. It will help you, and you can think of it as an alternative to taking medicine. There are no side effects, and it will give you a healthy body.

You should not dwell on past failures. You have already learned that your previous mental collapse during exams was not a serious problem. An experienced counselor can help you. But time has passed, and you have moved on.

You need to regain confidence in your studies and learn something. There are so many ways to learn now, if you are willing. If you are willing, you can be the top student you once were.

You can achieve learning as a lifelong endeavor. If you are willing to persevere, you will be the beneficiary.

You don't need anyone's permission. You can do this on your own. Go for it!

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

Your description evokes memories of my own experiences. I was similarly well-behaved and understanding, with excellent academic performance. However, I subsequently encountered significant challenges, leading to feelings of self-deprecation, anxiety, and depression. I endured a great deal of distress. Fortunately, I was able to make timely adjustments, gradually emerge from the shadow of my heart, and rekindle my passion for life. I would like to share my insights in the hope that they will be beneficial to you.

First and foremost, it is essential to accept oneself fully and refrain from self-denial and self-attack.

You have already demonstrated your best efforts, which is commendable. It is acceptable to begin university at the age of 22. I have a colleague who commenced studies at the age of 24 and is thriving. I myself opted for a career in psychology at the age of 30, and I am pleased with my choice. Do not be overly critical of yourself. Everyone has their own pace. As long as we are willing to keep learning and growing, it is never too late.

There is no reason why we should not deny and attack ourselves.

Given that the past is immutable, and that persistently self-critical behavior can lead to a cycle of negative emotions, it is important to shift one's mindset. Instead of self-attack, it is essential to adopt a mindset of self-acceptance. This shift in perspective can free up energy for more productive activities.

Self-acceptance is the foundation of self-confidence and self-change. A lack of self-worth and feelings of shame caused by a lack of self-acceptance are at the heart of many anxieties, depressions, obsessive-compulsive disorders, personality disorders, and many other negative experiences.

Self-acceptance is defined as an individual's positive attitude towards oneself and one's own characteristics. This includes being happy with one's current situation, not taking pride in one's strengths, and not feeling inferior about one's weaknesses. Additionally, self-acceptance is a fundamental right.

It is not necessary for an individual to possess exceptional qualifications, accomplishments, or make changes that others desire in order to be accepted.

According to psychologist Abraham Maslow, a healthy person is able to accept themselves and human nature without feeling upset or complaining about it. This is akin to accepting the fundamental characteristics of water or rocks. It is possible to live well with our shortcomings and imperfections.

To accept oneself, one must first understand one's position, needs, wants, and limitations.

Accepting oneself requires remaining calm and patient in the face of imperfections, with the belief that one can continue to improve and grow in reality.

Accepting oneself requires valuing and cherishing one's personal attributes, respecting oneself and others, and objectively assessing differences between oneself and others. It also necessitates recognizing that one's life is a unique journey. Even without external validation, one can still understand and accept oneself.

Accepting oneself means acknowledging that mistakes are an inevitable part of life and that they do not define one's character. It entails viewing mistakes as learning opportunities that can facilitate personal growth.

To accept oneself is to accept all the real phenomena in life. This requires a balance between objectivity and openness, avoiding both subjectivity and bigotry, as well as arrogance and humility.

As Romain Rolland famously observed, "There is only one kind of heroism, and that is to love life after you have understood its truth."

It is therefore essential to love oneself after seeing oneself clearly.

The difficulty in accepting oneself is often related to one's growth experience. A lack of unconditional acceptance during one's growth period often results in feelings of rejection and criticism. This pattern gradually forms within us. When faced with perceived shortcomings, a critical inner voice may emerge, leading to self-rejection and self-criticism.

It is therefore evident that self-acceptance requires practice. I myself also practised for a long time before I gradually improved my level of self-acceptance. However, it is clear that complete self-acceptance is a significant challenge. From my own experience, it is evident that the more we accept ourselves, the more confident we will become and the more motivated we will be to change.

Consequently, if self-acceptance is viewed as a skill that is continuously developed, rather than an inherent trait, it can be acquired through consistent practice.

The following five strategies, as outlined by clinical psychologists, can be employed to cultivate self-acceptance:

1. Establish the objective of self-acceptance.

"The path to self-acceptance begins with intention," says psychologist Jeffrey Samber. "It is essential that we set a goal for ourselves to transform a world of blame, doubt, and shame into a world of inclusion, acceptance, and trust." This idea acknowledges that self-loathing does not lead to a satisfying life.

Sambur stated, "If I set the objective that a life of self-acceptance is preferable to a life of self-hatred, I will initiate a chain reaction within myself to adapt to a peaceful life."

2. Record your strengths.

Record one of your strengths each day, affirm your value, and recognize your strengths. This process will help you identify your strengths and build confidence.

In today's society, shortcomings can be compensated for through cooperation, and strengths will reflect unique value.

3. Seek support from interpersonal relationships.

It is beneficial to spend time with people you feel comfortable with, who will give you unconditional acceptance, support, and love. This will help you to establish a supportive relationship that will make you feel more stable, peaceful, and joyful.

4. Engage in constructive dialogue with your inner self.

Imagine interacting with your optimal self. Envision that optimal self of yours stepping out of your body and observing your present circumstances, and providing guidance on how to proceed.

This visual separation allows you to rise above the current self or the self in distress and facilitates the use of inner wisdom—the best self—to facilitate healing.

This exercise teaches individuals how to become their own best mentors and demonstrate compassion and love for themselves. It can be completed in a few minutes and is an effective way to provide guidance and self-comfort when needed.

5. Model the desired behavior until it becomes a habit.

If you do not believe you are a valuable employee, then first give yourself value and hold onto that belief. Only when we can unconditionally accept ourselves can we finally forgive our mistakes and give up the need for others' approval.

It is indisputable that we have made mistakes, as have others. However, our identity is not contingent on our mistakes.

It is important to remember that when we lack something within, we will look for it outside. If we cannot accept ourselves, we will especially long for acceptance from others. However, everything in the outside world is unstable. Therefore, we can only gain stable acceptance by turning inward. When we have achieved self-acceptance, we will not care so much about the approval and evaluation of others, and we can gain true inner freedom.

Secondly, it is important to recognise your own merits and value, and to learn to give yourself positive feedback.

The Pygmalion effect indicates that expectations influence outcomes. Rather than focusing on desired outcomes, it is more effective to anticipate and prepare for the results you expect.

If you expect positive outcomes with confidence and truly believe that things will go smoothly, they really will. Conversely, if you believe that things are constantly being hindered, these obstacles will arise.

It is therefore important to consider the significance of positive beliefs. When individuals possess positive beliefs and attitudes, exude confidence, and maintain an optimistic outlook, it can have a significant impact on their performance and outlook.

It is a proven fact that positive beliefs lead to positive actions, which often result in positive outcomes.

If we expect ourselves to become something, we will continue to work hard in that direction, and eventually, we will really become that expected self. Conversely, if we believe we cannot do it, we will remain stagnant.

Therefore, it is important to consistently reinforce the belief that you can learn and achieve what you set out to learn and achieve. Remind yourself that things will improve and that you have the capacity to succeed.

Affirmation and self-support are key to developing confidence.

As previously stated, when something is lacking within us, we will seek it outside. However, everything outside is unstable and beyond our control. The only thing we can control is ourselves, that is, our own actions and thoughts.

When we seek external recognition, it indicates that we lack self-approval. Therefore, it is essential to practice self-approval and self-encouragement. When we are self-approved and self-supportive, we become less concerned with external recognition and evaluation.

When you accept and approve of yourself, you will also gain the approval and confidence of others.

In conclusion, you are the driving force behind all change. By changing yourself, you can effect change in your environment.

Thirdly, in order to implement actions and create a successful experience, it is essential to cultivate self-confidence and a sense of security, while continuously developing abilities and knowledge.

Taking action is the most effective method for combating anxiety.

Confidence is derived from strength and hard work. When we become the person we aspire to be through our own efforts, we will become more and more confident and feel more and more secure.

Setting appropriate goals and working towards achieving them in a systematic manner will lead to gradual improvement in abilities, knowledge accumulation, and a richer experience. This will result in increased feelings of security, a greater sense of control over one's life, and a natural boost in confidence.

The optimal goal is one that is moderately challenging, yet achievable. If the goal is too small, it may lead to feelings of unchallenged and disinterest. Conversely, if the goal is too large, it may result in feelings of overwhelming resistance and lack of confidence. A moderately challenging goal is the most motivating. When we work hard to achieve these goals, we will feel a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

As an example, if your current walking level is 4,000 steps per day, then set your daily goal at 4,500-5,000, rather than less than 4,000 or as high as 10,000.

When establishing goals that align with one's abilities, whether in learning, sports, or other endeavors, it is crucial to maintain consistent action. Only through action can one overcome challenges and truly recognize their value.

Please continue to encourage yourself, provide yourself with positive mental suggestions, and believe that you can achieve your goals.

Let's keep up the good work. I know you can do it, and so can everyone else on the team.

I wish you the best of luck.

I appreciate your trust.

I can empathize with some of the challenges you're currently facing. The combination of depression and anxiety has led to feelings of wasted time and a sense of falling behind your peers. This is undoubtedly a difficult situation, and I understand the frustration it causes.

Past experiences may also have an impact on your current performance. You previously ranked at the top of your class, but your performance declined when you entered the advanced high school class. Additionally, the anxiety associated with the college entrance exam may have contributed to your underperformance, and a sense of guilt and self-doubt persisted.

Subsequently, he attempted the second college entrance exam, which is to retake the exam, but his performance declined further. This outcome is likely to cause significant distress. The previously high-performing student has now fallen to the level of a student at a junior college. According to popular opinion, he may perceive this as a decline from his previous success and that his career reached its peak thirty years ago.

Many things are subject to change. If you do not address this loss and disappointment promptly, you may continue to waste time and affect your follow-up. I also see that you have a world-weary complex and have been diagnosed with depression. Treating this is also very difficult.

After being expelled from school, you enrolled in a junior college. This may be another opportunity that fate has presented you with. We must seize this opportunity to create more opportunities for success. You could even consider the possibility of transferring to a university or taking a postgraduate entrance exam. You must transform anxiety into motivation.

Furthermore, you should leverage your strengths by seeking psychological counseling, addressing past issues, and focusing on your present circumstances. By doing so, you can utilize your resilience and drive to advance your personal growth, contribute to China's development, and enhance your outlook. I wish you the best in your endeavors.

Please advise.