I can't let go of him, but I'm also being hung up on by him. How am I supposed to face this relationship?

Greetings, inquirer. My name is Jia Ao, and I have no ulterior motives in posing this question.

I came across your question on the platform and understood the confusion you were experiencing. You have recently developed a romantic interest in someone at work. This individual is now your superior. Despite the positive rapport you have established with him, he has politely rejected your romantic advances. You are uncertain about his intentions and unsure of how to proceed in this relationship. You are reluctant to let go and desire a prompt resolution.

A comprehensive examination of the situation is warranted.

1. Preliminary Investigation Before proceeding with an analysis, it is essential to confirm the marital status of both individuals. Is your superior also unmarried?

There is nothing inherently problematic about developing romantic feelings for someone, provided that both individuals are currently single. The fact that you two engage in lengthy conversations throughout the night indicates that you still have a great deal in common, or at the very least, that you are attracted to each other. However, I am uncertain about the rationale behind his rejection. He stated that he hopes to proceed with you, regardless of the specific circumstances, which is open to interpretation. If you are in a relationship and moving forward together, it is unclear what other capacity could exist.

2. Regardless of the rationale behind his refusal to accept your confession and continued involvement, his behavior is inherently illogical and difficult to comprehend. It is plausible that he has an ulterior motive or that he still harbors feelings for you, though he may not be forthcoming about the reason.

One must decide whether to accept the confession and pursue a romantic relationship or to be honest and clear, thus allowing neither party to be held back. This latter option may be preferable. If the confession is rejected, one should not allow the rejection to cause one to become involved again. This kind of ambiguity is more damaging than a rejection. If the other person does not love one, one should not give him hope and become involved. Relationships are complex and difficult to control. The ambiguity of the situation is such that one must consider whether one wants to remain in suspense.

3. It would be advisable to identify an appropriate occasion to engage in a constructive dialogue with the individual in question. This would enable you to ascertain the rationale behind his initial rejection and his current decision to pursue a relationship with you. It would also be prudent to inquire directly about his feelings towards you. You have a right to know the truth. However, if he is reluctant to communicate openly, it may be unwise to pursue the matter further.

4. It is undoubtedly challenging to work for the same company as one's superior. If the relationship is destined to be strained, it may be advisable to temporarily set aside personal feelings and strive for a more professional demeanor. If this is not feasible, it may be beneficial to consider a change in work environment. This could prove beneficial for all parties involved. What are your thoughts on this matter?

It is my sincere hope that this response proves beneficial to you. With love and best wishes,

Hello, I'm a heart coach. I'm here to support you with warmth and a listening ear.

It's totally normal to feel this way! You want to build on the good stuff with this person, but it's also hard to deal with their mixed signals.

I don't know what's going on with you two, but I can tell you're hurting. Let me give you a big hug and we'll figure out what's going on.

1. Our relationships with others have their roots in our relationships with ourselves.

Many folks think that the purpose of marriage is to find their other half, so that they can become a "complete person." They want to use marriage as a way to deal with their own incompleteness and things they cannot solve independently. Unfortunately, this often leads to discord.

This is true for marriage as well as for love. We all have different expectations in relationships. We hope that our partners can meet our psychological needs in every way. We also hope that they can nourish us and help us become our best selves.

You know, only by loving ourselves can we love others better and be our own strongest support.

The root of our relationship with others lies in our relationship with ourselves.

If we start with distrust, criticism, and mistrust, they'll quickly find their way into the relationship. We'll feel insecure and uncertain, worrying about whether the relationship is good for us or not.

It's totally normal to feel this way! We're probably looking for something we're missing inside ourselves and hoping this person will fill that gap. This is one of the main reasons why we can sometimes become a bit demanding, controlling, or possessive in relationships.

When we radiate love, trust, energy, and fullness from within, our relationships start to come together in beautiful ways. We no longer seek outside approval, trust, understanding, support, agreement, love, or appreciation because we already have it within.

So, in this relationship, we can enjoy it and share it without any worries.

We can become aware of our own inner lack by noticing the feelings that others bring to us. And when we recognize that we already have these qualities within ourselves, we give them away. Then, in a wonderful way, others will see these qualities in us!

It's so true that energy always expands! And the energy we give off from within will also expand.

So, looking at this relationship with him, you can see your own patterns and what you need to feel satisfied. Everyone comes into your life to help you learn an important lesson, and he is no exception. Finding this lesson and completing it carefully may be "loving yourself" or "self-awareness"...

2. To get along with others, it's really helpful to establish a good sense of boundaries.

A sense of boundaries is all about how we judge and value our personal space. When we lack this sense, we might unintentionally impose our will on others, let them cross our personal boundaries, or even cross theirs.

It's so important to have a strong sense of boundaries! It's something we all have within us, and it's there to help us have comfortable relationships with others. When we have a strong sense of boundaries, we can have the happy, healthy relationships we all deserve!

People without a sense of boundaries often have a hard time understanding the "unspoken meaning" or seeing the "hidden rules." This can lead to some pretty uncomfortable moments in our relationships with others. It's like we're all feeling a bit suffocated by an invisible hand!

We all have our own unique personalities, whether it's in love, family, or friendship. It's so important to remember that in all of our relationships, maintaining an appropriate distance is key to showing respect for others.

If this person you trust has told you he likes you and you've said you don't feel the same, but he still tries to chat with you and play games, I wouldn't call him a bad person, but he doesn't respect your feelings and is irresponsible.

Because, such a lack of sense of boundaries rejects you on the one hand and titillates you on the other, which is not good for you.

?Advice: Don't be afraid to express yourself!

It's so important to express your views and feelings and let the other person know your attitude. I know his behavior is wrong, but there must be a positive motive behind it, or maybe he just wants to gain the approval of the opposite sex, a sense of satisfaction and worth, or a sense of control over others.

It's so important to remember not to lose yourself in your emotions, and to keep sight of your own wonderful self! Think about things like self-confidence, a sense of worth, self-esteem, and respect.

I really hope this helps, and I love you so much! ?

If you'd like to keep chatting, just click on "Find a coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'd love to keep talking with you one-on-one!

Greetings, Landlord.

It is possible to empathise with the experience of being "hung up on"; it is, after all, a distinctly unpleasant sensation. However, it is important to recognise that this is not a problem that can be attributed to another individual. Rather, it is an illusion caused by one's own excessively high expectations of others.

The question thus arises as to how one should deal with such feelings.

1. Cease investing emotionally in time.

If an individual does not accept a confession, it is evident that they do not intend to form a romantic relationship with the confessor. Instead, they may merely desire to maintain a platonic friendship.

Given that he views you as merely a casual acquaintance and has no desire to pursue a more intimate relationship, it would be prudent to accept this reality and move on.

Furthermore, it would be prudent to cease investing emotionally in the relationship, safeguard one's dignity, and offer only a moderate level of financial support when one is in a romantic relationship again.

The notion of unconditional benevolence towards another individual is not a defining characteristic of romantic love. Rather, the experience of love is shaped by the capacity to provide a sense of comfort to one's partner.

2. The process of falling in love is a matter of personal responsibility.

The landlord's business is limited to his own feelings and the other person's potential for reciprocation. If the landlord can distinguish between his own feelings and the other person's potential for reciprocation,

As a result, animosity towards the other person is avoided. In a relationship, the individual who is most vulnerable is the one who states, "I like you so much, why don't you like me?" There is no definitive right or wrong in a relationship. Feelings are personal. The individual is free to like whoever they choose. It is not reasonable to expect others to treat us the same way we treat them.

3. Gradually disengage and redirect your attention to work-related matters.

When an individual's emotional state is disrupted, it becomes challenging to maintain focus and concentration on the task at hand.

It is of particular importance to concentrate on one's work at this juncture, to maintain a sense of purpose and to temporarily disengage from the emotional distress caused by the situation.

Even in the absence of romantic affection, I possess the capacity to sustain myself, thereby fostering self-assurance.

I am gratified if you hold positive sentiments towards me, and even if you do not, I am capable of maintaining a fulfilling existence independently.

It is my sincere hope that you will enjoy a long and happy life.

I am June, a warm entity within the world. I love you, the world, and I love you, too, myself.

Good day.

As a heart exploration coach, I believe that learning is the key to unlocking the potential within the body.

From your description, I can discern a certain level of internal conflict, concern, discomfort, and a sense of being adrift.

I will not address the frustration of being rejected after expressing your feelings to someone you are interested in. However, I will provide three pieces of advice.

First and foremost, I recommend that you communicate with him in a sincere manner.

You have indicated that you are unable to move forward at this time. You have also stated that he is the primary source of your distress, that you require a resolution, and that you are experiencing heightened levels of discomfort. In such circumstances, it is often advisable to assume the role of the primary initiator of change. This is particularly relevant in the context of a relationship, where the individual experiencing the greater distress is often the first to make a move. The initial step in this process is to communicate with the other party in a sincere and open manner.

The objective of communication is to convey your genuine thoughts and to gain insight into his perspective.

It is important to note the approach to take when communicating with him.

One approach is to empathize with his perspective and demonstrate a willingness to understand his needs.

As you outlined in your description, he may be concerned that it is not advisable for you to develop romantic feelings for a colleague, or he may be worried that you will leave your job, so he is preventing you from doing so. You can start by putting yourself in his shoes to improve communication between you.

Secondly, it is advisable to begin with a personal pronoun, discuss emotions, and explicitly outline expectations. This approach can facilitate more effective communication.

For example, you can say to him, "I would like to have a productive discussion with you. After I expressed my interest in pursuing a relationship with you the other day, you provided a response, but I'm unclear on what you meant. I hope you can provide a clear answer. You may have your own reasons for encouraging me, but I want to understand your true thoughts. If you don't have a positive impression of me, you can just say so. It's okay. Even if we cannot be partners, we can still be good friends, right?" And so on.

After you have communicated with him in such an open and honest manner, he will likely provide you with a clear understanding of his thoughts and expectations, which will inform your decision-making process.

Secondly, I recommend allowing him some time to consider the matter and, in the interim, attempting to obtain a definitive response from him.

After you have communicated with him in a sincere manner, he may not provide an answer immediately, as he may require time to reflect. It is important to remember that selecting a partner is a significant decision. During this period, it is advisable to allow him some time and to continue treating him in the same manner as usual. You may then wish to inform him calmly that you hope he will provide a clear answer and not leave you in uncertainty.

After numerous discussions, he may eventually provide a response that will provide clarity and resolution.

I reiterate my previous advice: prepare yourself for the possibility that he will not change, and then consider your options.

Despite communicating with him in depth and allowing him time to respond, he did not provide a clear answer, leaving you in the dark.

At this juncture, you must determine whether you wish to continue this relationship or whether it is worth maintaining.

In my view, a lack of clarity or commitment from someone in a relationship is a sign that they do not have strong feelings for you. Even if they have reservations, these can be addressed over time with the right approach.

Naturally, this is merely my personal viewpoint. You may also wish to consider whether he is genuinely capable of developing feelings for you and forming a romantic attachment.

However, his reply, "I hope to walk with you, no matter what capacity," also implies consent. Therefore, if you discuss the matter further with him, you should be able to obtain a clear answer.

I hope my response is of assistance to you. Should you wish to communicate further, you may click on the option "Find a coach to interpret – online conversation" at the bottom of the page, which will allow me to communicate with you directly.

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

From what you've told me, it seems like you both have strong feelings for each other. You often chat at night instead of going to sleep, which shows that you value each other's company. The other person's interaction also makes me think that you have similar feelings.

The questioner doesn't want to be in an ambiguous relationship, but also wants to make it clear that they want to be in a relationship with this person. So the questioner first confessed their love to the other person, but it turned out that they didn't reply to the questioner for a long time. They said, "I hope we can move forward together, regardless of what kind of relationship it is." The fact that they didn't reply right away shows that they've thought about it. However, the questioner's understanding is that they've tactfully rejected them. Since it is written in words, is there a mistake in the understanding?

From my perspective, this sentence doesn't explicitly say yes or no. The other person's response shows that he values the relationship with the questioner, but it's impossible to tell from this sentence what he's thinking. At the time, why did the questioner think that the other person was only saying this because he was afraid that the questioner would leave his job? Is the questioner his right-hand man in the company?

I can't let go of him, but he keeps me hanging on. How should I handle this relationship?

Gather the courage to ask him directly what he means.

From what I've seen, there might have been some confusion in your previous text-based interactions. When the other person keeps reaching out, you can simply ask them what they really mean to you, whether they see you as an employee or a friend, and what the relationship is like.

Listen to what he has to say first. Don't rush to cover up your embarrassment. You can decide whether to continue the relationship after you've heard his response. If the other person keeps avoiding the issue, ignore them. Men who are indecisive won't easily reveal their true feelings, and it'll only affect your mood.

Give yourself a pat on the back for having the courage to do this.

Facing the person they like, the questioner takes the plunge and confesses, even though they've thought about all the possible outcomes. The questioner feels rejected and is ready to stop contacting the other person right away, ready to move on from this relationship. They're proud of themselves for being able to let go.

You deserve to praise yourself, and the questioner has a very correct view of love. If it's right, you can be together; if it's not, then don't continue to waste each other's time. Give yourself the chance to think that there is still a possibility. This is how people are in relationships: they procrastinate and are reluctant to face the truth, only to end up consuming more time and energy in the relationship.

It's important to understand the other person's thoughts by observing them.

After the questioner confessed his love to the other person, he didn't explicitly tell the questioner his feelings. But the other person expressed that he still wanted to continue with the questioner, no matter what the relationship was. There are two possibilities for why the other person continued to approach the questioner. I don't know what you guys talked about, so there's one possibility that the other person might have regarded the questioner as someone to lean on.

The original meaning of "rely on" is to have some kind of support in the heart. For example, when someone is depressed, sad, or confused, they need comfort and find someone around them to talk to and rely on. If this is the case, then the other person can clearly know whether or not they like the OP. However, they won't clearly tell the OP what they're thinking in order to prevent the OP from leaving them.

Another possibility is that you just want to maintain this ambiguous relationship. The questioner didn't mention the other person's relationship status, so I don't know if they're single. If they are, they should be happy to see you saying goodbye. If they don't like you, they'll just reject you directly. Why did they say that? From this sentence, it's possible to understand that the questioner is being hung up on, but the reason why he's hanging up on the questioner is only known to himself.

The questioner can give the other person some more time to see what kind of game he's playing. If he contacts you, you can choose not to reply. If he has a crush on you, he won't be able to resist. If he doesn't have a crush on you, after seeing your attitude, he'll know there's no chance and won't waste his time here. So apart from giving time to observe, you also need to stick to your principles.

I hope this helps the questioner. Best regards,

Greetings.

Any relationship that has been genuinely enjoyed warrants respect and should be treated with sincerity, as this is the reverence we should have for love.

Although love is not as perfect as we tend to believe, rejection does not necessarily signify a decline in one's self-esteem. It is possible to depart with one's dignity intact, yet it is imperative to avoid being compelled by the other person's ambiguous stance to relinquish one's entire being. This is not an expression of love, but rather a form of self-comfort and emotional indulgence.

It can be argued that the unique companionship and listening that are usually the exclusive right and enjoyment of lovers can also be found in mutually supportive relationships between friends. However, it is still necessary to maintain an appropriate distance in such cases so that neither party becomes emotionally entangled and burdened.

It is therefore evident that the notion of "special company" does not imply the existence of a "special nature." Persistence in this regard will inevitably result in further distress and anguish for the individual in question, while the other party is free to disengage at any given moment without experiencing additional discomfort.

What is the most appropriate way to deal with unresolved emotions?

1. Reclaim one's authentic self and establish clear boundaries.

In the event that a confession does not result in the formation of an intimate relationship, it is imperative to disengage from emotional relationships that do not belong to oneself. It is essential to maintain boundaries and direct one's actions in a manner that is consistent with this understanding. It is unwise to become overly preoccupied with the vicissitudes of the world, particularly when it comes to concerns about potential gains and losses. This can not only impact one's emotional well-being but also hinder normal work progress.

2. It is essential to communicate in an open and transparent manner, ensuring that the other person's thoughts are clearly understood.

Following the rejection, the questioner deliberately maintained his distance, yet the other individual once again extended an invitation to engage in late-night conversation. This action constitutes a transgression of role boundaries, as relationships between individuals are defined by their interactions. Consequently, regardless of whether the other person is "intentionally" or "unintentionally" disregarding the questioner's feelings, it is essential for the questioner to seek confirmation to prevent further distress, challenges, and pain.

3. It is recommended that the individual allow themselves a period of time to achieve a state of calm.

Feelings are susceptible to eliciting negative emotional responses. Regardless of the nature of the feelings experienced, they will invariably influence one's emotional state. It is beneficial to allow oneself a brief period to process and buffer against any negative emotions, thereby allowing one's mood to gradually adjust and stabilize. This process allows for a more optimal direction to be identified, facilitates the clearing of thoughts, and fosters a sense of calm, thereby setting the stage for a new journey.

Best wishes for success and resilience.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you regarding the subject in question. Kind regards,

After reviewing your description and his response, I believe there is more to this than meets the eye. His response indicates a level of attachment to you and a willingness to pursue a relationship with you further. It suggests that in his future plans, he envisions a continued role for you in his life. This long-term companionship is the most sincere expression of his feelings, which he is reluctant to verbalize. He is willing to be by your side in whatever capacity, because just being able to see you and spend time with you is something that makes him happy.

He will respond in this way. I also have some personal speculations, or you, the original poster, can verify them during your subsequent contact with him.

He may also exhibit avoidant attachment behaviors. When he is suddenly informed of his feelings by someone he admires, he may worry that getting too close will negatively impact the positive emotional relationship they have. As a result, he may subconsciously avoid and hide. Individuals with avoidant attachment often lack the belief that someone will remain by their side through thick and thin. When someone like this suddenly appears, they may initially want to hide or avoid the situation. This is because separation, expectations, and trust are difficult for them to navigate. Past experiences have taught them to minimize their expectations of the outside world to protect themselves from getting hurt. When you express your feelings, he may feel uncertain about how to respond.

He has a positive opinion of you, is close to you, and trusts you. However, he has learned certain behaviors that prevent him from expressing this, making it difficult for him to trust, love, and attach to you. As a result, he communicates his desires and imagination for you and the relationship indirectly.

There may be genuine obstacles preventing him from letting down his guard and pursuing a relationship with you. From a practical standpoint, he may be married and unable to accept your romantic interest to avoid hurting you and his spouse. There could be business-related constraints or familial expectations influencing his decision. Even if he has positive feelings towards you, driven by pragmatic rationalism, he may choose to end the relationship.

Finally, as a last possibility, it could be that he is enjoying the emotional rollercoaster of a relationship, which may be a reflection of his own insecurities. Such individuals are not uncommon in today's society. Their childhood experiences may have resulted in a heightened need for external validation, but their own immaturity may prevent them from taking responsibility for their actions, causing distress to others. Awareness of such individuals may evoke feelings of sadness and helplessness, but they are not common in life. If he fits this description, it is a rare experience and challenge for you. Treating the current relationship well may help you to be more discerning in future relationships.

Now, let us address your question regarding how to respond to such an emotional display when he next initiates communication. What is the appropriate course of action if you feel like you're being manipulated?

When he attempts to communicate with you again, you can inquire about his attitude toward you. Men often have difficulty expressing their emotions. His cryptic words may indicate a tacit refusal. Initially, I interpreted them as a promise, but the true meaning may be known only to him. Instead of speculating about his intentions, it is preferable to ask directly about his feelings for you. With regard to expressing our thoughts, we can organize our words with reference to the format of Nonviolent Communication, specifically:

1. State the facts: "You did not respond to my confession on that day..."

Secondly, it is important to express your feelings honestly.

Describe your needs: "I would like to receive positive feedback without having to guess, so that I don't get my hopes up even if things don't work out..."

4. Make a request: "Kindly provide a clear definition of the nature of our relationship."

Furthermore, if you have made it clear that the relationship is over and do not wish to be contacted, you can use non-violent communication to request that the other party reduce the frequency of their communication. An example of this would be: "I have refrained from contacting you for several days, and I regret this because I value our relationship. However, I have decided to move on and pursue other opportunities. Therefore, I kindly request that you limit the number of times you contact me in the future."

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

Dear Question Owner,

Tomorrow, you are scheduled to resume your professional responsibilities. Presently, you are experiencing a complex emotional state, having recently confessed your romantic interest in him and having been rejected. I empathize with your situation. You are reluctant to acknowledge the reality of the situation, yet you must confront it. You feel as though you are facing a dismal future head-on. I offer you my support and encouragement.

After reading about your experience, I was prompted to reflect on my own history of heartbreak. My own heartbreak coincided with the time when my former romantic partner began working in the office adjacent to mine. I endured a significant degree of distress during that period. I came to recognize the value of the insights gained from that challenging experience.

However, the situation remains unaltered. The former partner is still able to live a carefree life. In retrospect, I have realised that I have reached a dead end. I was consumed by my own thoughts, imagining him in an overly positive light. Perhaps it was my narcissism and my disbelief that my judgement was incorrect that led me to torture myself. If time could be turned back, I do not believe I would have spent it in that way.

In light of my previous experience, I would like to offer the following suggestions for your consideration.

Firstly, it is recommended that you attend work tomorrow with an open mind. On the surface, everything should proceed as normal, as if nothing has happened. Even if you are experiencing distress, it is believed that maintaining a composed exterior demonstrates resilience. As long as we persevere, presenting a calm demeanor will become second nature.

Secondly, it is important to correctly understand the rejection of your confession. This implies that relationships are a two-way process. There are reasons why we like someone, and there are reasons why they may reject us. This does not imply that we are inherently flawed. We will continue to live our lives in the same manner, pursuing our strengths and abilities.

Secondly, it would be advisable to revert to the manner in which you treated your superior when you first encountered him, at the inception of your professional relationship. It would be unwise to dwell on his rejection or to succumb to depression at the loss of the rapport you enjoyed at the outset. If you can achieve this, tomorrow you should approach him with an open heart and inquire as to the commencement time and the necessary steps to take. In other words, you should endeavour to return to your usual state of mind. As long as you can get past the initial meeting tomorrow, you will be fine. I wish you the best of luck!

At the conclusion of this exercise, you will be encouraged to engage in a process of catharsis through the medium of written expression. This will entail the use of a pen and paper to document your emotional experience in relation to your initial encounter with the subject in question, the duration of your subsequent discussions, the emotional impact of your fantasies, the circumstances surrounding your confession, the subsequent emotional state you experienced, and your future aspirations. It is anticipated that this process will facilitate the healing of your emotional wounds and result in a positive shift in your mood, enabling you to greet the new day with a sense of optimism and joy.

It is this author's sincere hope that your future will be filled with joy and that you will receive the love you deserve.

I extend my utmost affection to the world and to you.

Give him a comforting hug.

First, ask yourself: in your past beliefs about life, have you ever had beliefs or thoughts like "a rejection means a permanent failure, and you can't contact them again"?

I don't know if you've heard this saying before: "If you dance well with a hoe, you can pry a bag of rice from any corner." You've just danced a little and made a confession, and you want to bring down the whole wall. We can't be so confident, even though we're girls.

Secondly, I want to know why he's turning you down. As the saying goes, "Know yourself and your enemy, and you will never be in peril." So, do you know what kind of girl he likes?

I want to know how close you are to his ideal of what a girl should be like.

Let's be real. So-called love is often a melodramatic situation where the person I love doesn't love me, and the person who loves me doesn't love him. So, tell me, what does your ideal partner look like?

Also, there is a saying that I don't know if you believe it or not, and that is "liking is not the same as love." In English, it is the same: liking is like, and love is love; the difference between IK and OV. Liking is based on your own perspective, while love may be more based on the other person's perspective. That is why some people say that liking is possession, and love is giving.

I'd like to know your opinion on this.

Let me be clear: He may not be interested in you romantically, and it may just be you who thinks he is. Because you are still colleagues and there is a superior-subordinate relationship, you need to pay attention to the content of his conversations with you.

He may only appreciate you for your work. Be aware of whether you have a tomboy side. An outstanding man won't choose a tomboy as his girlfriend.

Hello, question asker!

Reading your question, I can feel your confusion about this relationship. You feel like giving up, but you are always held back. It is true that it feels good to be liked by someone, especially if that person also likes you back! And that's a great feeling!

In the adult world, this kind of ambiguous feeling between two people may be the most comfortable and the best. Everyone has been in love before, and many people will feel that the feeling of being together at the beginning is the best! At that time, you give each other relaxed, comfortable, and enjoyable experiences without burdens! But there will always be a moment of waking up, and there will always be a moment of having to face the reality. When this moment comes, how should the person involved deal with themselves?

In the questioner's description, it is mentioned that "after you confessed your feelings to the other person, it took him a long time to reply that he was willing to go forward with you no matter what your status was..." What an exciting turn of events! What were the thoughts in the questioner's mind after getting this reply? (Would it be that you work in the same company and he is your boss, trying to retain you?)

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After the questioner was politely rejected by the other party, he endured the pain and did not contact the other party. At that moment, you must have considered the relationship between the two parties, and you must have convinced yourself before making a choice! However, when the other party took the initiative to contact you again, it seems that you have wavered again. I don't know how I should face this relationship that is so difficult to cut off...

I would love to encourage the questioner to think about what they need from this relationship. What are they hoping for from their partner? What is the reality?

Absolutely! You can totally accept this reality if it continues to develop. Ask the same question to your partner and see if there are differences in how you both treat the same relationship. How do you want to deal with this difference?

Once you've clarified these issues, you'll have a deeper understanding of yourself and each other. This will help you make the perfect choice! Every genuine relationship deserves respect, and you are just as important in a relationship as the other person!

Take care of your pure heart!

Best regards! I'm so excited to see what the future holds!

Hello, host! I can tell you're suffering from your words. I have experience I'm going to share with you:

You need to stick to your own frame of mind. It's clear that you've lost yourself in this relationship. Your emotions are easily swayed by your partner, and this state of affairs is not conducive to having a healthy relationship.

In any relationship, you need to have a "self." Even if the other person doesn't like you, you shouldn't lose yourself to win their affection. Losing yourself will greatly reduce your personal charm, which will not be conducive to your relationship.

You need to treat the other person as your colleague or friend and get along with them. Maintain a balance in your relationship, and you won't be in pain.

Love is a mutual feeling. We will all encounter people we like a lot but who don't like us back. When faced with such feelings, we mustn't become anxious, inferior, and easily swayed by the other person.

It's crucial to understand that in any relationship, "I" is the most important. A relationship can only be achieved with mutual affection. The original poster has already expressed his feelings to the other person, and I believe that's sufficient. The rest is not something the original poster can control. We may need to wait for the other person to take the first step. If they can't, we should also be rational about it. We can't just do things to get what we want and hurt ourselves. That kind of relationship is a waste for the original poster.

I like you, but it's none of your business. Like or love can often be one-sided, and often we may not get a response from the other person. But even if that's the case, it's okay because liking someone is a personal matter.

Do what you want to do. In "Meet the Unknown Self," Zhang Defen says, "There are only three things in life: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of the heavens." You can only control your own actions. You can't control other people or the affairs of the heavens.

It's not easy being a worker. You spend most of your time at work, your social circle is limited, and there aren't many chances to develop emotionally. The colleagues and bosses you meet and work with every day are probably the people you're most likely to fall in love with. So I really understand the situation.

It can be tough to navigate relationships at work. Let's try to simplify the issue. Imagine you don't have a boss-subordinate dynamic, you don't have to worry about the company's opinions or interests, and you can just view your relationship as an ordinary man and woman. Then, introduce the work relationship and see how it changes things.

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You communicate well, have compatible personalities, and have had many enjoyable experiences together. At important junctures in the relationship, you've chosen to be honest about his thoughts rather than find other excuses to gloss over the truth. This is also a form of affirmation and respect for you. Even if you don't stay together, you have the foundation to maintain a friendship that goes beyond friendship.

You have some pretty big differences when it comes to intimacy. You want to be able to put a name to your feelings and move on with a clear idea of what's going on, while he's trying to keep your relationship open-ended and keep the mystery alive. It's not that he's holding you back, but that he's not ready to put a label on your relationship just yet, maybe because of his nature or because he's still figuring you out.

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Given how well you get along, the questioner must be a capable person for this man. You'll be a huge asset to his work. Working for such a boss who appreciates you is also great for your career development and your sense of self-worth. You've probably had many times of fighting side by side, anxious, excited, and excited about a common work goal. The emotional tension brought about by this work has also injected a lot of energy into the promotion of your relationship.

You're both at the same company, so there's a bit of a competition between you. You might also have to deal with the judgmental eyes of your colleagues and the influence of public opinion. Staying in a relationship might not necessarily bring you more benefits. After you ignore him, he'll contact you on his own initiative. You're not sure whether he stays to help you out of a sense of security or because he doesn't want you to leave. You're both unsure of the proportion of these two feelings.

Is he keeping things ambiguous because he likes it that way, or because your personality makes him feel uncertain, or because he thinks ambiguous treatment is the best way to maintain the status quo and empower him at work and in life?

It's true that the questioner wants to end the ambiguity, and the man wants to keep things uncertain. They're both right, but it's hard to say what will happen if the relationship continues.

It seems like this guy is really good at keeping the relationship on the edge, enjoying the good parts and avoiding the bad. If you can relax and enjoy the process, that's great. But if you want a clear understanding of the relationship, you need to be open about it as a couple and keep it professional at work. Basically, if you want to maintain a certain relationship with him, you have to accept the ambiguity for a long time. Instead of worrying about why he's so open, think about what kind of emotional state you want.

Haiyun Qingxin's analysis:

1. [Indifferent attitude] It takes courage to be brave enough to confess your love, and it takes wisdom to let go of it with indifference. Everyone has their own desires, and everyone needs to cultivate a certain attitude: be calm when you gain something, be indifferent when you lose it, fight for what is inevitable, and go with the flow.

You can fight for what is inevitable, but you must accept what is natural. Everyone has the right to accept others and the right to reject others. Similarly, if someone doesn't like you and expresses their feelings to you, and you reject them, they won't be happy. Do you think they did the right thing?

You must learn to respect others. If the person pursuing you can accept rejection, and if the person you pursue can accept rejection, then you should be able to accept it if the person pursuing you rejects you. Confessing your love shows you like someone. Like is based on respect. Without respect, there is no liking. Liking without respect is possessiveness.

2. [Relationship positioning] He said he hopes to go on with you, no matter what capacity. No matter what kind of relationship it is, he has a relationship positioning. What is your relationship positioning? But he doesn't approve of it. The positioning is mutually approved. If one party doesn't approve, the relationship doesn't stand. This is true whether you are lovers, colleagues, friends, or whatever.

You must analyze and understand what he thinks your relationship is. Follow that position. If you approve and position your relationship that way, it will work. If you don't approve, you'll just be an ordinary superior and subordinate relationship.

If you don't recognize the relationship he's defined, and he doesn't recognize the relationship you've defined, then you two have no relationship. It's that simple. You have a choice: either he recognizes the relationship you've defined, or you recognize the relationship he's defined. If neither of you recognizes it, then you two have no relationship.

You need to find out two things: first, what he thinks and feels about you. Second, what you need emotionally.

Let's analyze his feelings and attitude towards you.

First, answer the following questions.

1. As your boss, he must have a reason for being afraid you'll quit. Is it because you bring him economic benefits? Or because it was not easy to recruit the right employees when he first started his business? Or because you've been particularly helpful to him in his career?

If it's because of work, he needs to pay you an equivalent salary for your work. If not, and he's keeping you in an ambiguous relationship, you need to figure out if you're being emotionally used.

2. He won't commit to being in a relationship with you, yet he's clear that what you have is abnormal. You need to figure out why.

He needs to tell you if he's single. You need to know why he's reluctant to be your boyfriend.

3. What are his demands on you? Everyone has their own demands in every relationship.

He needs to be clear about his intentions. Is he looking for help with work? Is he seeking emotional support because he's lonely? Or is he simply looking for a casual partner because he doesn't want to take responsibility?

Once you understand the reasons above, you will have a better grasp on his behavior and know how to handle him.

Let's analyze your emotional needs again:

1. Clarify your needs.

You want a relationship with clear emotions. It is clear from your discussion that you hope to clarify things between you. You don't like the ambiguity and the distant relationship, and you don't approve of the way things are going other than as a couple. Otherwise you wouldn't be suffering. So you need to clarify whether you can develop the kind of relationship with him that you want. If not, then you need to let go when you should, otherwise it's just a waste of time and an added source of suffering.

2. Decide if the other person is worth fighting for.

Tell me why you can't let go of him. What attracts you about him?

Is it his charm? Or is it that he chats with you and gives you the companionship you need when you feel empty?

He is worth fighting for and developing a relationship with. If you have deep feelings for him and really like him, then you need to try harder.

After all, happiness is more important than anything. Girls can also chase boys. Meet your partner's needs through your own efforts so he'll accept you.

3. You need to ask yourself whether your emotional need for him is indispensable.

Ask yourself this: if it's not him, but someone else who chats with you, cares about you, and takes care of you, would you give someone else a chance to become your partner? If you can, you might as well consider those men who really care about you and want to become your couple.

There are plenty of other people in the world. If you don't absolutely have to be with this person, why put yourself through all this and get involved with someone who doesn't want a future with you?

Let me be clear: you are stuck in this situation because you like the other person and don't want to lose them, but they are ambiguous and indecisive. As a woman, you must make a decision and be decisive. Have a good talk with the other person after considering the above issues. If their attitude is unsatisfactory, you should leave them.

Finally, I want to remind you that you deserve better than an emotional entanglement with no future. You deserve a relationship that is all your own. Give your heart to a partner who is willing to take responsibility for the rest of your life together, not someone who won't even say a word to acknowledge your relationship.

Dear Host Girl, I am Xing Ying, a national-level 3 psychological counselor.

From the text, it is evident that the author displays sincerity and restraint in their emotions, courage in love, and a sense of being unable to move on or let go. It is a poignant and endearing sentiment to truly care for someone, a feeling that often drives one to seek proximity.

However, the inability to establish a close relationship with him, coupled with the emotional entanglement that hinders your ability to disengage, is a profoundly distressing experience.

[Love can be addictive]

The positive emotional experience has led to a high level of involvement and a lack of ability to disengage. Many women in love will even dedicate all of their energy and attention to the relationship, a phenomenon known in psychology as the "Su Dongpo effect." This is often referred to as "the authorities are confused." Due to the strong attachment to this emotional bond, individuals may occasionally compromise and yield at any cost, becoming what is commonly referred to as a "love brain."

In such circumstances, individuals tend to narrow their perspectives and become influenced by the actions and emotions of others. This can result in a lack of consideration for one's own needs and a tendency to remain invested in a situation despite the absence of desired outcomes.

[Please safeguard your composure and fortitude]

In your writing, I observe a courageous and candid admission, which reflects a genuine sincerity toward oneself and one's emotions. Following the rejection, it is reasonable to assume that you experienced a profound sense of sadness and disappointment. However, in the face of this setback, you demonstrated remarkable composure in making a decision.

He has rejected me, and I have chosen to refrain from contacting him.

Your courage and composure in the pursuit of romantic relationships is commendable. Even when you experience disappointment, it is important to recognize your resilience and utilize it to prioritize your well-being.

Your composure enables you to discern that his conduct is designed to [isolate you].

He terminated the relationship after becoming aware of your feelings. An optimal course of action for an individual who is mature or willing to consider the feelings of others would be to disengage to prevent further misunderstandings and distress. However, he did not take that approach.

The reason for his behavior is unclear. It is possible that he is also confused and has a positive impression of you, but is unable to act on it. Alternatively, it is possible that he never intended to fall in love with you, and is only considering a short-term relationship. Regardless of the reason, his actions do not appear to consider your feelings.

The frequency of late-night conversations leads me to hypothesize that he holds positive sentiments towards me.

Perhaps due to the professional relationship and shared company, he may be concerned about the potential impact on my employment.

These statements lead me to believe that you are uncertain about his feelings towards you.

It is evident that the individual in question does not desire for you to terminate your employment, nor does he wish to formalize the nature of your relationship. Furthermore, he appears to be reluctant to engage in any long-term planning regarding your prospective relationship.

Let us now consider the reality of the situation with a cool head and examine the possible choices available to you.

1. Respond to his communications and continue the relationship.

The conversations are pleasant and emotionally soothing. However, it is likely that both parties have gradually acquiesced to this relationship.

The result is that he is not held accountable for his actions, and his initiative, coupled with your refusal to reject it, forms a conspiracy of complicity in the special relationship. In the absence of a clear relationship, neither party is obliged to the other. He may pursue his own romantic relationship, and you will find it even more challenging to extricate yourself. In this situation, are you willing to accept it?

2. You articulate your position and allow him to make the decision.

Currently, you are experiencing considerable distress and uncertainty regarding the future of your relationship. Any action he takes will have an impact on you. When you adopt a clear stance, stating that you only accept honest and devoted love, the responsibility for decision-making shifts from you to him.

He must determine whether he wishes to continue the relationship or cease the harassment.

The result is that the individual assumes the initiative in the relationship, adopting a clear attitude of their own. They are no longer held back.

The foundation of any love relationship is the self, the independent individual who experiences love in an intimate relationship with another person. Regardless of the enchanting nature of love, it is imperative to bring oneself to the relationship without sacrificing one's identity.

One may only be nourished by love when one maintains one's identity and autonomy.

In conclusion, it can be stated that the defining characteristic of a positive romantic relationship is that it provides mutual benefit and satisfaction to both partners, rather than causing distress or requiring constant compromise and sacrifice.

Ultimately, the decision is yours to make. It is my sincere hope that you will bring yourself along to experience a beautiful life, be nourished in love, and reap happiness. The world and I love you.

If you meet someone you like, you can talk all night and confess your love. He responds, "I want to go forward with you." What a romantic response.

I want to go forward with you, but I can't give you the status you want.

You said he rejected you politely, and I haven't contacted him again. Now he's chatting with me. He's flirting with you.

Maybe he likes you too, but he doesn't choose you over something else. He has his own wants and wants to maintain a relationship with you.

Try to understand him. You can't let go of him, but you're also being kept on the hook. How should you handle this relationship?

How do you position your identity and needs in this relationship? You want him to be your boyfriend, and what kind of relationship does he want with you?

Any relationship has a position and boundaries.

If you treat him as your boss, it's a superior-subordinate relationship.

Treat him as a superior if you want respect. If you want to get along, treat him as a colleague.

Treat him the way you want to be treated.

But it's easier said than done. You two are in a relationship.

Emotional matters are often hard to understand.

There's nothing wrong with true love or pursuing it. If he's single and you're unattached, you can pursue him.

If you're unsure, take a break to figure things out.