I can't reconcile with my past self, I feel guilty and remorseful, what should I do?

Hello! I can feel the strong emotions of self-blame, guilt, pain, and helplessness in you from your story, and I'm here to help!

You said that you often think about the things you have done in the past that you don't think are very good, which plunges you into a deep state of self-reproach and guilt. You feel painful and helpless about this, but you can't help but think about these things again and again. It really is a very bad experience. But from your story, I can see that you are a very kind person, and I admire you for that!

You are a kind person, and that's a wonderful thing! You care deeply about others and are always afraid of hurting them. It's only natural to feel self-blame and guilt when you think you've done something wrong. But I want you to know that it's not your fault, and kindness is not a fault.

However, you have been so kind to others and have forgotten to spare some for yourself, so you have not taken good care of your emotions. In view of your situation, I have a suggestion for you that I think you'll love!

Since you can't reconcile with your past self, why not bring up the past and clear the air? It'll be a great way to move forward!

Let's say you told a joke to a close friend that was a bit too much and you just can't let it go. You feel like you were wrong and you shouldn't have done it.

Then my advice to you is to bring up the matter again, to express your remorse and regret solemnly, and to fulfill your unfulfilled regret. For example, if you are still in contact with this friend, you can choose to mention the matter again to her in person or via WeChat chat, and express your remorse and apology.

I'm sure your friend has either already forgotten the whole thing or will give you a friendly smile and tell you that it's been so long since this trivial matter happened. Why do you still remember it?

If you've lost touch with this friend, you can still make amends! Write down what happened, apologize, and share your feelings of self-reproach and guilt in a diary or letter. Or, if you'd rather, you can simply tell your friend in your heart, "I didn't mean to make that joke. I was just a bit impetuous. Now I feel so much self-reproach and guilt about it. You will surely forgive me, won't you?"

Bring up all those bad things that happened to you in the past that made you feel remorse and guilt. Deal with them again with your current thoughts and feelings. You can do it! You can improve the part that you feel you did badly. Don't suppress yourself from not thinking back. Avoidance will only cause deeper pain. Be brave and open up the knot. You'll feel relieved!

Hello!

You're feeling unhappy right now, and it's totally normal! We all have moments where we can't reconcile with our past, and that's okay. Give yourself a hug!

I've noticed two things: the college entrance exam is coming up soon, and the pressure has caused your depression to flare up again.

The pressure of the college entrance exam can trigger your emotional swings and a relapse of depression. But don't worry! Symptoms are externalizations of internal feelings. Why do the self-blame and guilt triggered by seemingly distant old memories appear at this moment? And why are they so severe that they affect your mood and interfere with your study life?

There is a psychological term for this, and it's called "symptom benefit." What that means is that the confusing symptoms you're experiencing right now are actually meaningful and will benefit you in the long run!

The reality is that the college entrance exam is approaching, and you've got this! You're using the self-blame and guilt triggered by past events to avoid the pressure of the college entrance exam.

At the conscious level, you rely on tens of thousands of steps of exercise every day to improve your mood. You are choosing to help yourself, and it's working! But at the same time, you are indeed tired and sometimes unable to control yourself from thinking about those meaningless and annoying old things. There are two little people inside you, one positive and one negative, who are in conflict, making you feel stuck and irritable. But you can overcome this!

We have some great strategies for you to try out!

?1. When depressive symptoms are obvious and severe, it is recommended to seek professional help. The good news is that there are scientific and standardized coping strategies that can help you in a timely and efficient manner!

2. Keep drawing on all those amazing positive experiences, like exercise, which is a total mood-booster!

?3. Accept the current self, who may be feeling low and may have past events of self-blame and guilt resurface. Then, make a promise to yourself to let these emotions stay for a certain period of time. After that, choose a positive strategy to implement! It can be as simple as a small step, but you've got this!

I'm so excited to share my experience with you! I really hope it helps. Best wishes!

Hello, classmate! I see the confusion you are facing now, but I'm here to help! Hugs to you!

You're going to be just fine! You're experiencing some emotional problems, but you're going to get through them. I'm here for you, and I'm sending you a big, warm hug!

You can let go of those past events! You can stop feeling guilty about them!

But you can't turn back the clock, so let's focus on the future!

But these bad things keep popping up in your mind, and you know what that means! They are now negatively affecting your studies.

So, classmate, what are you going to do?

I think you can definitely use the "empty chair technique" in psychology!

All you have to do is prepare two chairs. Then, you sit in one chair and imagine your childhood classmate, the one you used to joke around with when you were seven or eight, sitting in the other empty chair.

Then you say everything you want to say, including negative emotions, etc., to your childhood classmate!

If you don't know how to apply the "empty chair technique" above, don't worry! You can easily get help from a professional counselor.

A counselor is the perfect person to help you! They can take a third-party perspective, offer a non-judgmental view, and provide an objective attitude. They can also give you some more pertinent, useful, and constructive advice!

The great news is that the counselor can also help you to formally deal with the people, things, or objects that you cannot let go of in the past.

In any case, I'm really excited for you to find an effective solution to the problem you're facing as soon as possible!

I've got some ideas!

I really hope my answers are helpful and inspiring to you! I am the answer, and I study hard every day!

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world loves you too! Wishing you all the best!

Hello. I understand that it can be challenging to reconcile with your past self. It's natural for past experiences to resurface and influence our lives and studies. I can sense your stress. You're also very aware of yourself and the reasons behind your inability to let go. While you're aware that these things are in the past, it's understandable that letting go is difficult.

This is quite taxing. Perhaps a hug would be helpful.

1. You might consider talking to a counselor or a therapist about your situation. This stress has caused your depression to flare up again and has affected your life. In this case, it might be helpful to have the means to do an in-depth consultation with a counselor. There may be various reasons why you find it difficult to let go of the past. You may be preoccupied with your own mistakes, even very small ones. However, it's important to remember that nobody is perfect, and perfection is God's, which also takes away some of the charm, right?

2. It may be helpful to consider that these past events continue to linger in your mind because they have not yet fully passed in your heart. There are two simple ways to let things go: one is to put an end to things, find someone to talk to, find the person involved, and resolve the past embarrassment; the other is to talk about it, and through talking or Gestalt therapy, emotions can be reasonably placed.

3. You might consider trying mindfulness meditation. There is a meditation in the mind that lets go. I have been trying it for a while, and I have found that it helps me to become aware of the burden of carrying something in my heart, and to learn to let go.

It's important to remember that you can't change your past self, and it's natural for your future self to face challenges. To create a brighter future for yourself, it might be helpful to learn to let go of things you can't change and work towards the future you desire.

It might take a while, but it would be helpful to accept yourself and this time.

I just wanted to say that I love you, and I think the world does too.

Susu, heart exploration coach.

Greetings,

The host then proceeded to offer their input.

A careful reading of the post reveals the emotional distress and sense of powerlessness experienced by the author. Additionally, the author's willingness to openly express his difficulties and actively seek assistance on the platform is commendable. This approach can facilitate a deeper understanding of oneself and facilitate personal growth.

Subsequently, I will present my observations and personal reflections from the aforementioned post, which may assist the original poster in developing a more nuanced understanding of themselves.

1. It is inadvisable to attempt to force a reconciliation.

From the post, it is evident that the author holds himself responsible and experiences guilt regarding his inability to reconcile with his former self. It is widely acknowledged that contemporary knowledge espouses the importance of reconciling with oneself.

It is not inherently problematic to seek reconciliation; however, forcing oneself to reconcile may prove counterproductive.

Reconciliation, like insomnia, is a process that requires a certain level of relaxation and ease. Attempting to force the process will likely result in a lack of sleep.

In the interim, it may be more beneficial to pursue alternative activities that facilitate relaxation and sleep. With regard to reconciliation, it is important to recognize that there is no immediate need to reconcile with one's past self when there is still a discrepancy.

It is possible to continue with one's usual activities, including reading and studying, while also experiencing life. If one is willing to let go, one's state of mind may change.

2. Attempt to bid farewell to the past.

In a recent communication, the host of the event indicated that I had engaged in excessive joking with a close friend. While this did not negatively impact our relationship, I am unable to move on from it. I recognize that my actions were inappropriate and that I should not have done them. Even if they occurred when I was seven or eight years old, or if many years have passed, I still feel a sense of guilt and self-reproach. These experiences have consistently influenced my present circumstances, leading to feelings of irritability that I cannot fully explain.

It would be beneficial to consider apologizing for the joke that was made at the time. This could be done by speaking with a trusted friend.

This may assist in alleviating feelings of guilt and self-blame. If the friend is no longer available, written correspondence, including text messages, may be employed as an alternative.

It is not necessary to send a letter; simply convey your thoughts and sentiments to your friend in an apology.

In this manner, one may be able to bid farewell to the past, thus relieving oneself of the burden of past events and allowing oneself to move forward in a positive manner.

3. Acceptance can be conceptualized as a state of permission.

With regard to the concept of acceptance, it is noteworthy that individuals tend to perceive a limit to their capacity for self-acceptance. To illustrate, in the event of an injury, an individual may permit themselves to refrain from social engagement for a period of one week, two weeks, or even three weeks.

If they have not yet emerged by the fourth week, they will engage in self-blame, experience guilt, and exhibit signs of anxiety. They will also engage in ruminative thinking about the reasons for their continued inability to emerge.

Such individuals may even force themselves to venture outside their comfort zone.

However, this also has no effect. Consequently, the concept of acceptance is often equated with a deadline, a time limit within which a goal must be achieved.

In essence, acceptance entails a state of permission, rather than a specific action. It involves acknowledging one's limitations and allowing oneself sufficient space and time.

Even if I am unable to fully accept myself as I truly am, I permit myself to exist in this state.

Ultimately, it is my hope that these insights will prove beneficial to the original poster. I am a psychometric coach based in Yixinli.

Furthermore, I am available for one-on-one guidance as you progress.

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

You will feel the inner rejection of the old self.

You keep thinking about that former self because you think it's not good. You can't accept that former self, and that's why it keeps coming back to you.

You must believe in yourself. You are doing your best to be a better version of yourself in every moment. Your words and actions reflect your current understanding, and they are the best you can do. You want to be liked, welcomed, and respected, and you are doing your best to be a better version of yourself in every moment.

You must accept each moment of yourself to become better and better. Understand that each moment of you is trying to be a better version of yourself. Then, you will have more understanding and acceptance for the old self.

Human growth is a cumulative process. The excellent you of today has grown up on the shortcomings of the countless imperfect yous of yesterday.

Embrace and thank that imperfect and not-so-good self of yours. It gave you the space and opportunity to grow and surpass the old you.

You want to be better, and you know you can be. Keep an emotional diary.

Writing down your feelings and emotions about the old self in words helps you better perceive and understand your emotions, explore the hidden needs behind your emotions, and also cultivates your ability to self-perceive and care for yourself.

Tell that former self who thought she wasn't good enough how you really feel about seeing her today. She was weak, helpless, and powerless. Give her a warm, encouraging hug because she needs the strength, encouragement, and support you can give her today.

I am Lily, the little Q&A Pavilion listener. I love the world, and I love you.

Hello!

Hug you right back! Thanks for sharing your story. I feel your sadness and pain so deeply. It's like your whole world has been torn apart and you're trying to put it back together again. You're doing a great job trying to repair it, but you're feeling anxious and afraid that you can't do it. Please don't worry! Self-healing is a process that takes time and requires patience, as well as positive self-affirmation.

As we grow and learn, we gradually become better versions of ourselves. It's important to recognize that every small mistake is an opportunity for growth. Having an objective understanding and judgment of things, as well as an appropriate acceptance of oneself, is essential for this process. When we effectively grow through a mistake, we've passed this test of growth and can say goodbye to it. It's natural to make mistakes along the way to our future lives. But, by encouraging ourselves not to make the same mistake again, we can embrace positive development and allow our ignorant selves to develop other possibilities.

How can we change from being a "victim" or "perpetrator" and gain a correct self-perception?

Have you ever heard of the Drama Triangle model? It was created by the wonderful psychologist George C. G. Kaplan. It shows that everyone in a relationship has the potential to play one of three roles: the victim, the persecutor, or the victimizer. This means that we can switch roles and identify with different characters in a relationship. When someone takes on one of these roles, the people around them will often play the other role to keep the relationship balanced.

It's so important to recognize that our role identities can really affect how we see ourselves. Let's say, for instance, that a person's father in his original family was the one who gained control and obtained what he needed through persecution. And let's say that the mother happened to play the role of the victim unconsciously. If this is the family model that a person identifies with, and they grow up, they may find themselves feeling a bit panicky when they start to become independent and strive to achieve self-worth. This is because they're subconsciously worried that they've "betrayed" the family. And when they're not aware of what's going on, whenever they become independent and rebuild their self-perception, they may feel conflict and contradiction. Gradually, their bodies may also show "abnormal" signals.

In the questioner's relationship with themselves, the reason they cannot forgive their former selves is that, apart from remorse and wanting to repair the "scandal" of their childhood, they internally reject it perhaps because they perceive themselves as having an uncertain sense of value. It's okay to feel this way!

It's like someone who wants to be happy but can't seem to find it within themselves right now. It's a common feeling, and it's okay! Your sense of value doesn't depend on what others say about you. It's something you have to discover for yourself. And that journey of self-discovery is the best part!

How can we find peace within ourselves?

If the current obstacle is not a trauma caused by a wrong concept of self-perception when they were young, then the method of reconciliation with the past self is simple: don't repeat past mistakes to complete the growth of the mind and give memories a perfect ending. This is being responsible for oneself and also being responsible for those around you.

If the reason you're having trouble reconciling with the past is because of some tough experiences you had along the way, it's important to first take care of your own heart. Learn to love and accept yourself, and then you'll be ready to start healing and moving on.

First, it's important to remember that everyone will make mistakes in life.

Of course, I'm not saying we should make mistakes. What I'm trying to do is help you understand the process of personal growth. Growth is all about breaking down old ideas and creating new ones. As time goes by, the way we grow will also change, and there will be more ideas that need to be broken down. So, there's no such thing as someone who "never makes mistakes." There's just a difference between "conscious mistakes" and "unconscious mistakes."

We all make mistakes. It's only human! But when you know you're doing something wrong but you do it anyway, it can lead to a sense of guilt and remorse. When the questioner was 7.8 years old, they had some internal awareness that this was not a good thing to do. But they were just playing, so they still "crossed the line." So, they felt really bad about it. But here's the thing: even children with extremely strong self-restraint cannot suppress the playful spirit. So, it's not really fair to overemphasize your own mistakes. Each stage has a tolerance range, and the tolerance range when you were a child was precisely the time when it was the greatest. As an adult, you need to know how to let go of the mistakes of your past self and objectively view the mental growth of each age group. This is the mature mindset that adults should have.

We all make mistakes without realizing it. It's when we act without thinking, without realizing that what we're doing might not be appropriate or have consequences.

Secondly, we'll explore how you can learn from past mistakes, develop yourself, and make up for your mistakes.

From the question the OP asked, we can see that the OP has never let go of the past self, nor has he ever been able to truly communicate with the past self without any judgment. This is totally normal! We all have things in our past that we'd rather forget, and it's not easy to talk to ourselves without any judgment.

The person who spills the milk has two choices: either buy another one, being careful, or clean up the mess, forget about the spilled milk, and walk away.

This story teaches us that when something happens, we must learn from it and move on, rather than tormenting ourselves. The story is simple, but few people understand its truth. They continue to wallow in self-pity, unable to see the hope of reclaiming their lives. This pessimistic mindset only serves to magnify the impact of the past, making it difficult to move on.

The main thing the protagonist learns is to understand and accept his own imperfections, accept the way things are, allow things to be as they are, and see where he needs to improve, change his immature ways, encourage himself, so that if he encounters a similar situation next time, he can quickly extricate himself from the negative magnetic field, make amends for his mistakes to the best of his ability, and reduce the harm.

At the end of the day, there are two sides to every story, and it's important to avoid extremes.

It's totally normal to feel troubled by negative emotions sometimes. We all do! But when our dominant consciousness loses the ability to maintain emotional balance, it can be prone to extremes. This means that it's unable to see both sides of a situation. As a result, we might find ourselves falling into the "wrong" category as soon as something goes wrong. This can lead to a blaming mentality. But here's the thing: the ego loves this kind of "right and wrong" distinction. After all, thinking needs an opposite, and this is its deception. So, how can we identify the seductive behavior of the ego?

It's so important to avoid extreme thinking! Try to keep an optimistic and positive attitude at all times, maintain inner peace, and analyze things from a positive perspective. This will help you take control and be in charge, rather than a slave to your emotions.

Wishing you the best of luck on the college entrance exam!

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope my answer will be of some assistance to you.

I empathize with the host's distress. It appears that his thoughts are unmanageable, fixated on matters that evoke guilt and discomfort. Confronted with the rigors of the college entrance exam, his depression has resurfaced. However, I commend you for pursuing your preferred exercise regimen and for expressing your emotions.

In light of the above, I would like to offer the following advice:

1. Cultivate and practice self-acceptance.

It is important to note that while it is challenging to alter the past, one's perspective on it can be modified. Prolonged dwelling on guilt and self-blame not only hinders the resolution of the issue but also perpetuates a negative state of mind. It may be beneficial to strive for a more comprehensive understanding and acceptance of oneself. It is evident that despite our imperfections and missteps, we acted in the best way we could in the given circumstances. Only when we embrace our shortcomings can we muster the courage to change and take action.

It is evident that self-acceptance is the foundation of self-confidence and self-transformation. A lack of self-acceptance can lead to feelings of low self-worth and shame, which can in turn contribute to a range of negative experiences, including anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and personality disorders.

Self-acceptance is defined as an individual's positive attitude towards oneself and one's characteristics. It entails being happy with one's current situation, not being proud of one's strengths, and not feeling inferior about one's weaknesses. Furthermore, self-acceptance is a fundamental right that individuals are born with.

It is not necessary to have outstanding merits, achievements, or make changes that others want in order to be accepted.

According to psychologist Maslow, a healthy person should be able to accept themselves and human nature without being annoyed or complaining about it. This is akin to someone who does not question the nature of water or rocks. We can thrive despite our shortcomings and flaws.

Accepting oneself entails understanding one's role, recognizing one's needs and desires, and acknowledging one's capabilities and limitations.

Accepting oneself requires remaining calm and patient in the face of imperfections, with the belief that continued improvement and growth are possible.

Accepting oneself requires valuing and cherishing one's personal attributes, respecting oneself and others, and objectively assessing differences between oneself and others. It also necessitates recognizing that one's life is a unique journey. Even in the absence of external validation, self-acceptance is possible.

Accepting oneself entails recognizing that a particular action or behavior is inappropriate, without necessarily concluding that one's overall character is flawed. One is able to acknowledge mistakes and understand that they are an inherent part of life. Mistakes serve as a catalyst for growth and learning.

To accept oneself is to accept all the real phenomena in life. This requires a balance between objectivity and openness, avoiding both subjectivity and bigotry, as well as arrogance and humility.

As Romain Rolland famously observed, "There is only one kind of heroism, and that is to love life after you have learned its truth."

Therefore, it is also important to love oneself after having a clear understanding of oneself.

How might I achieve self-acceptance?

The difficulty in accepting oneself is often related to one's growth experience. A lack of unconditional acceptance during one's formative years can result in a pattern of self-rejection and criticism. When faced with perceived shortcomings, this internal voice can manifest as a barrier to self-acceptance.

It is therefore evident that self-acceptance requires practice. I myself also practised for a long time before I gradually improved my level of self-acceptance. However, it is important to note that complete self-acceptance is a challenging process. From my own experience, it is clear that the more we accept ourselves, the more confident we will become and the more motivated we will be to change.

It is therefore recommended that self-acceptance is viewed as a skill that can be developed through daily practice, rather than as an innate trait.

The following five strategies, as outlined by clinical psychologists, can be employed to cultivate self-acceptance:

1. Establish the objective of self-acceptance.

"The path to self-acceptance begins with intention," says psychologist Jeffrey Samber. "It is important that we set a goal for ourselves to transform a world of blame, doubt, and shame into a world of inclusion, acceptance, and trust." This idea acknowledges that self-loathing does not lead to a satisfying life.

Sambur stated, "If I set the objective that a life of self-acceptance is preferable to a life of self-hatred, I will initiate a chain reaction within myself to adapt to a peaceful life."

2. Record your strengths.

Record one of your strengths each day, affirm your value, and recognize your strengths. This process will help you identify your strengths and build confidence.

In today's society, shortcomings can be compensated for through cooperation, and strengths will reflect unique value.

3. Seek support from interpersonal relationships.

It is beneficial to spend time with people you feel comfortable with, who will give you unconditional acceptance, support, and love. This will help you to establish a supportive relationship that will make you feel more stable, peaceful, and joyful.

4. Engage in constructive dialogue with your inner self.

Imagine interacting with your optimal self. Envision that optimal self, deep within, stepping out of your body and observing your current work environment or situation, and providing guidance on the best course of action.

This visual separation will allow you to move beyond your current self-limiting beliefs and behaviors, and facilitate the use of your inner wisdom—your best self—to drive positive change.

This exercise teaches individuals how to be their own best advocates and demonstrate compassion and self-love. It can be completed in a few minutes and is an effective tool for navigating crises or seeking guidance or self-comfort.

5. Model the desired behavior until it becomes a habit.

If you do not believe you are a valuable person, it is essential to first instill self-worth and reinforce this belief. Only when we can unconditionally accept ourselves can we finally forgive our mistakes and cease seeking external validation.

It is indisputable that we have made mistakes, as have others. However, our identity is not contingent on our mistakes.

When we lack something inside, we tend to look for it outside. If we cannot accept ourselves, we often seek external validation from others. However, external sources of approval and evaluation are inherently unstable. Therefore, to gain stable acceptance, we must turn inward. When we have accepted ourselves, we become less concerned with the approval and evaluation of others, and we can gain true inner freedom.

It is advisable to avoid deliberate resistance to negative thoughts, as this can exacerbate the problem.

It is important to understand that these thoughts are merely thoughts and not facts. Thoughts can be modified and adjusted. By making positive adjustments to your thoughts, you can expect to experience a change in your feelings.

It is important to recognize that thoughts do not necessarily reflect reality. Rather, they are simply a product of the mind and can be accepted as such. Attempting to reinforce these thoughts may not be beneficial and may even hinder progress. Instead, it is advisable to accept their existence and work towards making positive adjustments.

It is important to note that it is not uncommon for unusual, negative, or disruptive thoughts to arise. These are what we refer to as "distracting thoughts," and like emotions, they follow a specific process from onset to resolution. If you acknowledge their existence and recognize them as meaningless "distracting thoughts," you can choose to ignore them, which will prevent them from affecting you and allow them to dissipate.

Conversely, if you focus on it, debate it, etc., you will become constrained by it.

It is therefore recommended that you adopt a method of allowing events to unfold naturally while taking action where necessary.

It is natural for distracting thoughts to arise, and it is important to allow them to exist. While maintaining a flexible approach, it is essential to focus on objective reality, study when necessary, engage in conversation when appropriate, exercise when beneficial, and complete tasks in a timely manner.

It is possible that initially, your distracting thoughts may still cause you discomfort. However, if you believe that they will naturally dissipate in time and if you endeavour to fulfil your obligations in your professional life, then those distracting thoughts and emotions will disappear without you even noticing as you proceed with your work.

Additionally, the following methods can be employed to release emotions as desired:

If you are seeking to eliminate pain, you may consider expressing your deep feelings and thoughts in writing. There is no need to be concerned about the neatness of the handwriting or the logic of the content; you should express yourself as much as you see fit. Additionally, you may find it beneficial to identify an appropriate individual with whom you can discuss your inner concerns and pressures. This can provide you with the opportunity to receive love and support from your friends.

If the issue is self-negation, it is recommended to improve one's sense of self-identification, give oneself positive and positive evaluations, and practice self-affirmation. Additionally, books such as "Accept Yourself: Transcend Your Inherent Weaknesses," "Accept Your Imperfections," and "Rebuilding Your Life" can be beneficial in improving cognition.

If you are experiencing sadness due to a particular individual, you may wish to consider identifying that person, engaging in a sincere exchange, and expressing your needs to them. It is often the case that expressing our needs and feelings can help to alleviate feelings of depression.

If you need to release anger, you can do so through vigorous exercise. Examples of suitable activities include boxing, running, and playing football. You can also squeeze stress balls, pound pillows or sandbags, tear paper, and so on. You can also use the technique of an empty chair to release emotions. This involves placing an empty chair in the room and assuming that the person you want to talk to is sitting in it. You can then express your thoughts and feelings (including abuse and anger) to the chair.

Please accept this message as a cordial expression of my best regards.

It is important to note that reconciliation with the past is not possible when one is under pressure, particularly when taking the college entrance exam. It is evident that students experience significant pressure during this period. When individuals are under pressure, they will have physical reactions and will feel a great deal of self-blame and guilt. Their emotions will fluctuate greatly, especially now when they must learn to cope with this pressure. Moderate pressure is beneficial, but it is crucial not to let it become excessive.

Indeed, the college entrance examination affects a considerable number of individuals with suboptimal psychological attributes, and the associated pressure is considerable. It is therefore recommended that at this time, a diet of sufficient nutritional value, sufficient sleep, and a regular daily routine be maintained.

It is recommended that individuals obtain a minimum of nine hours of sleep per night, as this allows the body to undergo a metabolic recovery. It is also advised that individuals maintain a healthy diet and regular sleep patterns. However, if these measures do not address the underlying issues, it may be beneficial to seek the guidance of a professional counselor. These professionals are trained to facilitate a constructive dialogue and provide guidance on navigating personal challenges.

At times, an individual's inner conflict may be associated with the maturation of an inner child. The dissolution of inner conflict is often characterized by the presence of psychological complexities. Consequently, an alternative approach may be to engage in journaling.

Additionally, exercise has been demonstrated to be an effective method for promoting healing. Individuals may choose to engage in activities such as badminton, basketball, or running while maintaining a journal. This practice can assist in the expression of diverse emotions, which may subsequently lead to the experience of self-compassion.

Indeed, it is sometimes beneficial to provide oneself with physical affection and self-love. It is important to embrace one's true self and cultivate a sense of warmth and positivity within oneself.

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