I can't stick to it, it always ends in nothing, and it makes me feel bad. Why is that?

Hello!

A pat on the shoulder from a friend is always a great motivator!

Why not make a conscious effort to persevere when things don't go well and end in a mess?

We all have moments when we feel like giving up, and it's totally normal to experience negative emotions when you're trying something new. But here's the thing: you can't let those feelings stop you from trying again tomorrow!

When it comes to your problems, the first thing that comes to mind is that "the goal is not precise." But that's okay! Maybe "become better," "want to become better," or "I want to break through myself" are the goals in your heart, and that's great! But let's make them more specific and achievable. Let's make them a specific goal that is closer to reality.

If I were to describe it, it would be a visible goal, an achievable goal – and it's so important to set achievable goals! It's the best way to become more active and motivated to act. When we set achievable goals, we feel a sense of encouragement and internal support, and that's what gets us moving!

For example, I want to write well, but what does good handwriting look like? There are endless answers to this question, and they are constantly changing. Therefore, I need to first establish the effect I want to achieve. That's where a smart plan comes in! It's important to set achievable goals that you can visualize, and then you can start working towards them.

Once you've got that down, you can start practicing calligraphy! You'll have a specific goal in mind, like nailing the steady strokes without shaking the end of the pen. You can practice the strokes regularly for a week, so that every stroke is steady. After a week, you can check the results and improve on what you find unsatisfactory. But don't forget to praise yourself for the progress you've made (positive feedback is key)! Then, you can move on to the next goal, like practicing the sense of space in the calligraphy and the coordination between the strokes. This requires the ability to find a sense of space in the calligraphy and capture the coordinated distance between the strokes. Set a deadline and re-check. First, set a specific plan that is achievable based on your own abilities. Then, get to work! The process of working hard will be full of motivation and passion. Even if you occasionally slack off and take a few days off, it won't shake your determination to persevere. With inner self-confidence, you can persevere!

When you feel tired and fatigued, you can give yourself a positive incentive! Go outside for a walk, eat a rich meal, have a cup of coffee, or read a book to find inner peace and space.

Embrace your objective conditions and true inner emotions, and watch your motivation soar! When you feel negative, don't fret. Replenish and value your inner resources, and watch your internal drive flourish as you move towards your goals with renewed energy and excitement!

And there's more! Other plans that the questioner didn't mention are also based on the same principle. The process of pursuing a goal and achieving growth is usually a very boring, lonely, and quiet process. But there's no need to worry! We can give ourselves more understanding and tolerance, give ourselves the space to try and make mistakes, and allow for the possibility of dissatisfaction. Accepting the imperfection of the result will not easily shake our sense of self-worth and external evaluation. Instead, it will allow us to persist in ourselves, enhance our identification with our inner self, and establish a stable self-confidence!

I really hope the above answers can help you!

Wishing you the very best!

Hello, questioner. Looking back, you think that many things start well but end poorly, and you're disappointed with yourself. You want to explore why this happens.

Your use of the term "extended thinking" shows you have a knack for deep thinking and questioning. If we tap into this skill to understand our inner selves, we might make some fascinating new discoveries.

First of all, if you don't know how to end something, you've got to have a beginning. And that takes a force. So, what's the internal driving force that gives rise to this beginning force?

Second, "not knowing how to end it" also requires a force to end it, and what sparks that force?

On top of that, there's a special force that makes you perceive "indecision" and makes you troubled by it, which in turn makes you disappointed in yourself.

Could it be that the internal friction caused by these multiple forces leads to disappointment?

When it comes to exploration, we can't avoid the subconscious. So, is it possible that if we identify with the power to start, we can see a beginning and an end? If we identify with the power to end, perhaps there would be no beginning.

No matter which one we identify with, there won't be any negative consequences. So, could it be that what we identify with is this detached disappointment?

When it comes to exploration, the subconscious mind is key. So, is it because the subconscious mind agrees with the disappointment that it ends up unresolved?

Or is it that we've decided to let things rest that leads to disappointment?

For whatever reason, it's just a guess on our part. What we can see is that we're troubled by this emotion.

The fact that you're troubled shows there's a desire for change.

We can use our ability to think to consider what changes we can make to integrate the multiple forces within ourselves. When we integrate the internal forces and stop the conflict, we can stop the internal attrition.

All internal conflict ends with acceptance, starts with acceptance, and ends with acceptance. All the voices within are accepted.

I think you'll find that simple analysis is too one-sided. Why not try finding a counselor with a psychoanalytic orientation? You might just discover a whole new you.

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My dear friend, I empathize with your current situation. It's understandable if you're feeling a bit frustrated and confused. You mentioned this feeling, and many people have had similar experiences in their lives. They often start with great enthusiasm but may find it challenging to persevere until the end.

This phenomenon is known in psychology as procrastination, which is a common psychological phenomenon that refers to an individual's tendency to postpone a task until the last minute, even though they are aware that it is important to complete it, or simply give up.

There are many potential reasons for procrastination, including a tendency towards perfectionism, fear of failure, lack of motivation, overly difficult tasks, or poor time management. In your description, you mentioned that you are not happy with your handwriting, which could be a sign of perfectionism.

Perfectionists often have high standards for their own performance. When they fail to meet their own expectations, they may experience a sense of frustration, which in turn affects their motivation to act.

We are not without the capacity to overcome procrastination. First, we must acknowledge our imperfections. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and accepting our imperfections is a crucial step in our personal growth.

Perhaps we could say that only when we stop demanding perfection from ourselves can we face the challenges in life with a more peaceful mind.

As a next step, we could consider starting with small goals to gradually build up our confidence and sense of achievement. For example, instead of writing a full notebook from the beginning, we could start by writing one page a day, recording our thoughts and feelings.

Such small goals are neither overwhelming nor stressful, and the positive feedback we receive after completing them encourages us to continue. Over time, we may find that we have overcome procrastination without realizing it, and have become more self-disciplined and efficient.

Additionally, it may be helpful to consider the potential benefits of applying time management skills as a means of addressing procrastination. One approach that has been shown to be effective in this regard is the Pomodoro technique.

One approach that has been shown to be effective in improving concentration and reducing procrastination is the use of a 25-minute work period with a 5-minute break rhythm. During each 25-minute work cycle, we can fully devote ourselves to the task at hand, while the 5-minute break allows us to relax and prepare for the next work cycle.

If I might humbly offer one more suggestion, I would like to share a psychological concept – "self-efficacy" – which refers to an individual's confidence in their ability to complete a task. I have found that an effective way to improve self-efficacy is to build confidence through small successes.

Perhaps it would be helpful to start now by setting yourself a simple goal, such as writing one sentence a day, and gradually increase the content until you have completed a notebook.

Everyone has their own rhythm and way of getting things done. We can sometimes be too hard on ourselves, which can lead to feelings of exhaustion in the pursuit of perfection.

Everyone's growth path is unique, and your value is not defined by your handwriting, but by you as a whole person. With time and patience, you can gradually overcome procrastination, complete your notebook, and even make progress in other areas of your life.

I wish you the best of luck!