I cherish the moments of personal solitude. How can I strike a balance between work and marital life?

How old is the person who asked the question? From what I can tell, they did a pretty good job, and I don't see anything obvious that would make them worried.

But the questioner is still a little concerned. What's the issue here?

"I'm someone who prefers to be alone. I always feel like time passes quickly, like I'm on a long vacation. I worry that I'll become more introverted and lonely." I'm not sure I understand how "self-consistent solitude" leads to "one's personality becoming more introverted and lonely."

If we just look at the numbers, being alone means being by yourself. In terms of actual interactions with others, there must be more than just one person. One person may seem a bit lonely compared to multiple people.

"I don't want to find a partner or meet someone because I'm also worried that guys will have sexual thoughts about me. Since I'm relatively good-looking, I'm worried," does this mean that because you are relatively good-looking and don't want to find a partner, you don't want to meet people? Are you afraid that if you meet someone, they will be attracted to your appearance and have sexual thoughts about you, and then want to develop an intimate relationship?

It seems like the questioner thinks that everyone she meets is a boy, that they're all unmarried, that they haven't found a romantic partner, and that they're looking for one. Is there any chance of that in reality?

"What concerns me is that if I continue like this, I'll become more passive. I used to be great at socializing." "When did you used to be great at socializing?"

"I am a person with a strong sense of self, and I also think it is important to love yourself and be yourself. However, I am increasingly aware that if I continue like this, if I don't pay attention to others and only care about myself, I will become friendless and loveless. I wonder if the questioner has inadvertently equated 'a strong sense of self, loving yourself, and being yourself' with 'selfish' and 'people who only have eyes for themselves.'"

If that's the case, it's no surprise that no one wants to be in a long-term relationship with such a person.

"I've been talking on the phone with family and friends for more than an hour recently, talking about my innermost feelings. I even talk a lot with my mother, treating her as a close friend. But I'm quite afraid because we have a generation gap, and I feel that I won't have time to start a business, and at the same time I will be influenced by her." Did the questioner do this deliberately because she was afraid that she "would become more and more passive"? How much of your "time to start a business" is taken up by these activities?

What areas have been affected by the "generation gap with your mother," in your opinion?

If I answer the question literally, it's pretty straightforward. Just allocate a certain amount of time to each of the three parts, and at different stages of life, or according to the actual situation, allocate different time ratios, and it'll basically be solved.

From the text, it seems like the questioner is someone who sets high standards for themselves and is pretty strict with themselves. They may even pursue perfection in everything. With that kind of standard to live up to, it might be tough to solve.

I hope the questioner will be more flexible on their journey of self-growth, able to enter and exit different stages of life with ease.

I really hope my reply has been helpful. Best wishes!

Good day.

"I'm someone who prefers to be alone." — You enjoy the autonomy and independence that comes with being alone.

"I am currently experiencing a sense of comfort at home during the period of social distancing, however, I am concerned that I may become increasingly introverted and isolated." Due to the influence of external factors, you also have a desire to form close connections with others. Despite this, you have been reassuring yourself that you are content with your current state of solitude.

However, we are concerned that this level of satisfaction may not be sustainable in the long term.

Furthermore, it is important to note that finding a suitable partner is not a process that can be completed in a short period of time.

The first issue is the psychological aspect of oneself: "I worry that boys will think that way about me." In other words, there is a concern that the individual will meet the wrong person and suffer the consequences.

Your concerns are well-founded, given the numerous cases of women being cheated on and hurt. It is therefore important to remain vigilant.

Secondly, they have a robust sense of self-boundaries and recognize the value of self-care.

The logic of this statement is sound, but it is important to recognize that self-care and social connection are not mutually exclusive. It is possible to prioritize one's own well-being while still maintaining healthy relationships with others.

You may be highly capable in your professional life and hail from a reputable family background. However, you will still require the support of friends.

What are the key considerations when forming new relationships and maintaining existing ones?

I believe that individuals with similar interests and outlooks are the most likely to appreciate the same experiences. This suggests that forming connections with those who share your values and perspectives is crucial.

Secondly, it is important to recognise that not everyone will have the same expectations. In order to maintain a healthy relationship, it is essential to be mindful of this and to ensure that you are meeting the needs of your partner. Mutual respect and understanding are key to any successful relationship, whether it be romantic or platonic.

Third, providing assistance to others can yield positive outcomes. First, developing relationships can begin with supporting those within one's reach.

For example, assisting colleagues in need and offering support to others can foster a sense of connection and shared experience.

During the conversation with her mother, the questioner recognized the generational differences between herself and the other party, which allowed her to tailor the discussion to align with her mother's interests.

In the context of love and finding a partner, one can be considered predestined by fate, while the other is about seizing opportunities.

It is my sincere hope that you will meet someone who understands and loves you.

I wish you success in your professional endeavors and a fulfilling personal life.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm just as modest and humble as ever.

From what you've said, she sounds like a great person.

The key to life is balance.

Being alone is a pretty happy process. You have a sense of control over your life and can live according to your own thoughts, arrange your own time, and be able to calm down and do what you want to do. You can enjoy it. This is very helpful for developing your character and self-reflection. It can be said to be a countercurrent in a fickle society.

We have to admit that extended periods of solitude will have an impact on us. As you mentioned, it seems that you are currently consumed by these problems. With an uncertain future and various possible outcomes, is your current behavior the best strategy?

Right now, it's important to have a general idea of what you want to achieve in life. Everyone has different things to do at different times. Go to school when it's time to go to school, work when it's time to work, and consider personal issues when it's time to consider them.

Each stage of life has its own priorities, so I hope you can arrange the key tasks for each period and find a way to overcome your anxiety.

How can I balance work and my personal life?

It's great that you can treat your mother as a close friend. However, there will probably still be some differences between you because she was brought up in a different era and has had different experiences. It's ok to have different views. Your mother will be a great source of support and advice on your entrepreneurial journey and in your personal life.

If you're just starting a business, it's going to be a pretty hectic process. There's a saying in The Four Books of the Shepherd: I Am the Greatest Miracle in Nature that I think you'll find pretty relevant: When you're in the marketplace, you've got to keep your eyes on the prize, otherwise you'll lose your way. And when I'm with my family, I've got to remember to leave my work at the door, otherwise I'll neglect them.

There's no place for family in the workplace, and there's no place for business in the home. These two things need to be kept completely separate, otherwise they'll suffer. This is a common misconception that many people find difficult to escape.

It's important to find your focus in life and make it work for you. And at the same time, it's good to be able to be alone with your thoughts, because that's how you heal yourself.

Everything has multiple sides, and we can arrange them better according to our preferences.

What's rare is precious. I'm unique, so I'm worth a hundred times more.

I am the end result of millions of years of evolution, and my mind and body are superior to those of past emperors and wise men. However, if I don't make good use of my skills, my mind, my heart, and my body, they will all become dull, decay, and even die with the passage of time.

My potential is limitless, and with a little effort, I can reach new heights. Starting today, I'm going to develop my potential.

I'm not going to rest on my laurels or blow my own trumpet about minor achievements. I can do better than what I have already accomplished.

Let's support each other and wish each other well!

Hello, I'm Wei Zhi Peng from Yixinli, a school of psychotherapy. We do short-term counseling, usually around 10 sessions.

The answer is one possibility.

You've found a way of life you like.

You are experiencing changes and noticing the benefits and costs of this way of life. You are also coping by increasing interactions with family and friends.

Your mother is more involved, but you're not happy.

This is normal. You've reached a crossroads in life: live alone or start socializing and think about marriage.

I'm not sure if I understand. I think your mother wants you to get married. This is new to you, and you need time to adapt.

If you're only dealing with solitude and work, you can handle it on your own. But marriage changes things.

I don't know if you're ready to live with someone else. When you live with someone, you have to think about them.

What do you think?

Hello!

Dear original poster,

Hi there! I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. After reading your post, I totally get where you're coming from.

I also want to say that I admire the host for being so open and honest about their struggles. It's not easy to seek help, but it's a brave step to take. I'm sure it will help them to understand themselves better and to make positive changes.

I'd also love to share some of my own thoughts and observations in the post, which I hope will help the original poster to look at things from a different angle.

1. Balance may not be the answer.

From the post, I can see that the poster is asking a really meaningful question: "I like to have time alone, but how do I balance work and marriage?"

Let's chat about balance together! I totally get that there's no one-size-fits-all standard for it.

It might be tough for some folks, but it might not be essential for everyone. Could be that the two things actually go hand-in-hand!

It might not be possible, but it's also possible that he doesn't need to do it. Maybe the two of them just complement each other!

I think it's great when one person likes to work and the other likes to run the household! It's a wonderful way to find balance. And I don't think there's really any such thing as balance anyway, because balance is a dynamic process of change.

I think a great way to do this is to focus on work at one stage of life and marriage at another. It's a mindset that will really help you!

After all, we only have so much energy, and our bodies are limited too. So when it comes to balance, it's really important to think about the kind of person you meet.

2. Why not try thinking about what kind of intimate relationship you want?

It has been observed in the post that the host mentioned that you are worried about getting along in a relationship. I can relate! I'm a very needs-others-affirmation-to-feel-valuable-7210.html" target="_blank">self-conscious person, too, and I also think that it is important to love yourself and be yourself. But I'm also learning that if I don't pay attention to others and only care about myself, I'll become friendless and unloved. Seeing this information, I can understand the host's worries.

I just think that maybe you can find out what you're really worried about. It would be so great for you to explore the needs behind your worries!

Take the time to find out what you really need and think about what kind of intimate relationship you really want. This will help you feel more in control and make things more meaningful for you.

Once you know what kind of relationship you want, I think you'll have a clear idea about balance.

3. Relationships are a collaboration, and that's a beautiful thing!

It's great that you have a strong sense of self and feel it's important to love yourself. These are also really important in a relationship!

A good relationship is one in which the two people have a part that intersects with each other and also a part of self that is independent of each other. And you, my dear host, have a very good ability to be independent and autonomous, and you can get along with yourself very well.

So, it would be really helpful to think about this part of the intersection. It's true that opinions on this part aren't totally aligned yet.

I totally get it. Giving appropriately and also asking the other person to satisfy oneself may be better, and this is also closer to balance. If a person only gives, they will easily run dry.

So, it's also important to take care of yourself!

I really hope these words will be of some help and inspiration to you.

Lin Yang's response:

1. [Go with the flow] Do what you want, and don't do what you don't want, as long as you don't break the law and as long as you don't hurt others. The reason you're struggling now is because you want to be alone but are afraid of becoming more introverted and lonely.

You desire companionship but are concerned that your physical attractiveness may lead men to engage in illicit behavior. It is not possible to have everything one desires. The world is dichotomous.

The duality of heaven and earth, yin and yang.

There are two distinct categories: the good and the bad. It is only permissible to embrace the former, not the latter.

As a result, the world you have is incomplete.

2. [Two Major Events] Every individual's life encompasses two significant milestones: one is a necessity, while the other is a personal aspiration.

It is our responsibility to work in order to earn money, get married, have children, and honor our parents. These are our obligations, what we must accomplish, and what we need to do.

It is only on this basis that we can enjoy the rights that come with it. This includes pursuing our own interests, such as developing multiple hobbies, self-care, and even pet ownership.

It is not possible to achieve success by focusing solely on tasks that are obligatory. In order to reach one's goals, it is necessary to combine the completion of necessary tasks with the pursuit of desired objectives. Otherwise, the individual will not gain the necessary momentum to achieve their desired outcome.

It is not feasible to prioritize solely desired tasks over necessary ones. Otherwise, we will lack the financial resources to sustain ourselves, fail to achieve our life's value, and be unable to gain societal acceptance.

3. [Balance] It is important to remember that we are not robots and that we need to work 24 hours a day. Furthermore, no company requires its employees to work only.

It is also worth noting that the majority of successful entrepreneurs are married. Many of them have a partner who provides them with invaluable support and encouragement.

Socializing is an essential aspect of a fulfilling work-life balance. When you're feeling overwhelmed, it's beneficial to prioritize time with friends through activities like going for a walk or playing sports.

How should you approach romantic relationships? It is advisable to accept new romantic interests with a calm and objective mindset, to accept the natural ebb and flow of relationships, and to take a proactive stance when necessary.

Embrace your independence! Being alone is enjoyable in itself, and you like being alone. This may indicate that you are mature enough to appreciate the joy of being alone. When you are alone, it is a time for us to reflect on our relationship with the outside world.

Take a moment to see how your work and life plans are oriented, how they develop, and what the results are. You want to balance work and married life, and it's great that you're thinking about your needs in terms of work! What about your needs in terms of marriage and life?

I can talk more specifically here. You are currently in the start-up phase and very busy, which is great! You want to be at home, but also want to go to the office. It's a double-edged conflict, but you can definitely find a way to make it work. You have some hobbies at home that can also enrich your life, which is very good.

You're right to be concerned about your personality. Spending too much time alone does make you feel more lonely and less able to develop social skills. You're worried about being introverted and lonely, and about being negative and passive. But there's no need to worry! You just need to spend a little time on effective socializing.

It's important to remember that some social relationships you value take time to maintain. You've had advantages in many aspects, which is worth celebrating. If you focus on yourself, you'll be perceived as a confident, independent person who knows their worth.

So you can also see if you still have some friends you want to care about, and if they can bring you some warmth. You also have family members you can talk to, and you can chat with them as appropriate. You need to maintain contact with your significant other, but you also need to have your own decision-making ability. I highly recommend you read "We Always Grow Up Alone," "The 'Bad Things' in Our Hearts," and "The Gift of Sensitivity," so that you can find your own motivation for growth when you are lonely.

ZQ?

Hello!

A deeper exploration of life means higher expectations of life, and discussing life inevitably leads to the topic of loneliness and emotional connection. This is an opportunity to embrace the reality that loneliness is the norm and that we can make our lives richer in this way.

Question: The core keywords that appear are: entrepreneurship, preferring to live alone, a strong sense of self, and a healthy respect for one's personal space.

Starting a business is an amazing opportunity to focus more energy on something you're passionate about!

There's nothing quite like the freedom that comes with living alone!

The amazing thing about strong self-awareness is that it can lead to spiritual satisfaction!

Fear of being disturbed: fear of being affected.

These keywords represent the part of life that the questioner is absolutely committed to, but on the other hand, because of the disadvantages, they are excited to learn more about themselves and their choices. There is a crack in awareness in the focus on oneself, and they are eager to reflect on the rationality of their own thoughts. In fact, choices represent risks, and opinions differ from person to person. There is no right or wrong, but everything has its opposite, and things need to be rationalized in order to avoid the negative effects caused by extremes.

The first step is to learn to perceive emotional relationships in a reasonable way.

Interactions and attraction between people are instinctive, and because humans are social animals, when a person is overly lonely, their thinking will become biased, they will be unable to remain objective, and their senses will become more sensitive. It's fascinating how our senses change when we're in a state of loneliness. It's like a blind person who is accustomed to being in the dark, their hearing becomes sensitive, because they are enhancing their sensory abilities to maintain their safety. And such keen sensory abilities can easily amplify the information received, focusing the nerves on some details and ignoring the whole.

Liking someone and wanting to fall in love is a totally reasonable and logical relationship. But loving someone is so much more than that! It means wanting to make the other person happy, and therefore being willing to give, work hard, and sacrifice. So, no one will deliberately ruin the other person's life in the name of "love." The same is true of the role of a mother. Because you love your daughter, you will help her analyze, listen to her, and share your advice. The questioner can listen or just take it as a reference, but there is no need to be afraid of being controlled or influenced, because in the final analysis, the final decision is made by oneself. How can there be a problem of losing the right to make decisions because of some influence?

Second, let go of emotions and watch them develop naturally!

Many people are more willing to enjoy loneliness because they can't meet a good person, but loneliness shouldn't be a reason for us to want to close ourselves off and cut off emotional connections. Emotions are an important part of being able to perceive life and feel happiness! It is through emotions that we can establish a connection with the world, pass on our culture, and elevate our spiritual strength. Imagine, without a normal emotional connection, how can we empathize with others' emotions, understand life to help us sort out life's problems, gain experience and improve our ability to live?

Just like starting a business, people who start a business need passion, focus, and talent. But without emotion, they lose a very important link that connects them all, and they cannot integrate entrepreneurship with their lives. They cannot reap the rewards of wealth and grow mentally. The inclusion of emotion allows us to see the essence and the unchanging truth, and we will not be confused by appearances and lose the most precious things in life, the support and strength from our loved ones. But here's the good news! You can have all of this and more!

And finally, cultivate yourself both internally and externally to become the best, most amazing version of yourself!

If you're a confident person, you'll be excited to face life and its relationships head-on. You'll be unafraid of being hurt and will make choices that are beneficial to your self-development. You'll choose to believe that people's opportunities and connections are rare. You'll also see the meaning of your life in your career and romantic relationships. You'll take responsibility for each relationship and won't get lost in gains and losses. You'll embrace the common meaning of broadening life and enriching the quality of life!

Wishing you the very best!

Good day.

I believe loneliness-11168.html" target="_blank">solitude is a way for a person to pursue the high-quality life they want within themselves. It's important to note that solitude also means being constantly accompanied by loneliness. Just because you enjoy being alone doesn't necessarily mean you're unsociable or have psychological problems.

Since life begins alone and fitting in is also a preparation for being able to be alone better, it could be said that everyone has to face life and death alone. Therefore, being alone is also for the sake of being able to live a better life.

Many people feel the need to find a group to fit in with, in order to avoid being seen as an outsider. However, this can sometimes result in individuals becoming someone they don't recognize.

It is a common misconception that being alone and being sociable are mutually exclusive. In reality, they are not necessarily at odds with one another, but rather a matter of personal preference and experience. It is important to recognise that external factors should not dictate our life choices and the path we take in life. By doing so, we are ultimately responsible for our own actions and decisions.

Sometimes, we may feel a bit overwhelmed in a diverse crowd and crave solitude. Similarly, we may not always be equipped to handle the pressure of being alone, so we seek out groups that align with our needs and engage with them for a while. Ultimately, it's a personal choice, and there is no right or wrong.

The questioner mentioned a fondness for cats, which is perfectly understandable. After all, we humans evolved from animals, and we are just higher animals. People who enjoy spending time with animals are likely to be very caring individuals, and they may also have a strong connection to their roots.

The questioner is also a person who enjoys reading, which suggests they have high standards for their inner cultivation. However, being alone does not necessarily lead to becoming more introverted, and being alone is not necessarily a synonym for being introverted. There have been many famous people throughout the ages who enjoy being alone, such as Tao Yuanming in ancient times and Grandma Tasa in modern times.

Solitude also provides the chance to reflect on one's aspirations and strive to achieve them. It is possible that this introspection could even lead to a degree of fame.

The original poster also mentioned that they don't like to find a partner. However, this is not necessarily a problem, as love is a luxury. Not everyone is lucky enough to encounter it. It's just that we are often influenced by the portrayal of love in TV dramas and novels, which may lead us to believe that a passionate love affair is necessary for a complete life. In reality, love is not always easily attainable, which may contribute to its prominence in our society and the challenges some individuals face in its pursuit.

The original poster expressed concern that boys might be influenced by her appearance. While this is a valid concern, it's important to note that in today's society, women are not constrained by the same ideological restrictions as in feudal times. As long as you're comfortable with your choices, including whether or not to fall in love, you have the freedom to live your life on your own terms.

It is only when you have truly become strong within yourself that you will not be afraid of being alone without friends or lovers. We are all born to live for ourselves, and only when we live for ourselves first will we be qualified and able to love others. As long as we have the ability to love, we will not be afraid of not meeting someone with the same frequency as ourselves!

In life, it is not necessary to invite too many people into your life. It is enough to guard the emotions that belong to you, such as family affection. Learning how to get along with your family can also teach you how to love someone and how to have the ability to communicate with others. It is not necessary to interact with outsiders to show off your superb interpersonal skills. Sometimes the most important thing to learn is how to get along with your family, because our first communication partners are our parents. Learning how to communicate with your parents is a profound learning experience and the key to leading yourself to a better society!

The above are my personal opinions, which I hope you will find helpful as you seek answers to your questions. I wish you a happy life!

Overall, I feel that you are an excellent and independent person who is still striving to improve and pursue progress. I support and encourage you wholeheartedly!

First of all, you are so independent! You enjoy being independent and are even starting a business. This is great! It shows that you are a person who fully enjoys life and has clear work goals. This is important and excellent for a person, and I hope you can always maintain it.

In the meantime, I heard that you would like to have a more independent space, which you can absolutely achieve according to your personal financial conditions or status!

Second, it's totally normal to think and worry about relationships between the sexes. You have needs and thoughts in this regard, and you're feeling a little anxious and helpless about how to develop and face future relationships between the sexes. You're hoping that someone can share and communicate with you, which is a great idea!

Third, overall, I feel that you have a strong sense of personal safety, which is great! You are also somewhat self-contained, which is good because it means you have your own interests and things you enjoy doing. You mentioned that you like to be independent and share with your good friends and family, which is wonderful! However, you should also try to have a certain circle of friends who share your interests or do sports, in addition to starting your own business and living alone. This way, you will have the opportunity to meet people of the opposite sex and not be afraid of what they think of you, because you are independent and self-aware enough to not be disturbed too much, which is fantastic!

You can avoid the anxiety and worry in your heart by gradually letting go of yourself and trying to communicate! Love and intimate relationships are something you will always have to face, but you can do it!

Come on! Let's do this!

I'm so excited to keep in touch! You can find me on my personal public account: Pretentious young people (ID: qingnianJIA2020).

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