I don't know when it started, but I can't hold a conversation anymore. I run out of things to say after a few sentences.

It might be helpful to give the original poster a hug and reassure them that worrying too much is normal. We've all been there!

The original poster expressed that the significant shift from their childhood happiness to their current reticence has left them uncertain about how to respond to social interactions.

This is a process of self-discovery, also known as the awakening of self-awareness. When we were young, our self-awareness was still developing. You may have noticed that when primary school students learn to make sentences like "I am..." they usually answer "I am a girl" or "I like to sing." Starting from adolescence, people will explore their deeper character qualities, which is a kind of progress!

There are two main ways of exploring one's self: through interactions with others and through self-reflection. However, it's important to consider whether what others say truly represents the real "me."

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider some methods for getting to know oneself better. One approach could be to write 20 sentences with the same phrase, "I am a person who..." or to keep a diary.

The process of self-exploration can be both challenging and rewarding. As you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, you may find that your perspective shifts, and you become less concerned with the opinions of others.

Additionally, when the questioner recognizes that they are caught in internal conflict when they repeatedly recall negative events,

1. It might be helpful to consider other ways to distract yourself, such as reading, listening to music, watching movies, or exercising, to avoid excessive anxiety.

2. You might consider giving yourself a mental reminder, such as "That's the way it is, it's okay" (a phrase that has been tested and found to be effective). Repeat it in your mind several times and see if it helps you feel more at ease. After all, nobody is perfect.

I was born as a result of a wonderful mistake made by my parents.

If I could make one more suggestion, it would be to remember to love yourself. Hugs!

Hello!

From your description, it seems that the problem may extend beyond a simple lack of interest in talking. It's possible that underlying unhappiness is the root cause. I'm a little concerned that you may be experiencing depression, which can often have a gradual onset.

It is difficult to determine whether it has reached the severity of depression. However, it is important to recognize that long-term depression can have a significant impact on an individual's emotional state. Over time, it can lead to a gradual shift in perspective, where the unhappy state of mind becomes a normal way of experiencing life. This can result in a loss of vitality and a reduction in the enjoyment of activities that previously brought happiness and interest.

You mentioned that you were very happy as a child, which suggests that your current personality may not have been formed at birth. It's possible that something occurred at some point in the distant past, and it's understandable if you don't recall the specifics.

It might also be the case that if you have been in a depressing or indifferent environment for a long time, where you rarely feel the interest of those around you and their genuine affection for you, you will gradually become reluctant to communicate.

If I might inquire further, do you ever feel a little sad?

I'm happy to say that personality can change from lively to quiet, and it can also change back again. If you'd like to change your current depressed state, I'm confident you can do it.

It might be helpful to be curious about yourself and observe in what situations you are more likely to feel happy and in what situations you are more likely to feel down. You might like to try doing the things you used to like and were interested in.

It might be helpful to spend time with people who like you and feel the warmth of their love. There are many things you can do, so you might like to try them out first to see how they work.

If, after trying these methods for a period of time, you find that the effects are not as positive as you had hoped, or even that they are getting worse, such as with poor sleep, a sudden or sudden increase in appetite, irritability, or other more serious behaviors, you may wish to consider consulting a psychiatrist to help you assess the situation.

Dear friend, I've read your words and I know your worries. Let's discuss them together!

1. When I was a child, I was happy. I don't know when I stopped wanting to talk.

As a child, you were carefree, simple, and easily satisfied. You were happy for a long time after being given a piece of candy. As you grew up, you ate more, saw more, and played more. Your threshold for happiness increased. At first, you were happy with a piece of candy. Later, you wanted a bag of candy. No matter how much candy you had, you were never happy again.

Your threshold has increased, your requirements for happiness are higher, and people are not as pure as they once were. There's another reason, too: people like comparisons. When you were young, you were happy with a small motorcycle. When you saw someone else driving a Mercedes, you wanted one too. You started to compare, and if you didn't have something that other people had, you felt pain.

2. You say you don't want to talk and you can't talk anymore. You need to talk to other people.

Just two sentences. That's all you need to say.

Happiness is not linked to the amount of conversation. If you want to talk, do it. If you don't, don't force yourself! Chemistry is important in a conversation. If you get along with the other person, you can speak your mind naturally, and the more you talk, the happier you'll be.

People are different by nature, so it's unrealistic to expect to get along with everyone. Having the ability to converse and exhibiting basic manners is already commendable. There's no need to be overly critical of yourself.

3. Don't react when others say bad things about you. Just listen.

You will get angry later. You will think about these things every day.

It's not happy. This is hard!

You need to decide what you're going to do.

First of all, you need to identify who this other person is. It's important to understand that just anyone won't say something bad about you.

If everyone is saying something bad about you, it's likely that it's a shortcoming you can improve.

If this person is just a casual acquaintance and he is not that important to you, ignore him. If you can't ignore him, think and distinguish between what he objectively expresses and what he is just talking nonsense about, and treat them differently.

If it's someone important to you and he says something about you, have a chat about it! Accept what's right and ignore the rest.

You may reference the above at your convenience.

Hello, question owner!

From what you've told me, it seems like you're feeling a bit confused and powerless inside, but you're also really good at seeing yourself clearly. You've noticed this uncomfortable feeling, you're facing it head on with positivity and courage, and you're always looking for ways to solve the problem. That's amazing!

You said you were happy as a child, but then something changed. You stopped wanting to speak, to talk, and when others said something bad about you, you didn't argue back. You just stayed silent. But deep down, you were still a little unhappy. Is that right?

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'd love to know what happened that made you feel confused and aware.

I'd love to know when you first felt this way. And how did you eventually adjust to it?

I'd love to know what kind of strength supports you. What helps you keep going when you're facing challenges?

It's possible that what's going on for you now has roots in something that happened in your past. It's totally normal to feel reluctant to talk about it or to disagree with it. Sometimes, we even feel afraid to do so. But what is it, exactly? It's so important for us to keep an eye on it.

When you become aware of something and come here to talk about it, that's the first step on your journey to change.

I don't know all the details of your situation, but from what you've told me, I think I can offer some suggestions that might help.

Firstly, I would highly recommend seeking help from a professional counselor.

If we're feeling stuck in a negative mindset and struggling to find our way out on our own, it's totally okay to reach out for help. Professional counselors are there for us, ready to dive deep and explore the roots of our subconscious, help us identify the root of the problem, and adjust our perception. They can also use hypnosis to help us return to the past and see what we went through at the time, so we can heal and grow.

Next, it would be really great for you to learn to communicate.

Communication is so important in life! We need to have a good communication model because if we don't say it, no one else will know who it is. If we don't know what we think, it's the same as if others don't say what they think. When they are upset, we can try to communicate with the other person about your behavior. This can be uncomfortable for me, but I want you to know that I don't want you to treat me this way. If you tell someone else, they will know your sense of boundaries and your principles. This will help others to know where you stand and not to cross the line.

It's all about setting some healthy boundaries so that others know where we stand. That way, if anyone crosses the line, we'll know how to protect ourselves.

And most importantly, believe in yourself!

I don't know what happened to you, but I can tell from your description that you're feeling helpless and negative. Don't worry, though! We can believe in ourselves and know that if we keep trying and don't give up, we'll find the Mop Dog and be able to protect ourselves.

And then, we should always try to be the best we can be!

When we face others and have nothing to say in response to their negative comments, it actually shows that we don't have enough self-confidence. But don't worry! This is something we can work on together. At this time, we must keep learning and improving ourselves. You can also learn more about things that interest you. You can change yourself and enhance your inner strength by learning about things that interest you, so that you can dare to face life's problems and express your own ideas. Of course, you can also do the things you like, immerse yourself in the things you like, and gain a sense of accomplishment, so that we become confident. And when we become confident, we will have the motivation inside, and we will become brave and be able to protect ourselves better.

And then, you've got to learn to accept yourself!

Everyone's personality is shaped by our family, education, and experiences. These factors are inextricably linked. Even if our current personality makes us feel uncomfortable, it's important to learn to accept and tolerate this aspect of ourselves. When we do, we can find inner peace, stop labeling ourselves negatively, and eliminate negative emotions. This allows us to make an effort to change and grow.

And finally, you just need to learn to release those emotions.

From what you've told me, it seems like you've told others that you don't have a way to refute them, and that you're feeling angry and regretful. Even so, there's a lot of grief in there. At this time, we must learn to let go of negative emotions, but our outward letting go will make us feel peaceful inside. Only in this way can we become more aware and clarify what we really want? This will strengthen our thoughts of change.

At the end of the day, no matter what has happened in the past or what the current situation is, we must learn to love, protect, and respect ourselves. When we love and protect ourselves, it allows others to respect us. The attitude of others towards us is actually given by us, so when faced with things we don't like, we must learn to say no. Do the things that are right for us, and refuse when we should. This may make things a little easier for us, and we don't have to bear the negative emotions of others.

Good day. I am Strawberry.

It is often asserted that during one's childhood, one is free from concerns and worries. However, as one matures, there is often a sense of nostalgia for those carefree days. During one's formative years, there is often a desire to grow up quickly, in order to explore a wider range of experiences and attain a greater degree of happiness.

The underlying cause of unhappiness

The questioner indicated that they were uncertain as to when they ceased desiring to converse. It is plausible that this occurred when an individual commenced denigrating them. Following a brief exchange, the other person would begin to disparage the questioner, engendering in the questioner the perception that the more they spoke, the more errors they would commit. If this were indeed the case, it would be more prudent to remain silent.

Silence is often perceived as unsatisfactory by others, and it appears that remaining silent or speaking up will inevitably lead to some degree of dissatisfaction. When individuals lack the skills to engage in meaningful dialogue or express their thoughts and feelings, they may resort to silence. Prolonged periods of silence can eventually result in a decline in one's capacity to express oneself effectively.

As a result of an inability to establish common ground with others and a lack of effective communication skills, individuals may experience a reduction in their motivation to engage in verbal expression. However, this can lead to a deterioration in overall well-being, particularly when faced with negative perceptions from others and a lack of opportunity to respond.

It is essential to recognize and accept one's emotional state.

Emotions serve as a form of communication, indicating the necessity to address emotional issues. However, the individual in question has chosen to disregard this communication, operating under the assumption that the problem will resolve itself. The emergence of these emotions serves as a reminder to acknowledge the issue, engage with it, and seek a resolution.

Other individuals have numerous expectations of the questioner, hoping that the questioner can fulfill their requests. When they are unable to do so, they may be accused and subjected to various forms of suppression. Therefore, it is perplexing why the questioner chose to remain silent, only to subsequently experience feelings of anger towards themselves.

It is a fundamental tenet of human psychology that all individuals possess seven primary emotions and six fundamental desires. It is entirely normal for an individual to experience a range of emotions in response to a variety of external stimuli. Different emotions elicit distinct reactions. For instance, experiencing anger in response to another person's behavior indicates a discrepancy between one's own beliefs and the other person's actions. Consequently, it is crucial to ascertain whether one has attempted to articulate these inner thoughts.

It is important to allow oneself to learn and grow.

Silence is an ineffective method of problem-solving, as it leads to feelings of anger and frustration. Instead, employing an appropriate method allows individuals to confront challenges in a constructive manner, facilitating learning and personal growth.

1. The importance of continued learning cannot be overstated. It is a fallacy to assume that one is incapable of learning simply because they lack proficiency in a particular skill. Communication is a skill that can be acquired through dedicated practice and study. Recommended resources include books such as "Communication Psychology" and "Microexpressions in Communication." Additionally, practicing in front of a mirror, speaking more, identifying suitable topics for discussion, and attempting to take control of the conversation can be beneficial. This process can foster confidence and help individuals recognize that effective communication is a skill that can be developed.

2. Alter your perception: Many individuals have likely encountered adults who have advised them to "bear it" when confronted with challenging circumstances, to "let it go" when faced with inconsequential issues, and to avoid engaging in disputes. Over time, this perception can become deeply ingrained, leading individuals to refrain from challenging the status quo, even when it is unfair. However, it is crucial to recognize that passivity is not always the most effective approach and can potentially impede communication and opportunities for growth. Therefore, it is essential to challenge this mindset and embrace a more proactive stance in navigating challenges.

3. Learn to express: When one experiences emotions in response to a given situation, it is important to avoid either hiding or suppressing them. Instead, it is essential to learn to express one's emotions in a timely manner, thereby enabling others to gain insight into one's personal boundaries and fundamental positions. When emotions are expressed in an appropriate manner, it can facilitate mutual understanding and potentially lead to the establishment of a different relationship.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the initial question. Wishing you the best.