I don't want people to say bad things about me, I feel like no one wishes for me to survive.

Hello, question asker. I can see the confusion you are facing, and I'm here to help.

I'd like to know why you think parents don't have an obligation to be nice to you.

This is likely related to your family of origin.

It is likely that when you were growing up, your parents blamed you for things you didn't do well.

However, there are often external reasons for not doing something well.

The pandemic forced many high school students to take online classes at home for an extended period. Consequently, they only returned to school a month before the exam to start taking practice tests.

Given the limited time to prepare for the college entrance exam or the national college entrance exam, it is likely that the results will not be as good as they could be.

They didn't study hard, right?

That's not the case. All we can say is that this year's exams were very difficult for them because of the pandemic.

You have the courage to come to this platform to ask questions for help, which proves you are already very good.

Don't listen to other people saying you're bad.

You need to talk to a counselor about why you feel bad now.

I believe that seeking help from a professional psychological counselor would be more beneficial than an instant listener for your current problem, given that it falls under the category of the original family.

I am confident that you will find a solution to your problem soon.

That's all I have to say.

I am confident that my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you. As the respondent, I can assure you that I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world loves you too. Best wishes!

Dear Child, Good day.

From your statements, it is evident that you desire affirmation and understanding. Your fundamental need is to be seen for who you truly are. However, this seems to be a challenging pursuit. You are facing difficulties in obtaining what you want, and you are seeking assistance. Please provide a supportive gesture to your child and follow along as I utilize psychological insights to gradually assist you in overcoming this challenge.

The human tendency to seek superiority.

People appreciate affirmation and avoid blame and criticism. This is a characteristic of the human tendency to seek superiority. It is a quality that is present in all individuals.

It is important to recognize that this is a characteristic that people inherently possess. Learning to accept this way of thinking about yourself is crucial. Affirming your desire for recognition while maintaining a sense of self-assurance is essential.

As an independent individual, I am not influenced by the opinions of others, including my parents. My thoughts and actions are guided by my own principles and values, not by external pressures. The opinions and actions of others do not affect me negatively or positively; they simply do not concern me.

The pursuit of recognition has a detrimental impact on one's freedom.

It is a universal human desire to be recognized and affirmed by others. As children, we study hard to achieve good grades in order to gain our parents' approval. As adults, we work hard to gain the favor and attention of our superiors. We sacrifice our own feelings and interests to gain the appreciation of our friends. As couples, we do whatever we can to become the person our partners like in order to gain their love.

However, in retrospect, we did become someone else's favorite, but what were our feelings at the time? Were we happy or depressed?

It is not possible to achieve happiness by seeking the approval of others without consideration. The answer is clearly negative.

We have relinquished our autonomy and authenticity, and are instead living for the benefit of others.

All human troubles can be traced back to issues in interpersonal relationships. It is essential to learn how to separate the subject.

This is a fundamental concept in Adlerian psychology. If there were no relationships in the world, if there were only oneself in this universe, then all concerns would also cease to exist.

In essence, all interpersonal conflicts originate from the interference of other individuals in their own or others' problems. To effectively navigate these challenges, it is essential to adopt a mindset that discerns whose problem it truly is and to distinguish between one's own concerns and those of others.

For example, you have taken a specific action (this is your topic), and others will evaluate whether you are right or wrong. How should you evaluate it? The assessment of whether it is a good or bad thing is outside the scope of your responsibility.

2. Another example: You believe you are a wonderful, kind, lively, cheerful, and nice person (this is your perception and not a reflection of reality). Others may have a different opinion and perceive you as not so wonderful, not so kind, and not so nice. This is their perception and we have no right to interfere or change it. We cannot force others to do the exercises with us just because we need them to. It's challenging!

Therefore, the best course of action is to focus on doing our own work to the best of our abilities and to let others express their opinions as they see fit.

My child, your difficulties originate from a desire to be acknowledged and comprehended by others, a sentiment shared by many individuals. It is essential to disassociate this issue and muster the fortitude to withstand criticism. I suggest reading the book "The Courage to Be Hated" to foster self-love and assertiveness in the face of obstacles.

I encourage you to break free from the constraints of your current way of thinking and embrace a mindset that is driven by a desire for freedom.

I am also pursuing this objective and am open to collaborating with you on this journey.

I would like to extend my warmest regards to you and the world at large. Best regards, [signature]

Good morning. I extend to you a warm greeting from afar. From my perspective, it is evident that you are seeking to be understood, accompanied, listened to, affirmed, supported, encouraged, accepted, cared for, and valued.

As you have observed, it is incumbent upon you to respond to and satisfy your own needs. You are the best judge of your own needs. Therefore, in order to respond to and satisfy your inner needs that you feel inadequate about, you need to try to respond and satisfy yourself first through the guidance of self-awareness.

Naturally, the ability to respond to one's own needs through one's own efforts hinges on first acknowledging the existence of such needs through awareness, without succumbing to feelings of shame or guilt. Only then can a calm and considered approach be taken to identify more effective ways of responding to one's needs.

For example, treat yourself in a manner that aligns with your personal values and respect your authentic physical and emotional needs. When you feel tired, prioritize rest and relaxation. Nourish yourself with positive regard and interest, and engage in activities that bring you comfort and joy. You can also strive to embody your authentic self in relationships and express your feelings and needs.

It is also recommended that you request assistance from those in your inner circle, particularly family members and close friends, and communicate your emotions, feelings, and needs to them in an open and honest manner. You may also find it beneficial to maintain a mood diary to record your feelings in a timely manner. By paying attention to your emotions, you can gain a deeper understanding of, and more effective ways to respond to, your needs.

For you, developing a more positive self-image and self-assurance is crucial. Our relationships with others are often influenced by our inner selves. When you can accept yourself fully and believe that you deserve to be treated well, you can express your needs openly and receive the care, attention, affirmation, and encouragement you need from others.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this matter.

My name is Lily, and I am the Q&A Pavilion's designated listener. On behalf of myself and the entire organization, I would like to extend our warmest regards to you.