I don't want to do anything, I'm afraid to face everything outside, why is that?

Hello. I can see that you're having some issues, and I hope I can be of help.

Given that you're afraid because of a bad experience, lack of direction, and desire for change, we can try making adjustments in the following areas:

First, take a step back. If you're really struggling, give yourself permission to stay in your current state for a while. There's no need to stress or blame yourself. Treat it as a short break and take it slow with a relaxed attitude.

Second, start with small changes. If you don't have a clear big goal, start with small goals that are specific to the things you need to do every day. These could be things like going outdoors, going shopping, or calling a close friend. Remind yourself to plan your time, which can help you move from the thinking stage to the doing stage. Experience it in action, and you may find that the outside world is not as scary as you thought. This will increase your sense of security and self-confidence.

Third, plan for the long term. From what you've said, it seems like you want to become more independent. To make this happen, you need to give yourself more support. You can imagine what you hope to be like in five or even ten years, and then make some long-term plans. This can also help you stay motivated.

Let go of the past and embrace the future.

Have a great day!

Dear,

From your description, I can imagine that your current situation is full of conflict and internal conflict. It seems as though you're having trouble settling down in the present, and this may be contributing to feelings of confusion about your future. It's also possible that you're having difficulty accepting change.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to focus on living your present moment to the fullest.

For instance, if your current lifestyle is largely centered around eating, sleeping, and gaming, it would be beneficial to focus on maintaining a healthy balance between these activities. By doing so, you can ensure a sense of fulfillment and happiness, while also embracing the present moment.

It might be helpful to be a little more tolerant of yourself. Perhaps it's not so important to have a rigid sense of what should or shouldn't be done, or what is right or wrong, or what you are most motivated to do at any given moment. It could be beneficial to allow yourself the flexibility to choose what will give you the best attitude in life.

For the time being, if you can take care of yourself, take care of your body, take care of your emotions, and live your life in an organized and meaningful way, doing things you like and that give you a sense of accomplishment, like playing games, that is also a fulfilling and happy thing to do.

And at the same time, it could be said that these activities reflect our personal abilities and values.

I believe that by fully enjoying the present moment and seeing your own abilities and value, you can succeed at anything else. After all, we can play so well and feel so accomplished at games.

It would seem that what you experience in your current life is more emptiness and frustration. Without some good experiences and feelings, it may be that immersing yourself in something else, with your past experiences, results in a similar experience of emptiness and frustration.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that the self may not fully accept itself. While the task at hand may change, the same problems may still need to be faced, and the self may still need to face itself. It is possible that the changes may only be superficial, while the deep-rooted issues may still be present.

It is my belief that we should all strive to live each moment to the fullest. In doing so, we should also be open to adjusting ourselves and discovering our own direction and the life we want to lead.

Hello, dear question asker!

First, let's talk about your experience.

It's totally understandable that you're struggling to put your past "bad experience" into words. It's already a tough thing to talk about, isn't it? Do you think that your thoughts and feelings about this experience are making you feel afraid and anxious?

It's totally normal to feel this way! It sounds like you've been holding on to some negative feelings about this experience, and it's understandable that they've been causing you some pain. It's like they've been hidden away in your heart, and by allowing them to be repeated and spread, they may cause you to suffer from great internal pain and conflict.

Second, let's talk about the good stuff going on in your life right now.

From reading your text, I can see that you're going through a lot.

"I want to work, but I don't want to work." "I don't want to get involved with anything or anyone outside."

Luckily, you have a safe place to feel whatever you need to feel and work through it at your own pace.

We all know how it goes. The thought of going out to work and socialize and having to face it can feel scary. It seems like a "battle against the enemy," and can make people feel that it is a terrible thing. If we keep thinking of ways to solve it and fight it, it can really make people nervous.

But when you're caught up in a state of nervous fear and stop functioning for the outside world, and life doesn't "end" because of this period of stagnation, you'll see that your life is actually more stable, secure, and resilient than you thought. You'll also realize that you're more resilient and more restorative than you thought!

3. Choose and face it, my friend!

It's all up to you! You can choose to participate in work or not, and you can choose to participate in social life or not. It's just a matter of choice.

You can choose to stay in your comfort zone, or you can choose to take risks in a way that suits you. Either way, you have the freedom to decide what's best for you.

There's no right or wrong here. Different choices just mean dealing with different things.

"Freedom is choice, and choice is responsibility." You know, choosing means taking on responsibility. And not choosing is also a choice.

Let's think about it together. What was your experience of avoiding work and socializing? What were your feelings?

What can I do to help you face this?

It's so important to choose to face work and social life, to face the fear of the unknown. But are these worries and fears based on past experiences, on imagination, or on reality? I truly believe that when work and social life are based in reality and we truly engage with them, we can truly see the truth of things.

Maybe your current inner turmoil is the first step towards change, a kind of progress, and the only way for new and old things to develop alternately. I believe in you!

I hear your inner pain and see your desire for change, but I cannot understand you deeply. Perhaps finding a suitable counselor to accompany you through this difficult period, to re-examine the experience you find hard to let go of, to replace old experiences that make you feel pain with new ones, and to develop a new mode of behavior that suits you will be a difficult process. But I know you can do it!

I know it can be tough to achieve your goals all at once, but you can do it! Start with the little things around you and notice the difference between your previous "negative experiences." You'll be amazed at how a little change can lead to a big one!

We're all special, and our experiences shape us into different people. But I truly believe that we all deserve a better life!

I really hope my understanding can inspire you!

Thank you so much for your question!

If we stay in our comfort zone, eating, sleeping, and playing video games every day, this situation will undoubtedly make people feel like they don't have to do anything and don't have to worry about anything. But is this really the case?

If we never do anything, we become lazy. It takes longer to prepare for a diligent state afterwards. You are afraid to face everything outside. This is a state of suspected fear.

It's common for people to fall into a state of fear when they don't understand something. I want to know if your real fears are affecting your life. Are you ready to make the changes you need to improve your emotional stability?

If you don't want to get involved in things outside, you'll disconnect yourself from the outside world. You'll have no way to make your own connections, and you'll feel even more bored and uninteresting because the things you come into contact with are relatively few and there aren't many topics to talk about.

It's easy to get lost in this state of being directionless. I can see that you're just playing with your phone at home right now, not doing anything else. If you want to exercise, you have to make your own choice and put in the effort to step out of your comfort zone and expand it. You need to break through the past and overcome your weaknesses. If you don't change, it will be even more difficult to integrate into society in the future. As a professional heart exploration coach, I recommend that you take the necessary inner animal archetype psychological test to understand yourself.

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