I don't want to feel constrained by a trivial matter, the freedom to say anything without reservation?!

Hello! I'll start by sending you a warm hug from afar.

If your child's teacher's child painted your meal card and you're angry about it, you might want to find a better way to express your anger.

Let your anger out, because it's a way of feeling disrespected. Then think about what you want, like being valued, respected, and understood. When you understand what you need, you can respond better and get what you want.

For instance, you might say to your younger brother or sister at that moment that you used a colored pencil to dirty your sister's meal card, and that your sister's meal card is no longer pretty. So, your behavior makes me feel sad, and my sister hopes that you won't just scribble on other people's things next time you find them.

It's not what happened that makes us feel hurt, but how we interpret what happened. In this case, you saw the child painting your meal card as disrespectful and contemptuous. When we have this interpretation, we tend to think the child is deliberately targeting us. In reality, though, the child is probably just having fun.

So, it's important to be aware that your anger in this situation isn't proportionate to what's actually happened. It's likely to be more intense than is appropriate.

You might want to try keeping an emotional diary. This is where you record your emotional responses at that moment in words. This helps you to better perceive your emotions, explore the needs hidden behind them, and thus seek better ways and methods to respond to your needs. It also helps you cultivate the ability of self-awareness and self-care.

The reason external people and things hurt us is that we have that pain point within. So the outside world is more of a mirror, and we need to use external people and things to heal the traumatic parts within ourselves.

I'm Q&A Pavilion Little Ear Lily World, and I love you.

Hello question asker!

I saw your question. You got your hands dirty at the library when the children colored the meal cards. You don't want to go to the library with your emotions pent up and cause a disturbance. I understand how you feel. You must be torn right now, not knowing how to deal with this problem.

How should you view this matter?

1. This matter is trivial. You are sensitive and concerned about details. You care about what others think. You are sincere and kind. Things are simple or complicated, depending on your emotional management and communication style.

2. You're thinking a lot but haven't tried anything. Just follow the normal process. Explain the situation to the teacher at the library. Be tactful and express yourself appropriately.

3. This is a trivial matter. Be tolerant of others' mistakes. Children will make mistakes. They should be more careful in the future. Be tolerant of others and don't hold a grudge.

4. If you do it, you'll see it's not as hard as you think. You just made it harder. You can handle it if you put your heart into it!

5. You can also solve similar situations reasonably in the future. Learn to communicate well with others and deal with complex problems. Have confidence in yourself. Ranting won't help.

I hope this helps. I love you!