I feel a bit unhappy and truly inferior. Why don't many people like me?

Good day. I am pleased to respond to your inquiries and offer suggestions that may prove beneficial.

The current situation presents numerous challenges that require a multifaceted approach to resolution. It is advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified psychological counselor to facilitate a comprehensive assessment and the development of effective solutions.

Firstly, it is essential to cultivate an internalised sense of self-acceptance and self-esteem, identify one's inherent strengths, fully utilise one's unique capabilities, and embrace one's individuality.

Secondly, individuals are prone to distraction by external influences and require a sense of autonomy, the capacity to resolve issues independently, and the capability to make decisions based on their own discernment.

For example, we have already made the decision for ourselves that we do not wish to attend school. However, due to the influence of our peers, we experience distress and a desire to attend school in the same manner as our classmates. In doing so, we disregard our own inner feelings and considerations.

It is not the case that learning from others or following others is inherently negative; rather, it is simply a fact that we are susceptible to influence from those around us. In order to ascertain our own desires and intentions, it is necessary to consider a number of factors, including our own hearts, our actual situations, and our inner feelings.

Finally, communication between parents and children

Indeed, there are instances when it is appropriate to engage in open communication with one's parents about one's feelings, as well as to offer suggestions and make reasonable requests.

For example, when we recognize that our parents' educational approach is not aligned with our needs or when we experience negative emotions, we can directly communicate with our parents that disparaging education is not a universal solution and that we prefer encouragement as a form of communication. I hope to receive positive reinforcement from my mother.

Furthermore, psychological counseling can facilitate the acquisition of social and communication skills, thereby enhancing one's ability to express oneself more effectively.

It is my hope that with the application of self-regulation and the assistance of qualified professionals, you will be able to identify an adjustment strategy that is more aligned with your needs and preferences.

The world has a profound appreciation for you.

The following is an analysis of the concept of emptiness.

First and foremost, it is important to recognize that each individual is unique and that external validation is not a prerequisite for self-worth. While it is not necessary to please everyone, it is crucial to cultivate a support system of individuals who genuinely understand and appreciate you.

In regard to the issue of encountering individuals or circumstances that are detrimental, it is unavoidable that you will face various challenges and difficulties in life. However, the crucial aspect is how you respond to and manage these challenges. When confronted with difficulties, you can employ the following strategies to alter your circumstances:

Self-growth: Focus on enhancing your abilities and qualities, maintain a commitment to learning and professional development, and cultivate confidence and independence.

It is important to establish healthy relationships. This entails learning to identify and distance yourself from people who bring you negative influence. It also means establishing close relationships with positive and energetic people with whom you can grow and support each other.

It is important to maintain a positive mindset, even in the face of setbacks and difficulties. Believe in your own value and potential, and stay determined to follow your own path.

Should you feel that you require assistance, we recommend that you seek the guidance of a qualified psychologist or counselor. Professional support can assist you in identifying solutions to your issues and in rebuilding your confidence.

It is crucial to have confidence in your abilities to overcome challenges and emerge victorious. Everyone is valuable and deserves respect and care.

Facing life's challenges with strength, self-belief and resilience will enable you to embrace a brighter future.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you today because I have a question. Thank you in advance for your help. Best regards,

Please accept this gesture of affectionate support.

Your confusion: "Is it necessary for me to be liked by a significant number of people? Typically, individuals who conduct themselves in an admirable manner are well-liked."

Am I not meeting the standards required of me? I am encountering individuals and situations that are not conducive to my personal growth.

How might I effect a change in my circumstances? Just as you, Mom, I would like to attend school this afternoon, but I previously indicated that I would attend tomorrow.

However, my friend informed me that she would be leaving at 6 a.m. today, and I am eager to begin my preparations.

However, you advised me not to go, and it is now too late.

While the journey from my residence to the university dormitory only takes an hour or two, I would like to inquire as to whether you believe I lack self-reliance.

"Mom, could you possibly provide me with a bit more confidence? I really feel inferior."

"Should I be crying?"

I understand you may be feeling somewhat despondent at this time. If I were in a similar situation, would you prefer for me to empathize with you and share in your sadness for a brief period? Have you identified the underlying cause of your sadness?

What is the underlying cause of your sadness? It is, in fact, a manifestation of love. Why are you so sad?

The underlying issue is that you love your mother and believe she should be able to understand you, but she is unable to do so.

This is also part of the maturation process. It is important to recognize that your mother and you are not identical. She has her own thoughts and choices, and you also have your own thoughts and choices. It is not because your mother does not understand you that she does not love you. In fact, she still loves you very much.

Another source of confusion is the assumption that your performance is satisfactory, yet you are unable to gain the approval of others.

I would like to inquire as to whether you truly believe that no one likes you. Is it 100% accurate to conclude that no one likes you?

I was considering your acquaintance, who is scheduled to meet with you today. I will inform you immediately if there are any changes to this arrangement. He has expressed a strong interest in meeting with you. While there is a slight difference between meeting him today and meeting him tomorrow, it is not a significant one. Therefore, it would be inaccurate to assume that he is no longer interested in meeting with you. If that were the case, it would not be consistent with the nature of a true friendship.

Let's discuss interpersonal relationships. Is the objective to maintain good relationships to make others happy, or to become a valuable person? I believe this is a worthwhile question to consider. It's important to understand that blindly pleasing others does not reflect your value, but rather reduces it. Conversely, having an independent opinion and making choices will make you a valuable person and attract like-minded people. It's essential to consider your own path and not allow others to influence it. This is the path to your own growth.

That will conclude today's session. Thank you, and have a great day.

Hello, my dear child. I'm here to give you a big hug and I hope you feel the warmth and support I'm sending your way. I also hope my answer can help you in some way.

I can sense that you really want to be liked by others, and I think that's totally normal! We all want to be liked by others. It seems like you think that everyone and everything you encounter is rubbish, but I'm sure that's not true. I don't think your mother is a rubbish person, even if she doesn't let you go to school when you want to. You're now in adolescence, which is a very exciting time! You want to be independent and make your own decisions, and that's a very normal need. However, your mother is not at ease with you, and that's okay! It doesn't mean that you're not really independent. It just means that she's not at ease with you. These two things need to be distinguished, but I'm sure you'll work it out together.

As we grow up, we become more independent. And the best thing we can do for ourselves is to have self-confidence. It's something we can't get from our parents, but we can develop it ourselves.

I just want to give you a little bit of advice, if I may.

It's so important to recognize your own needs.

From what you've told me, it seems like you want your mom to respect your decisions, but it doesn't seem like she's doing that, which makes you feel really uncomfortable. Have you ever tried talking to her about it? Maybe she doesn't agree with you because you haven't talked to her about it yet. Have you ever tried using the method of "Nonviolent Communication"? It's a way of talking to your mom that helps her understand you better. You can start by figuring out what your needs are, what you want your mom to do, and also express your true feelings, needs, and specific requests to her. I bet if you try this, your mom will understand you better and you'll get the result you want.

2. Talk to your mom about what you need in a way that's reasonable and respectful.

If you've taken the time to figure out your own feelings, needs, and wishes and know exactly how you want your mother to help you, then you can find a suitable opportunity to express this to her. It's best to do so when you and your mother are both in a good mood. When you express your feelings, it's important to follow the principle of not judging or blaming, but just objectively stating the facts. For example, you could say: "Mum, today my friend said she was going to school at 6 o'clock, and I couldn't wait to pack my things and go too. But you said I shouldn't go today because it's too late. This makes me feel sad, upset, aggrieved, and a little angry. I especially hope to gain your respect and understanding. I hope you will trust that I can stand on my own two feet, and that you can give me a little more trust. This is very important to me, and this is the love I want. In the future, can you respect my own decisions on some things?

I'll also be responsible for my own decisions, and I'm sure you'll be happy to trust me to make the right choices.

3. Learn to separate issues and gradually become independent. You will become more and more free in your relationship, and it's so exciting to see what the future holds!

It's so important to learn to separate issues if you want to become independent. This means understanding which issues are your own and then taking responsibility for them.

The things that have direct consequences and that you need to bear are your own topics. For example, whether you choose to go to school today or tomorrow, and when you choose to go to school, is actually your topic, not your mother's. You can make your own choice, and that's great! But at the same time, you need to bear all the consequences of your choice.

Let's say you decide to listen to your mother and skip school today. You'll have to face the consequences of this choice, like your mother's satisfaction with you, your own inner grievances, your best friend's disappointment, and so on. Or, you could choose not to listen to your mother and go to school by yourself. In that case, you'll have to face the corresponding consequences, like your mother's dissatisfaction and accusations, your inner satisfaction, your best friend's approval, and so on. Of course, you could also choose to communicate with your mother before making a decision. This would require you to have the courage and spend the energy to communicate with your mother properly.

It doesn't matter what you choose, it'll never be perfect. But you can see what kind of result you're more willing to bear, and then make that choice. In the future, you can use this method for all your choices, and it'll help you learn to be independent.

4. It's so important to remember that what matters is not whether other people like you, but whether you like yourself. Be a person who likes and appreciates yourself, and you'll find that you attract more and more people who like you too!

It's totally normal to want everyone to like us. We all do! But the truth is, there will always be people who like you and people who don't. We all long for others' approval, but we have to remember that it's not something we can find outside ourselves. If we're lacking something internally, we'll seek it externally. So, when we're always thinking about the outside world and seeking others' approval, it's a sign that we don't like ourselves enough.

On the other hand, when you like yourself enough, you'll find that you don't care as much about other people's approval. Why? Because you'll realize you don't lack it, and you won't need to seek external approval. The problem is that, right now, you're lacking. And that's totally normal! It's all part of our growth experience. So, let's find a way to make up for it.

This takes a little practice, but it's worth it! Try loving and appreciating yourself, and trust yourself. If you're interested, I recommend two articles I've written: "How can people who lack love heal themselves?" and "How can I become confident?"

I'd also like to suggest two other books that I think you'll really enjoy: "When You Begin to Love Yourself, the World Will Come to Love You" and "The Miracle of Self-Affirmation." They're both excellent reads!

I hope this is helpful for you! Sending you lots of love and best wishes!

Good day,

As a result of your mother's limitations, you feel constrained and lack self-assurance due to her lack of trust in you.

Furthermore, you feel disappointed due to a perceived lack of attention and a sense of inferiority.

They are aware of the challenges you are currently facing and perceive you as being less competent than others.

Take a moment to consider whether you have a positive self-image.

Have you identified your own personal attributes that you find appealing?

If you feel attractive, you will convey a message of confidence, optimism, and positivity.

Recall the qualities of girls who are well-liked by many people.

If your mother were to trust you, it would result in an increase in your confidence. This is a direct result of the unconditional trust that you receive from those who care about you.

However, based on your description, it seems that your mother still places restrictions on your actions and does not fully trust you, even after you have completed your university studies.

Is there an alternative approach you could take in this situation?

Please advise if you are able to attend school independently.

Only when you have demonstrated your ability to complete the task will your superiors have more trust in you, and you will also become more confident.

It would be helpful to ascertain whether your mother's statement was intended as a request or a suggestion. If you treat it as a request, you are demonstrating obedience and not rebellion.

If it is a suggestion, you have the option of either complying or declining.

If you are perceived as an immature child by your parents, it will be challenging for you to become independent.

I encourage you to persevere.