I feel an unexplained fear and dislike for some people in class, don't want to go to school?

Dear questioner,

From your description, it seems that you care a lot about whether other people like you. And that's great! We all want to be liked, but the truth is, there will always be people who like us and there will always be people who hate us. We are used to focusing on being hated, so it becomes a problem. But there's a way to turn this around!

Fortunately, the renowned psychology bestseller, "The Courage to Be Disliked," offers a brilliant solution: "issue separation." This approach encourages us to embrace our individual responsibilities and recognize that everyone has the right to decide who is in charge of their own affairs. It's a simple yet powerful concept that allows us to navigate relationships with a sense of autonomy and purpose.

It's your business if you don't like me, and I can't control it. How I want to live my life is my business, and you can't control it either. But here's the good news: if a person wants to live their life to the fullest, they have to accept graciously that there will be annoying parts of themselves. And that's okay!

It doesn't matter if other people hate me, I just ignore them!

[Task separation] is a crucial step for anyone looking to grow and mature beyond the self-centeredness of infancy. By embracing their own opinions, judgments, and feelings, individuals can embark on a journey of self-discovery. Instead of putting themselves in the shoes of others, they can step into the shoes of an adult, taking charge of their lives and becoming the best version of themselves.

It's time to stop being obsessed with the desire to gain recognition from others. You can do it! You just need to master one skill: having judgment, acceptance, and recognition of yourself. Practice these, have your own views and judgments, pay attention to your own feelings and needs, and take responsibility for them. You'll gain strength gradually, and you'll realize what is your view, what is other people's view, what is your business, and what is other people's business. You'll be responsible for your part, and you'll know that you're in control. This is the topic of separation, and you're going to love it!

The questioner should think about what he or she is responsible for in the moment. We are only responsible for our own actions and results, which is great because it means we can focus on doing our best! Other people's thoughts and opinions have nothing to do with me, so I don't have to worry about them. Don't be too sensitive. Do your own thing well, don't provoke others, and if others hurt me, I will fight back. Study hard and get good grades, because you can do it!

I really hope this helps the questioner!

"I have consistently demonstrated academic excellence" indicates a high level of self-assurance, a robust sense of self-worth, and a perception of being an exemplary student, which is indeed the case.

Following the division into arts and science classes, the gender ratio in my class shifted significantly, prompting a shift in my comfort level. Would you anticipate a similar response if the gender distribution had remained consistent?

Please indicate whether your discomfort is due to your academic performance, your gender, or some other reason.

"I'm concerned that I may be perceived negatively or excluded." "You want to integrate with your new colleagues and contribute to the team's success."

It is crucial to understand that the most essential element in fostering positive relationships with others is to establish your own principles and attitude, rather than relying on external validation.

Your unique qualities are precisely what make you appealing to others.

If you compromise your principles to fit in, if you become someone you're not, or if you try to please everyone, you will ultimately be unhappy.

In the high school stage of learning, students' thinking, learning habits, and ways of dealing with problems have matured beyond those of junior high school or elementary school. They are now more adult-like and can handle problems more appropriately, so there is no need to dwell on these trivial matters at all.

Your primary objective should be to excel academically and gain admission to the university of your choice.