I feel bad inside. I'm 40 years old, unmarried and childless, and my situation is miserable...

The questioner is sad and regretful. She is pretty, comes from a good family, and has the support of her family and siblings. Life is full of disappointments. The questioner doesn't want to dwell on the few disappointments she has and wants to avoid getting caught up in the many disappointments she could have. I feel for her and want to give her a hug!

The worst thing in life is holding on to the past. It makes people unhappy. We should live for ourselves. The questioner's regrets and powerlessness seem to be about her husband and wealth. Ask yourself: Are you happy? If not, why not? Carl Jung said, "Those who look outwardly are dreaming, but those who look inwardly are awake."

Life is never perfect. Not getting what you want is not necessarily a regret.

Turning a new leaf is the start of happiness.

Life has no script, no cure for regret, no rehearsals, and no do-overs.

Your beliefs shape your life. One thought can lead to heaven or hell. Happiness is not determined by wealth, but by consciousness. If you change your mind, you will see that "after many difficulties, there is a way out; after a dark period, there is a bright new beginning." The best things are often unexpected. Surprises are always around the corner!

Gratitude is a common saying, but it really works. Be grateful for your family, looks, and health. Life is a journey of self-improvement. Do what you should do, take the path you should take, and feel free about the rest!

Shakespeare said, "If you dwell on past misfortune, you'll invite more." If you keep looking in the rearview mirror while driving, can you still see the road ahead?

Change is in your hands.

Change: You control your life.

Change what you can, accept what you can't. To be lucky, you have to be able to change yourself!

There are no ifs in life. You can't go back, so let go of your obsession and start writing a different ending today.

Every choice in life has its own rewards and losses. Tagore said, "If you cry when you miss the sun, you will also miss the stars." The past is done and cannot be changed. Focus on what you can change, spend time understanding what you want to do most, make a list of plans, and try to take action.

Life is never perfect. If you don't know what to do, go to the hospital or cemetery to feel the meaning of life. Everything else is trivial. You are responsible for your own life!

If you persevere, you will have a good outcome!

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Confidence in action

Do good things.

Forgiving yourself is wise. Forgiving others is kind.

Carl Jung said that as we get older, we need to understand ourselves better. He thought that people need to change their focus from external things to the mind. This helps us to understand life's wisdom and to overcome the "midlife crisis."

Set goals, meditate, read, exercise, learn new things, make new friends, etc. to expand yourself and find support. Practice being alone to learn self-affirmation (mirror exercises—say to yourself every day, "I'm so great..." to increase positive thoughts). The important thing is to adjust your mindset, remain curious, and take action! Reward yourself with a small cake or flowers, or listen to your favorite song. If you achieve a goal, reward yourself with a ritual.

Nan Huaijin said, "Sometimes what you don't achieve in this life is God's way of protecting you." I believe everything is for the best!

When water reaches the end of a gorge, it becomes a waterfall. When a person reaches the end of their road, they are reborn.

Just my opinion.

Peace and safety.

Good day, I commend you for your courage in sharing your concerns.

After reviewing your submission, I have identified the following key points:

Firstly, you are dissatisfied with your current situation and expect to be in a better situation than you are now.

You have come to recognize that you have not been as proactive as you could have been in communicating your needs and striving for a more fulfilling life.

Your self-positioning includes the following characteristics: unemployed, old, unable to earn money, and no accumulation of wealth and resources.

These three points lead to the conclusion that you are a "true failure." Based on the aforementioned points, your conclusion appears to be valid.

Have you considered that the aforementioned list contains no assets?

It is common for individuals to focus on what they have lost and neglect to recognize their achievements.

Please describe your assets.

I note that you have the courage to come here and discuss your anxieties.

When you were younger, you were attractive and had numerous admirers. Physical appearance is a gift from God. Even if you are no longer young, you will not appear old at the age of 40, and you will have the charm of that age.

Having siblings at home and interpersonal resources will facilitate the acquisition of additional resources.

Furthermore, you have indicated that you have not communicated or striven for it actively. If your next goal is what you really want, will your attitude become proactive?

You have indicated your desire for change and have sought assistance.

I would like to offer some suggestions to assist you in making a decision.

If you wish to effect a change in the status quo, you must first establish a practical objective (one that addresses the issue you are most keen to resolve).

Next, focus on your strengths and avoid your weaknesses in order to achieve your goal.

Furthermore, a spirit of cooperation and dedication is essential to achieve the desired outcome.

As the adage goes, action produces results. Change does not occur instantaneously, but it does occur, incrementally, until it is achieved.

Best regards,

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a pretty modest and self-effacing person, and I think that's pretty much the same as it's always been!

Just because someone is in a hurry doesn't mean they're not open to connection.

From what you've told me, I can see you're feeling lonely and unsure of yourself. I think that not long ago, you didn't have as strong an awareness of your own vulnerability as you do now. It's only when we're vulnerable that we're moved to do something, and that's a good thing!

Most people in this world are just like you and me, trying to make a living. Our different states of being make up the smoke and fire of this world, which can be both fascinating and painful. In the crowd, we always hope to belong somewhere, but it is really hard to do so.

It's totally normal to feel like there's not much to be excited about in your current life when you look back on the past. It can leave you feeling doubt and self-doubt. It's easy to feel like a drop in the ocean in this big world, and it's so hard to shake off that loneliness that has no place to go.

I've got a little bit of advice for you:

Keep a good attitude and don't give up on yourself. You've got this! No one says that love must be met when you are young. In fact, many young people's love has some of the needs of marriage and the restlessness of youth.

And you know what? We can definitely meet the love of our lives! It's never too early, it's never too late, as long as you're here!

It's okay to look back on the past, but don't completely deny it. There are so many ways to measure a person's usefulness, and everyone has a different definition. But, at the end of the day, what matters most is what's in our hearts. Our attitude towards ourselves is the most critical, and our recognition of ourselves is also what we need most.

It's always best to look forward, don't you think? And it's so important to make the most of the present. I think you should have a lot of experience, and I also think you should have a lot of experience. Organize and think about it to plan a path for yourself, bring your strengths into play, and just be yourself. Your proud soul is worth seeing!

Warmest regards!

Hello, dear question asker!

What a funny coincidence! I was also in a taxi today, and seeing the endless stream of people, I thought about the problems of all living beings. Everyone really has their own life, and I felt so insignificant. At this time, a sense of sadness would come over me, so I can really understand the sense of failure you mentioned. Sending you lots of love!

I just think that your family runs a business, so I guess your conditions have always been pretty good. To be honest, when I read that you envy other people's luxury cars and perhaps want to own one yourself, or imagine that if you had married earlier, your future husband would own one, I just cringe a little. I'm sure there are so many other things in life that are more important than a car!

I think you should be pursuing simple happiness!

When I read what you wrote later, I gradually understood. You're such a lovely person, and you come from a good family. You're a very high-quality girl, inside and out.

I'm happy to tell you that, according to Chinese marriage and family values, you can indeed own such a luxury car!

I can see how you might think this way. It's probably because you haven't taken action in the past that you're not enjoying the same luxuries and happiness as others today. That's probably why you had such thoughts in the taxi. I think people are most likely to feel sad when they're walking in a taxi. At that moment, they may not know the people around them, and the car is driving so fast that they feel lonely. I want to hug you again!

I get it. I really do. I know you've been through a lot and that you're feeling down right now. It's okay to feel this way. We all have our ups and downs. When we're feeling low, we tend to focus on our shortcomings. But I want you to know that your qualities have always been there. You're still the amazing person I've known you to be.

I think your beauty has definitely not changed. You have the beauty of this age. I can see you're not confident in your ability to earn money, and you're currently unemployed. Are you trying to achieve something more at this time? I think every step up will be painful. But don't worry! As long as you go through a period of pain and then endure it, you will usher in a higher level of life.

I'm not sure if you're in a first- or second-tier city, or a third- or fourth-tier city, or somewhere else. If you're in a big city, your age is nothing at all! Besides, in today's society, I think people's views on marriage and love are changing. There are many people your age, which is a feature of this era.

If you're feeling a little down today, it might be time for a change. When you're ready for a little intimacy, you'll find your way. I think you're absolutely beautiful, and you've had so many amazing people in your life. I think there are some truly wonderful people who are meant to be with you now. I know you'll find your way to a life filled with love and luxury.

How can you make your dreams come true? I've got a great suggestion for you:

Firstly, from now on, try to accept the high-quality objects that your siblings are talking about.

I have to tell you, when I read your question, I immediately thought of a very capable and beautiful woman. I think that even though you say you're almost 40, you definitely look very young. Now that you have a new feeling about finding a partner, when your siblings tell you about high-quality partners in the future, your attitude will change subtly. This is a great start!

Secondly, our beauty will never change. Even after experiencing all the ups and downs of life, there's a kind of beauty that comes with maturity. This kind of beauty is even more attractive to high-quality partners. Don't worry, if you miss the moon, there are still stars in the sky. As long as our hearts are open and our spirits are high, we'll still attract high-quality partners. Let yourself feel good, show off your beauty, and with your beauty, build up your confidence. Live every day with a full spirit, and beauty will surely come.

I really think you should actively look for a job. I'm sure you'll find something that suits you perfectly, based on your own abilities. Then, with peace of mind, you can start to value your work. Your inherent beauty and the value you find in your work will make you even more attractive. And with a better attitude, and by actively spending time with high-quality people, the life of marriage and the luxury car will surely be yours!

I really, truly wish you the very early realization of your dreams!

I love you, world! And I love you, too!

Dear Question Asker, After reviewing your question and your account, it is evident that the situation you described is clearly within my field of vision, and I can empathize with your loss and sadness.

I hope you can perceive the care and warmth from a distance.

I believe your situation is analogous to that of a close associate. You both possess excellent physical attributes, have higher standards for your partner than the general public, and both feel desolate in a certain situation and hope for a married life. She also once discussed similar confusion, so I hope my words can also provide you with some assistance.

Firstly, it is common to make assumptions about concepts such as happiness, success and failure based on a single event. However, this is a significant generalisation. For example, the reason you mentioned, because you are an older unmarried person and you are not confident in your ability to earn money, you feel like a failure, is a gross generalisation.

Consider the numerous examples of individuals who are not content in their marriages. Is a person who experiences a lack of love and autonomy in their relationship a success or a failure? If we assume that happiness is determined by comparison, then it can be argued that you have not yet entered into a marriage, but you have a high degree of autonomy in your life and you are a woman with an attractive appearance, so you have such obvious advantages.

Which individual can claim to be more successful and happier?

The answer is, in fact, uncertain because the same thing is perceived differently by people at different cognitive levels.

It is important to understand that your current situation of not being in a marriage is a result of your own decision. Once a decision has been made, the consequences must be faced. This is not a failure, but a temporary state of affairs.

If you desire a stable married life, you may wish to consider adjusting your focus to the state of choosing to enter married life. This could entail increasing socialization or getting to know each other through introductions and other means, with a view to preparing for entering married life.

Secondly, you envisage that your life would be transformed if you were to marry a man with a luxury vehicle. Have you considered what you mean by 'transformed'?

How would you assess your current state of mind if you were married to such a man? In comparison to your current self, what steps can you take to become more like the person you want to be?

Conduct similar intentional conversations, clarify your expectations and goals, and establish a plan of action with achievable milestones.

It is important to note that the biological age of 40 is merely a number. Regardless of whether you regret missed opportunities or are dissatisfied with the outcomes of your decisions, this fact remains unchanged.

However, maintaining a high level of energy at 40 and leading a more dynamic lifestyle is something you can influence. It is crucial not to be constrained by external benchmarks. Pursue your goals, act in accordance with your desires, and strive for success. The key is to take action immediately.

The optimal starting point is now.

I hope the above is helpful to you.

Hello!

You feel lost and despondent inside, but don't worry! You'll find your way out of this. You're sad, forlorn, and in a daze, but you'll feel better soon.

"Oh, wouldn't it be wonderful if I owned one of those luxury cars, or if my husband could drive one!" It's as if they were saying, "I'd love to be able to rely on myself or have someone to rely on."

People's wealth is not always stable, but most people are eager to seek profit. This makes them feel that a relatively good financial strength can help them establish themselves in society and be recognized by the external environment.

And when you add in the feeling of frustration at looking back on your younger days, it seems to intensify. It seems that you can feel the pressure from your family—nagging and accusing—while at the same time blaming yourself.

Self-reflection is a great thing! Just remember, it's not all about self-blame. Allow yourself to embrace the power of self-reflection and move past the dilemma of rumination.

Love yourself and believe that you still have the ability to find happiness! For you right now, it might be more like a bowl of chicken soup, but that's okay!

But I still want to tell you, to offer you the warmth I can! Because relationships between people gain courage and strength from trusting and being trusted, and transcend the age limits we can see.

Experience, wealth, and resources are used to accumulate, and it sounds like a regret and remorse for time—but what a shame to let that stop you!

What an amazing perspective to take on the meaning of the idiom "great achievements come late"!

Confucius said, "A gentleman is not bound by convention." My interpretation is: don't harden your thinking patterns, and believe in your own possibilities. Develop the courage to face life as it is—and it is full of possibilities!

This is why there's no longer a conflict between "becoming great late in life" and "a gentleman is not confined to any single role." They complement each other perfectly!

On the eve of my 40th birthday, I was in a taxi, listening to the endless stream of records from the era, feeling a little lonely, but also excited for what the future holds. We may feel a layer of separation from our family and environment, but we can also choose to move upwards and embrace our own unique journey.

Even if it's just a sigh to oneself, it's worth waking up to see oneself! After all, you're beautiful just the way you are, wrinkles and all, with a touch of sunburn and all. So, go out there and live more fearlessly, more brightly, and more self-assuredly!

Understand yourself, gently reassure your past choices, and accept that you had your reasons at the time. And for those who have entered into marriage, you have also seen the mess and the disillusionment, and you also get to continue to learn and grow in your relationship and help yourself and your partner gradually resolve the issues from your original families.

The future is in your hands!

I am a certified writer and listener of Yixinli, Qinling 3cats, and I greet you with the sound of my three cats at home!

Oh, where is my lovely Qinling Mountains home, and my heart belongs to my wonderful hometown!

Hello!

I'm a mindfulness coach, and I believe learning is the greatest gift the body can receive.

From what you've said, I can tell you're going through a rough patch. It's clear you're feeling a range of negative emotions, including pain, desolation, disappointment, and even despair. It's also evident you're feeling a sense of being at a loss.

I'm not going to get into the nitty-gritty of your concerns about your current situation, but I do have three suggestions for you to think about:

First, I suggest you try to understand yourself and accept your situation.

Because doing so will make you feel a bit better, which will help you figure out what to do next.

You say you're a girl approaching 40, unmarried, and childless. You're in a taxi and see luxury cars outside. You hope you're the owner or your husband is driving one. You also think if you'd married younger, your situation might not be so bad. Thinking about this makes you feel bad and like a failure. Your situation is understandable. When you reach the age to marry and have kids, everyone feels a little lost and sad, including you. You're unemployed and feel like a failure, which is normal. Everyone has potential to improve and wants a good life. You have to try to understand yourself and comfort yourself. Seeing that painful self inside who feels bad but doesn't know what to do will give you mental energy to think about other things. Otherwise, your mind will always be filled with negative emotions.

Most importantly, if you can understand yourself and accept your current situation, you'll be in a better position to make changes. I know it sounds a bit contradictory, but that's how it works: you have to allow for change if you want to make it happen.

Secondly, I suggest you take a rational look at your own situation.

Rational thinking can help you understand yourself and reality better.

To take a rational approach, you need to do two things:

First, remember that everyone has their strengths, and you are no exception.

Maybe you feel like you've failed and let yourself down, but I hope you can see the good in yourself and not say you don't have it. You have advantages, and you're no exception. You're here for help, which shows you're motivated, and you've talked about your previous romantic experiences, which shows you can reflect. So there must be something good in you, so you must see your own abilities.

Second, remember that you can change the status quo because you have the power to make a change.

When you take the initiative and put in the work, you'll naturally start to see a change in your mindset. It's important to view yourself from a developmental perspective. You're almost 40, but in the grand scheme of things, you still have plenty of time and energy to make improvements and become the best version of yourself. It's crucial to recognize the power of time.

Third, I suggest you focus on yourself and think about what you can do to feel better.

When you take a step back and look at the big picture, you might have a better idea of what to do. In this situation, it's probably best to focus on yourself and give it your all.

For instance, you could get a job first and just go for it. With a job, you'll have a source of income and meet more people, which might make you feel better. You could also look at your previous work experience and lower your expectations. Then, you could get a job and choose a career later on.

You can also take an objective and rational look at your own criteria for choosing a spouse and then come up with reasonable criteria for choosing a spouse. Think about what matters most to you, what matters second, what matters third, and what matters least. That way, you're more likely to find the right partner. You can also do a good job of summarizing the reasons for your previous relationship failures and then make targeted changes, which may also improve your mood.

You can also talk to your family and friends, because talking to someone can make you feel better. It can help you to get rid of negative emotions, which can have a healing effect. If you don't want to talk to people around you, you can find a counselor, which may also help you become more confident and optimistic.

You can also accept what you can't change, change what you can, and when you make an effort to improve yourself, your mood is likely to improve. It may also help you find a good job and a good partner, killing two birds with one stone; and so on. In short, you must know that you can do something to improve the current situation.

When you start taking action, all those negative emotions will start to dissipate. Sometimes, taking action is the best way to beat those negative emotions.

I hope this helps. If you want to talk more, just click on "Find a coach to interpret Z – online conversation" at the bottom and we can chat one-on-one.

Hello, question asker! I am Enoch, the person who will be answering your question.

From the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner may be experiencing some degree of discontent with his current life situation. He has expressed his feelings about life among the crowd, and he also appears to have some regrets about some of his life choices.

It seems that the questioner does not regret the lack of a close relationship. He appears to be somewhat indifferent and evasive about emotions. While he does not seem to regret not entering into a close relationship or family relationship, he does seem to feel that he has missed the opportunity to have wealth and social status as a result.

The questioner feels that he may not have the confidence to create wealth, but he has a very good appearance. He feels that if he had seized his personal advantages when he was young and bravely accepted the right person among those high-quality suitors, he might now be sitting in a luxury car enjoying a high-quality life, and he would also have wealth and a certain social status, just like his brothers and sisters. They may have gained good wealth opportunities because their families are relatively well-off and through marriage they have joined forces with strong partners, and this has brought a better situation in their lives.

In any case, it is encouraging to see that the questioner has begun to awaken. While this awakening may have come a bit late, and he may have missed the optimal age for marriage, it is nevertheless a positive step. It is my hope that the questioner will continue to develop awareness and goals in this area. I believe that with time, his future life will become clearer, and he will no longer be as confused as before.

It would be advisable for the questioner to continue maintaining their advantages, which could include taking care of their appearance and making themselves stand out in this respect. This may enhance their attractiveness.

Secondly, the questioner's parents were also businessmen, so it might be beneficial to consider using the family as a platform to learn some business skills from your parents, with the aim of acquiring wealth. I believe that your parents can also create some opportunities for you to create wealth. You can also cultivate some of your abilities to create wealth, and the abilities you gain from your parents will be more convenient and efficient.

Then, after acquiring these two abilities, the questioner has the opportunity to build on them, break through previous limitations, actively practice them in social work, and ultimately develop their own ability to create wealth.

The world of adults is often associated with a greater sense of responsibility and a heavier burden. Those who are already married are also thinking more about how to better shoulder their responsibilities to their families and to themselves, while striving to make a breakthrough in their careers. It would be beneficial for the questioner to learn to be responsible for themselves, so that they can create a better life with their family in the future.

I believe that when the questioner has made some progress in developing their overall qualities, they may eventually meet someone who is a good match for them.

If you bloom, you may find that butterflies will come!

Hello, question asker! I am Du Ying, a listening coach. I hope my answer is helpful to you.

I send the questioner a warm embrace from afar. Having read your description, I can truly empathize with how you feel. In your 40s, you have experienced various disappointments, both financially and in your marriage. This has led to feelings of self-doubt, remorse, and a sense of confusion about the future.

Perhaps we could consider a few factors that might be contributing to the questioner's current outlook?

First, it is important to consider the social environment as a whole. The current domestic and international economic situation is challenging, and social development is also undergoing a period of transition. Many companies are restructuring their workforce due to economic pressures, and some companies that were previously thriving are facing challenges. This is reminiscent of the workers who were affected by the reforms of state-owned enterprises in the past. It is possible that we are simply at this particular point in time. While personal abilities play a role, the broader environment also plays a significant part in determining our circumstances.

Secondly, the questioner is approaching 40 and beginning to experience a midlife crisis. It is not uncommon for people's physical strength, mentality, and thoughts to undergo changes as they age. These changes can sometimes result in feelings of anxiety related to the challenges of navigating life's transitions. Even if our lives appear to be relatively normal, we may still face this challenge, worrying and feeling uncertain about the changes in our body and mind as well as our future lives.

I have also experienced this period. I believe it is important to note that your financial situation or marital status is not the root cause.

Reflecting on your life journey, you may find yourself questioning whether your current circumstances align with your expectations. It's natural to experience feelings of sadness and a sense of powerlessness when faced with challenges.

Furthermore, the questioner's decision not to marry at an early age has led to feelings of despondency when faced with unemployment or other challenges, as he feels he lacks a reliable support system. How can we help the questioner overcome these difficulties more quickly?

It is hoped that the following suggestions will prove helpful to the questioner.

Firstly, it may be helpful for the questioner to communicate with their siblings or friends. When we are at our most vulnerable, the companionship of our loved ones and friends can provide a sense of warmth and strength to help us through difficult times. It is also likely that friends and siblings will be able to offer support in their own way.

Secondly, from the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner still has some regrets about the choice he made about marriage when he was young. So, it might be helpful to consider what our future goals and directions in life could be. What kind of life do we want when we grow old?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what we might choose now to live a better life when we are old.

It may be helpful to consider these matters carefully and to make a long-term plan for the rest of your life, whether it is marriage or your own work. You might find it beneficial to start working towards your goals. It may be a bit difficult at first, but as long as you persevere, you may find that you achieve an ideal state of life when you are old.

It might also be helpful to view the midlife crisis as an opportunity to make a fresh start and seize the moment.

It is my sincere hope that the above suggestions will prove beneficial to the questioner, and that the questioner will soon overcome the difficulties they are currently facing.

Dear Question Asker, My name is Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I am pleased to be able to answer your question about Yi Xinli.

I have carefully reviewed your description and believe you are currently facing challenges in both your personal and professional lives.

You were previously a young and attractive woman from a privileged background who now regrets not responding to those who courted her.

It is important to recognize that past regrets are in the past. The focus should be on how to live your life now and in the future.

I would like to offer the following suggestions for your consideration:

1. Adjust your mentality to a more positive outlook, focusing on the present and the future.

I appreciate that you are experiencing a discrepancy between your current circumstances and your past experiences. It would be beneficial for you to adjust your mindset and embrace the present.

It is unproductive to dwell on past mistakes. Instead, learn from your experiences and avoid repeating them.

It is recommended that you set a goal for yourself and work diligently towards it on a daily basis in order to lead a busy and fulfilling life.

2. It is advisable to obtain a stable position and provide for yourself before pursuing other opportunities.

It is essential to secure a stable employment position to sustain your livelihood and integrate into the workforce. Once you have established financial stability, you can then focus on advancing your career and planning for your future.

Securing employment provides the opportunity to interact with others on a daily basis, which can help to structure one's life. It also encourages a more practical outlook.

Please be assured that if you work hard and earn money, you will have the financial means to purchase the essentials required for a comfortable lifestyle. This will also afford you the opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of the true meaning of life.

As long as you maintain a positive outlook on life, you will be able to navigate challenges successfully.

3. Attend a blind date in order to identify a reliable partner.

Once you have secured a stable position, you may wish to consider attending a blind date. During the course of the date, it would be beneficial to reflect on the type of partner you would be suited to.

When searching for a potential partner, it is important to consider not only their material circumstances but also their character. Even if they possess good financial stability, a home, and a vehicle, if they possess a poor character, they may not be a suitable match.

It is crucial to find a partner who can provide unconditional love and understanding when you reach middle age. A partner who is considerate of your needs is more likely to demonstrate true love and provide a sense of stability and happiness in your life.

I hope you find this information useful.

I hope you find a suitable position and a compatible partner soon.

In One Mind, the World, and I Love You, we have identified the following key areas for improvement:

Hello, question asker!

After reading your description, I can tell you're in a tough spot. I'm here to tell you it'll get better.

Everyone feels differently when encountering the same thing. I am almost 33, so I understand your anxiety, self-blame, and confusion about your future. Is that right?

You described being in a taxi, moving through the crowds, envying something, perhaps wanting to be rich, or perhaps wanting to be in a happy marriage. When you think about this, you feel a little lost inside, and you regret something a little. Is that right?

This situation is normal. Everyone has these emotions from time to time. It shows that we have hit a bottleneck and are dissatisfied with the status quo. But you can choose to become aware of it and speak up bravely. That's a kind of growth and change.

From your description, it's clear that you had many suitors because you were beautiful, but you didn't respond. You can observe and feel how this behavior was caused. Or you can ask yourself what you really want.

As I already said, this feeling is normal. Everyone has bad moods sometimes. You need to figure out what happened to make you feel this way. You have to be more aware of it.

I want you to imagine what your ideal life looks like. And I want you to think about what you need to do to make that happen.

When you achieve the life you want, it will be different from the present.

There's no point in dwelling on past regrets. Everything that's happened has shaped you into the person you are today, and that makes you the best version of yourself.

I don't know your specific situation, but I'm going to give you some advice anyway, because I think it will be helpful.

First, adjust your mindset.

Many things in life have a reason behind them, whether related to our family, education, living environment, or experiences. As you said, your family conditions are quite good, and you have good personal conditions too. It's likely that some experiences have made you lack the courage to make a choice.

It doesn't matter if things are already the way they are. If you want to live a good life in the future, you have to adjust your mentality, start again, and do your own thing. That's the only way you'll encounter what you want.

You must have confidence in yourself and hope.

You have hope. That means you have hope for life!

No matter what life throws at you, you must keep your heart full of hope and love for the world.

There are no easy paths in life. Since ancient times, those who have achieved something have all been optimistic and upward in their struggle against fate. This is the only way to reach the pinnacle of life.

Suffering is not terrible. Losing confidence in life is.

You must know that as long as you have hope, there is hope for your life!

Then, accept and love yourself.

I understand this uncomfortable feeling in your heart. There is no need to dwell on regret. Accept yourself, because you are unique. You are the best and irreplaceable. Learn to love yourself, do what you want to do, focus only on your own feelings, and enrich your life. When you are open and relaxed enough to accept and love yourself, your destiny will come naturally.

You must learn to release negative emotions.

Every stage of life has its own confusion and worries. We must learn to get rid of them. Only in this way can we reduce the burden on our body and mind, and only in this way can we live more easily and face the future with more strength.

I don't know if you're just feeling this way for a moment, or if it's just an indirect way of expressing yourself, or if you've always felt this way. I want you to know that it's okay. Many women in this society marry late, including me. I know how you feel, and I'm also very anxious. We have to get this anxious feeling out of our bodies. We have to release our emotions through exercise, which of course can also help us get back in shape and stay beautiful.

There is no end to life. It is never too late to start. When you become aware, you can change yourself, adjust your state of mind, enrich your life, love life and love yourself, and become a positive person. When you have adjusted yourself, good luck will come to you.

It's not too late. We've been immersed in an uncomfortable feeling and unable to extricate ourselves, unable to start. When you become aware of this and come here, it's a change. I know you agree.

Happiness is in our hands. We must work hard to find it. We need to remember that when we improve ourselves, good things will come. We want more than just "snow-white coal." We want the "icing on the cake."

You have what it takes. I believe in you. If you're willing, you can do this. Let's cheer together!

Good morning, Thank you for your question.

From your question, I can discern your pain, regret, and sense of powerlessness.

I would be delighted to discuss this further and hope that you find this message reassuring.

1. Manage your own challenging emotions.

At a certain point in our careers, when we reflect on our professional trajectory, we may realize that we have missed numerous valuable opportunities or encounters.

It is only natural to consider what our lives might have been like had we made different choices. If we had selected a more suitable partner when we were younger, for instance, we might have a better quality of life now. We might also have a more luxurious vehicle and fewer feelings of desolation.

It is to be expected that at this time, a certain degree of discomfort will be experienced.

The fact that we can begin to reflect on this is a significant step forward.

Examine the underlying causes of these distressing emotions and identify the unmet needs they reflect.

The most straightforward interpretation of these emotions is a lack of satisfaction with one's current situation.

I am curious if you are experiencing any regret regarding your initial actions.

This is a negative emotional response based on perception.

We believe that if we had handled the situation differently, the outcome would have been more favorable.

This is, in fact, a form of self-inflicted distress and criticism.

It is important to note that this is a state of mind and not a reality.

Such thoughts will only serve to exacerbate the situation and diminish your sense of self-worth.

If you are seeking a solution to improve your current situation, I believe there are pharmaceutical options available.

It is crucial to take action now to ensure that you and future versions of yourself will not regret your decisions.

2. Concentrate on the present and identify potential resources.

In hindsight, the situation appears to be devoid of any positive outcomes.

We tend to focus on the aspects of our lives that we are dissatisfied with.

Furthermore, some of our own resources are overlooked.

For instance, one might inquire as to the state of one's health.

Please indicate whether you are still considered young at the age of 50.

We are actively considering a range of potential options.

It is important to note that sadness represents only one aspect of an individual's overall character.

There is a discrepancy between our expectations of a happy life and the reality.

If you wish to improve your situation or implement a change, it is advisable to focus on the present and consider what kind of life you really want to live.

For instance, if the objective is to establish a happy family, is the willingness to communicate effectively and to take action demonstrated?

As we approach our fortieth year, it appears that we are at a disadvantage compared to a twenty-year-old woman.

However, I am confident that with your extensive experience and thoughtful reflection, you will also value your well-earned success more.

It is possible to take steps to ensure that negative perceptions and emotions do not define us.

Age is not an issue.

Our perception of age affects us.

I would like to bring to your attention the experience of Deng Wendi.

She entered into a marriage and subsequently terminated it.

Subsequently, she served as an interpreter for media magnate Rupert Murdoch during his visits to Shanghai and Beijing, and subsequently married him. They had two children and accumulated considerable wealth before divorcing.

The rationale behind discussing her case is...

It is not feasible to replicate the experiences of others, but there is no need to restrict ourselves to our own perspectives.

It would be beneficial to gain a broader perspective by exploring a wider range of life experiences.

Provided there is a willingness to do so, there are numerous possibilities open to us.

Even if you are not yet ready to meet someone, you can focus on improving yourself, becoming more confident, being your own best advocate, taking care of yourself, and living your life to the fullest.

It is important to note that a happy life is not something that can be bestowed upon us by others. Even those who are financially secure may not experience happiness.

Happiness is a state of mind.

If we can achieve a state of equilibrium in the present, it will facilitate a similar state in the future.

Please feel free to share these ideas.

If you are interested, you may wish to read "The Terrific Me" and "Living a Life of Blossoming Joy." While life is divided into stages, the process of growing up is a lifelong journey.

It is possible to find employment and to build up experience and wealth over time.

Provided we work hard, we will undoubtedly reap the rewards.

I extend my best wishes to you.

I would like to extend my warmest regards to the world and to you.