I feel increasingly helpless when I'm with my partner, because he makes me feel a bit uncomfortable.

Hi there,

From what you've said, it seems like you're trying to figure out how to deal with the issues you're having with your partner.

This includes money management issues.

It's also important to respect and understand each other as partners and treat each other with respect. Regardless of the relationship, it's essential to handle money matters positively. Everyone has different ideas and perspectives, and when we interact with others, it's crucial to express our feelings and thoughts promptly. If the other person is open to it, we can have a positive relationship. If there are disagreements, discussing them and finding a compromise to solve the problem is a great way to move forward.

It seems like you're worried about money issues with your partner, and they often criticize you. It's normal to feel uncomfortable because our partners affect our words and actions, including our emotions. So, every word and action they say to us will make us feel a certain way. It's inevitable that we'll have some shortcomings when we're with someone for a long time. As a partner, if we love each other and want to be with each other, we need to learn to tolerate each other and accept each other's shortcomings. It's not easy to change, but if you really want to be together, you need to understand that no one is perfect. We need to tolerate each other and treat each other sincerely for a longer relationship.

I hope this was helpful.

It would be advisable to offer the original poster a hug.

After reading the host's confession, it is evident that the host is experiencing difficulties in their intimate relationship. It is crucial for individuals in such a relationship to be open, calm, and communicate effectively with each other. From the description provided, it appears that the host is confused and uncertain about the direction of their relationship, which seems to be characterized by frequent disagreements.

This is a common period of adjustment in an intimate relationship. It is recommended that the original poster undertake a gradual analysis of the situation from the following three points.

1. Is love a factor in this relationship?

First, it is essential to confirm that the relationship is based on love. Love serves as the primary motivating force that draws two individuals together, creating a compelling attraction that draws them closer. However, when two people are truly together, the initial sparkle that attracted them may fade, revealing the true face without illusions. At this stage, they are compelled to confront the reality of their relationship and may begin to perceive minor flaws that were previously overlooked. Life inevitably presents inconsistencies, and disagreements on certain matters may lead to doubts and a realization that the person may not be the ideal partner after all.

This is analogous to the concept espoused in the field of painting, whereby the distant subject is perceived as diminutive, while the proximate subject is perceived as expansive. When observed from a distance, the subject appears to be of modest proportions; however, upon closer examination, its true scale becomes apparent.

It is essential to consider whether the relationship is based on love. Love is the primary motivating factor in attracting and retaining partners, and it is the foundation of a healthy, long-lasting relationship. Without love, the relationship may lack the initial sparkle that attracts the two parties closer together. As the relationship progresses, the initial excitement and passion may give way to more practical considerations, such as the need for mutual respect and understanding.

2. Can you alter your behavior in response to each other's needs?

Given the inevitable occurrence of disagreements and conflicts in intimate relationships, it is crucial for partners to learn to navigate these challenges effectively. To achieve this, it is essential for both individuals to take a step back, communicate openly, and engage in constructive dialogue about potential solutions to the issues at hand, recognizing that change is often a mutual process.

To what extent are you willing to alter your behaviors and attitudes in order to accommodate your partner's needs and preferences?

3. Planning a Bright Future

Once the aforementioned considerations have been clarified, the two individuals can proceed to plan for a more promising future. It is irrelevant whether they believe that any of the aforementioned strategies will prove ineffective. When the two individuals are committed to planning for a more promising future, the initial two challenges can also be readily addressed.

Furthermore, the host addressed the issue of financial considerations in an intimate relationship, emphasizing the importance of financial planning. Based on my personal experience, I recommend establishing a joint bank account and allocating a specific amount of assets from each individual to be utilized for shared expenses.

Additionally, each individual maintains their own personal reserve, which is utilized for personal expenditures.

This aspect is subject to negotiation and formulation by the two parties involved. It is not only a plan for life, but also a plan for one's career. It is expected that the two parties will work together, be considerate of each other, understand each other, support each other, plan for a bright future, and actualize their ideals.

It is hoped that you will no longer be uncertain in your intimate relationship, acknowledge your feelings directly, and have a more promising future.

Hello!

I'm Kelly. You don't feel relationship-with-anyone-other-than-me-cause-me-discomfort-11151.html" target="_blank">comfortable with your partner, which is normal.

Your relationship is changing. You say you like to argue and conflicts are arising due to differences.

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1: Ask about the reasons for the conflict when he argues with you. This helps you understand each other better.

2: If he argues with you, you can calm down and become aware of it. Does anyone at home or with friends argue with you? We are just going back to the way we are used to.

You can also ask your partner if he was contradicted a lot when he was growing up. This could have affected him and his family.

This is a way to get to know each other and explore yourself.

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Understand the disadvantages. This is also similar to our relationships with everyone, such as our classmates. Over time, we will discover that the way we interact has changed. Some people will not let grudges affect their relationships.

If you feel uncomfortable, it's time to grow. Be honest with your partner about how you feel. This is also a good time to test your relationship and see if it will make you both better and grow together.

If you grow through this,

You'll become more comfortable with each other and be able to let each other live freely. This is a learning process in a relationship.

Everyone has their own personality. Look at each other's strengths, tolerate each other's weaknesses, and become more like yourselves.

Money management

This is a lesson missing from our upbringing. I have a daughter and will communicate with her.

1: Reciprocate. Men and women in a relationship should not be financially dependent on each other. They should share the financial burden equally to avoid disputes if they separate.

2: Stay independent. Lovers should be independent and avoid becoming overheated without boundaries. As the old saying goes, "time reveals the heart of man," so give each other and yourself some time.

3: If your relationship is stable, talk to your family about things like buying property.

Advice

1: Study "Nonviolent Communication" with your boyfriend.

2. Read Hotel on the Moon.

3: Keep growing.

I hope this helps.

Happy birthday!

I'm Kelly.

I love you, world.

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

Give the OP a boost. Faced with her boyfriend's bickering and helplessness, what should she do?

Some people end the relationship, while others change. The questioner needs to think carefully about where the relationship should go. No one can give the questioner the right answer. The questioner needs to listen to their thoughts. The questioner's emotions are very important.

How do you talk to your boyfriend? Do you have the same goals and values? If not, how do you communicate? Think about these questions. Does your boyfriend know your situation? Does he know you're in a relationship?

If you know why he's arguing with you, you can work it out.

I also have some advice for the person who asked the question:

Understand why your boyfriend is aggressive.

The boyfriend's accusations are often not the problem. The questioner does not need to feel hurt. These behaviors may be a mode of intimate interaction brought to him by his family of origin, or he may be trying to gain dominance in the relationship.

Facing her boyfriend's attacks, the questioner's emotions are difficult and helpless, which are normal. Don't belittle yourself. Your boyfriend only likes you because he values you.

The boyfriend has a reason for arguing with the questioner. The questioner needs to think about the future of the relationship and how to handle their feelings. You need to know if your relationship can be like it was before. This requires the questioner's consideration.

If there's a problem in a close relationship, the boyfriend's attitude might be a factor. A perfect intimate relationship requires joint efforts from both parties. Unilateral efforts aren't a long-term solution and can lead to fatigue.

The first thing to do is tell your boyfriend about your limits. See how he responds. You can't apply social norms to a student!

Tell him how you feel.

Your boyfriend's criticism and hostility are bad for your relationship. Talk to him about your expectations for the relationship.

If you're unhappy in your relationship, you can try to change it. Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. If you want to end the relationship or it's no longer happy, think about whether to separate or stay together. You and your boyfriend have problems with how you get along, which has caused this.

Don't brag about your relationship until it's official.

If you have a problem in your intimate relationship, you may feel uncomfortable and helpless. You may want to tell everyone about your emotions and experiences, even on social media. However, no one should make decisions about your love life. If you still want to maintain the relationship, this will only make others look at your partner differently.

Tell someone who can help you solve the problem and give you advice.

Telling friends and family about your situation may feel good at first, but it won't help.

There are too many opinions, and you don't know who to listen to. If you break up with your boyfriend because a friend told you to, you might feel weird about this friend in the future.

Do what you think is right.

Family and friends can give you advice on how to deal with problems in your relationship, but you have to make your own decisions. The ups and downs of life are yours to experience.

So, the questioner should make their own decision. Other people can only give ideas on how to look at things differently. But you still have to make your own decision. So, it is right to follow your heart.

Take a deep breath and calm down before making a decision.

It's normal to feel uncomfortable when your boyfriend is rude. But you still need to decide if you want to stay in the relationship. Take some time to think before you make a decision.

Take a short trip for a few days. Ask your boyfriend to give you some time to think. Don't make any major decisions right away. Think about what's best for you and the relationship.

The questioner can take a short break, but don't break up right away. Maybe you want to break up, but wait until you calm down.

Time will heal the wounds.

If the relationship has caused harm, it will take time to heal. It may not be as fast as you think, and it will take a long time to regain your confidence and love for life. Even if you continue the relationship, it will take a long time to return to a normal life and restore trust and affection.

No one can decide the direction of this relationship, regardless of whether it survives. This is not good. Even when it comes to relationships, the questioner needs time to process and come out of this emotional state.

The questioner must be ready to move on.

It's important to follow your heart, and time will tell.

I hope the questioner will take care of themselves when dealing with relationships. This bad experience may have taken a toll on them, but taking care of yourself is important. If they experience problems after this setback, they should seek help.

Life is hard, but enjoy it.

I hope this helps the original poster.