I feel like they don't understand me. Is dropping out the right choice?

My dear child, let me offer you a brief hug. From your description, it seems that you have had a negative impression of the school you attended since childhood, which may have affected your academic performance. You graduated from college but are not interested in continuing your studies. Instead, you want to write articles from home, learn design, and then earn a living by doing design.

From a purely career-planning perspective, there is nothing inherently wrong with this approach. Everyone has different strengths and preferences. As long as it is a viable means of earning a living and supporting oneself, and as long as it is not a deceptive or illicit method, it is an option worth exploring. While other individuals may offer advice with the best of intentions, their perspectives may differ from yours, and their guidance may not align with your specific needs.

It seems that there is a lack of understanding between you and them.

These questions will help you determine if you have given sufficient thought to your options. If you have, the direction is clear: 1. Do you genuinely enjoy writing online articles and designing? These activities can indeed support yourself, but there must be preconditions. For example, the online articles you write must be read by a large audience before the platform will pay you. The designs you do must be recognized by clients before you will have a steady stream of customers. Everything is difficult at the beginning. Have you considered how to get started?

During the period when you start to gradually support yourself, what will your source of income be? If you are unable to support yourself in this way, have you considered alternative options?

2. I am unaware of the financial situation of your family. Have you discussed this with your parents and do they support your approach? If they do not, what is your plan for financial stability?

If they are willing to continue providing financial assistance until you become self-reliant, have you set a time limit for yourself? 3. You have identified a preference for working from home, which is understandable. However, freelancers need a certain level of competence to support themselves. Have you assessed whether your technical and writing skills are sufficient to support you on this path in the future?

4. You can rely on your parents when they are alive and can earn money. However, it is not feasible to rely on them for the rest of your life.

My child, your thoughts are an ideal, and ideals are worthy of respect. However, our survival must be based on reality. Avoiding problems will not solve any problems. I suggest that you can find a professional counselor on the platform to consult your situation, overcome the fear of society, and expand your horizons. I encourage you to take action.

It is important to consider the impact of a negative environment on one's sense of belonging. It is understandable to feel uneasy when faced with traumatic experiences, such as school violence, which can have a lasting effect on one's emotional well-being. These experiences, along with the current feelings of apprehension in undergraduate school, may gradually influence the course of one's life.

If you're unsure about reading it, you could discuss it with your parents and try to gain their understanding before making your own decision. Studying for a bachelor's degree will undoubtedly help improve your qualifications to a certain extent, but it's difficult to predict how much help it will be in the current era of devalued academic qualifications. Even if you get a higher degree, it may not necessarily lead to a good life quickly.

As adults, we should be making decisions that align with our adult responsibilities and aspirations. It's not necessary to consider the perspectives of others to a great extent.

You may have some thoughts of your own, which you could perhaps write down in a diary and then sort through at your leisure.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether this idea could be feasible in the future on a daily basis. It's possible that others don't understand you because they are not you after all, and no two people are ever exactly alike.

It is natural for everyone to have their own thoughts and worldviews, which can sometimes result in differing perspectives and occasional disagreements.

In light of these differences, it would be beneficial for us to seek common ground while respecting the nuances that set us apart. Even if our ideas diverge, we can still maintain mutual respect and exercise our individual autonomy, recognizing that each of our lives is shaped by our own unique experiences and perspectives.

You have now graduated from college and were unable to continue your undergraduate studies. In other words, you already have a college degree, which is sufficient for some people. However, nowadays, we may see many master's and doctoral degrees, and it seems that the number of such degrees is slowly increasing.

In this case, one's academic qualifications may become less competitive. You may also have some ideas of your own, such as writing online articles or taking on design side jobs at home, or even teaching yourself design. Such ideas could be seen as flexible employment attitudes, particularly in this era of great uncertainty, full of information explosion and turmoil.

It seems that flexible employment has become a kind of norm that people are having to accept. Many people appear to be in a state of flexible employment at the moment, and it is not just about having a high degree or a permanent position. It seems that the key is to know the general direction of development.

It would be beneficial to be aware of the heights you can reach, to be able to concentrate on your skills, to keep facing life, and to have self-confidence, striving to make your life better. It is important to remember that no matter what you do, it can never be perfect. You may find it helpful to talk to a psychological counselor to strengthen your inner self and clear your mind. Best of luck!

Could I perhaps inquire as to the meaning of ZQ?

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

They don't know what to do because people around them discourage them. When facing the future, others can't give detailed answers. One's own life must be found and grasped by oneself.

I'll give the OP a little encouragement. We often don't have a plan for our future careers. We don't know if the path we're on is right for us. We can only find a path that suits us by trying different paths.

Your future depends on your decisions. Once you've made up your mind, go forward. Look at what industry suits you better. Think about what you want to leave as your evaluation when you're old.

I can't give you more advice because the question was asked on a platform.

Be honest.

The questioner needs to be honest about their future career choice. People have different reasons for pursuing different careers. Some people pursue careers just to earn money, while others do so because they are good at the work.

Everyone's career goals are different. Be honest with yourself. What is your current career goal? What is your purpose in wanting to do this job?

Why are you pursuing this career?

What can I get from this career?

What do you want from this career?

How competitive are you in this profession?

What do you need for this career?

Write down what you love.

The questioner can also write down what they love, who they love, and what they want from life. A career is just one way to survive and live. If the questioner loves their family, a career may not be their greatest love.

It's just a need of life. Don't focus on a career. Find things you love that help you focus on your goals and interests. If you like your career, think about how far you can go and how to get there. Have a plan and keep improving. Otherwise, you'll have a hard time and face a lot of obstacles.

People often want to turn their hobbies into careers, but they don't prepare for the challenges. If they're not ready, they can start a side business with their hobbies. When they're able to support themselves, they can turn it into a main business.

Take a career test.

These tests can help you know if a job is right for you. Some examples are the MBTI, PDP, and other personality or career tests.

These scales are just a reference. There are many possibilities, and it's not necessary to follow them exactly. The most important thing is what the subject wants and likes.

See what stage of life you're in.

The questioner is young at twenty and still exploring at thirty. Their brain is still developing until they are thirty. They can take time to explore what kind of work suits them.

We play different roles every day. What does the questioner know about himself and what role does he play in society?

Our roles may include "son," "technician," "worker," "programmer," "baking enthusiast," etc. List your roles on a piece of paper.

Which role is the most important?

Think about the role you want to play in the future.

Some roles are lifelong, like "son" or "technician." These are the words used to describe you when you die.

Then think about which roles the questioner finds stressful and bad for your life. Maybe in the future they'll take these roles less seriously.

The question owner can help you complete this list by thinking about what you want to accomplish. The question owner likes writing and it pays the bills. The question owner can also think about similar jobs, like answering on Zhihu or on other platforms.

What kind of work does the questioner like? If this work meets the questioner's needs, the questioner can write it down.

Why do you want this role?

Why are you in your current role? Why do you want to be in a future role? To create a life plan, you must know your priorities.

Think about the roles you play now and the roles you want to play in the future. Why do you want to play these roles?

To get people thinking about their reasons, imagine your funeral. Who will be at it?

Imagine how people will judge you. Maybe you want them to respect you as a good doctor.

I'd also like to hear other comments on the question.

Stay optimistic and face your choices. No matter what you choose, you can try it out boldly. When faced with a choice, choose what's best for you. This requires careful consideration.

I hope this helps.

Hello, question asker!

You're feeling a little confused about your choices, and you're looking for some guidance. You're excited to hear what others have to say, but you're also eager to chart your own course. You want to feel confident in your decision, whether you choose to continue on your own path or embrace the advice you've received.

You're feeling a little confused about your choices, and you've got lots of advice from others. It's great to have so many options! You're not sure whether to follow their advice or go with your own ideas. You want to make the best decision for you. Should you continue according to your own plan, or choose and live according to their advice?

From your description, it's clear that you've been through a lot. Childhood trauma has affected your life in ways you never imagined. You feel terrified and nauseous at school, and you have a lot of discomfort in interpersonal interactions. You have a lot of emotions and unease, and these interpersonal relationships have not brought you warmth and peace of mind. You feel more insecurity, worry, and disgust in interpersonal interactions. But you're here now, ready to take control of your life. You're ready to embrace the challenges and find the solutions. You're ready to make a change.

You have now graduated from college and are continuing your undergraduate studies, right? But at this undergraduate school, you don't feel good and you don't feel happy staying there. You have the incredible opportunity to drop out and write online articles at home, take on design work, and teach yourself more about design!

The constant interaction with others in this undergraduate school presents an exciting challenge for you. You're ready to embrace a new adventure outside of school and explore the world beyond it.

You have your difficulties, but many people are encouraging you to keep going! They say you shouldn't drop out and that you should continue your studies. They also say you shouldn't work from home and that you should get in touch with society and integrate into it.

You have your difficulties, but many people advise you not to drop out and to continue studying at school. The possibilities are endless! You don't know if your choice is right or wrong, but you know you're going to make the best one for you.

Are they saying you shouldn't quit school, that you should continue your studies, that you shouldn't work from home, that you should get in touch with society and integrate into society?

I think these advice from others is based on a social perspective. From a social perspective, it is the choice of most people to get in touch with society, integrate into society, and adapt to the social environment. However, for a small group of people with social difficulties, it is difficult for them to do work that involves dealing with people. But there are so many other options out there!

Going out to school and work is a great way to meet new people and build your network. However, you've realized that you're not the best at this, and it can be a bit overwhelming. You're looking for a way to reduce the stress and interactions that come with it. That's where studying at home and taking work from home comes in! It'll give you the flexibility to manage your time and energy, while still allowing you to grow professionally.

They are right, and your choice is also right! Each has its own reasons. If you feel that your interpersonal problems have not been improved, then studying at home and taking work at home is a great choice!

If you have to go out to study and work, it can be tough. But there's a great solution: studying and working from home! It's a fantastic choice for now.

Who knows what the future holds? If your interpersonal skills improve a lot and you want to go out to work, then you can also choose to go out at that time and meet more people and things!

Absolutely!

In the absence of external forces to help you deal with interpersonal relationships in the present, the current choice to study and work at home is the best choice for you in the present—and it's a great one!

The future is full of possibilities! Who knows what it will bring? It could be good or it could be bad, but either way, it'll be an adventure.

Let's jump right in and take things one step at a time!

Absolutely!

Absolutely!

Now, when it comes to your interpersonal skills, there's so much you can do to improve! Think about what factors have influenced your relationships and how you can make positive changes.

Now, let's dive into the fascinating world of personality! How would you describe yours? And how do others treat you?

Do you feel a lot of insecurity inside? It's time to change that! What kind of person do you want others to be?

What kind of treatment do you want to receive from others? And what kind of treatment do you want to give to others?

This interpersonal issue is a very important one for you. And the great news is that whether you are studying at home or at school, this is an issue that you can think about and explore!

This interpersonal issue is a very important one for you. Whether you are studying at home or at school, this is an issue that you can think about and explore—and it's a great opportunity!

Each of our personalities is related to family upbringing, parental character, and external events. It is a great idea to think more about your character from the perspective of your upbringing, understand yourself, and if you can improve, of course that is even better! Even if you can't improve, you'll still have a better understanding of yourself.

There are so many great books out there about interpersonal relationships that can help you understand human nature better!

It's time to share your amazing growth journey with the world! You can do it! You'll feel so much better once you've resolved some of that trauma.

Embrace the imperfect world and imperfect people around you. Nourish your inner self and express yourself!

Wishing you the very best!

Wishing you the very best!

Let's give the OP a hug! School violence is a tough topic, and many people have experienced bullying in school. The OP isn't alone. The fear, powerlessness, and helplessness that come with being unable to effectively resist and protect yourself against this kind of violence are very difficult to deal with, and it also has a great impact on an individual's life. So it's understandable that the OP would be terrified and sick at school and feel like not wanting to continue going.

It's important for the questioner to understand what they're expressing and longing for when they have the idea of writing online articles or teaching themselves design at home. What are they feeling at home when they're faced with fear, nausea, powerlessness, and helplessness at school?

It's human nature to avoid danger and seek safety. When we're faced with pressure we can't handle on our own, we instinctively protect ourselves by entering a relatively safe environment or state. There are two different underlying meanings in doing so. One is to believe in your abilities and be able to protect yourself well. The other is to believe that you're very powerless and helpless, unable to protect yourself and have to rely on others.

We all experience different levels of pressure when making different choices. Our instincts tell us to choose the option with less pressure, even if it might be more stressful in the long run.

When a child makes such a choice, it's generally understandable and acceptable to others because children are young and can't do many things or do them well. It's not strange. It's like a child saying he is hungry. At this time, many parents will instinctively go and get food for their child. But if a person in their 20s says they are hungry to their parents, will the parents still go and get food so quickly?

Given the questioner's current academic situation, continuing their studies at school is the best option. It'll be really helpful for their studies. They can't get the same kind of help by writing online literature and doing design work at home. It's understandable that others might find it difficult to accept the choice to write online literature and do design work at home. This isn't because the questioner has done anything wrong. It's just that others can't see the fear, powerlessness and helplessness in the questioner's heart.

I think it would be a good idea for the questioner to look into getting some counseling. It might help them work through some of their issues and change their thinking patterns. The road ahead is still long, and there's no guarantee that they won't face similar challenges again. If they do, they can't just avoid them. They have to find solutions. Solving them sooner rather than later can help them trust themselves more and accept themselves, so that they can refuse to face such harm and protect themselves from it. This can help them live a more relaxed, carefree, and happy life.

When we make a choice, it's always a good idea to be prepared. Many things may seem simple at first, but they have their own system behind them.

Writing online articles requires not only writing skills, but also a rich imagination and a broad worldview. You also need to use storylines to ensure fan loyalty. Design is even more of a job that requires close contact with the world. It's so important to understand the world and people's needs in order to design the things that people want to have!

When we think that being alone is the most beautiful time, we might be closing our horizons and missing out on all the wonderful things that life has to offer. But life is always just a half circle, and we get to spend our whole lives drawing the rest of the half circle! The only thing we can be sure of is that life is full of surprises, because we never know what's around the corner. When we make a choice and it doesn't work out, it can be tough.

Humans are social animals, and no matter what you choose to do, you can't escape human interaction. Whatever you fear, no matter how you avoid it, you can't escape it.

If we face our fears and don't dwell on how to solve them, they'll start to take root and grow like a tree in our hearts, eventually taking over. But if we muster the courage to face them, we'll see that they're just seeds, magnified by our inner projections.

We'll meet lots of people in our lives and we'll also miss some people. Not everyone gets us or is happy with us. But our lives go on, and we can find that fearless self we once were.

As long as you take that brave step to try, you'll have a different experience. I promise!

You are the captain of your own ship, and you get to decide the course of your life. Others may be able to influence you, but the one who can really decide your life is you.

First of all, I think you're amazing. Despite the school violence you experienced as a child, you were able to study hard and graduate from college, which I think is quite an achievement.

When I was a child, I witnessed school violence once. I was so scared that it left me with psychological scars for a long time. I was targeted by them for a while because I interrupted their violence once. I was so scared that I took a detour every time I saw them and had nightmares at night. I think it was a terrible experience.

I can see that you have chosen to go to junior high school and technical school on your own, and now you have graduated from college. You are really very capable and strong.

I wonder if it might be the school violence you experienced as a child that caused you trauma, which could be why you now feel a little afraid to communicate and are a little panicked. It might be helpful to find a counselor to heal the trauma, so that you can get over this trauma, face it, accept it, and let it go.

I'm happy to offer you this advice because I can see that you want to take charge of your own future planning. Design is just one part of it. You'll also need to face customers, communicate with them, and promote yourself. This requires going out and communicating with more people. Healing yourself well is to make yourself stronger!

I believe you have a well-defined plan for your future. Having recently graduated from college, you have the option of pursuing a bachelor's degree certificate if you do not wish to continue your studies. This will not affect your application, and you can take online courses and study independently. This route also allows you to obtain a bachelor's degree certificate after the exam.

If pursuing your undergraduate degree is not your immediate goal but you do require a degree, you might consider graduating after five years and then pursuing a postgraduate degree.

In terms of work, I can see that you have a lot of ideas yourself, writing online articles, taking on design side jobs, and teaching yourself design. I think that's great too. I can imagine that doing it yourself is definitely very hard work, because you have to deal with finding clients, taking on clients, communicating with both sides, etc. I believe we all need to work harder and make ourselves stronger!

I believe that many people's opinions may stem from your close friends, relatives, and friends because they care about you very much. They may be concerned that you will have to do everything yourself if you design it alone, and that it will be too hard. I don't think they want you to work so hard. If you are very determined in your decision, you could consider communicating with them and letting them know that this is your decision already. If possible, you might also want to communicate your plan with them to see if there are more possibilities, right?

You have many admirable qualities. It is evident that you possess self-discipline and motivation, and you have formulated a well-considered plan. I am confident that your decision will enable you to discover a more positive aspect of yourself. I admire your dedication and encourage you to persevere.

Hello, classmate. You said that "since childhood, school has been synonymous with violence. In junior high school, I chose to go through the curriculum and did not go to a technical college. Now I have graduated from college, but I can't continue with my undergraduate studies. I feel scared and sick at school." It seems like your childhood experiences might be affecting you, but you were admitted to college and have already graduated, so you're clearly capable. Are you just not interested in undergraduate studies, or are you just not willing to make new friends?

Do you experience social anxiety? Do you dislike working and studying in groups? There's nothing wrong with that, as long as you feel comfortable.

As long as it doesn't affect your work, that's fine.

You write online articles and take on design side jobs, and you teach yourself more about design. This shows that you still have your own plans and arrangements, and that you are not avoiding reality or doing nothing. The internet is also a small society. Even in virtual space, there is interpersonal communication, and there is nothing wrong with it if you like this way of communicating and working.

"Why do so many people advise me against doing this?" I suspect they're worried that you'll disconnect from society and lack the ability to function in the real world. After all, we can't always live in the virtual world. If you can switch freely between the virtual and real worlds, they won't worry about you.

I think you're just not good at interacting with people, not that you can't. Don't set artificial limits for yourself. For example, I just can't talk to strangers, go to places I've never been before, etc. Give yourself more life experiences, do the things you like but are afraid to do, break through your own psychological barriers once, and live out all the possibilities of you. Your family and friends may want to see the happy and carefree you even more. Are you willing to try a different you?

There's nothing in life that can't be achieved, so why not give it a go? Go for it! Live the life you love, and be at peace and happy with yourself. What other people say, including what I say, is just for your reference. The path is in your own hands, and it's best to follow your heart.

It sounds like you've already graduated from college and are now living your best life as an adult!

As an adult, you have the incredible opportunity to choose your own path in life!

I think the reason why many people are discouraging you is that they feel that society still places a lot of importance on academic qualifications. They feel that academic qualifications are still the threshold for entry, which is great because it means you can still achieve your goals!

At the same time, perhaps these people feel that working from home may not be practical or sustainable for you? And it may not bring you happiness?

So, the key question is: Does your choice support the life you want? Does it give you a sense of hope? And are you firmly committed to your choice?

Or could it be that your choices actually cause trouble for others, who then have the incredible opportunity to take care of and support your living expenses? This not only increases their burden but also gives them the chance to feel hopeful!

At the same time, design work is actually communicating with people, expressing your own ideas, and fulfilling the needs of customers. So learning to get along with people and being able to handle all kinds of complex emotions with people is one of the essential skills for our survival and development—and it's a great one to have!

And let's not forget the rollercoaster of emotions we experience when we're dealing with ourselves!

Don't run away from it! Face it head-on and conquer it! If you need help, you can always contact a psychologist for professional assistance.

Hello, I'm Jiang 61.

First of all, thank you for trusting us and being willing to tell us your troubles so that we can help. You ask, "Do I feel that they don't understand me, and is dropping out of school a good choice?"

Let's discuss this together.

You said that school was a violent place from an early age. You chose to go to a junior high school that was through-train, instead of a technical college. Now you have graduated from college, but you couldn't finish your undergraduate studies.

You said that school was a violent place from an early age. You chose to go to junior high school instead of a technical college. Now you've graduated from college but can't continue with your undergraduate studies.

1⃣️, Education

So, you've graduated from college and are now studying for a bachelor's degree? You're planning to drop out because you can't continue with your undergraduate studies.

You should have been a naughty kid who liked to fight. The school violence you mentioned should be physical conflicts with others. You're more of a fighter and like to use your fists? That might be why you said later that you're not good at handling interpersonal relationships.

2⃣️, choose

It seems like you're used to making your own choices first. In junior high, you chose to take a comprehensive course, and in college, you chose a junior college instead of a university. After continuing your studies as an undergraduate, you're feeling reluctant to continue and are considering dropping out.

I'm in charge of my youth, and I think you're doing a great job. I really admire what you're doing.

You know your inner world best, so don't let others influence you.

2. Hesitation

You said, "I feel sick at school. I want to write online articles at home, and then take on design freelance work to teach myself more about design. Why do so many people advise me against this? Have I done something wrong?"

1⃣️, Reason

Panic, nausea

I'm not sure if you're feeling panicky because you're not sure about your major or because you don't like it and are dreading having to study. Nausea is caused by disgust.

Ideals

You still have your own ideas about what you want to do. You want to avoid your disadvantages, and you are not good at expressing yourself. You want to take on design freelance work, so that you will have your own time to learn what you want to learn, rather than being limited to a fixed learning schedule. I still say that you know your inner feelings best, so there is nothing wrong with following your heart and deciding what you want to do in the future.

Not being able to make up your mind now probably means you don't know yourself well enough yet and aren't sure if your thoughts are correct. You also seem to be a cautious person, so you tend to hesitate when doing things. These are all normal things to experience when you're young.

Nobody can decide everything about themselves from the start. You're no different from me. You can't see a rainbow without going through rain.

This is how we build up our human experience bit by bit.

2⃣️, Personality

You want to make your own decisions, but you're worried you might make the wrong choice. You want to listen to more opinions so you don't affect your future studies, work, and life. So, you're a bit afraid of the wolf in front of you and the tiger behind you, and you're indecisive and hesitant.

Given your cautious approach to work and your reserved nature, you're probably a calm personality.

A calm personality has the following characteristics:

You're slow and deliberate, cautious, gentle, and stable, and you're always looking for ways to achieve harmony.

On the plus side, you're easy-going, comfortable with life, and a critical thinker. You're also tolerant.

On the downside, you can be a bit slow and lazy, not easily repentant, not that keen on expressing yourself, and you can come across as a bit of an indifferent bystander.

So, it makes sense that you're exhibiting these behaviors.

Your family of origin has had a big influence on you.

It's possible that your indecision and lack of confidence are related to the way you were brought up in your family of origin. Your parents were involved in your life and guided your behavior in too many things, and there were some unclear boundaries.

You may be used to this way of life and feel most comfortable when you ask for instructions, report back, or listen to the opinions of others.

Your family has a big impact on your decisions and how you see yourself. They've probably also given you some negative feedback over time, which has made it harder for you to trust your own judgment. Even when you're sure of something, you might still come across as a bit unsure.

You're used to thinking this way.

3. Just be yourself.

You say, "I'm really not good at handling relationships, otherwise I wouldn't have asked. I feel like they don't understand me. Am I doing a good job?"

1⃣️, believe in yourself.

You've been a bit self-doubting from start to finish, due to your personality, the way your family of origin lives, and the gap between your ideals and your circumstances. The main issue is that you don't believe in yourself.

Not believing in yourself is a big no-no in life. It'll stop you from having the courage to move forward. If you're afraid to admit defeat, you won't have the determination to forge ahead. You'll stay in your comfort zone, satisfying your need to withdraw, and thus stop moving forward.

Instead, believe in yourself and know that you'll succeed with your abilities and hard work and get what you want. Be proactive, use your strengths, and do what you can.

After all your hard work, you've succeeded. That's why it's so important to believe in yourself.

You've made a lot of choices in the past, and you've done a great job.

2⃣️, be yourself

Believe in yourself and be true to yourself. I am the master of my own destiny. Do what you want, like, are good at, and can do.

Don't let others influence you or make you do things their way.

You can only truly appreciate the value and joy of making your own decisions and truly know and achieve your true self when you are true to yourself. Even if you fail, it is a process of getting to know yourself.

Just go with the flow.

3⃣️, learn to communicate effectively

If you want to be successful in your career and in life, you need to learn to communicate effectively. Communication is actually quite simple. It's just about telling others what you want to say so that they understand you and you understand them.

Communication

Communication is the sharing of information. It's the whole process of sending a message to someone and hoping they'll respond the way you want. If you get a response, it's effective communication.

Communication includes both verbal and non-verbal messages, with the non-verbal part often being more important than the verbal part. Effective communication is really important when it comes to dealing with interpersonal relationships, complex social relationships, life relationships, and family relationships on campus.

Here are the steps to effective communication:

There are four steps to effective communication:

The first step is to express your feelings, not your emotions.

Step 2: Speak up about what you want, not what you don't want. Let your feelings show, but don't let them get the better of you.

Step 3: Don't just complain, tell the other person what you need.

Step 4: Share your vision for the future, not just complain about the present. Focus on the end result, not just the current situation.

It's time to let go.

When you're communicating, you let go of your preconceived ideas, like "I can't do it," "I'm shy," or "What if I can't say it when the time comes?" Just focus on the matter at hand, and communication will go smoothly.

4⃣️ Know your limits

Knowing your boundaries is key to being yourself. This means knowing what you can decide for yourself and what you can't. These boundaries can't be crossed, including with parents, teachers, and classmates.

As long as you believe in yourself, you'll be able to see the real you. Be yourself, let go of past habits and parental restrictions, and have your own clear boundaries.

All right, just be yourself. I wish you the best!

Hello!

Host:

I read the post carefully. It seems like the poster wants more understanding from others. The poster also showed courage in sharing their distress and seeking help. This will help them understand themselves and others better.

Next, I will share my thoughts from the post.

1. Understanding

The host said I feel they don't understand me. I want to write online articles, take odd design jobs, and teach myself about settings. Why do so many people advise against this? After reading this, I'm curious about the host's interpretation.

Do you think others understand you? Do they support you?

The answer is only for you. But I also see that they care about you.

If someone doesn't care about you, they won't try to persuade you.

I understand the host's thoughts too. They want you to make the choice that's best for you.

Is this the best option for you right now?

3. The third option

The poster seems to want to choose for himself, but you think he should keep studying. What do you do?

I understand. If you were in my shoes, you'd hesitate too.

The original poster is in a normal emotional state. Let's look at what we can do for ourselves. The third option is something you might want to consider. When we are presented with only two options, we often fall into a thinking trap.

You can only choose one of these two options. When a third option appears, we may suddenly see the light.

This third option requires the original poster to think about it. This is a way of thinking about problem solving.

There may be many options for the third choice, and only you know which is right.

The original poster mentioned being bullied at school since childhood, struggling with relationships, and feeling scared at school. This suggests that their fear of school may be related to their experiences. If we can, we should consider counseling to heal our trauma.

No matter what we choose, we can always try to heal. If we are in a good frame of mind, we can adjust to any choice. Life has no standard answer. What we experience is what matters.

What we learn from experience is important.

If you don't have the right conditions, you can learn some psychology to help yourself. The poster has some physical symptoms, so read Wu Zhihong's "The Body Knows the Answer."

I hope these help and inspire you.