I feel so fragile, I start doubting myself when I hear a few words. How do I regulate?

Hello, host! Being "talked about" at work is, in a sense, a kind of "attack" and a "denial" of one's self by authority. It's normal to have emotions in an instant, to be a bit defiant, and to doubt one's abilities and competence. This is a way of defending yourself.

Take a moment to think about it. If a person doesn't have emotional fluctuations when faced with such "attacks" or "negations," is that normal?

There are a few minor issues, though. I often feel like I can't speak up. I hope my colleagues will encourage me and not be too direct, saying things like "You can't do it." Of course, it's not realistic to ask for encouragement without accepting constructive criticism.

People with a "glass heart" are likely to be highly sensitive individuals who notice details, pay attention to the meaning of actions, and are highly perceptive of emotions. They are also critical and perfectionistic people who are critical of themselves and others. If you pursue perfection and the extreme in one-sided ways, you may fall into unhealthy perfectionism, and the resulting emotions may overwhelm you.

Do you tend to react similarly?

Since we know this is a normal reaction, can we do better and try to treat "criticism" separately, and try to treat the incident and the emotions it causes separately?

First of all, yes, because of the criticism, I have emotions. It's normal to have emotions.

If it's an opinion about your shortcomings and mistakes, you can tell yourself it's good, correct, well-intentioned, and beneficial to your own improvement. Even if you were uncomfortable at the time, you can accept it, improve it, and be grateful to the person who gave you the feedback. For "malicious attacks," such as personal attacks and emotional venting, you can block them out and not let them affect you.

You handled the situation well in the first paragraph. Even though it was difficult, you accepted it and, after calming down, you reflected and introspected. This is even better. Think about how you can apply this to other situations and keep it up!

Hello. From your description, it's clear you are not "fragile." You appear to have inner stability.

Inner stability does not mean never doubting oneself or being impervious to external criticism. It means being able to observe and reflect on one's own emotional feelings while still finding useful "nutrients" in others' feedback.

You may be told off by someone, but you don't jump to conclusions and label yourself in a generalized way. You know better. Instead, you quickly review the specific incident after you've calmed down to see how you performed and what you can improve on. This is a valuable mental ability.

It is normal to feel anxious and on guard when starting a new job after only four days. The business, environment, and leadership style are unfamiliar, especially if you have not yet established trust with your leader. It is inevitable that hearing your leader's straightforward feedback, which can be critical, will cause doubts.

I remember an experience I had when I was transferred within the company to work in another department, where the environment and subculture were very different from what I was used to. Previously, communication between superiors and subordinates and teamwork were mainly positive, friendly, and supportive. In my new position, I worked with the CTO, and in a meeting he directly criticized a report I had written, in front of other colleagues. At the time, I felt really bad and doubted whether I had made the right choice.

But over time, I found that the communication style here is generally more direct. Everyone sometimes defends themselves or argues with each other, but there is generally a high level of acceptance of critical feedback. After getting used to it, I like this kind of interaction because direct expression and communication do not damage relationships; they promote mutual understanding and trust.

Of course, there is also a question of moderation, and criticism should never be intended to be personally offensive or demeaning.

Use your awareness to add a filter when someone talks or criticizes you. They're not saying you're not doing enough or have shortcomings. Don't interpret it as "I'm not good enough." Others should speak in an encouraging way, but they have different personality traits and communication styles. What they say reflects part of their character. Don't take it personally and act as if everything has to do with you.

Hello, questioner! I'm a Heart Exploration coach.

I have taken the time to carefully read through the issues and confusion you have outlined on the platform. Could I ask if you are experiencing difficulties in your current role? You mentioned that you have recently started working at a new company and are still adapting to the new environment. However, some of the tasks require a more rapid pace of learning. Today, when you were reviewing content for your leader, she encouraged you to think critically and avoid simply adding images without much thought. At that moment, you began to question yourself and wonder if your leader felt you were lacking in competence.

Instead of expending energy on yourself, you may find it more beneficial to focus on doing your work well. Attempt to do your best in the tasks assigned to you by your leader. It's natural to have thoughts and doubts, but it's important to recognize that your leader may have a different perspective. In both life and work, it's essential to engage your brain and think critically. Your work performance is influenced by your own efforts. It's helpful to approach challenges with an open mind and a positive outlook.

May I suggest that you seek help to analyse and sort things out?

1. Consider learning to reflect on yourself.

You are aware of your own emotional sensitivity. Even if someone says something unintentionally, you may perceive it as a personal criticism, which can lead to feelings of sadness and distress. It would be beneficial for you to learn to reflect on your own thoughts and emotions. The reason for your emotional fragility may be that you lack inner strength. If you wish to become less sensitive, it would be helpful to learn to attribute things correctly and to look for the reasons within yourself. It is important to find a balance between sensitivity and maintaining your own perspective. This will help you to maintain a positive and constructive approach to relationships. Learning to comfort yourself and to avoid dwelling on unhappy thoughts can also be beneficial.

2. Perhaps it would be helpful to consider reducing your expectations of others.

It might be helpful to consider opening your mind a little. This could help you feel that other people aren't targeting you and that your colleagues don't intend to belittle you. It's also worth bearing in mind that we can't always expect too much from others. We shouldn't necessarily hope that they'll always keep us in mind, approve of us in everything, or remember everything we say. Everyone has a lot to deal with, and they can't always be focused on us. Perhaps other people just say things without meaning to upset us, but we let it get to us. In the future, it might be more beneficial to focus on ourselves. We could try putting ourselves in other people's shoes and trying to understand their difficulties. This way of thinking could make us happier.

3. Consider seeking support from those around you.

Sometimes, the formation of a "glass heart" may be due to the long-term accumulation of worries in the heart. If you keep these feelings bottled up for too long, you may find yourself feeling particularly negative and prone to pessimistic emotions. One way to change your "glass heart" could be to try to open your heart a little bit and share your worries with your loved ones. Having the company and support of your closest friends when you are feeling down may help you to put your worries aside and talk to them about your true feelings. You may find that they can offer you some advice which will help you to avoid feeling inferior or stuck in a state of mind.

4. Consider shifting your attention in time.

It's not uncommon to find ourselves daydreaming in our free time. While it's natural to think about things, dwelling on them too much can lead to feelings of sadness and a lack of emotional resilience. It's important to recognize this and find ways to engage with the world around us. Whether it's through physical activity, exploring beautiful places, or indulging in our favorite foods, engaging with the world around us can help us maintain a positive outlook. The idea of a "glass heart" is a myth. It's not something that exists in reality. Instead, we can work to gently adjust our mindset and find ways to stay emotionally stable.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. If you would like to discuss further, you are welcome to contact the question owner, who can follow me (click on my personal homepage), choose the Heart Exploration service, and communicate with me one-on-one. With love and best wishes for a happy and fulfilling day,

Hello. I can tell you're feeling down and helpless. It's okay to feel sensitive and doubt yourself when someone says something to you. I'm here for you.

Starting a new job is stressful. You need to adapt to a new work environment and pace. The leader says to use your brain and not just put pictures up. You feel the leader is questioning your ability to do your job. You almost broke down, but you calmed down and had a new reflection. You understand the leader did not doubt themselves. You also realize that when you face this kind of situation, your emotional state will be bad. Hugs again.

It's normal to feel stressed in a new work environment and to react strongly to criticism, especially when you first start a job. People often feel uncomfortable in a new environment and worry about their performance.

Self-doubt is a protective mechanism. You may be experiencing one of the following situations:

A new job means you need to redefine your role, which may make you doubt yourself.

In a new environment, you may be concerned about your social status and relationships.

New work brings uncertainty, which can make you anxious.

If you're a perfectionist, any perceived inadequacy may trigger self-criticism.

We can also see that our sensitivity and concern mean we have expectations of our own performance. But how can we use this feedback to help us grow?

First, accept your emotions. Everyone makes mistakes and needs to improve.

When you doubt yourself, take a deep breath and calm down. Then, see criticism as a way to grow, not a personal attack.

Your leader's comments are a chance to learn and improve.

We can discuss the problems and feelings together and try to help.

Label your feelings. For example, say, "I feel uneasy now." This helps you realize that these emotions can be managed and understood.

?Emotional detachment: Criticism is feedback on work performance, not a comprehensive evaluation of you.

Reflect on what your leader said. Try to understand her intentions and expectations.

Set boundaries. Criticism is usually about the work, not about you.

If you need to, ask your manager what you need to work on. This will help you understand what they expect and show you're trying to improve.

Think about your past successes and remember your strengths.

Take small steps and celebrate each one as you achieve it. This will build your confidence.

Tell someone you trust what's on your mind. They might be able to help.

Express and release emotions in healthy ways, like keeping a diary, exercising, or talking to friends.

Replace negative self-talk with positive words, such as "I am a learner."

Be patient. It takes time to change habits.

Everyone needs time to adjust to a new environment. Everyone learns at a different pace. Keep an open mind, accept feedback, and take action to become more resilient.

Also, learn to value your emotions. They reflect your inner world.

I hope this helps. Love, the world and I! ??

Hello, questioner. I can understand how you might be feeling now that you have recently joined a new company and have encountered some minor setbacks while still in the adjustment stage.

It is natural to feel a little uneasy and experience self-doubt when entering a new environment or starting a new job. It is also normal to seek feedback from your manager. Please know that these feelings are very common and that many of us have been through something similar.

I'd like to start by saying that you're not alone. Many people feel nervous and uneasy in a new work environment, especially when receiving feedback from their leaders.

Furthermore, the feelings of vulnerability and reticence to speak up that you mentioned are actually quite common among many people during their confidence-and-feeling-inferior-is-it-related-to-a-childs-growth-experience-6943.html" target="_blank">growth process. This is not an issue with you, but rather a natural part of the learning and growth process that we all must navigate.

I would like to share a story I once heard. When a young man started working, he was also often frustrated and self-doubting because of the criticism from his leaders.

However, he later came to understand that these criticisms were, in fact, opportunities for growth. He began to actively seek feedback, listen carefully, and think about how to improve.

Gradually, he began to see improvements in his work ability and felt growing confidence and composure.

From a psychological perspective, it can be said that each of us goes through a process of "self-awareness." In this process, we have the opportunity to learn about ourselves and understand ourselves through the feedback of others.

However, it is not necessary to accept the evaluation of others unconditionally. Rather, it is helpful to learn how to extract valuable information from it in order to facilitate growth.

If I might offer some advice on the issues you mentioned, such as "fragile ego" and "not being able to speak up," I would be happy to do so.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider changing your way of thinking. When you hear criticism or suggestions, it might be beneficial to try to find something you can improve, rather than immediately feeling frustrated or self-doubt.

You might like to consider telling yourself, "This is a learning opportunity, and I can grow from it."

It might be helpful to consider ways of building self-confidence. One approach could be to review your achievements and strengths.

You might consider listing your past successes or writing down your strengths and virtues. When you feel self-doubt, you may find it helpful to review these to remind yourself that you are a capable and valuable person.

Additionally, it would be beneficial to learn to communicate effectively. If you are uncertain about the feedback you have received from your leader, you might consider taking the initiative to communicate with them and inquire about their specific expectations and suggestions.

This may also help you better understand the feedback and build a stronger relationship with your leader.

Finally, I would like to suggest that growing up is a process that requires time and patience. It is important to avoid rushing or being too hard on yourself.

It is possible that you may encounter setbacks and difficulties along the way. However, if you maintain a positive attitude and a willingness to learn, you will undoubtedly be able to overcome these challenges and achieve success.

In short, dear, I understand how you feel now, and I truly believe you have the ability to overcome these difficulties. Please try to maintain a positive attitude and a learning attitude, face challenges bravely, and believe in yourself.

I have every confidence that you will do well in your new job.

Hello!

It's normal to hope for encouraging words at work. It's hard to take criticism well.

Here are some thoughts for you to consider:

Your current preference for positive and negative responses may be due to psychological reasons.

You, like everyone, crave affirmation and encouragement because it helps you feel good about yourself.

A positive response can boost your confidence, while a negative one can make you doubt yourself.

Encouraging responses make you feel more accepted and understood.

This can make you more motivated at work and encourage you to work hard.

Negative responses can make you feel rejected or unaccepted, which can make you less motivated at work and lead to frustration and helplessness.

Sometimes, rejecting negative responses helps you cope with self-doubt and anxiety.

You may have different ways of thinking and feeling about good and bad feedback.

You're more likely to accept positive comments and reject negative ones.

You want to feel good at work. Try these tips:

First, recognize your emotions.

As in the analysis above, your preference for encouraging responses may come from emotional needs like self-affirmation and recognition.

Gaining a deeper understanding helps you manage your emotions and responses.

Second, accept the negative response.

As you said, "Calm down. The leader is right. I didn't think much about the presentation when I was ignorant."

Keep trying to accept and understand negative feedback from your leader or others. Look for ways to improve yourself.

Negative feedback is not a personal attack. It is feedback on behavior or opinions.

Learn from criticism and don't overthink setbacks.

Think positively and grow.

Think about why you like encouraging responses, how you can boost your self-esteem, and develop a sense of self-worth.

You can gain self-confidence by learning and growing.

Try to communicate well with colleagues and superiors. Look for constructive advice and criticism.

In the workplace, facing challenges and feedback with a positive attitude can help you improve.

Finally, get more social support.

If you still need help after trying the above, you can seek the help of a counselor.

A counselor can help you understand yourself better and give you more specific advice.

We hope this helps!

Hello, question asker. I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you.

I used to feel the same way. I always felt that I couldn't say anything, and I always hoped that people would speak to me in a supportive way. When others said I was bad or couldn't do it, I felt very uncomfortable and sometimes even angry. I knew I had to make a change. I'll share some of my experiences with you:

Identify the source of these emotions and view yourself from the perspective of your growth experience.

I used to be aware of this pattern in myself. Having this awareness is the beginning of healing because I used to be in an unconscious cycle. Now I can see it and deal with it. From a psychological point of view, our current emotions are often not triggered by current events. They are triggered by current events or people that trigger our early emotions. Those emotions that we have suppressed will come out when the right time comes. They exist like messengers and remind us to see them.

Identify the experience from your childhood that evokes this emotion. What images or scenes come to mind? When my boss told me I couldn't do it, I saw the image of a very strict math teacher from my primary school. He criticized me in class in front of the whole class. As a young child, I suppressed my grievances, fears, and anger. I didn't tell anyone about it. My parents didn't know about it either. But every time I encountered my boss's denial, I experienced similar emotions.

Once I identified the source of my emotions, I gained profound insight into my own self. I also recognized the need for reassurance and support within myself. Through the image dialogue method, I provided comfort, warmth, and strength to this aspect of myself, and it became a rare occurrence for such emotions to arise.

We cannot speak because our inner being is unstable. We must improve our self-acceptance and self-approval.

It's not about a single incident. It's about the limiting beliefs formed throughout our entire growth experience, or the lack of growth in us. When we are told off, we can explore what you think. For example, it may be "being told off proves that I am worthless."

"Being told off means I'm not worthy of love." And so on. These are all limiting beliefs, or catastrophic thoughts, that don't correspond to the objective reality. In fact, in real life, when a leader says something to us, it doesn't mean they're rejecting our entire person. They're just offering some suggestions on the matter, and they're also trying to promote our personal growth and improve our work abilities. From this perspective, they're actually valuing us and paying close attention to our growth, right?

We think this way because we are internally unstable and uncertain about our own value. We need external encouragement and positive feedback to feel secure.

Improving inner stability is simple: you just need to improve your level of acceptance and recognition of yourself. Practice makes perfect. For example, you can say to yourself, "I accept the real me, even though I sometimes make mistakes and don't do well enough." You can also say to yourself in the mirror every day, "I approve of myself." When you become vulnerable again because of someone else's negativity, remind yourself that this is because your need for recognition has not been met. This reminds you to recognize yourself more.

You can learn to accept and recognize yourself. As you do, you will reach a state where you can calmly accept others' comments that you are not good enough. You will also be able to separate other people's evaluation of things from their evaluation of you as a person. Finally, you will stop doubting yourself at the drop of a hat.

You should read Courage to be Disliked, Accepting an Imperfect Self, and Letting the Past Go with the Wind.

You may find the above useful as a reference. Best wishes!

Firstly, it is important to note that new employees may require time and patience to adapt to a new environment and work style. The feedback provided by your leader when reviewing your content submission is intended to help you improve your work performance, not to deny your abilities.

In response to your mention of "not being able to speak" and being unable to accept direct criticism, we have the following suggestions to help you adjust your mindset:

Accept criticism as an opportunity for growth. Understand that criticism is an inevitable part of the work environment and that it helps us recognize areas for improvement. View criticism as a chance to develop professionally, not as a personal rejection.

It is important to understand feedback from your manager. Speak with them to gain clarity on what they are unhappy about and what they expect to improve. This will help you to understand the problem more specifically and find a solution.

Self-Reflection and Adjustment: Conduct a review of your work process to identify potential areas for improvement. Develop a plan to address these areas and implement the necessary changes.

It is important to build positive working relationships with colleagues and supervisors in order to gain support and assistance at work. It is advisable to communicate with them proactively and share ideas and progress.

Boost your self-confidence. Develop your self-confidence and believe that you can do the job. Continuous learning and practice will enable you to improve your abilities and excel at work.

It is important to remain calm and composed when faced with criticism. Negative emotions should not affect your work performance.

It is possible to relieve stress through activities such as sports and meditation.

Seek assistance: If you feel you require additional support in managing criticism or negative emotions, you may wish to consider seeking guidance from friends, family, or a career mentor. They can provide valuable advice and encouragement to help you navigate challenging situations.

In summary, as a newcomer in the workplace, it is essential to learn to adapt and deal with the various challenges at work. This can be achieved by accepting criticism, gaining a deeper understanding of feedback, reflecting on and adjusting oneself, establishing positive working relationships, boosting self-confidence, learning to relax, and seeking support. These strategies can help to gradually adjust one's mindset and face work with a more positive and confident attitude.

Hello, I'm happy to be able to answer your question. I hope that some suggestions will be helpful to you.

It is helpful to be aware of your emotions in a timely manner. Having this awareness allows you to address and work through them effectively. Our emotions are a natural part of our experience and will always be present. Having a space to accept their appearance and gradually work through them is beneficial.

At the outset of our work, it is important to take a moment to calm our minds and embark on a journey of learning and adaptation. Our superiors and colleagues are aware of this process and will provide us with the necessary space to adapt. In the early stages, communication may often be limited to passing words without much thought, as everyone reacts to the immediate situation. However, if this continues, it may have an impact on the long-term.

It would be beneficial to keep asking, recording, learning, and quickly integrating into the group during the adaptation process. It is also important to understand everyone's character and habits, and to expose yourself appropriately to let everyone know us.

During work, when emotions arise, you may wish to take a deep breath and make timely adjustments. After the debriefing, if you find that the same problem occurs multiple times, you might consider privately seeking communication with your supervisor to express that you may not be comfortable with this method of communication and that appropriate adjustments can be made (this depends mainly on the leadership style).

I hope that through continuous adjustment, you will be able to adapt to the work atmosphere of your new unit as soon as possible and gradually become more comfortable with it.

I would like to express my love for the world and for you.

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1. Don't waste too much space on self-growth every day. Instead of complaining, think about how to move forward and grow—you can do it!

2. Forget your worries and move on! Dwelling on them is a vicious cycle.

3. Learn to put yourself in other people's shoes and think about the meaning of words for no longer than three minutes. It's a great way to feel the situation and avoid similar situations in the future!

4. Be good at discovering beautiful things! Everything is temporary, and bad things will always come. But you can choose to surround yourself with beauty!

5. Get in control of your emotions! If you're questioned by family, friends, or colleagues, you'll be amazed at how much better you feel when you take a moment for yourself. Try talking to yourself at that time, and you'll see how much you can learn about yourself!

6. Keep an open mind! Most people fail at their first attempt, but that's okay! If you are told to leave the company, control yourself and don't rush to deny it. Ask yourself what you should do. You are like a light bulb that has not been installed with a tungsten wire. You may need to try again, and that's a great opportunity to learn and grow!

7. Get out there and get moving! Increase your physical exercise to 3 kilometers a day and reflect on yourself while running. This will last for 2 weeks!

8. Read e-books while eating to increase your knowledge and enrich your spirit. It's a great way to spend your spare time! Learn about the habits of celebrities and your own habits. You'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel when you encounter people.

9. Get involved in public welfare activities! It's a great way to boost your positive energy. If you have time, go help out once. You'll be amazed at how much it helps you in the future!

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11. Set yourself goals and plans to give you a sense of direction. It's easy to get lost, but you can find your way again!

12. Don't wait for your heart to break! Stick it back together and break it again! Find the game of your fears and overcome it!

Everything is absolutely fine!

I'm so excited to share this two-week medication regimen with you! I really hope it helps. Just remember to take your medicine at the right time, and you'll be on the road to recovery in no time!

It's totally normal to feel sensitive when faced with criticism and suggestions. We've all been there! Here are some suggestions to help you adjust your mindset and increase your self-tolerance:

1. **Accept criticism**: It's so important to accept criticism as part of your professional and personal growth. We all make mistakes, and the key is to learn from them!

2. **Rational analysis**: When you're getting feedback, try to think about what it really means. Is it constructive, or is it just someone's emotional reaction?

3. **Self-affirmation**: Build self-confidence and recognize your own value and abilities. We all make mistakes, but you've got this! Believe in your ability to improve and grow.

4. **Emotion management**: It's so important to learn some great emotion management techniques! These could be things like deep breathing, meditation or mindfulness exercises. They're really helpful for staying calm when you're facing criticism.

5. **Positive mindset**: It's so important to develop a positive mindset! Try to see criticism as an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than a sign of personal failure.

6. **Seek feedback**: It's always a great idea to reach out to your colleagues and leaders to get their thoughts and expectations about your work.

7. Self-Improvement: It's time to get creative! Develop a plan to improve your skills and performance based on the feedback you receive.

8. **Set up a support system**: It's a great idea to have a support system in place with family, friends, or colleagues who can offer help and encouragement when you feel uneasy.

9. **Professional help**: If you find yourself getting unduly upset by criticism more often than not, it might be a good idea to chat with a counselor.

10. **Self-reflection**: Take some time for yourself to think about how you're feeling and how you can make things even better.

11. Set boundaries: It's so important to learn to set boundaries for yourself and protect yourself from unfair or unreasonable criticism.

12. Practice acceptance: It's okay to take it slow! Start with accepting small, less important criticisms and gradually increase your tolerance.

13. Gratitude: Showing your appreciation for those who give you constructive feedback helps you see the positive intention behind it.

14. Differentiate opinions: It's important to learn to distinguish between personal value and performance at work. We all have a right to feel good about our work, even if we're open to feedback.

15. Treat every experience as a chance to learn and grow!

Remember, changing your mindset is a slow and steady process. It takes time and practice, but you've got this! By following the tips above, you can gradually boost your psychological resilience and become more confident and resilient.

The questioner is adept at eliciting responses and comprehending the nuances of the subject's emotions. The subject has recently commenced employment and has encountered an obstacle in the form of an unapproved task from their superior. This has led to a state of psychological distress, characterised by feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. The subject has experienced a sense of embarrassment and a perceived loss of status. However, it is encouraging to note that the subject has initiated a process of introspection, recognising that they often feel unable to express their thoughts.

Perception is a crucial precursor to improvement. Awareness of one's shortcomings marks the initial stage of self-improvement and self-perfection.

I would like to present my views and suggestions for your consideration.

1. Humans are social creatures, and as such, they have inherent social needs, including a desire for a sense of belonging and competence. Receiving praise and recognition can foster a sense of belonging and competence. This psychological need is likely to be present in most individuals, but its intensity may vary depending on their personal growth experiences, particularly their childhood experiences.

For example, if one was praised frequently during one's childhood, one may feel that one has much for which to be praised. Additionally, such praise may motivate one to work hard in order to achieve positive results and receive further praise. In this way, one may have lacked education in how to cope with frustration.

Such an experience may be recalled.

2. There is a distinction between one's self-assessment and the evaluation criteria of the external environment. One might be forgiven for thinking, "I have recently commenced my role and am still in the process of familiarising myself with the environment. It is already challenging to get started, and it is understandable if I do not perform to the best of my abilities."

Nevertheless, the leader's evaluation criteria may be pragmatic and result-oriented. The manner in which one adapts to the environment and familiarizes oneself with one's work is a matter of personal responsibility; the leader's focus is on the outcomes. In a competitive market environment, there is no inherent problem with the leader's approach.

3. It is imperative to gain a comprehensive and accurate understanding of this matter. Primarily, you were able to secure a position with the company after successfully navigating multiple rounds of interviews and demonstrating superior performance compared to numerous other candidates. Consequently, there is no justification for harboring doubts about your capabilities.

Concurrently, deficiencies remain with respect to experience, cognitive processes, and action, which require ongoing enhancement.

4. The following suggestions are offered for consideration:

It is essential to establish the correct cognitive expectations. The workplace is first and foremost a market where fair trade practices are followed. The company remunerates the employee in return for the employee achieving the results required by the company. Therefore, it is fundamental to improve professional skills and adapt to market demand. Only through long-term work and the establishment of trust can friendships and a sense of belonging develop outside of the work relationship. It is also only through the recognition of work results time and time again that a sense of personal competence and accomplishment can be gained.

It is essential to cultivate a sense of goal orientation and result orientation, to exert one's utmost efforts to achieve the desired outcome, and to refrain from self-righteousness or taking things for granted. Those who possess this awareness will not resort to excuses such as "I'm new here and still adapting to the environment" as a justification for their actions.

A goal-oriented and result-oriented way of thinking is to consider the following: What is the task assigned to me? What is the background of the task? What impact will the task have? What prerequisites should be in place or what relevant information should I know in order to advance the task? Have I done my preparation work? Do I need to confirm my work ideas with my leader before I get started? What resources or assistance do I need?

Individuals invariably develop and advance as a result of their experiences and the insights gained from them. It is crucial to avoid repeating the same mistakes and to capitalise on the opportunities for growth that arise. Your leader is committed to the professional development of new employees, so there is no need to feel overwhelmed. However, it is essential to consider how you feel about this and what it means for your future growth, rather than focusing most of your energy on self-emotional regulation.

Dear Question Asker, I empathize with your situation. It is distressing and bewildering to receive criticism and begin to question your abilities.

In particular, when one is newly employed and still in the process of adapting to the company environment, any feedback can be particularly distressing.

You indicated that when reviewing content for your leader, your leader hopes that you can apply critical thinking and not merely insert images. This type of feedback may prompt you to question your capacity to fulfill your job responsibilities.

It is important to note that the leader's opinion is not a personal rejection; rather, it is a constructive suggestion aimed at facilitating growth and improvement.

It is not uncommon for individuals to experience a certain degree of distress when confronted with criticism or suggestions for improvement. This is a typical response to such circumstances. However, it is crucial to recognize that the key to effectively utilizing feedback is to transform it into a catalyst for personal growth. To this end, the following suggestions may prove beneficial in adjusting one's mindset:

Firstly, it is important to accept oneself and recognise one's own value.

First, it is essential to learn to accept oneself. Each individual possesses unique strengths and weaknesses, and as a distinctive entity, one's own value is inherent.

It is important to recognize that errors in judgment are an inherent part of the learning process. Each misstep provides an opportunity for growth and development. It is crucial to maintain a realistic perspective and to embrace one's own shortcomings as a means of advancing.

2. Interpret feedback from others in a positive manner.

It is advisable to interpret feedback from superiors in a positive light. It is important to understand that such feedback is not a personal attack, but rather a constructive method of assisting the individual in adapting to their role more effectively and completing tasks in a more optimal manner.

It is advisable to regard criticism as an opportunity for self-improvement rather than as a personal affront. This approach will facilitate a more open-minded and receptive attitude towards the advice of others.

3. Cultivate self-confidence and self-affirmation.

A sense of confidence is fundamental to maintaining a stable state of mind. Following the successful completion of a task or the resolution of a problem, it may be beneficial to offer oneself a modest reward, which will contribute to the gradual development of confidence.

Additionally, it is recommended to create a list of one's achievements and strengths and to review it periodically to enhance self-confidence. Affirmation techniques have been shown to foster a more stable and determined mindset.

Fourthly, it is recommended that communication skills be improved and healthy working relationships be established.

Should one experience discomfort with the manner in which their leader expresses themselves, it is possible to offer a reminder in an appropriate manner at an opportune moment, or to request that the leader provide feedback in a more tactful way. Concurrently, learning to communicate one's feelings and needs in an effective manner will facilitate the establishment of a healthier working relationship.

Effective communication facilitates mutual understanding between leaders and followers, enabling leaders to comprehend followers' thoughts and feelings, and vice versa.

5. Cultivate psychological resilience and maintain an optimistic outlook.

Mental resilience is the key to maintaining composure and an optimistic outlook in the face of difficulties and challenges. At work, one will inevitably encounter a variety of problems and challenges. However, it is important to recognize that each difficulty presents an opportunity for growth and development.

It is possible to reduce stress and anxiety through the practice of meditation, the undertaking of physical exercise, or the communication with friends and family, thereby achieving a more peaceful state of mind.

6. Seek assistance and confront challenges collectively.

It is recommended that you share your feelings and confusion with trusted colleagues, friends, or family members. They may be able to offer some helpful advice and support. In some cases, confiding in others is also an effective method for relieving stress.

Should one find it challenging to adapt, it may be beneficial to seek the guidance of a professional psychological counselor. These professionals are equipped with the expertise to offer tailored advice, which can assist in more effectively addressing the underlying issues.

7. Establish incremental objectives and progressively ascertain one's self-worth.

In order to better adapt to the new environment, it is recommended that you set some short-term and achievable goals. It is anticipated that completion of each goal will result in increased confidence in one's work performance and a reduction in sensitivity to negative comments.

As confidence is gradually built up through the achievement of goals, a greater sense of comfort at work will be attained.

It is important to note that growth is a continuous process, and that individuals may experience this process at varying rates and in different ways. The crucial aspect is to develop the ability to draw strength from challenges rather than allowing them to overwhelm or defeat one's sense of self.

You have already engaged in introspection and modified your perspective. This is indicative of growth and advancement. It is imperative to maintain an optimistic outlook regarding your capacity to overcome diverse challenges and difficulties, while simultaneously pursuing continued learning and self-improvement in your future endeavors.

It is hoped that these suggestions will assist in the process of adjusting one's mindset to enable a more effective response to the challenges and difficulties encountered in the workplace. The ability to believe in oneself is a key factor in being able to distinguish oneself and achieve a sense of self-worth within a new work environment.

In today's society, individuals are exposed to a multitude of comments and remarks, which can be challenging and potentially lead to feelings of self-doubt.

In particular, when one first enters a new work environment and encounters new colleagues, there is a tendency to be concerned about how one is perceived by one's superiors. This can give rise to a number of doubts, including whether one's abilities are being recognised, whether one is being undervalued, and whether one is not meeting the required standards.

You demonstrate a commendable capacity for introspective reflection, enabling you to discern areas for improvement and cultivate growth.

"Now that I have had an opportunity to reflect at a more tranquil moment, I believe that the leader's assessment was indeed accurate. At the time, I was so overwhelmed that I did not consider the presentation format."

You demonstrate a robust capacity for reflection and objective observation of past events.

If one is able to analyze situations objectively, then when similar circumstances arise in the future, one can evaluate one's behavior and performance in comparison to previous instances. This allows for the identification of progress made and growth achieved.

It is advisable to consider criticism as an opportunity for personal growth, rather than as a definitive rejection of one's self-worth.

With regard to the assertion that one may be "a bit defenceless at the time," it is a phenomenon that many individuals may encounter. When emotions overwhelm one's faculties, the majority of people are unable to respond in a composed manner.

The capacity to think calmly when emotions arise is a skill that can be developed.

It is imperative that we engage in more frequent and rigorous practice in our daily lives in order to achieve mastery.

The following tips are provided for your consideration:

Upon observation, the following emotions were noted: fear, anger, and skepticism.

Secondly, the reader should vocalize the emotions they observe and read them silently (if the environment permits verbal expression, the reader can speak; if the environment does not permit, the reader can silently read the emotions). The reader should vocalize the following emotions: worry, shame, fear, anger, and fury.

Thirdly, it is important to recognise that everyone has limitations and that there are certain tasks which they are unable to perform. It is beneficial to listen to the views of others and to consider the aspects of their thinking which could be instructive.

The aforementioned sentiments are a direct result of the circumstances, rather than a reflection of personal attributes. The fact that an individual may have erred in a given situation does not inherently define their character.

It is important to recognise that entering a new company will inevitably require an adjustment period in order to adapt to new relationships, new environments and new roles. It is therefore essential to allow sufficient time for this process to occur. It is also important to understand that the current situation is only temporary and that it is not necessary to rush for immediate results.

The aforementioned information is provided for your reference. The world and I love you.

Hello. You have doubts about yourself because you have been denied your abilities. It's great that you are aware of this.

Words can influence people a lot. Even if you disagree or feel angry when someone says, "You can't do it," your subconscious mind still hears it.

This message will make you doubt yourself.

Your subconscious mind will tell you, "You really can't do it." So every time you doubt yourself, you are feeding this seed, allowing it to gradually take over your mind, until you finally conclude, "I can't do it."

How can we avoid this? How can we become stronger when rejected or criticized?

We can regulate in the following ways.

Know yourself and accept yourself. Understand your strengths and weaknesses.

Everyone has shortcomings. Face yours and change them when you can. They might become your strengths.

Learn to give yourself positive guidance.

As the original poster said, you realize the leader was right. You didn't think about the presentation when you were confused, but you felt defensive. The leader was addressing the issue, not you. He gave specific ways to improve.

Don't dwell on whether the leader doubts your ability. Focus on doing your best. Before the conversation, build up your confidence. The other person pointing out your shortcomings doesn't mean they want to negate you. They may be helping you.

This helps us think positively.

3️⃣Don't let others influence you too much. Take care of yourself, put your feelings first, and strengthen your inner self.

If someone expresses themselves in a way that makes us uncomfortable, we can tell them. If they don't change, we don't need to dwell on it.

We can't control or manipulate others. We can only control ourselves, take care of ourselves, and try to be less influenced by others.

It's easy to say, but hard to do. It all depends on the person. If this emotion lasts a long time and affects your life and work, you should seek professional help.

Embarking on a new work environment is an exciting adventure! It's a time of new beginnings and endless possibilities. While it may come with some challenges and the unknown, it's also a chance to learn, grow and adapt. And one of the most important things you can do is to embrace the opportunity to quickly adjust to the new environment and adjust your mindset.

To better explain how to adjust one's mindset and deal with challenges in the workplace, we can use a specific example.

Let's say that Liu has just joined a well-known Internet company as an assistant product manager. This is his first job after graduation, so he is both full of expectations and nervous—and he's ready to take on the world!

Initial challenge:

Soon after joining the company, Xiaoliu was thrilled to be assigned a task—to assist the product manager in preparing a presentation for the launch of a new product. This was his first time being involved in such an important project, and he was eager to dive in.

He was eager to make sure his preparations were comprehensive, confident that he would nail the presentation, and excited to wow his leaders and colleagues.

Mindset adjustment:

During the preparation process, Xiaoliu encountered many difficulties and challenges. He found that his understanding of the product was not as deep as he would have liked, but he was excited to spend more time studying and researching.

At the same time, he encountered many technical difficulties when preparing the presentation materials. But he was up for the challenge! He began to adjust his mindset.

He told himself that this was an amazing opportunity to learn and grow. He no longer saw the feedback from his leaders and colleagues as criticism and negativity; he saw it as guidance and help.

He was always eager to consult with his colleagues, report to his leaders on the progress of his work, and seek their help and advice.

Proactive response:

When preparing the presentation material, Liu didn't just pile up text and pictures. He began to think about how to present the product features and advantages in a way that would really grab the audience's attention!

He used charts, animations, and interactive sessions to make the presentation more lively and interesting than ever!

At the same time, Liu was eager to communicate with the product manager to understand his expectations and needs. He was proactive in offering his ideas and suggestions and worked with the product manager to improve the presentation content.

Thanks to continuous communication and collaboration, Xiaoliu was able to master the key points and techniques of product launch presentations in no time!

?Results presentation:

In the final presentation, Xiao Liu knocked it out of the park! He nailed it, showcasing the product's features and advantages and totally winning over the audience.

His presentation materials were rich and interesting, and he made a deep impression. Leaders and colleagues have expressed their appreciation and affirmation, believing that Liu has demonstrated a high level of professionalism and team spirit in this project—and it was a joy to see!

This example shows how Liu has transformed his mindset and response when facing workplace challenges. He has shifted his perspective from seeing challenges as pressure and a burden to viewing them as opportunities to learn and grow.

He actively seeks help and support, and maintains excellent communication and collaboration with colleagues and leaders. Through continuous hard work and practice, he successfully completes tasks and is recognized and appreciated—what an amazing achievement!

This example shows us just how important it is to keep a positive mindset and a proactive attitude in the workplace. When we do this, we can conquer any challenge and achieve incredible success!

1. New environment: challenges and opportunities coexist

Joining a new company is an amazing opportunity for anyone! New colleagues, new work processes, new work content—it's all part of the adventure. It just takes time and effort to get familiar with and master it all.

But challenges are not just about pressure—they're also about opportunity! Every challenge is an opportunity to grow and to constantly improve ourselves and become the best we can be.

When we encounter feedback from our leaders, especially those that seem harsh, we should see them as incredible opportunities! Leaders' feedback is often based on their rich experience and deep insights, and they are excited for us to do better and excel.

So, let's make the most of feedback from our leaders! It's a great way to improve.

2. Mindset adjustment: from passive to active

Embrace the challenge! When faced with new environments and challenges, it is easy to fall into a passive state of mind. But don't worry! You are performing well enough, and your colleagues and leaders will accept you for who you are.

However, there's a better way! By embracing an active mentality, we can overcome our anxieties and realize our full potential.

So, let's switch from a passive mindset to a proactive attitude! First, we need to believe in ourselves and our ability to overcome these challenges.

Each of us has our own amazing strengths and specialties! As long as we are willing to work hard, we will definitely be able to make progress. Secondly, we must be proactive in learning and adapting.

Take the initiative to find solutions to problems and try new ways of working! Don't wait for others to teach you what to do. Finally, maintain a positive attitude!

Even when we encounter difficulties and setbacks, we can and will overcome them and move on to bigger and better things!

3. Self-awareness: Gain an in-depth understanding of your strengths and weaknesses.

Embarking on a new adventure is an amazing opportunity to reflect on who you are and what you want to achieve. It's a chance to gain a deeper understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, and to clarify your career goals and development direction.

First, we must recognize our strengths! Everyone has their own specialties and advantages, and these advantages can help us stand out in the workplace.

We must be excellent at discovering and utilizing our strengths, and let them become the driving force behind our progress!

Secondly, we must also face our shortcomings. No one is perfect, and we all have some shortcomings and deficiencies. But that's OK! We can work on them and become even better than we already are.

Embrace your shortcomings with courage and determination. They are there to be overcome, and you can do it! By working hard to improve them, you can become a better version of yourself.

4. Seek support: establish good interpersonal relationships

And there's more! To make the most of this exciting new chapter, we also need to seek support and help from others. Building strong interpersonal relationships is one of the best ways to kick-start our career development.

First of all, we need to establish good working relationships with our colleagues. This is an amazing opportunity to learn from each other and work together to complete tasks.

And there's more! We also get to share our knowledge and experience and help our colleagues solve problems.

Next, we need to maintain good communication with our leaders. Leaders are our mentors and supporters, and they can help us grow in amazing ways!

It's so important to regularly report to our leaders on work progress and problems encountered, and to seek their help and support!

And finally, we also need to learn to seek support from external resources. We can participate in some industry exchange activities or training courses to exchange experiences and insights with peers, which is a great way to learn and grow!

These are great ways to help us adapt to the new environment and enhance our workplace capabilities!

In short, adapting to a new environment and adjusting one's mentality is a process that requires time and effort. But it's worth it! We get to see opportunities in challenges, change from being passive to proactive, gain a deeper understanding of our strengths and weaknesses, and seek support and help from others.

This is the only way we can keep on growing and improving in the workplace!

Hello, my name is Xin Tan Coach Yu, and I would love to chat with you about this topic.

Let's start with relationships. Alfred Adler, the founder of individual psychology, once said that all of our troubles come from our relationships with others. We're all afraid of being disliked and hurt in relationships, which can make us feel inferior.

It's so important to remember that the feeling of self-doubt-in-the-future-9475.html" target="_blank">inferiority that many of us experience isn't necessarily an objective fact. It's often a subjective interpretation. We might think that we're not capable of doing something, or that we should be encouraged more. These are just scenarios that we've created in our minds.

As the original poster wrote, when I was reviewing content for my boss today, she told me to use my brain and not just put pictures up. At that moment, I started to doubt myself.

So, when we have trouble in our relationships, it's like a door opening and letting us go deeper into our hearts. This lets us see the real, true self.

Let's ask ourselves something really interesting. When a leader points out a problem, what are our thoughts? What emotions and feelings does it bring up in us?

We can also ask ourselves: what is it inside us that makes us doubt ourselves? And what is it inside us that makes us want encouragement from others?

We can also ask ourselves: What does the ideal self look like? And what does the ideal relationship look like?

What does my heart really want? When we are clear about our needs, it can help us make better choices.

Next, let's chat about acceptance. We're all imperfect, and we all have a side we don't want to touch, which we might call the dark side. People around us don't want to accept it, and we can't face it ourselves. So we put on a mask, pretending to be someone else's favorite character, but we're really just living a very tired life.

As the original poster describes, now that I've calmed down, I think the leader is actually right. I feel like I do have a sense of "not being able to say" most of the time, and I can't accept too direct criticism. I can relate to that!

We can try to be kind to ourselves and accept ourselves just as we are. Everyone has strengths and, of course, weaknesses. We allow ourselves to be true to ourselves and accept the imperfect me. We will unload the heavy burden, release the tension in our hearts, not force others, nor be harsh with ourselves. With an objective and comprehensive understanding of ourselves, we will not be affected by external voices and comments.

Finally, let's talk about loving yourself! The questioner is aware of their emotions and has very clear values. So let's start by caring for ourselves, taking care of our bodies and our feelings.

We can start by accepting ourselves, allowing ourselves to be true to ourselves, and accepting our imperfections. It's so important to try to see your strengths or virtues and write down and praise yourself! Seeing the good in others is a way of thinking that requires us to deliberately practice it in our lives to improve.

We can always try to find resources. We're all used to looking at life with a problematic perspective, but it's actually much more difficult to find resources than problems. When we doubt ourselves, we should ask ourselves: Who else can I turn to for help?

What other options do I have? What other things can I use?

We can make peace with our emotions, my friend. When we notice some negative emotions, we can try to ask ourselves, "What does this remind me of? It's not true!"

When we start to accept our emotions and let them flow, we'll find it much easier to avoid developing distorted behaviors due to emotional repression. We can also try to record what our feelings are at the moment, if you think that would help.

Your writing is just for you, so please feel free to write honestly about your feelings. This will help us understand the causes and effects of emotions and clarify the root of the problem.

Of course, you can always seek help. We all need a little help sometimes! Try to find a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support to talk to. If you feel the need, you can also find a counselor or a support group. It's so important to express our emotions to relieve the heaviness and blockage in our hearts.

We must also affirm and empower ourselves. Based on the principle of separating issues, we cannot change the words or actions of others. It's so important to enrich your knowledge and your inner self. When our core is strong, the people around you will naturally feel comfortable with you.

I'd highly recommend reading "Know Thyself, Accept Thyself"!