I feel timid and passive, afraid of everything. What should I do?

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I would like to commend you for your keen self-awareness and reflection, as well as your courage in facing challenges head-on.

As you described, you think you are a very timid person. When you gathered up your courage and came here to find answers, it has been great recently. I am curious, though, about what kind of strength has not made you give up and come here to find some answers? What kind of answers do you want?

There appear to be three underlying issues: 1. You seem to feel a bit timid and scared, but you're unsure of what specifically you're afraid of. Despite your generally good communication with your parents, you may still feel a sense of apprehension about not meeting their expectations, which could contribute to your feelings of fear.

It seems that you may have some difficulty communicating with others. You may even be a little afraid of communicating with others. You seem to feel that you are a little sensitive inside, that you are not very independent, and that you always like to rely on others.

It seems that you may have lost interest in some of the things you used to enjoy.

It seems that you feel you are uninterested in studying as a student, which has led to feelings of guilt and helplessness towards your parents. These feelings have brought you bad emotions, making it difficult for you to feel your own value and the meaning of your existence. You have mentioned that you sometimes lose your temper and hurt yourself. Is that right?

After sorting out your problems, I feel that you may benefit from some additional support in developing your inner strength. It seems that you still have some expectations of yourself, but you are temporarily more confused and at a loss, which has led to your current lack of confidence, whether it is in yourself, your parents, or your studies. Do you agree with what I've said?

From your description, it seems that you are a sensitive person who cares about other people's feelings and opinions. It might be helpful to ask your relatives and close friends how they perceive you.

Could I ask you to consider whether your feelings are real, or whether they are just your feelings?

I'm curious about what might have happened to bring about this feeling. Is there a time when you don't feel this way?

When you don't feel this way, what do you do instead?

If I may, I would like to invite you to imagine boldly what your ideal state is and what you would have to do to achieve it.

If you were to achieve your ideal state of life, would you be any different from how you are now?

I believe your problem is a common one, and I think many people on this platform may have experienced something similar. When you become aware of it and start looking for answers and exploring, you are already on the path to change.

I'm not sure what has led to this situation, but I hope that some of my advice will help you to feel more relaxed and at ease, and to have the strength to fight for your bright future.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider adjusting your mindset and building up your confidence.

From your description, I get the impression that you are actually determined and eager inside, but you have encountered some obstacles that you cannot overcome at the moment. If you would like to make a change, I would gently suggest that you could adjust your mentality and build up your confidence. You could choose to accept and allow yourself, allow yourself to have a bad side, allow yourself to make mistakes, and allow yourself to be unable to do things. Of course, allowing here does not mean that you should not strive for progress, but rather that you should tolerate and accept yourself. Only by tolerating and accepting yourself will you have more strength and be able to increase your confidence.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.

It might be helpful to stop labeling yourself and start using positive self-talk instead.

It's not uncommon to label ourselves in various ways. I'll admit that I've been guilty of this myself. I've told myself that I'm not very smart or that I can't do things well. These kinds of negative labels can have a negative impact on our self-confidence. It's important to recognize that this kind of labeling is, in fact, a form of negative psychological suggestion.

We can change by offering ourselves positive mental suggestions, such as affirmations like "I'm good, I'm great, I can do it, I believe in myself," and so on. While it may not be immediately effective, with time and practice, you may find that these habits gradually boost your confidence. You may wish to give it a try.

It would be beneficial to learn to communicate and gather your strengths.

From your description, it seems that you may be feeling a little timid. Although you get along well with your parents, you also seem to be a little scared, which causes you to feel uncomfortable when facing the outside world. When you are here, I hope the questioner can communicate more with his parents, tell them about this uncomfortable feeling, and then you can turn inwards, that is, look inward, and see your own strengths and virtues, rather than resisting outwardly and relying on the strengths and virtues of others. Only by introspection can we feel what kind of person we are, what kind of life we want, and be able to see our own strengths and be more empowered to change. What do you think?

It would be beneficial to learn how to release negative emotions.

It is natural to experience a range of emotions in life. However, if we fail to express these emotions, they can accumulate and cause stress and anxiety. This can lead to a state of overload for our bodies and minds. Learning to release negative emotions and find ways to relax can help us create a more comfortable and peaceful environment for ourselves. Here are some suggestions for ways to release negative emotions: engage in physical activities like running, swimming, walking, playing with others, traveling, and so on. All of these can help release negative emotions.

It might be helpful to consider seeking external resources.

I hope that we can rely on ourselves to work hard and make changes in many aspects of our lives. However, when we encounter difficulties that we cannot overcome, we can seek resources from outside. The support here is to seek help from professional psychological counselors only. Psychological counselors can use professional psychological techniques to deeply explore the problems in our subconscious, and create a safe, inclusive, and warm environment for us, so that we can thrive in this environment and become stronger.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this.

I would like to suggest that this is actually how most of life is like. I have also felt this way before and found that focusing on something that interests me gave me a sense of accomplishment and helped me to feel more relaxed. Studying psychology was a similar experience for me because I found a sense of accomplishment in that area as well. So now I feel more relaxed and at ease when facing the outside world. Before, I was also very nervous and even a little socially anxious, so I would encourage you to start with something you are interested in.

If I might make one more suggestion, I think it's important to remember that facing problems with courage and determination is the key to finding solutions. It's not about avoiding problems, but about having the resilience to tackle them head-on. With resilience, anything is possible. I believe in you, and I love you.