I feel very empty, I don't know what I'm sad about, and I don't know how to fill the emptiness.

It is a curious phenomenon that humans are born with a certain sense of "emptiness" in their bodies and minds. This "emptiness" drives us to constantly seek fulfillment. Some of the ways we attempt to fill this void include overeating, alcoholism, smoking, and the pursuit of luxury items such as cars, digital products, and trendy goods.

The core issue with this "emptiness" is that regardless of what you fill it with, the next day you wake up and the "hole" is empty again, leaving only a feeling of emptiness. This is akin to the feeling of emptiness you experience after losing interest in a popular TV series.

The concept of "void" is intrinsic to the human experience. It exists within the depths of our hearts and is a constant, unchanging aspect of our lives. However, the sense of emptiness that accompanies this void can be managed and even reduced. By taking certain actions, individuals can effectively minimize the impact of this emptiness, making it less noticeable in their lives.

There are three effective ways to deal with this emptiness:

It is advisable to direct your time and energy towards self-improvement.

We devote a great deal of attention to this "emptiness" and invest significant resources into filling it, while neglecting the rest of our bodies, particularly our minds. The first step to overcoming this sense of emptiness is to focus your time and energy on self-improvement.

It may sound cliché, but it is important to understand that this "emptiness" is a constant, unchanging phenomenon. However, this does not mean that the rest of your body will not change. If you ignore the rest of your body, for example, by letting yourself get fat and refusing to exercise, and fill the "emptiness" with nicotine and alcohol, you will not only feel like a waste because of the emptiness, but you will also ruin your health.

When you feel like a waste because of the emptiness, you associate this negative feeling with the concept of "emptiness" and express that it makes you feel like a complete waste. However, the suffering caused by this emptiness is actually less severe than the pain of destroying your body. It is important to understand health, nutrition, and good sleep habits, and to focus your energy on yourself.

Create something.

There are numerous avenues for creative expression, including art, music, writing, dance, and any other pursuit that captures your interest. Even engaging with a fidget spinner can be an avenue for creative exploration. When you engage in creative activities, your focus shifts away from the perceived "void" and toward your chosen hobby.

It is comparable to a mosquito bite. If one dwells on the bite, the sensation will persist. However, if one engages in other activities, such as watching a movie or on a date, the feeling will dissipate.

By redirecting your attention to your areas of interest, the sensation of emptiness will gradually dissipate. One of the key advantages of creativity is that regardless of the form your work takes, it will remain consistent. Unlike substances such as nicotine and alcohol, it will not dissipate overnight. Instead, it will be there for you to continue creating when you wake up the next day.

The practice of meditation

Meditation is a practice that involves sitting in a state of calm, with a clear mind free from distractions. It can be likened to the state of meditation practiced by monks.

This will require you to confront the sensation of emptiness directly. Many individuals may initially find it challenging to enter this state, as confronting emptiness is often perceived as a daunting task. We are all inclined to avoid it and seek fulfillment through various forms of gratification. However, when we approach it with a sense of calm and introspection, we often discover that the experience is not as overwhelming as we had anticipated.

One of the primary reasons for the aversion to emptiness is the internalization of the belief that it is an unfavorable state. This often manifests as a perception of deficiency or inadequacy, leading to feelings of self-criticism and discomfort.

Meditation is about taking the time to sit down, face the issue, and think about it. It is important to remember that emptiness is simply a feeling.

Hello, friend! It's so great to see you here, feeling confused, powerless, and sad.

First of all, I want to say that you should absolutely not be afraid of this feeling! Even if you feel empty, sad, and powerless because you don't know why you are sad,

You're not alone! Don't be afraid or panic because everyone, at any age, can experience this.

Our inner world is vast, rich, and complex—and it's amazing! So when you notice a "situation," don't panic. You can even "accept" it appropriately.

It's like the current buzzword "moping"!

When we can't jump over the wall, it's a great idea to wander around inside it, take a turn, and see if we can find a way out!

Now for the fun part! Ask yourself what has happened in the past few years. Grab a pen and write down all the things that have affected you and those around you in recent years, as well as your mood at the time and afterwards.

Once you've finished writing, take another look and see if there are any events or people that have had the greatest impact on you. These are the things you can't let go of, or even still think about!

I absolutely believe that at this time, you will be able to find the reason for "being sad for no reason"!

Once you've identified the root of the problem, you'll be on the fast track to getting well! You might have cried, felt sad, or experienced pain. Or, you might have let it go and figured it out as time passed.

Finally, I want to say that you envy your friend's incredible obsession with the drum. Perhaps you envy his amazing attitude towards life!

Believe in yourself, and you will find your own "drum"! When you conquer the darkness inside you, the light will meet you.

I'm here for you! If you have any questions, you can contact me here, and I will be with you in the first instance.

I empathize with the questioner's situation. I can relate to the overwhelming emotions they're experiencing. When I observe others, I realize that I, too, can pursue a fulfilling life by doing what I love and living according to my own values.

If you don't know what you want, don't have any interests or hobbies, and can't enjoy doing things, you'll feel more and more empty, lonely, and uncomfortable. You'll think that life isn't interesting and lower your expectations.

The meaning of life is a big, complex question that affects a lot of people in different ways. Everyone has a different understanding of what life is all about. Some people feel that life is about using their talents, working hard to do what they love, and succeeding beyond their wildest dreams.

Some people believe that it's enough to live an ordinary life, without seeking wealth or power, or resigning themselves to degradation. Some people can figure this out in a few days, while others may take ten days or a month or two, and some may need three or five months or even a year or two. Some people need even longer, ten or eight years or a lifetime, depending on their experiences and ability to understand and comprehend.

Some people are more focused on the process of life, while others are more focused on the outcome. Focusing on the process allows you to stay in the moment, understand what kind of life you want, and figure out what you want to do with your life.

You won't stress about the future or dwell on the past. You'll eat, sleep, work, and rest at the right times. You'll relax and do your best in everything you do.

A life like this is less full of worries and pain, and it's much more fulfilling and joyful. It's also more interesting.

If you focus on the outcome of life, you're like a person having a dream. You can work as hard as you like to achieve your life goals, but when you wake up from your dream, you'll lose it. And when you achieve your goals, you'll lose them too, and feel empty inside. Some people work hard without thinking about whether they can bear it physically and mentally. They overdraw their energy, and before they know it, they're forced to stop and rest. They feel defeated, and they also have to face the pain caused by physical exhaustion. They feel the pressure from people around them, and they can't bear it. Some people even commit suicide.

I believe that the meaning of life is in what we think and do. It's important to consider whether our thoughts and actions have a positive or negative effect on ourselves, others, and society. If we think and act in ways that are helpful to ourselves, others, and social development, we will naturally gain recognition and acceptance from ourselves, others, and society.

On the other hand, if you think and act in a way that hurts yourself, others, and society, you won't be accepted by yourself, others, or society. You'll also have to deal with the consequences of your actions, which can be a hassle. I've studied psychology for 12 years, and I've found that using what I've learned in my social life to help myself and others is the best way to live.

I try to live a balanced life, not just for myself but also for others. I find this approach gives me a sense of fulfillment, and it helps me stay grounded and positive. Of course, there are challenges in life, but I try to keep them in perspective.

Hello, landlord! When I read your comment, it's like I'm seeing a reflection of myself from the past. I'm excited to give you some strength and help you through this confusing time!

You say you don't know why you're alive, you're not particularly interested in anything, you're sad, and you don't even know why you're sad. But guess what? That's about to change!

I see your powerlessness, the emptiness in your eyes, and I know you want to escape from this meaningless world.

Go and explore the meaning of your life!

You are looking for what in this world is truly worth pursuing, and you will find it!

You are curious as to how someone can love something or someone or something so much! You are searching for something that can make you love so much as well!

You ponder and ponder. Now, layer after layer of thought, like silk, wraps you up, and the world you feel becomes even more insubstantial.

Do you see yourself? You have wrapped yourself up, lost yourself, and at the same time abandoned the world. But you can find yourself again!

Guess what! You've been looking for something that's right here and now. And it's the meaning of life! You can't feel everything that's happening to you right now, but you can feel your own breathing, your body rising and falling with each breath, the wind blowing outside the window, and your sadness.

Go ahead, feel your sadness!

When you are sad, talk to yourself: "I see that I am sad, I see that I am crying now, I see that my mind is thinking that I am sad, I see that my eyes are streaming with tears... I fully accept my sadness, and I'm going to be okay! It's okay to be sad, and I will continue to love myself.

Just talk to yourself like this and accept yourself like this! Accept the self that cannot find a passion, accept the self that does not know why it is sad, and accept the self that is just so empty.

You are not alone! No matter what happens, you can hold yourself up and keep going.

Hello, questioner.

"Living day after day, not knowing what to expect from life, even sadness can feel so empty when we don't know what the future holds, what the meaning of all things is, or how to fill the emptiness within. How might we find the meaning of life?"

Perhaps we can work through this together.

Many masters believe that life may not have a single, universal meaning. If you are seeking a meaning for your own life, it may be found in the act of searching for meaning itself.

Perhaps the meaning of life can be found in the process and the experience.

It's like your friend, who took the high-speed train to another city to take drum lessons on weekends and then came back at night. He kept doing this for a few years. In the process, he not only learned professional knowledge, but also developed his willpower. A person who is good at self-discipline can overcome some of the weaknesses inherent in human nature, and then life will be rewarding.

One might suggest that this is the only way to resist the feeling of emptiness within.

Some experts posit that the reason for the formation of "emptiness" may be linked to the current state of living conditions, which are arguably more comfortable than in the past. In such an environment, material needs are often met with prompt gratification, which may limit the room for imagination and action.

It could be said that the more contented you are, the more empty you feel.

A certain philosopher once said, "Life is about not being disappointed, but being bored with what you get." This also helps us understand why we may feel empty despite having everything.

It may be helpful to consider the following strategies:

(1) Perhaps you could try to find something you want to do.

This thing you want to do doesn't have to be a big deal; it can be a trivial thing in life. For example, if you know what you want for breakfast, you might consider getting up early and preparing the ingredients yourself.

You may find that you feel happier having a breakfast you have made yourself than ordering takeaway. If there are things you can do yourself that you would usually pay someone else to do, it might be worth trying to do them yourself.

(2) Consider smiling, even if it's a fake smile.

You might consider getting up early, putting on some makeup, and smiling at yourself in the mirror. When you see your smiling face in the mirror, your brain's neurons may form more happy connections, and your mood might improve as a result.

(3) Exercise

If you go to the gym or do aerobic exercise regularly, you may find that your brain produces happy chemicals, which could help to improve your mood. It might be helpful to persevere and form a habit.

It should be noted that this also requires a certain degree of self-discipline to achieve.

(3) Consider helping others.

If circumstances allow, you may wish to consider becoming a community volunteer. In the process of helping others, you may find a sense of accomplishment naturally arises. You can explore different methods to suit your own preferences.

(4) If you're interested, there are plenty of resources out there to help you learn more about the current social situation.

Many people face challenges in their lives, and it's only by looking at our own situations in a broader context that we can truly appreciate what we have.

I hope this is helpful. Wishing you well!

Dear questioner,

Hi, I'm Kelly!

I've read your question a few times, and I'm happy to help you sort it out!

✍️ [It's totally normal to lose interest in things, even if you initially had a lot of enthusiasm for them. We all have different interests and that's okay!]

This is something many of us struggle with, not just you. It's all about persistence and accumulation!

From this sentence, I can see that the questioner is someone who has hobbies and wants to explore, and has not spent a lot of energy in the process of exploration. It's so great to see someone who's interested in exploring their interests!

1: The best way to find out what you like best is to explore more! It's also a great way to get to know yourself better.

2: Find something easy to stick to, such as reading. Keep a book in your bag so you can read it whenever you want. It's convenient and simple. You'll be amazed at how much you'll enjoy reading every day for ten years!

This is a process, my friend.

Once you've read something that sparks your interest, feel free to share your thoughts on Weibo, WeChat, or even the psychological trends on Weixin. We'd love to hear from you!

3: For example, calligraphy. I tried it too, but it's not convenient to bring it on a business trip, so I gave up after a while.

4: I recently started drawing mandalas and found out you can draw anywhere with a notebook and a pen! You can take it with you on a business trip, on the high-speed train, or even on an airplane.

5: The learning process may not go as planned, but that's okay! Everyone encounters the same problems, and it's totally normal to have different emotions.

I really admire people who stick with what they love. I have a friend who is crazy about drums. He takes the high-speed train to another city on weekends to take professional courses and then comes back at night. He has been doing this for several years. I admire him so much and I think he has a really special heart.

It's so great that the OP has such a wonderful friend! It's true that like attracts like. I'm sure the OP admires her friend. Maybe you can explore yourself a little. Maybe you want to become like that. The people we admire are often our role models.

1: For example, the qualities that your friend is so passionate about can absolutely be learned!

2: And let's not forget that taking the train to drum lessons is also a source of strength that your friend has insisted on!

3: You can totally achieve these things too! All you have to do is find what you like about yourself and live up to the person that others and yourself admire.

4: The questioner can see the advantages of others and appreciate them, affirming friends instead of being jealous and inferior. The questioner is a person with a broad mind, and that's a wonderful thing!

5: Follow your friend's path, take action instead of thinking, and remember that you are just as capable as he is. He can learn to play the drums, so you can learn something else.

It doesn't matter if it's just the start of something small.

✍️[Empty] I've been this way since I was a kid, and I'm not sure what's making me sad.

It seems like you've always been a thoughtful person with your own ideas and have been feeling sad for a long time. It can be really draining, I can imagine.

If you're not under financial pressure, you can find a counselor to help you analyze. I'm sorry if some questions confused you after our short interview. I'd like to suggest that you find the question behind the question that is meaningless. I know that you feel meaningless and dissatisfied with your current self, but that also means you have higher aspirations and dreams! You're just a little limited in some of them.

If you don't want to see a counselor, don't worry! You can still pursue self-growth at 1mind. For example, you can join a book club or practice mindfulness. These activities are low-cost, and joining a community you like will allow you to interact with others and get to know yourself better.

1: Take some time to think about all the things that have made you happy over the years.

2: Set some short-term goals for yourself and then go for it! You'll feel more confident when you achieve your goals, one by one.

3: Find something you love and give it your all! Ask yourself what you love most and go for it!

4: Have a chat with your friends! What gets them going and keeps them going? What are their goals?

5: What is the best thing people have ever said about you?

6: I'd love to know what your favorite thing is that has excited you since you were a child!

7: I'd love to know what kind of person you hope to be in the future, and what your goals are for achieving that.

8: If a magician came to you at night, what kind of person would you want to be the next day? What abilities would you have?

Mr. Irving Yaron said that a person's life is lonely, meaningless, free, and death.

These are all things we can relate to, right?

You can take a look at his book, "Become Myself."

You might also enjoy reading "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone."

Confusion is just a natural part of life, and it's only those who think deeply about things who really understand the meaning and significance of life.

Please, feel free to keep chatting about life with us!

Hi, I'm Kelly!

I love you, world! And I love you too, my dear friend!

Dear Questioner, I am unsure of your age, but I believe you are relatively young, perhaps a student. Your description evokes a profound sense of distress. "Even sadness is so empty." These words convey a tangible confusion and pain, as well as a strong self-critical tone.

You mentioned that you admire your colleague's clarity of purpose and determination to pursue their goals, even when it involves significant personal sacrifices. This mindset is truly commendable and represents a process of understanding and achieving one's potential.

You have expressed concern about the lack of clarity regarding your purpose in life. This is a common challenge faced by young individuals as they navigate the complexities of adulthood. The current difficulties you are experiencing are a natural part of the growth process. Once you have identified the solutions, your life will gain a renewed sense of direction.

1. It is possible that your current situation does not align with your expectations. However, it is crucial to embrace the present moment, identify the positives in your current circumstances, and gain a deeper understanding of yourself. As a student, there are numerous factors beyond your control. Nevertheless, this is a unique phase where you can interact with diverse individuals and experiences.

During this period, it is important to appreciate the positive aspects of our current situation, capitalise on them, and create opportunities to enhance future prospects.

2. The prerequisite for all growth is a thorough understanding of oneself. This requires careful experience of one's interests, including the moments when they are felt, and an awareness of one's relative strengths. Only by thoroughly understanding oneself can one better develop one's strengths in the future and find a clearer direction.

This includes taking some tests to identify your strengths and interests, and to gain a sense of fulfillment from your achievements.

3. All happiness and joy ultimately stem from relationships, including those between people and things, and most importantly, those between people. In my view, the purpose of life is to love and to do things.

Show appreciation for your colleagues, foster positive relationships, provide assistance when needed, and accept the support of others. These actions are essential for personal and professional growth. Identifying your strengths and pursuing opportunities that align with them is crucial for personal and professional fulfillment.

The meaning of life is a topic that has been discussed for centuries and continues to be relevant today. There are numerous excellent books on the subject that you can read, including "Finding the Meaning of Life" and "Tuesdays with Morrie," as well as books on existentialism.

I hope the inquirer will embrace the confusion as an opportunity to explore fully and find their own path in the future. Best of luck!

My dear, it is very difficult. But you can do it. Hug.

The article is very real and honest. You feel like you're floating in the air, unsure of where to land or which way to go.

You must ask yourself: "Why am I alive? What is the meaning of life?"

This question needs to be answered.

Many philosophical masters have asked this question, and many psychological masters have also talked about it.

If the answer someone gives you doesn't satisfy you, you need to find the answer yourself.

Bi Shumin once said, "Life is originally meaningless. But you can give your life meaning."

In other words,

Find your passion. Go and develop your talents. Connect with the world.

I'm going to expand on the answer you gave above.

I'll give you a little more context.

I like your question.

I don't have anything that particularly interests me.

I don't have a favorite thing to do.

This part says no. It should say, "I haven't found it yet."

If you just can't find it, then our lives are limited and we lack exploration and practice.

As a 40-something, I will realize that I have a lot of things I have not done or experienced in my life. I will set a goal.

Go make a xylophone. Write a book.

Go to an extreme sport. Go to a stand-up comedy show.

I haven't done any of this. I'm going to do it and I'm going to like it.

You should definitely try it and experience as much as possible. If you like it, write it down and see what I like about it and when I am happy.

Record your emotions. What are my pleasurable experiences?

Pay serious attention to your feelings. That is the answer.

Expand your exploration under Consultation Settings.

You won't spend too much energy on it, even if you have it.

This part needs to be expanded. When I see this, I will think, "I could have done that. I should have spent the energy to do it."

1. I don't have enough energy, and I feel tired a lot.

If this is the case, you need to do some physical and mental conditioning. It's not a case of qi deficiency, it's that you're putting too much mental pressure on yourself. You need to nourish your qi and blood, and you need to nourish your body with nutrients.

Your body and mind are connected, so it's essential to take care of both. Nourish your emotions and your mind.

(Do this under the Settings consultation.)

2. I expect a result when I do it. I crave external recognition and praise.

I don't enjoy it. I use it as a tool to achieve my goal.

A simple example is when we say we are going to climb a mountain.

If the only reason for climbing a mountain is to reach the summit, you'd be better off taking the cable car.

The process itself should be enjoyable and happy, and the process is a continuous experience. I saw the scenery along the way.

Reaching the top is a joy, but the journey is worthwhile too.

If you are doing this to reach a destination, you will be restless the whole time and unable to enjoy it. It will only make you suffer, and when you reach the top, you will realize it's nothing special.

This is a pattern of the mind, which I call being "elsewhere." It's a pattern where the corresponding situation is no longer in the present, not enjoying the present, and all actions become tools to achieve goals.

The mind just keeps going, but there is no end in sight. It is like a hamster in a cage, running faster and faster, and the cage spinning faster and faster. (At this point, anxiety or a sense of meaninglessness will set in.)

Similarly, this can already give you the answer you're looking for. If you want to change this part, you can do positive meditation exercises and mindful breathing. Constantly return to the present process.

Consult with a guide for appropriate exercises and continue to provide positive feedback.

You have a role model in you. You have witnessed his passion, his motivation, and the way he overcomes all kinds of obstacles in life because of his love.

Your friend is a great example of someone who has found a passion and acted on it. He has overcome all kinds of difficulties in life because of his love for what he does.

The drum enthusiast took the high-speed train to another city to take drum lessons on weekends and then returned home in the evening. He did this consistently for several years.

Your friend has found a passion. Here's the information.

Your friend can and will act on their passion. They can travel from one city to another to attend classes.

Your friend can and will consistently invest time in their passion. Your friend is not looking for a result in their passion.

Do this for a few years and it will become second nature.

He didn't have a specific goal in mind, but he loved the journey itself. In the process, he found immense joy and pleasure.

He then blossomed with his passion.

This is your ideal state. You hope to find your passion, bloom it, and have a sustained passionate commitment to fully experience pleasure.

I have always been empty-hearted since I was a child.

I've been crying a lot recently. In fact, this has been going on for a few years. I've thought about all the things that make me sad, but I don't know what I'm sad about. If I knew what I was sad about, I could work it out. So one of the things I often write in my diary is that I don't know what it is that makes me sad.

I feel sorry for you when I read this paragraph.

It is clear that there is a disconnect between your mind and body, and you are separated from your own feelings. Your emotions are separate from you, and you are experiencing sadness. You are aware of your sadness.

It's as if they're saying, "Don't cry, don't be naughty, don't disobey..." It's a way of suppressing all my grievances and not expressing my emotions.

This has led to a kind of defense—separation. I don't let myself experience.

I have no room for expression in my experience. This is something that will require time and effort to address.

You are worthy of love. You deserve all the good things in life. Help is always at hand when you need it.

You are worthy of love. You deserve all the good things in life. Help is always at hand when you need it.

Adler was clear: the fact that we are alive is valuable in itself because we are part of the human community and part of the world community.

Your past may have been full of disappointments, emptiness, meaninglessness, and sadness, but that is in the past.

I am ready to start thinking about what I want to give to the world from now on. I know what I can express. I have a connection with the world.

You are worthy of love. You deserve all the good things in life. Help is always there for you when you need it.

You must believe that you are worthy of love, that you deserve all the good things in life, and that help is always at hand when you need it.

P.S. I know this reply is quick, but your experience will take time. You need to build up your experience. Get help from professional systems, including mine.

Hi, I'm happy to share my thoughts with you.

Your sentence, "The hardest thing is not knowing what to feel," really resonated with me.

Your sentence, "The hardest thing is not knowing what to feel sad about," really resonated with me.

As a species, we're pretty unique in the natural world. What sets us apart most is our creativity. We can create things that don't exist in nature. When we apply this creativity to ourselves, we can create different lives.

To answer the question of why people live, we first have to accept that people are a natural phenomenon, like rain and wind, and don't have any inherent meaning.

The meaning of life we explore often refers to the meaning of existence as a living organism with advanced cognitive functions, which is inseparable from active choice and value judgment. To put it simply, people live to pursue something.

"In fact, I've been thinking about this for a while. I don't have anything I'm particularly interested in, and I don't have anything I particularly like doing. Even if I did, I wouldn't put much effort into it."

This is a common misconception. We often think that we do something because we like it, but it's often the doing that makes us like it. Our concepts of many things are abstract and vague, and we can't fully experience the real feelings it brings us just by imagining it.

Why don't we put in a lot of effort even when we have the capacity to do so? What's the reason?

"I really admire people who stick with the things they love."

You don't have to stick with what you don't like, just what you do.

"I've been crying a lot recently. It's actually been going on for a few years now, in fits and starts. I think about all the things that make me sad, but I don't know what I'm sad about."

There are two possibilities. One is that abnormal secretion of neurotransmitters causes depression, as we said. The other is that pessimistic emotions are caused by hidden negative cognition.

There are two possible explanations. One is that an imbalance in neurotransmitter secretion is the root cause of depression. The other is that pessimistic emotions are driven by hidden negative beliefs.

There are two possible explanations. One is that an imbalance in neurotransmitter secretion is the root cause of depression. The other is that pessimistic emotions are driven by hidden negative beliefs.

For instance, some people see rain as a sign of a good harvest and a sunny day after the rain, which makes them happy. Others see rain as a sign of flooding and sadness, which makes them sad.

For instance, some people see rain as a sign of a good harvest and a sunny day after the rain, which makes them happy. Others see rain as a sign of flooding and sadness, which makes them sad.

On the surface, it seems like the rain caused your mood, but in reality, it was actually the part of your subconscious that you'd suppressed that was at work.

The questioner's description is still too vague. We don't know exactly what happened or what life experiences led to your "emptiness and sense of meaninglessness." So, it's recommended you find a professional psychological institution to conduct relevant assessments, such as SDS and SCL90. Then, you can talk to a psychological counselor and work together to find the source of the problem. If necessary, you can also go to a specialist hospital for an examination to rule out organic lesions.

I'm Xiao Dong, your friendly neighborhood psychologist. I wish you all the best in life!