I get nervous when friends invite me to play games. Why is that?
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Since the beginning of August, she and I have been hanging out almost every day. Although the frequency has decreased a bit, we still hang out a lot. But for some reason, I always get nervous whenever she asks me if I want to hang out.
Playing together is fun, but it's not as fun as it was in the beginning. But it is still fun, and much more fun than being alone.
So shouldn't I be happy when she invites me? I don't understand myself.
Maybe it's because I want to do other things with my free time, but I don't want to miss this opportunity to hang out together, and she'll ask again later. Or maybe it's because I feel guilty for refusing to hang out when I'm not doing anything serious.
In that case, free time like vacations actually scares me. Anyway, whenever she asks me if I want to hang out, my heart starts racing and I get nervous.
I don't understand.
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Comments
I feel you on that. It's like there's this mix of excitement and anxiety every time she asks. I guess part of me is just overthinking it, wondering if I should be doing something else or if I'm missing out on other opportunities. But at the same time, spending time with her is still really enjoyable. It's just that the novelty has worn off a bit, and now it's more about maintaining the balance between wanting to hang out and needing some alone time.
It sounds like you're caught between two desires: wanting to spend time with her but also feeling like you need to do other things. Maybe it's the pressure of always having to say yes that makes you nervous. I get that. Sometimes it feels like you're supposed to drop everything for someone, even though you might want to do something different. It's okay to have those feelings; it doesn't mean you don't enjoy her company.
I think it's natural to feel a little nervous when someone you care about invites you to hang out. It's like you're putting yourself out there, and you want to make sure you're making the right choice. Maybe it's not about the hanging out itself, but more about the fear of disappointing her or letting her down. That can be tough, especially when you value the relationship.
It could be that you're feeling a bit overwhelmed by the frequency of the invitations. Even though you enjoy spending time together, it might feel like you're losing some control over your own schedule. It's okay to want to have some space or time to yourself. Maybe you could try setting boundaries or finding a way to balance both your needs and hers.
I wonder if it's the guilt that's making you nervous. Like, you feel bad if you say no, but you also feel like you should be doing other things. It's a tricky situation because you don't want to hurt her feelings, but at the same time, you need to take care of yourself too. Maybe talking to her about how you feel could help ease some of that tension.