I get nervous when talking to people and want to solve chat problems as soon as possible. How can I improve?

Hello, host, I read your description and I can understand how you feel. Talking and chatting often determine a person's social skills. If you can talk eloquently, then your social skills will definitely be very good. If you can't communicate with others, then you might want to consider ways to improve your skills.

As you mentioned in your article, it can be challenging to engage in conversation with someone you don't know without some degree of skill.

It would be fair to say that people who are good at talking and chatting tend to be surrounded by many people.

It is not uncommon to observe salespeople in 4S stores engaging in fluid and engaging conversations with customers. It is not uncommon for customers to admire and envy the art of conversation that these salespeople possess.

Indeed, when we receive a positive response, it indicates that we have struck a chord and that the conversation will continue in a way that is comfortable for both of us.

Similarly, salespeople in 4S stores are adept at connecting with customers on a personal level, which often leads to a willingness to communicate.

When chatting with someone, it would be beneficial to consider their psychology and choose topics that align with their interests. This approach can foster mutual satisfaction, as it demonstrates a willingness to engage with others on a meaningful level.

When chatting, we might consider discussing each other's topics of interest. For instance, we could talk about her experiences growing up or something he recently did that made him feel proud. This could help the other person find a topic of interest.

He will continue to share with you his insights and experiences.

Additionally, we can engage in conversation about intriguing events and topics that have transpired in our society, including celebrity news. This can foster a sense of joy and connection in the other person, as if they have encountered a kindred spirit.

When chatting with others, it's important to consider not only our own interests but also to encourage the other person to participate and engage.

It is often said that a thousand cups of wine are not enough when you have a bosom friend, but a single sentence is enough when you don't hit it off.

I believe that when we chat with others, it is important to talk about topics that interest the other person. This way, the other person will be more likely to tell you things that interest them and feel like they have met a soulmate.

If you talk about things that the other person is not interested in, it might make the conversation feel a bit awkward and you might run out of things to say after a while.

It would be advisable to consider talking about something that interests the other person, for example, something that they feel most satisfied doing.

It is important to remember that when interacting with others, it is essential to seek a positive response from the other person in order to ensure that the conversation remains enjoyable for all. If a negative response is received, it may unfortunately result in the conversation coming to an end sooner than desired.

I hope these thoughts are helpful to you.

Good day, question asker.

1. You experience a sense of nervousness when engaging in conversation with someone you are not well acquainted with, and your brain appears to function at a slower pace, as if it were somewhat constrained.

Whether or not you are familiar with it, face-to-face communication can be a highly stressful experience. Once this tension is activated, it is not uncommon to feel a lack of calm and to be unsure of what you want to say. You may find yourself in a passive state of speech, as if you have lost your sense of awareness.

These symptoms are all manifestations of interpersonal tension. They appear automatically, and reason cannot control whether they appear or not. They are manifestations of feelings, your ego, or your own feelings.

These symptoms are all manifestations of interpersonal tension. They appear automatically, and reason cannot control whether they appear or not. They are all manifestations of feelings, your own ego or your own feelings.

It is important to note that these feelings are internal, and others may not be aware of them. Only you are privy to your own pain.

Secondly, these interpersonal tensions are an automatic reaction. The question then becomes: why does this reaction occur?

This is a topic that requires further consideration. It may be the case that there is some fear or tension in your heart towards others that is causing this reaction.

This tension is an abstract concept that encompasses a range of emotions, feelings, and thoughts that require differentiation. This process is often best facilitated with the guidance of a counselor, as it can be challenging to navigate independently.

Furthermore, I am unaware of the duration of this symptom. If it has been present for several years or has always been there, this phenomenon is related to some personality factors within you.

In general, individuals with these personalities are prone to interpersonal tension.

1. They have a strong sense of self-worth and strive to present a positive image.

2. Concerned that their contributions may be misinterpreted or ignored, or that they will not be taken seriously, and feeling embarrassed and uneasy.

3. Lack of knowledge regarding appropriate communication, inability to express oneself freely, lack of interest in social interaction, and reluctance to engage in conversation.

4. They are not open to new ideas and do not enjoy social interaction.

5. Concerned about being evaluated by others.

6. Fear of being found inadequate or of being punished.

3. Interpersonal tension is a common occurrence.

In your daily life, you may wish to consider making some efforts to improve this symptom.

1. Engage in practice conversations with individuals in a private setting, similar to how one would prepare for a lesson or deliver a trial lecture. The more you practice, the more natural and fluent your communication will become.

2. It would be beneficial to read more books on social skills and observe the techniques they teach, such as topics for conversation, such as the weather, news, and everyday nonsense.

3. Determine whether you have any information you believe would be valuable to share with others. If you do, attempt to express yourself without concern for other people's reactions. Simply state your thoughts. If you lack information to share, it may be an indication that you are not open to sharing, lack trust in others, or have a weak sense of security. Additionally, it could indicate that you do not enjoy socializing with others.

This is about enhancing your self-trust, developing your ability to distinguish between individuals, and recognizing the positive or negative character traits of a person.

4. Talking is not a speech or a presentation. You have the freedom to express yourself as you see fit. There is no need to judge yourself or others. It's simply a form of everyday communication. Take a moment to relax.

5. Engage in more frequent communication with individuals with whom you have a positive rapport. If you have a limited number of close associates, it indicates that you have developed a greater degree of self-protection and still require personal growth to enhance your trust and sense of security.

6. Interpersonal interaction is a vital part of the process. Gradually encourage yourself to engage in social activities, manage your anxiety, and enhance your self-confidence through training.

7. Should you require assistance in overcoming these issues, we recommend consulting with a counselor.

Hello, landlord. I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I can relate to that. I used to get nervous when talking to people I didn't know well, and I was also afraid of talking face-to-face with others. I would enter a "work" state as soon as someone was present, which made it difficult to relax and engage in the conversation. As you mentioned, I couldn't think straight, and I would either have awkward conversations or suppress my true needs and just say nice things. So every day when I had to talk to other people, I would feel nervous, scared, and anxious...

I must admit, though, that I can't do that right now. Of course, it's not something that can be changed overnight. It took me a while to adjust my perception, and then I practiced it in real life. Only gradually did I become more natural and comfortable when chatting with people. I think a very important point is that we need to become confident. The reason we are so afraid of chatting with people, and even when chatting, we always want to take care of other people's feelings and say only good things, is because we are not confident. We are worried that other people will not like us, so we become nervous and constrained.

In addition to building up our inner confidence, it may also be helpful to consider other reasons for our nervousness, adjust our perceptions, and put them into action. With time and practice, you may find that you can feel more at ease in interpersonal interactions and even enjoy them.

From my own experience, I believe there are two main reasons why we may become nervous in social situations:

The "spotlight effect" can lead us to overestimate the significance of our actions, appearance, and emotions in the eyes of others when interacting with them. For instance, when chatting with someone, we may feel as though other people are paying special attention to every move we make. When talking to someone, it's natural to feel a bit nervous, as though you're under a spotlight.

Another challenge is the fear of not being liked by others. When chatting with others, we are very concerned about other people's opinions and worry that they may not like us. This can make it difficult for us to feel comfortable during the conversation. Because we long for others' approval, we might try to put a positive spin on things even if it means suppressing our true needs. This can lead to feelings of depression and discomfort in social situations.

So, how might we go about making adjustments?

To deal with the spotlight effect, it might be helpful to consider that we are not necessarily the most important person in the room, and that others may not be paying as much attention to us as we think. It could be beneficial to let go, relax, and just be true to ourselves.

It is important to remember that the more you can be true to yourself, the more relaxed and comfortable you will feel. People who like you will like, accept, and support you no matter what you are like. However, people who don't like you may still reject and not support you, even if you behave in a way that is in line with your values. It is not always possible to win everyone's approval, but you can strive to be the person you like. As you get closer to your true self, you will likely find that you like yourself more.

If you can learn to take yourself less seriously in social situations, you may find it easier to participate, pay attention to the present, and hear the thoughts and needs of others. You may also discover that everyone is actually the same, and that we all have our insecurities. When you can connect with these common human qualities, you may also feel a sense of belonging and a sense of relief that "I'm not special" in social situations.

2. By reclaiming the right to judge yourself, you may find that you become less concerned about other people's opinions, which could help to reduce your nervousness during conversations.

It is not necessary to sacrifice ourselves to gain the approval of others, nor to seek favor with others in order to gain interpersonal relationships. It is important to remember that whether or not you are liked is not the most important thing. What is more important is that you can accept yourself, with all your strengths and weaknesses, and be comfortable with who you are.

We should try not to live our lives in a way that is driven by the desire to satisfy other people's expectations. If we are constantly seeking approval from others and caring about what they think, we may end up living someone else's life. If we place too much hope in being recognized by others, we may find ourselves living our lives according to other people's expectations, which could ultimately lead to us losing sight of who we really are. This could potentially lead to difficulties in our lives because it may not align with the life we truly want.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider taking the right to judge yourself back into your own hands. You might like to treat yourself as if you were someone else and evaluate yourself comprehensively, objectively, and truthfully. This could help you to know yourself better, know yourself well enough, and know what you want. At this time, other people's opinions might become less important.

It may be helpful to consider that when we care less about what others think and live our true selves, we may find that our interpersonal relationships are actually better. It is possible that those "bad relationships" that we have traded for by pleasing others and suppressing our own needs will no longer haunt us.

3. Consider ways to boost your self-confidence and strengthen your inner strength.

It could be said that the root of the problem lies in a lack of self-confidence. When a person lacks inner strength and feels relatively inferior, they may care a great deal about other people's opinions and find it challenging to suppress their emotions and needs in social situations. They may also feel afraid that others will not recognize and like them. If we could improve our self-confidence and gain inner strength, we might be more willing to express our true thoughts in conversations and accept other people's rejections and disapproval with greater calm.

I believe that confidence comes from strength and hard work. When we become someone we approve of through our own efforts, we will become more and more confident and feel more and more secure.

You can set yourself appropriate goals and then achieve them step by step. By achieving your goals over and over again, you may find that your abilities gradually improve, your knowledge accumulates, and your experience becomes richer and richer. You may feel more and more secure, have a greater sense of control over your life, and naturally become more and more confident.

A suitable goal is one that is moderately challenging, one that you can reach with effort. If the goal is too small, you may feel unchallenged and lose interest. If it is too large, you may feel overwhelmed and lack confidence. A moderately challenging goal is the one that motivates us the most. When we work hard to achieve these goals, we will feel a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

For instance, if your current walking level is 4,000 steps per day, you might consider setting your daily goal to 4,500-5,000, rather than less than 4,000 or as high as 10,000.

It is important to persevere when setting goals that suit you according to your abilities. Overcoming difficulties and truly experiencing your own value is a process that requires action.

I hope this is helpful. I've found that there's a simple trick you can use when chatting with someone. Simply gaze at their inner brow. This lets them know you're paying attention to them, while avoiding any discomfort of looking directly at them.

I hope this is helpful for you. Wishing you well!