I have a bit of a hot temper and I tend to be careless. How can I train myself to be more self-disciplined?

From the description of the feelings, it's clear that the questioner is aware of his carelessness and lack of concentration, and he's ready to make a change! This is the beginning of something great, and I'm excited to see what comes next.

Many people have the experience that carelessness can indeed cause a lot of trouble in work and life. Thank you for your question! It's just a good time to review. I used to be like that. As a child, I lost the money I was holding when buying something. As I grew up, I lost things all the time (like my umbrella), and I was often scolded for being careless.

As you grow up and gain worldly experience, you learn from every experience. When you have responsibilities, you have the opportunity to be mature and careful! However, if you are overly careful and cautious, it can lead to various psychological disorders (such as obsessive-compulsive disorder). You get to grasp the "degree" of carefulness and try to achieve the perfect combination of flexibility and principle. You can also enhance concentration with positive thinking!

Pay attention to it from an attitude perspective!

The great news is that psychological research shows that moderate levels of motivation and emotion provide the best context for cognitive activities. This means that we can all benefit from a moderate level of motivation and emotion when it comes to cognitive activities. Both too high and too low levels of motivation and emotion can have a negative impact on cognitive activities, so it's important to find that happy medium. Carelessness is usually related to the intensity of motivation and emotion, so it's also important to understand that both too high and too low levels of motivation and emotion can lead to carelessness.

A lack of motivation can lead to a low mood and a lack of concentration. But here's the good news! Often, the problem itself is not the problem or is not difficult. The difference is whether we can do simple things well. And strong motivation can lead to excitement and confusion, and vice versa.

This is why it's so important to pay attention to how you feel and what you're doing at work. Your attitude and attention to detail will have a huge impact on the quality of your work!

The great news is that carelessness can be changed! All you need to do is give your attention and importance to the task at hand. This is a matter of attitude. If you take everything seriously, you can avoid many careless problems.

Now for the best part!

If you're forewarned, you're forearmed!

Get ready for the day ahead by making a list of all the tasks you need to complete. This could include preparing for the next day, confirming your itinerary, managing your time, and making plans. People who are fast and efficient have their own methods and are great at thinking and planning. If you think more about everything, you'll find problems and avoid carelessness.

Time management is one of the most important skills you can learn!

Prioritizing and managing your time effectively is one of the most important skills you can develop. Management expert Covey's "Four Quadrants" method is a great way to do this. It's a simple yet powerful technique that helps you divide things into four quadrants according to their level of importance and urgency. This allows you to focus your energy on the tasks that matter most, giving you more time to achieve your goals!

If you divide your daily tasks into these four categories and complete them in order, you can prioritize important and urgent tasks, then important but not urgent tasks, or not important and urgent tasks, and finally not important and not urgent tasks. Classifying the daily tasks you need to face and controlling the time spent on different types of tasks will help you manage your time more easily. You can cross off one task when you complete it, and review, adjust, or form SOPs (which can prevent you from falling into the same mistakes) every day. If you persevere, it will be difficult to be careless. This method worked well for me at the beginning. A stupid method is often a good method, and diligence can make up for stupidity!

Make good use of tools!

"A good memory is not as good as a bad pen." Absolutely! You should definitely develop the good habit of making lists of work content or daily chores.

Today, we have so many amazing electronic tools at our fingertips! Mobile phone calendars and checklist reminder software are just a couple of examples. Make the most of them to free up space in your brain for more creative thinking. And here's another cool tip: Write down your personal habits on sticky notes and stick them around your computer to make sure you don't forget!

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It's a great habit to check, even for small things, because it'll really help you avoid any carelessness. For instance, when you're leaving a place or room or carriage, if you can always look back after getting up, it'll help you avoid dropping things. I've tried this lots of times and it really works!

It's all in the details! Details determine success or failure, and attitude determines altitude.

I really hope we can all find a way that suits us!

I'm thrilled to share my thoughts with you!

Peace of mind is the best!

It's totally normal to be a little careless sometimes, especially at work. We can't always guarantee that we'll be 100% focused on a task or on our lives.

For example, if someone else tells you to do something, or if you get distracted by a piece of news on your phone, you can become careless. But don't worry! There are ways to avoid this.

We all know that carelessness can be a distraction that takes our attention away, leaving us unable to remember what we were going to do. But don't worry! There are plenty of ways we can tackle these situations.

The good news is that it's not our own problem! It's the outside world giving us so many stimuli, and our attention span is actually limited.

We can do so much with our limited attention span! We can record the important things and keep a notebook handy to refer to at any time. Keep an eye on what you need to do, the next arrangement, and the current progress.

You might feel a little flustered and irritable, but don't worry!

In many cases, if something is not done, there will be some pressure or blame on oneself. But don't worry! We can turn this blame into an understanding. Let yourself gain some knowledge and experience from it.

Now, think about when your concentration is at its best. Then, schedule all of your tasks for when you're feeling most focused!

You can write it in the diary next to zhuozi. If you feel that you are unable to fully supervise yourself, we can invite some friends or good colleagues to complete this task with us. It's a great idea to ask the other person to supervise and remind you!

Do things one at a time and watch your productivity soar! And remember, your emotions are connected to your willpower. Think about it: do you pay more attention when you're excited or irritated, or do you concentrate more easily when you're calm?

I have a personal experience to share with you: if you can maintain a calm state of mind, it will be easier to focus your attention. So you can try it too! Whether you are sad or very excited, you must find a balance. You must be able to realize what you need to face now, and that there are some things in front of you that are very important—and you can do it!

We are going to complete it now, and we also highly recommend that you talk to someone about it. We can talk in the counseling room or with a listener to see if there are any other experiences and solutions to share with yourself. We also highly recommend that you keep a diary, and in this way record every little bit of change, so that you can record for yourself how you have changed from being flustered to becoming a calm and collected professional. When you are stressed, take breaks and do some meditation. You've got this!

ZQ?

Dear friend, I know you're confused. Let's figure it out together!

1. You can ask a psychologist for help. It shows you want to change. A good start is half the battle.

2. When you're stressed, it's normal to get distracted. You don't have to be too hard on yourself, but you can make changes.

Divide your work into small parts and focus on one thing at a time to improve concentration-6295.html" target="_blank">concentration. Start with 10 minutes of focus and 1-2 minutes of rest.

Practice slowly and build up the intensity.

3. Have you heard of the book "The Checklist Revolution"? Doctors also have mandatory checklists for surgery. Most types of surgery have standardized process checklists, which are followed by the entire industry.

Make a checklist of things to do in your industry with your colleagues. Use it to hold yourself to account and make your work more standardized and regulated.

I recommend the Schulte Square for children. It's a fun game that helps you focus. You can search for similar methods online.

Adults can learn to meditate. It's been proven that meditation can deepen the brain's sulci. Long-term training has good results. You can do it with me in the meditation section on Yi Xinli.

This is for your reference. Thanks.

I'm always flustered at work and in my daily life. I make careless mistakes and lose concentration easily.

Insightful sharing is a habit! I'm talking to myself.

The flip side of being impatient is that you are also a person who gets things done. Everything has two sides. There are bright spots in the dark, and there are dark spots in the bright.

Today, we will discuss the topics of impetuousness and carelessness.

First, let me be clear: impetuousness is a person's style of doing things, and it has little to do with personality.

The questioner's comment about "impetuous personality" is wrong. A person's impetuousness has nothing to do with their personality. How someone works is linked to their experience, knowledge, cultivation, and age.

I remember that more than ten years ago, I was also, as the questioner says, very aware of the fact that I was very "impetuous" in my work. Let me be clear: being "impetuous" in your work means that you are not steady in what you do, and your every move always gives the impression of being unsteady, immature, and unreliable.

You can't hide it. It's obvious. A young person just starting out in the workplace and a seasoned veteran, doing nothing more than standing together, is enough to tell you which is the rookie and which is the veteran.

You need to overcome your "flustered" style of work.

You can fully perceive your own "impetuous" style of work. There is a very good and effective way to overcome this problem: deliberately slow down.

When I was impatient, I would deliberately slow down, just like driving a car. As a novice driver, you've all experienced the frustration of starting the car at a red light. This is normal for a novice driver. Veteran drivers have all gone from novice to expert, and practice makes perfect.

Once you become familiar with the relevant operating procedures, everything will become as smooth and proficient as running water. You will no longer be flustered.

When you are "flustered," slow down. Deliberately slow down. When you have gained experience and become familiar with everything around you, "flustered" will become further and further away from you.

Second, being careless is not about being careless. It's about not being familiar with the task.

I once asked my son, "Why did you do so poorly on the math test this time?"

My son told me, "I was careless in this exam. I got many simple questions wrong and lost points."

I can say with confidence that there is no such thing as carelessness in an exam. Any carelessness is a clear indication that you haven't fully grasped the core concepts and are unfamiliar with the question types. Let me ask you this: why is it that you excel at calculating 1+1=you?

You can spit out the answer to 1+1 without even having to calculate it because you are so familiar with the problem. And it's correct.

Let me be clear: what we call "carelessness" is actually the same as the 1+1 example. When you are very familiar with a task, you will not be careless. If you make a mistake in a task that you are very familiar with, it is not carelessness, but a mistake at work, which is a matter of work attitude.

You need to find a way to overcome the problem of being careless.

Treat things as if they were your own. This will drastically reduce the likelihood of carelessness.

In our daily work and life, we distinguish between our own business, other people's business, and the company's business.

When we do these things that are subconsciously divided into different categories, the degree of our attention is also divided accordingly. There is no doubt that we tend to be extra careful when doing our own things, while we pay less attention to other people's things and things assigned to us by our superiors.

Even when doing things on your own, you can be careless. Let's not even get started on other people's things or the things assigned to us by our superiors. Subconscious discrimination will, over time, lead to an attitude of not being dedicated or attentive.

If you want to reduce carelessness, you have to identify the root cause. It doesn't matter whose fault it is. Either reject it or accept it. If you accept it, don't do it with emotion. This will make it easier to not do things with care. For each of us, the word "careful" is terrifying.

As long as you can recognize this and do everything with care, you will develop the good habit of doing things with care. Once you get into the habit, you will naturally make fewer mistakes.

I'll leave you with one final thought.

No personality is perfect, and no style of doing things is a standard for life. Every personality has its own different strengths and weaknesses. It's a simple fact that no matter how outstanding you are, there will always be people who dislike you. And it's equally true that no matter how ordinary you are, there will always be people who like you.

This is life. You become better and better as you raise your own expectations.

Good morning,

Is impatience a disadvantage in the workplace? Does it indicate an inability to succeed in one's role?

In both work and daily life, you may experience difficulty concentrating and fully immersing yourself in tasks. When faced with pressure, the likelihood of losing focus increases. This is a common phenomenon among individuals entering a new work environment or navigating unfamiliar areas in life.

As you are still developing your abilities and expertise in this area, you may find that you need to make repeated changes and adjustments when faced with challenges that cannot be solved quickly using your current skills. It is important to remember that rushing through this process can lead to suboptimal results. Anxiety can also impede your ability to remain patient and may eventually lead to a breakdown in your ability to handle challenges effectively.

What factors contribute to an inability to handle challenges in a calm and rational manner?

As previously stated, insufficient information and control, as well as an imbalance in emotional regulation, can lead to a lack of control in areas that are not yet fully mastered. In other words, blind spots in one's personality can result in negative emotional responses, such as feelings of discouragement and a tendency to be influenced by these emotions. This can lead to a loss of control in professional situations. As anxiety and impatience increase, the likelihood of acting in a way that hinders success due to negative emotions also increases.

For instance, a recent university graduate entering the workforce for the first time will likely experience anxiety. When combined with a lack of experience, their performance may initially be erratic, and their level of professionalism may not be as high as desired. However, with time and experience, they will become more proficient in understanding the scope of business, enhance their problem-solving abilities, and gradually develop a more professional demeanor.

Advice on improving blind spots in your personality

1. Maintain a record of work-related tasks and plan, distribute, and arrange them in advance.

We care about things because we want to do a good job and increase our satisfaction. The best way to obtain information is to constantly improve our problem-solving ability by testing and monitoring what is actually happening in the moment. Through constant review, we can identify shortcomings in our thinking, make timely improvements, and constantly improve our thinking and cognition.

2. Discard excessive interference from negative emotions and return to the present.

It is important to note that negative emotions are not entirely detrimental. They can serve as a reminder of past experiences, but if one allows them to consume too much attention and indulge in them excessively, it can hinder one's ability to perceive the current situation accurately and experience emotions such as hurt and sadness. When confronted with negative emotions, it is essential to remind oneself to "get back to the present" and recognize that the past is gone.

"Isolating emotions from one's own feelings can improve work efficiency and avoid interference from emotional fluctuations."

3. Take time to relax and recharge, allowing your mind to expand and flourish.

A flustered personality may impede productivity. When faced with a challenging situation, it's important to take a moment to decompress. This can be achieved by taking a short break, listening to calming music, and then returning to the task at hand with a renewed perspective. By doing so, you can identify solutions more effectively and work towards a resolution. It's essential to understand that work and mood influence each other. By nurturing a positive mindset, you can enhance motivation and endurance, leading to better performance.

Best of luck, and I'm confident you'll succeed!

Dear question asker,

My name is Sunny Dolphin Floater, and I'm a psychological counselor.

?‍♂️When I saw your question, I thought of myself in life. I am also someone who sometimes makes mistakes and could improve in terms of noticing things in my work and life. I can really empathize with that sense of powerlessness.

?‍♂️Our personalities are already formed, so we can only try to avoid making mistakes. In life, we have to accept our shortcomings, be clear about our weaknesses, and try to avoid making mistakes. We have to admit our shortcomings and seriously correct the mistakes we make. No matter what career you choose, you can't just sit back and relax. That's why making mistakes is normal.

It would be beneficial to choose a job that suits us better when choosing a job in life, a job where we can work with others, make mistakes, and correct them in time, so that we can try not to pass on the mistakes.

?‍♂️It is worth noting that high levels of stress and long working hours can potentially lead to physical and mental exhaustion and a loss of concentration. High-intensity work can also have an impact on our health. We are all impatient by nature, and with the added pressure of work, physical and mental health is a major concern.

?‍♂️It would be challenging to avoid work entirely. It would be beneficial to find time to rest while working.

It would be beneficial for us to ensure that we maintain our physical and mental health while also maintaining the quality of our work.

It is not an easy task to take care of your physical and mental health.

I have always tried to find ways to get enough rest and to ensure that I have a full state of mind at work.

I have a great deal of admiration and respect for the field of psychology.

Hello! After reading your description, I realized that this situation is very common and a common problem.

I totally get it. You're facing two main problems right now.

Let's talk about some personal problems you might be having with being careless.

We all have to pay attention to our concentration sometimes!

It's important to remember that you can't address these two issues in the same way.

If you're feeling impatient, you might want to try:

1. Learn to relax! This doesn't mean getting completely loose and lazy, but rather finding ways to relax while dealing with problems. For instance, if you're reading a book and you're feeling restless, unable to concentrate, or easily distracted, you might want to take a quick sip of water or stand up and relax for a bit.

2. Make an argument for yourself. If you think you might be a bit careless, then it's a great idea to stick to a process-oriented approach with a result-oriented reference.

This means that every step you take should be in line with the subject (handling of things) and your personal requirements. In the big picture, try to see the general direction of the result. And in the small picture, just take care to do each step carefully.

3. Give yourself rewards and consequences for your actions. Celebrate your successes in being attentive! For instance, you can reward yourself with a nice meal for avoiding many problems because you were attentive. If you are careless, you can also give yourself a consequence.

As you go along, you'll be focusing on every little detail, especially the connection points between the events themselves.

I've found that the best way to beat carelessness is to focus on the development process and really understand it.

Let's talk about how to cope with inattention.

1. It's so important to be compulsive! This means that at a certain stage, for a certain matter, you can only focus on it and not do anything else, even if something unexpected comes up (in non-emergency situations).

2. Try your best to avoid putting things off. You've got this! You can face any challenges head-on and take responsibility for finding solutions.

3. Be result-oriented and focus on the process. In other words, you need to compare whatever you do with your expectations. If you find that the result is not quite what you were hoping for, it's okay! We all make mistakes, and it's better to learn from them than to stress about them.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, question asker!

At work, there are so many things to do, and the pressure is high, and the working hours are long. Because the mind is in a state of high concentration for a long time, it is easy for attention to become scattered. But, you can easily fix this! Just focus your attention on the details of work and life, and you'll be able to show yourself to be calm and collected.

Rashness and carelessness have more to do with character than habits. If you don't like to make clear plans in your work and life and don't plan for the things you repeat every day, then you have the opportunity to free up your energy and attention to focus on other things! The shorter the action is in your consciousness, the more energy it will cost you, so let's make sure we're making the most of our time!

I'm really excited to share some of my thoughts on how to cultivate concentration!

Everyone has limited energy, but there's no need to worry! The key to cultivating energy and exercising concentration is to use them sensibly and let them form efficient habits. Training is all about making every molecule of energy a capable soldier, so that one molecule of energy can hold off thousands of enemies! It takes a hundred molecules of energy to accomplish a task, but using them will consume a lot of energy and take up a lot of space. They are easy to dissipate because they are in large quantities and cannot be used for a long time.

So, here's the deal: categorize the things you need to do every day, set your own standard behavior patterns, standardize your behavior standards for each type of thing, and with repeated actions day by day, strive to make the energy required to complete each type of thing decrease day by day. You'll be amazed at how much energy you'll save! And, you'll have more than enough to mobilize in normal times.

And there's more! Mental distraction is related to mood. Making everyday life and work meaningful and enjoyable can make you feel good. Then, your energy will be in an awakened state. You'll be out of the lazy state of storing energy.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, I am Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach.

I can relate to your experience. I, too, have a tendency to be a bit sloppy at times. For instance, I've been known to sew buttons on the wrong side, forget to remove the preservatives when making millet soup in the soy milk maker, or neglect to put in the washing powder when doing laundry. These are minor mistakes at work, but they're okay.

Let's take a moment to offer a warm embrace to a fellow "sloppy" person. Let's take a look at the problem and the solution together.

Everyone has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses.

Nobody is perfect, so it's important not to be too hard on yourself.

I must admit that I am somewhat of a scatterbrain myself, and my daughter is too. My colleagues have kindly explained that my daughter is the tallest, so it takes longer for information to reach her brain than it does for other children.

It's a fair assessment. In life, we often jokingly refer to good friends and tall people around us as "big idiots." It's not realistic to expect all the good things to fall on one person.

Similarly, it is important to accept ourselves as we are and to recognize that we cannot be perfect at everything.

It is important to recognize that these shortcomings have had a notable impact on your work and life. If they are not significant, there is no need to dwell on them. Having already paid the tuition, you are in a position to ensure that you do not fall into the same pit again.

2. It would be beneficial to practice maintaining awareness and correcting mistakes deliberately.

As you mentioned, you recognize your own carelessness and impetuosity, and you understand that these behaviors are often caused by stress and can lead to inattentiveness. This is an important step in becoming more aware of yourself and your actions. You can perceive yourself and others, and this perceptiveness is an essential quality of emotional intelligence. With this awareness, it is still very easy to interact well with others in interpersonal relationships.

It might be said that seeing is the beginning of change, and seeing gives you the right to choose. You have become aware of your hair frizz and the emotional experience it brings you.

And you have also identified the root cause, which is caused by stress, long hours, and distracted attention. Understanding the cause is an important first step in finding the most appropriate solution.

For instance, after working for a while, you might consider taking a short break to look into the distance or stretch, or even yawn, as these can have a very beneficial restorative effect.

You might also consider practicing meditation in your spare time, as it can be very helpful for caring for yourself, relieving stress, and regulating your body and mind. If you ever feel tired or stressed, you could try writing freely, writing whatever comes to mind, without worrying about the mess. This can be a good way to release emotions and relieve stress.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider not fighting stress, but rather "ignoring" its existence. This is because the more attention you pay to it, the more easily it can be strengthened.

I hope the above is helpful to you. I also hope that the world is a better place because of you. And I love you.

If you would like to continue the conversation, please click on "Find a Coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom of the page. I would be delighted to work with you one-on-one as we move forward.

Dear Question Asker,

The text is concise, yet its message is unmistakable.

Given the limited time frame, there are numerous potential avenues for achieving the same outcome. In this instance, I will adopt the perspective of "self-evaluation" with the aim of assisting you in identifying a solution that aligns with your needs.

What conceptual associations are evoked by the term "careless"?

It is likely that you are aware of the psychological term "internalization," which refers to the process by which our caregivers repeatedly label our "personality" during our formative years. These labels, which may include terms such as "sloppy," "stupid," "good for nothing," "weak," and "timid," are internalized by the individual as their own self-evaluation, also known as self-esteem.

When insufficient information is gathered or limited thinking is employed, the result of handling or coping with things is not necessarily optimal. Carelessness and sloppiness are highly offensive ways of accusing others. When these labels are used to evaluate others, it indicates that the result is solely related to the individual and is not contingent on the objective situation. The result is attributed to the person as if they have a problem.

If this logic is valid, then Elon Musk would never have invented reusable rockets, as they were based on repeated failures. If one replaces the world's best people repeatedly, it is unlikely that one will find someone who is meticulous and serious enough to guarantee success the first time.

From this perspective, carelessness and lack of attention to detail can be seen as a way of avoiding the discomfort of acknowledging failure. This avoidance can be achieved by attributing the problem to another individual, without having to confront the underlying frustration.

If one is able to comprehend these careless words in this manner, how might one re-examine the manner in which this label was placed upon them? Furthermore, how might one ascertain how this label became an evaluation and identification of oneself?

If one were to remove this label, how would one reframe one's past frustrations?

When we cease to respond to setbacks by ascribing blame to ourselves or others, comments such as "careless" and "sloppy" lose their significance. The only remaining option is to gather more detailed and complete information or broaden one's thinking to limit oneself more effectively and succeed.

In the event that the thought "Why am I so careless?" arises in one's mind, it would be prudent to remind oneself that one does not possess the capacity to determine the success or failure of a given endeavor.

Let us consider the potential for action at the level of the individual. We encourage you to experiment with this approach.

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you regarding a query I have regarding your recent communication. I would be grateful if you could clarify the following: Hello

From the host's description, it is evident that the host has set demanding standards for himself, is dissatisfied with his performance, and is seeking significant changes.

There appeared to be some vague sentiments of regret and self-criticism regarding past actions that could have been handled more effectively.

Firstly, it is worth questioning whether those things we once considered flaws are, in fact, flaws.

I have a colleague who is a Leo sun sign and is a little older than me. When we went on a trip together, we discussed our tendency to leave items behind when traveling. At the time, I was still questioning whether Leos are typically prone to impatience and irritability.

I am a Leo ascendant.

Through psychological counseling, I learned that perception can be altered through awareness. It is not necessarily the case that Leos tend to leave things behind.

I can choose to pay closer attention to my own needs, accept myself, and respond to situations in a way that aligns with my capabilities and preferences.

Upon returning from a recent trip, I discovered that the milk in the refrigerator had transformed into yogurt. I did not experience any guilt about this transformation.

As a result of the counseling, I received positive feedback.

My self-perception and self-acceptance have been validated by an external perspective.

The above story is an attempt to resolve your resistance to the evaluation of "impetuous" and to mitigate the distress you have experienced as a result of being over-evaluated.

2. The issue of easily becoming distracted

Stress and inattention are self-protective mechanisms.

If work can generate happiness and inspire positivity, it will generate flow. This may indicate that there are aspects of the work setup that are worth exploring.

Overly concerning oneself with external factors may detract from the enjoyment of a task. It is akin to a child doing homework while being observed by a parent who claims it is challenging to monitor the child's progress. However, the child may require the parent to "step back" from the concern itself.

It is important to help your child maintain a good sense of boundaries.

It would be beneficial to explore any early parenting or object relations patterns that may be relevant in this context.

The key point of this paragraph is that you should refrain from taking on the full responsibility and blame yourself.

My name is Qin Ling. I am a certified psychological writer and listener, and I extend my greetings to you along with my three cats at home.

When the Qinling Mountains are shrouded in clouds, my thoughts inevitably turn to my hometown. The distant mountains appear to smile as the river flows on, a constant and reassuring presence.

I am available to discuss any matters with you, regardless of the circumstances.