I have always been sensitive and suspicious, and I have a low self-esteem because I am so stupid. It is so painful.

Hello, my dear friend! I just wanted to give you a big hug from afar. Many people in the world are deeply troubled without even realizing it, but you've done an amazing job of describing the problems you're aware of, your feelings about the world around you, and your own sensitivity and vulnerability in a serious and meticulous way. This is a remarkable feat, and I want to give you a big, warm applause!

It's so common for us to feel pain or fear when something happens, but it's often not the event itself that causes it. It's our perception of it! Let me give you an example:

I'm afraid that someone will say, "You're so stupid." The words themselves are harmless, but what's really harmful is your perception of those words. If you also think that what the other person said is right, then you'll fall into self-doubt and further strengthen the perception that you are stupid.

I'm afraid that others will laugh at me in public. If you observe without judgment, laughing is an act of smiling. However, if we add our own opinions, it can get pretty overwhelming! You laughed at me, which made me lose face, and I have no friends, which made me feel uncomfortable and lonely...

When you notice these sensitive and negative thoughts coming up, take a moment to press pause and ask yourself, "What am I really afraid of?" If you're only afraid of your own opinions, you can simply ignore what other people say or label you. Just remind yourself, "I am me, a different kind of fireworks."

There's a well-known cognitive therapy in psychology that goes by the name of ABC therapy.

A is for what happened.

B: This is where our beliefs, perceptions, interpretations, and evaluations of what happened come into play.

C: emotions or results.

We often think that A causes C, but it's often B that's really to blame! If we want to change C, we can try to change our perception of B, and see what happens!

Secondly, I'd like to mention that often, our pain stems from trying to control things we can't control. We often want to control how others think of us, or how things develop in our lives.

We've got to accept that there are some things we just can't control or change, like other people's thoughts, words, and actions, and the external, objective environment. But what can we control? It's our thoughts, words, and actions, and our views.

So, take control of what you can and adapt to what you can't. You'll find the world becomes a lot simpler!

You might also like to read the following lovely prayer. When your emotions get all stirred up, this passage can really help you to calm down.

I pray that God will give me a calm heart to accept the things I cannot change.

Give me the courage to do what I can change, please.

I would really love to have the wisdom to distinguish between the two.

Finally, I'd like to chat about something really important: inferiority complex. Why inferiority complex? Well, it's because we all have our own shortcomings and imperfections. It's so important to remember that it shouldn't be a negative energy that makes people sad and discouraged. Instead, it should be a positive energy that inspires us to surpass ourselves and pursue perfection.

Everyone is a unique being. We all have our strong points, and we also have our weak sides. Find your strengths, then quietly work on them so that you become stronger and stronger. One day, you'll be strong enough to define yourself and not care about other people's labels. You'll be strong enough to walk your own path with confidence, not caring about any stares, and let other people talk.

I really hope my answer helps you. I wish you all the best and that everything gets better and better for you.