I have always been treated unfairly, how can I make others treat me well?
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
I used to be treated unfairly, but now my self-esteem is higher, and I want others to treat me well. What should I do?
When I was young, I was always treated badly by others. Others always took things from me, always over-giving without getting anything in return. When I was being raised by my parents, they were never able to take good care of my needs. They always did what they thought was "good for me" rather than actually being good to me. They were always self-righteous about being good to me, but it always harmed me. As I grew up, I also always put other people's needs before my own. This is what my mother taught me, and it resulted in a repeated lowering of my self-esteem level. Now that my self-esteem level is high, I want others to treat me well. My boss at work speaks to me in a bad tone, looking down on me. He treats others normally, but treats me like I'm not a human being. Even strangers, when they send me packages, they have to come and get them from me. I'm always being treated unfairly.
I now have a higher self-esteem and want to be treated well by others. How can I achieve this?
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I understand that your past experiences have shaped how you perceive treatment from others. To change how people treat you, start by setting clear boundaries and expressing your needs openly. When someone disrespects you, calmly but firmly communicate how their actions make you feel and what you expect instead. Building healthy relationships with those who respect your worth can also reinforce your selfesteem.
It's important to recognize the value you bring to situations and interactions. With higher selfesteem comes the responsibility to stand up for yourself. Practice assertiveness in daily conversations, making sure to voice your thoughts and feelings without aggression. Surround yourself with positive influences and people who uplift you. Over time, this will signal to others the level of respect you deserve.
Now that you've built up your selfesteem, it's crucial to maintain a mindset that values your own wellbeing equally with others'. Begin implementing small acts of selfcare and prioritize your needs. When faced with disrespect, remind yourself of your worth and respond in a way that protects your dignity. Changing old patterns takes time, but every step towards selfrespect makes a difference.
To ensure you're treated well, focus on cultivating a personal environment where respect is mutual. Start by changing your response to mistreatment; when your boss speaks poorly, address it professionally by asking for respect and understanding. For strangers or service providers, politely insist on standard courteous treatment. Your increased selfesteem should empower you to advocate for respectful interactions in all areas of life.