I have had a crush on a girl since the beginning of junior high school, almost eight years ago, but I am afraid to confess my feelings.

Good morning, I am Yan Shiqi, and I am grateful for the chance to address your questions.

It seems that the questioner is uncertain about whether to confess his feelings for the girl he has had a crush on for eight years or to suppress them due to the reality of the situation.

It might be helpful for the original poster to take some time to reflect on their own feelings. What are the qualities you appreciate about her? And in reality, do the characteristics you like really exist?

You might also consider using this as an opportunity to get to know the girl better and to gain a deeper understanding of your own heart.

It might be the case that, despite the eight-year time span, the OP may not be fully aware of the girl's personality and preferences.

If you have the chance to get to know her better and you still like her a lot, and when an opportunity presents itself and you are willing to spend the rest of your life with her, you might want to consider it.

You may wish to consider confessing your feelings, as this could help to ensure that a relationship which seems firm does not turn into regret.

When you are young, there is always the possibility that you might make a mistake. Similarly, there is a chance that you might not be able to maintain a close friendship. However, given that you are not particularly close, the loss might not be significant.

If you have strengthened your resolve to be with her through your own understanding of her and your pursuit of her, even if she doesn't accept you for the time being, you may still have an opportunity to make a last-minute effort, which could be a positive way to conclude your youth.

It would be unfortunate to miss out on something that could be beneficial.

Of course, if you find out about her in the process and discover that your feelings are not as strong as you thought, there is no longer any repression to speak of. At this point, this obsessive secret love is just the youthful yearning for a beautiful love.

Perhaps it would be best not to dwell on the situation. Instead, it might be helpful to take action to get to know her better, see how you really feel, and then make your next move.

I would gently encourage you, young man, to...

I hope this provides some helpful insight.

Good morning, my name is Huang Xiaolu.

It could be said that an unrequited love that lasts for eight years is still preferable to a beautiful but immature first love.

After eight years of suppression, you are now in college, not in the same school, and probably not even in the same city. It seems that the distance between you is getting wider and wider. I wonder if I might ask why, at this time, you have repeatedly dreamed about her and want to change the relationship between you and her? What makes you feel the need to make a change?

It might be helpful to consider why, after suppressing your feelings for so long, you are now asking what to do. Your motivation in doing so is very important and will help determine how courageous you are to confess your feelings.

It's worth noting that since graduating from junior high school, all the communication you've had with this girl has been on social media platforms, and it's also been in your imagination. This makes it difficult to ascertain whether she feels anything for you. You just feel that you know her. The girl you've always liked in your heart, apart from aspects such as being special, good-looking, and having good grades that you can see, is more of an imagined entity.

After all this time, it's important to consider what you want for yourself and for her. If you're in a relationship with someone you like, it's natural to want to share your feelings. Without knowing how they feel about you, it can be difficult to feel happy in the relationship. It can feel like a tug-of-war, with a question hanging over you every day: should I tell them how I feel?

It might be helpful to remember that, no matter what the outcome of the confession is, it could be the most effective way to end this kind of entanglement and to stop the silence in time.

1. Perhaps it would be helpful to take a moment to reflect on the emotional investment you have made over the past eight years. It is possible to keep the person you have been in love with for eight years. I believe that love is a personal experience, and that expressing it is also an account of this relationship.

2. Of course, there is nothing wrong with not declaring your love. If you like the other person, it is your decision. If you feel that you are not worthy of her, you can also devote yourself to your studies and work, and strive to become an outstanding person. This will allow you to stand in front of her with confidence and say what you like, no matter what she is doing at that time. Whether you like her or not, it is up to you.

Perhaps it would be best not to dwell on it too much. Instead, just live your life. Whatever you choose to do, it is important to live your life well and to become the happy person you are. It is likely that the person you like will come to you in time.

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It is evident that you have been in a romantic relationship with a female companion for approximately eight years, from the commencement of your freshman year to your sophomore year. However, you are reluctant to declare your feelings. The underlying cause of this reluctance is your inferiority complex, stemming from the perception that her educational institution is superior to yours. This internal conflict is the source of your anxiety. I empathize with your situation.

In his work, the psychologist Carl Jung posited that the subconscious mind exerts control over one's actions and experiences, influencing one's perception of fate. Dreams, in particular, offer insight into the subconscious realm, manifesting emotions and feelings that may otherwise remain unconscious. The woman in a dream may represent an external figure, or she may symbolize an aspect of the dreamer's own identity. When analyzing the characteristics of a particular individual, it is crucial to consider whether these traits evoke memories of past experiences, emotions, or attachments. These associations may have shaped the dreamer's attraction to the person in question.

It is evident that you have had a secret crush on the other person for eight years and have maintained contact with them throughout this period. However, you are reluctant to confess your feelings. Could there be a parallel between the reasons you have not confessed over these eight years and the reasons for not attending a 985 university? It would be beneficial to reflect on the various reasons you have considered for not confessing. Will you continue to do so in the future?

The subject is experiencing internal conflict. The desire to confess and receive love is present, yet the fear of potential negative consequences if the confession is unsuccessful is also evident. This is a common avoidance conflict.

It is recommended that the questioner record the potential outcomes of either confessing or withholding this information.

In the event of a confession of love, the other person may reject the confession, leading to concerns that the friendship cannot be maintained.

Secondly, if one confesses their love and is accepted, the couple may still experience feelings of unworthiness in the future.

Thirdly, there is the option of not declaring one's feelings, of continuing to have a secret crush for nine years, and of allowing the feeling of unworthiness to consume one while simultaneously desiring to pursue one's own love.

Indeed, in adulthood, each decision entails a corresponding cost. Could being aloof be a defensive strategy employed to safeguard one's vulnerable self and perceived powerlessness? What motivates the reluctance to fully reveal one's authentic self?

Does maintaining a distance from others genuinely result in positive interactions?

It is hoped that the questioner will gain a deeper understanding of themselves and accept the consequences of their choices. The individual in question is, in fact, highly intelligent and aware of the options available to them. However, they are hindered by a fear of the potential consequences of failure, which in turn causes them to experience anxiety and maintain the status quo of their friendships. To a certain extent, this is a self-imposed limitation. The individual is reluctant to move forward and face the possibility of failure, which ultimately prevents them from experiencing personal growth and development.

It is my sincere hope that you will soon be able to overcome your difficulties and cultivate a sense of well-being. Best wishes for success.