I have just graduated. How do I stop placing my emotional hopes in others?

The moon goes through its natural cycles of waxing and waning, just like we all do. It's only natural to feel a little blue when we're facing a separation.

Ah, graduation season. It's always a bittersweet time, isn't it? So many happy memories, and a little bit of sadness, too.

We all know that every party has to end at some point. When it's time to say goodbye, it's important to take care of your emotions. Here are a couple of tips to help you through it:

1. Take a little break and think back to how you handled graduating from primary school and junior high school. Remember how you started new relationships with classmates and embraced a new school life. Try to distract yourself from the emotions of parting in the present.

It's totally up to you! You could go out with friends and have a good time to release your emotions, or you could do something you like to divert your attention.

2. Think of the present as a new starting point, a new journey about to begin. What preparations will you make? Just because your current friends can run together with you, it doesn't mean that you are parting. The good news is that in this era of such a well-developed network, you can meet online anytime, even if you are on the ends of the earth!

If you're heading in the same direction or have something in common, you can always run a little way together. For the next leg of the journey, you can continue with like-minded friends from now, or you can find new friends.

If you have to say goodbye to a friend, why not have a little farewell ceremony and get together one last time to let all your emotions out? It's a great way to let go and make space for new energy. And don't forget to do all those things you've been meaning to do but never got round to!

I know it can be tough, but try to immerse yourself in a new life.

I really hope these tips are helpful for you!

Hello, questioner!

"I place a lot of emotional weight on other people, but I don't know how to reduce this. Because of this, I'm increasingly afraid to get close to others, because I'm afraid of losing them, so I don't dare to move forward. This is a kind of sickness, but I don't know how to solve it. Let's sort it out together and figure it out.

Friends rely on each other and miss each other when they are apart, and that's totally normal! We can accept our feelings and actions, and it's all part of the journey.

For example, I want to send them a WeChat message and tell them everything! The best thing about WeChat Moments is that it lets us share our thoughts and feelings with others in real time. It's also a great way to show the world who we are and let others get to know us!

So, in this regard, we can fully accept ourselves without dwelling on or blaming ourselves. Especially for people with bipolar disorder, using reasonable methods to actively release emotions in the heart is very beneficial for stabilizing the mood — and it's an amazing feeling when you finally let go of all that negative energy!

At different stages of life, we meet different people and make different friends. And each of these friends adds something special to our lives! The value of life lies in the anticipation of the future. When we part with old friends and enter the next stage of life, we can meet new friends in new environments. Between the old and the new, our life experiences and insights will become more and more rich and colorful!

When we look at the future with a positive outlook and have high hopes for it, we'll never be afraid of losing! In the course of our interactions with friends, the good qualities they convey to us, the help or inspiration they give us, will remain in our hearts forever and influence the way we view the world!

The best part is, none of these things can be lost through loss!

So, go ahead and let go of your fear of losing, enjoy every day, and treat everyone around you kindly! Accepting life is gradually becoming perfect amidst constant change.

When we're feeling afraid of losing and holding back from interacting with others, it's important to be aware of our emotions and thoughts. We can say to ourselves, "Change – let go of the imagination in your mind, and you can safely reach out to others." Do whatever you want to do, and your successful experiences will slowly change your perceptions and emotions.

And there's more! We can also record our daily lives by writing. This is also a self-healing process.

Another great thing you can do is stick to a sport you love! Exercise is also an amazing way to regulate your emotions.

I really hope this helps! Best regards!

Good morning. Thank you for your question. My name is Mo Mo.

I understand your predicament. You have a glimmer of warmth, as you still believe in your friends. Your reliance on friends demonstrates your value of relationships and emotional support. You desire independence and freedom from relationships. Your vulnerability may be due to bipolar disorder, necessitating the support of others. This is a positive aspect, as emotional support is beneficial. However, relying on friends and classmates excessively may impact their lives. Additionally, we have graduated from high school and are adults, needing to establish our own spiritual world and independence. This is also the issue with you.

I believe I have a few ideas that could be useful for you to consider.

1. Attempt to perform tasks independently.

It is possible to attempt to complete certain tasks independently, whether in life, study, or work. One may, for instance, go for a walk alone, go shopping alone for the groceries one needs, or visit a slightly distant place alone. Reading and listening to music are other activities that can be done alone. However, it is also important to have the company of friends on occasion. One may, for example, reduce the frequency and content of messages with friends and just contact them occasionally. It is also beneficial to spend more time doing one's own things, find things one likes, and try to do them independently, starting with small tasks and things one is sure one can handle, and slowly, independently, completing more significant tasks. This will help one's confidence to grow.

2. Family members are available to provide support when needed.

Should we experience a recurrence of depressive or irritable episodes, we can request the support of our parents for a limited period, after which we can resume our independent functioning. I believe that with the right adjustments, we can improve our situation gradually. It is important to recognise that we may experience periods of sadness, and that seeking the support of our family is an effective strategy. At the same time, we can also gradually become more independent, while continuing to address our emotional challenges. We can learn from the members of Yixinli, listen to the FM, and read articles. This is a form of counselling and healing. Gradually, by learning about psychology, we can also begin to adjust our inner world. When our inner world is stable, we will feel better, or even get better.

3. It is beneficial to maintain relationships. They should not be viewed as a burden.

Humans are social creatures. We all require social interaction. It is therefore normal and natural that we seek social interaction when we are happy or sad. As long as we maintain a healthy work-life balance, it is acceptable to occasionally meet up with friends or engage in social activities. We can assist our friends with small tasks and we can also request assistance from friends with simple tasks. In this way, we can experience the joy of giving and receiving. Bipolar disorder is not a debilitating condition. It is also a gift from our experiences and trials. As long as we strive to live our lives to the fullest, everything can improve. We should view it as an opportunity to enhance our lives, as another part of ourselves, and embrace it as part of our journey. If we experience depressive or sad episodes again, we should discuss them with our family members or seek professional help. We are on the path to recovery.

Ultimately, bipolar disorder is not a significant issue. By maintaining a positive outlook and actively managing our mental state, we can lead a fulfilling and contented life. I extend my best wishes to you and wish you well in all your endeavors.

Hello. You are depression/growing-up-as-a-left-behind-child-unable-to-communicate-normally-with-my-parents-i-dont-want-to-go-back-during-holidays-1646.html" target="_blank">growing up and have conflicts and contradictions within, which cause distress. You are afraid of losing relationships and connections with others. You hope to connect with others, but you are very conflicted. This causes anxiety and depression. I understand you.

You have been diagnosed with depression and bipolar disorder. These require long-term treatment. Medication and psychological treatment will help your recovery. Learn to do breathing and relaxation exercises and positive meditation in your spare time.

Second, after graduating from junior high school, you may have felt that you needed to connect with others to feel complete. You may have felt that you needed to interact with others to feel like you existed.

If you feel alone, you feel uncomfortable, you can't stand the feeling of loneliness, you don't know yourself.

Third, you can feel afraid of losing something. What will happen if you lose it? What feelings do you have when you are alone? Do you have similar feelings from your early years? What are your interests and hobbies? What makes you feel good?

Take action and do the things you like. This will help you find meaning and enrich your life. Experience different things to find out what you want and who you want to be. Get to know yourself, others, and the world.

Fourth, I can give you ideas and methods. For example, if you write about your past, write an autobiography. Write for some time every day, between 5 and 30 minutes. Just write whatever comes to mind. Don't think too much. In an environment where you won't be disturbed, write down what you really want to express. After you finish writing, read it out loud to yourself.

Do this for a while and I'm sure it will help. I hope you can get over your problems and start again. I've got a book called Rebuilding the Self by Frank C. Cadell. It's very good. Good luck.

Hello! It's totally normal to feel a little anxious after graduating from high school. It seems like you're feeling a bit worried about leaving your close friends behind. It can be tough to know why you're feeling this way, but it's okay to feel this way. You're not alone!

Give yourself a big hug! You're doing great!

I'm wondering if you've been diagnosed with depression or bipolar disorder by a mental health professional?

I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling with depression and bipolar disorder. Have you had the chance to chat with a psychiatrist about your diagnosis? Are you still undergoing treatment?

Or is it your own judgment based on your situation? First, if it is a diagnosis, it should be one of the two. Second, based on your description, there seems to be no functional changes in your life. You have emotions such as sadness, depression, and so on. So, I suggest that if you are bothered by these emotions for more than a week and there is no improvement, you should go to a professional psychiatrist for a diagnosis. Maybe you will find that you are actually very safe and it is not as serious as you think. This result may give you some peace of mind!

☘️☘️ Re-establishing friendships can bring on a little "separation anxiety," but it's nothing to worry about!

You said you had a similar experience when you graduated from junior high school, so it seems that you are a child who values friendship. I'm sure you'll be just fine! So, are the friends you cared about at the time, who made you feel some "separation anxiety," still in close contact with you after three years of high school?

It's totally normal to feel a little sad when some friends drift away. But it's also okay to feel happy for them and excited for your own new friends!

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help. Think about these questions on your own. You might realize that this fear of losing is just a phase. After all, you've just parted ways after going through the college entrance exam together. So, it's not the end of the world. You'll make new friends as you grow up. Just accept your current emotions and don't make them worse.

It's great that you're keeping in touch! There's so much more to look forward to.

It's totally normal to want to contact your friends on WeChat about everything! There's nothing wrong with this approach. So, why hold back and try to "reduce" it? Keeping in touch with friends is a normal form of social interaction. It seems like you're focusing all your energy on the question of whether you're "afraid of losing" something, which might be making you feel a bit tense.

It's totally reasonable to want to contact someone if you want to, and to meet if it's convenient. Of course, if it's inconvenient for friends, then find another time. Don't beat yourself up over it! We all make mistakes, and it's important to respect the truth and not focus on bad associations.

There are so many fun things you can do after a busy high school year! You can go swimming, work out, travel, meet new people, join activities or clubs that interest you, plan a special party for your family, and so much more. These things can help you focus on the positive aspects of the present. Why not give them a try?

Let's light up your future! It's not scary, I promise!

Why be afraid to move forward? Take a moment to think back on your journey. What have you lost and what have you gained?

This is what makes life fulfilling. People come and go at every stop on the train of life, and each stop is full of mixed emotions. This is the truth of life. Can you accept this truth? If you do, you will naturally move forward. In fact, you have already gone from junior high school to high school, and you are starting over again. You are walking on this road, which may be bumpy, but it is also very safe!

And remember, you're not alone on this journey! Stay in touch with your parents, relatives, and friends. They're there for you!

The world and I love you, and we hope you love the world and yourself too!

Let's send some love to the OP from afar!

Let's take a moment to understand the questioner's description.

It's totally normal to feel a bit down after graduating from high school. You might even feel like you don't like the world or have low moods (I've been there too, with bipolar depression). It's also pretty common to feel this way after graduating from junior high school. You might find yourself expecting a lot from other people, being a bit afraid of getting close to them, afraid of losing them, and feeling like you can't move forward.

Hello, OP!

It's important to remember that each of us will meet many people in our lives, but only a very small number of them will be with us forever. What we can be sure of is that the only one who will always be with you is yourself.

Loneliness is our eternal companion. Learning to enjoy loneliness and to be independent may be what the iron master is facing right now.

We'll keep making new friends and, sadly, we'll lose touch with some people, which is totally normal. But it doesn't mean we're disconnected. We're just far away from each other.

We can connect with each other in so many ways! And we'll all experience our own wonderful lives, and then come back to share them with your friends.

It's totally normal to like the feeling of being with good friends too much! We all do it. But it's important to remember that everyone in our world is an independent individual. We keep changing circles and will meet all kinds of people, but our nature remains the same. Your emotions will never fade.

Sometimes friendships last forever, and it's not just because you say so. It's because both of you work together to maintain them.