I have no motivation for doing anything and feel extremely useless. What should I do?

Hello, my dear child. I truly hope my answer can help you in some way.

First of all, it's really important to understand the difference between bipolar disorder, depression, and a depressed mood. They're not the same thing! So, it's a good idea to go to the hospital for a professional diagnosis, assessment, and evaluation.

If it's really bipolar disorder or depression, it can be tough to recover on our own. That's why it's so important to seek professional psychological treatment, follow the doctor's advice, take medication, and get psychological counseling. With the right support, you can get through this and come out stronger on the other side.

And if it is depression, we can absolutely adjust ourselves.

I'm going to focus on how we can deal with those depressive emotions.

We can bring back our inner spark just by embracing the "depressive moods" in our daily lives.

It's also a great time to get to know yourself when you're feeling down. You can learn to be friends with your sad feelings by

It's so important to be aware of the core reason for your depressed mood.

When those sad feelings come up, take a moment to think about why you're feeling that way. What might be missing in your life that could be making you feel this way?

If you keep an eye on your feelings and think about why you're feeling down, you'll probably find the reason why. Once you know what's making you feel low, you can start to work on it. This will help you feel better!

For example, I used to get pretty frustrated when other people's behavior didn't meet my expectations. I expected my mother-in-law not to control me, my husband to be with me all the time, and my children to be proactive in learning...

When they don't meet my standards, I feel bad. I later realized that I was using my standards to judge other people, and when they didn't meet my standards, I felt uncomfortable.

When I let go of my own standards, accept each of them, and don't force them to be the way I want them to be, my emotions become much more stable. It's a wonderful feeling!

But here's the thing: everyone feels emotions differently because everyone's inner needs are different. In fact, the reason why we feel emotions is because our inner needs have not been met.

One of my dear friends often feels lost and alone due to the disapproval and non-acceptance of others. It's so sad to see him struggling with depression. I truly believe that the root cause of his sadness is actually his lack of self-acceptance and acceptance.

There's a law in psychology that I think we can all relate to: when we're missing something inside, it's only natural to look for it outside.

It's totally normal to want other people's approval and recognition. But if we're always looking outside of ourselves for these things, we might find that others are unpredictable and that not everyone will always affirm and recognize us. And we can't control other people's actions and thoughts, which can sometimes make us feel like we're not being recognized or accepted. It's a vicious cycle!

It's so important to look within, learn to affirm and accept ourselves, accept our imperfections, and embrace the whole of ourselves.

My friend was going through a rough patch. He felt lost and alone, like he didn't fit in with the world around him. But then, something amazing happened. He learned to affirm and accept himself. And it changed everything! His heart became more and more at peace, and he no longer felt a great sense of loss due to all kinds of external evaluations. He said, "After I accepted and recognized myself enough, I discovered that my world really changed a lot. I don't mind other people's negativity so much anymore, because I know what kind of person I am. He only rejects me because I don't meet his evaluation standards. Of course I will be happy with other people's affirmation, but I know that they only affirm me because I meet their evaluation standards..."

It's so true that our perceptions, emotions, and behaviors are all connected. They're like gears that fit perfectly together. As long as one of them moves, the others will definitely follow suit. So, when we can identify the root causes of our depression and then adjust our perceptions and behaviors accordingly, it can really help to lift that depressed mood.

It's so important to accept all of your emotions, my friend.

It's so important to remember that when we get along with our emotions, whether they're good or bad, we're actually getting along with ourselves. Emotions are part of who we are, and it's so helpful to learn to accept them wholeheartedly.

You don't have to worry about dealing with bad emotions. Just take it with you to get things done! Emotions aren't good or bad. They're actually useful! They help us understand ourselves and feel the world around us.

It's so important to cultivate a positive view of emotions! This means not judging any emotion that arises and not determining whether each emotion is good or bad.

It's only natural to want to follow and cling to the good emotions, like happiness and joy. We all do it! But it's also important to recognize that avoiding and resisting the bad emotions, like depression and irritability, can be just as damaging.

It's so important to remember that clinging to the good and resisting the bad both sap your energy and trigger the creation of more emotional turmoil and conflict. This can throw you into a cycle of emotional turmoil, so it's good to be aware of it!

When you maintain mindfulness and don't categorize your emotions as good or bad, you'll find that inner conflict and struggle will naturally reduce.

This way, you can stay calm and relaxed, and your emotions won't have as much power over you.

And that's when you'll really feel in control of your emotions. This goes for all our other emotions too, not just the ones that make us feel down.

Why not do your favorite sport?

I'm so happy to tell you all about the wonderful benefits of physical exercise, especially aerobic activity! It's a fantastic way to regulate your mood when you're feeling down.

Sports are a great way to distract ourselves and release dopamine in our bodies, which can help improve our mood. Just be sure to choose sports you love as much as possible. Don't let sports become a source of stress for you. Instead, enjoy the process itself, which is more conducive to our emotional adjustment.

Some studies have shown that aerobic exercise can be a great way to beat depression. It's as effective as taking some of the most powerful psychotropic drugs! Aerobic exercise includes lots of fun activities like jogging, brisk walking, aerobics, cycling, hiking, playing shuttlecock, playing badminton, and more.

If you don't usually like sports, no problem! You can choose jogging or brisk walking. While you're exercising, you can also take a look at the flowers and plants, which can cheer us up too!

It's important to remember that the best amount of time to exercise is between 20 and 60 minutes. Anything less than 20 minutes or more than 60 minutes isn't as beneficial. As a general rule of thumb, three to four times a week for 30 minutes each time is the perfect amount of exercise.

When we do the sports we love, we can relax our body and mind while also getting better and better at them. In sports, we feel the strength of our bodies and the joy of our moods. Through regular exercise, we can help ourselves feel great again and get rid of those sad, blue feelings.

Healing through writing to release those sad, blue emotions

When you're feeling down, writing therapy is a great way to let it all out. You don't have to worry about whether your handwriting is neat or whether what you're writing makes sense. Just let it flow!

Writing therapy is all about using writing to help you heal. It's a way of expressing yourself that's focused on your inner thoughts and feelings. It's different from other types of writing, like novels or plays, which are more outward-focused.

Psychoanalytic theory shows us that the heart of writing lies in the subconscious, the deepest part of our minds. So, expressive writing is a wonderful way to bring the subconscious into our conscious awareness.

So, writing is a wonderful way to heal.

The wonderful thing about writing is that it allows us to feel our deep emotions, express our deep needs, contemplate our deep understandings, and elevate our deep minds.

When we write, we don't have to worry about making everything perfect or worrying about how it all fits together. This is just a way for us to learn to communicate with ourselves and to listen to our inner needs and fears...

When we truthfully record what is happening in the present moment and truthfully record our inner feelings without any concealment, we are really putting our absolute trust in life.

When you're writing, it's so important to open your heart and mind. Let your words faithfully record what's happening in front of you, and express your heart directly.

As mentioned in "Writing for the Soul," if you've been writing for three months and still feel like your writing is rubbish, it might be because you've been holding on to some negative feelings for a while. When we write them out, we can start to face those feelings and start to feel better.

If you stop avoiding those inner voices in your head, you'll find you're not afraid of other people's judgments.

This is the idea behind writing therapy: it's not about learning to write beautifully. It's about exploring yourself through writing, and that's a beautiful thing! It helps you to reveal a beautiful soul and dispel the darkness within.

Go ahead, cry as much as you want.

It's a common misconception that crying is a sign of weakness. In fact, it's a great way to release emotions!

Tears are amazing! They cleanse the mind and body, and they help remove stress hormones and toxins. That's why it's so good to cry. The wonderful scientists at the Ramsey Medical Center in St. Paul, Minnesota, USA, have discovered that tears are like other excretory processes (like breathing out, sweating, and urinating). They help relax the mind while removing toxins from the body.

Crying is a great way to release stress! Tears have been proven to be the most effective "cure" for mental burdens. Did you know that men cry 1/5 as often as women? It's true! Men often suppress their emotions and don't cry when they should. This could be why women are less likely than men to suffer from infarction and stroke induced by nervous tension. And guess what? Women usually live longer than men!

It's okay to cry when we're feeling wronged or tormented by grief. It's a great way to let go of the pain in our hearts and improve our mood!

So, when you feel like you just can't take it anymore and you're ready to cry, don't hold it in! Let it all out! If you're feeling shy, you can always find a cozy spot in your room or outside on your balcony.

I know it can be tough, but I promise you'll feel so much better after you cry.

It's so important to find the right person to talk to.

Psychologists believe that sharing our thoughts and feelings with those we trust can help us stay mentally healthy. When we talk to our loved ones about the challenges we're facing and how we're feeling, it can really help us feel better.

Of course, it's really important that the person you choose to confide in is someone you feel comfortable with. They should be someone who can give you support and encouragement, and who is positive, optimistic, and wise.

When we're feeling down, it's so helpful to find someone we trust and who understands us. We can tell them our thoughts and feelings, share our worries, and feel their support, care, understanding, and presence for us. At the same time, we can also listen to their opinions and let them answer your questions and solve your problems.

If you're not comfortable sharing your thoughts with someone close to you, you can also talk to a tree or the sea. They'll still listen to you and help you feel better!

Go into nature!

We humans come from nature and are part of nature. When we go into nature, we naturally feel relaxed and happy. It's as simple as that!

Whenever you have a moment, why not go for a lovely walk in nature? You could even go on a little trip to somewhere a little further away and see the natural wonders that have always existed. Breathe in the fresh air, feel the beauty of nature, and feel the ordinariness and greatness of life. You could also go to a nearby grove and sit there, go for a walk by a stream full of birdsong and flowers, climb a hill full of all kinds of flowers...

When we feel connected to nature, when we feel like we're just a part of it, when we feel how ordinary and yet extraordinary we are, how small we are but unique, you'll find that being in nature and with nature will make you feel relaxed. Your mind will soak up the power from nature and feel renewed!

Do the things you love!

When we're feeling down, it's so important to do the things we love and take part in activities that interest us. This can help our bodies produce more dopamine, which is great for lifting our mood!

For example, you can watch your favorite sports game or inspirational movie (just a heads-up, watching movies should not take too long. Try to keep it under two hours, as too long will make you feel even more down). You can also read your favorite books to enrich your spiritual world. When we read books that make us feel comfortable, we can heal ourselves. Through conversations with the books, we will also gain enlightenment and peace in our hearts, and know how to act. You can also listen to your favorite music; or cook a dish you are good at; or take your beloved pet for a walk...

In short, we just need to make sure we're enriching our lives, keeping ourselves busy, and doing the things we like. You'll find that those depressive moods will slowly dissipate.

And finally,

You have so much potential! When you realize that you're not living your best life, it's time to start paying attention and using this awareness to discover your amazing self. By exploring your abundant self, you can start creating a brighter future for yourself.

Every day, greet your life with an open mind and heart. Every day, embrace it as an exciting adventure. Every day, be open to trying new things. Use this wonderful experimentation and exploration to lead your life towards self-improvement, experience the many flavors of life, and you will truly be able to bloom!

At this time, you'll see that the sad mood in your daily life isn't all there is. It's just a small part of your rich and colorful life, and it won't have too much of an impact on you.

Don't let setbacks, difficulties, or losses get you down. Stay positive and keep exploring!

I'm sending you all my love and best wishes! ?

Hello!

After reading your description, I want to give you a big hug!

The wonderful thing about bipolar disorder is that it can be divided into three distinct categories: depressive episodes, manic episodes, and mixed episodes.

1. Depressive episode: a persistent low mood.

2. Manic episodes

Elevated mood: feeling on top of the world, radiating joy all day, and brimming with energy!

You're brimming with energy and have a seemingly endless array of interests and activities. You're always on the go, eager to take on new challenges and embrace new experiences.

When you're in a high mood, you can stay up all night and have a lot of energy! This period may be accompanied by an increase in personal activities, an increase in speech, and difficulty concentrating. But after a period of time, you gradually become depressed again. This is a very difficult experience to go through over and over again. I once had a real-life case during a supervision session.

Then, since the diagnosis of bipolar disorder was made in a top-tier hospital, you should definitely follow the doctor's advice. In addition, the original poster said that the organic nature has not yet been checked, so you should hurry up and get it checked as well. After ruling it out, if the doctor says that medication is needed, then taking medication in combination with psychological counseling may be a great idea. Simple psychological counseling alone should not be enough. In clinical practice, the treatment of bipolar disorder mainly focuses on medication, so it's important to get the right advice.

Exciting new studies in the United States have revealed that the factors that trigger bipolar disorder are the superposition and interaction of multiple factors, which influence each other. This is great news because it means that we can now identify the factors that play a role in bipolar disorder. These include personality traits, genetic factors, emergency events, biochemical factors, and more.

The fantastic news is that the cure for bipolar disorder is to cultivate the mind and strengthen the foundation!

In psychotherapy for bipolar disorder, maintaining psychological balance is the key. Everyone knows the word "balance," and now you can learn how to help yourself achieve it!

Cultivating mindfulness is a wonderful journey that naturally requires us to be calm, learn to forgive ourselves and others, and practice slowly. It is best to do so under the guidance of a professional, who can help you on your way!

Now for the fun part! Here are the steps for practicing mindfulness:

1. Find a cozy, quiet spot where you won't be disturbed.

2. Get comfortable by sitting cross-legged with your back straight and gently close your eyes.

3. Observe your breathing with joy and truth, focusing on the breathing in and out through the nostrils. Just observe the inhalation and exhalation through the nostrils. Maintain an "equal mind," which means "not judging, not analyzing, just letting the thoughts and ideas in your head come and go."

4. You'll get the most out of your practice in about 15 minutes, and you can gradually increase the time as you see fit!

It's similar to our relaxation therapy, which is to focus on yourself, the here and now, your feelings, and your breathing. The best part is, you don't have to evaluate your mind!

2. Stick with the exercise that works for you!

When you're feeling down, try a new outlook! Look for the bright side and watch your mood lift. Plus, you can do some simple breathing exercises to relax and feel great!

You can also try out some awesome aerobic exercises like yoga to help regulate your body and mind and reduce depression.

The best way to deal with a manic episode is to delay gratification! When you're manic, you've got so many ideas and you want to implement them all immediately. At this time, you should learn to stop for a while and play some sports! Have fun playing ball or running to exhaust that excess energy.

In addition, be aware of your tendency towards perfectionism. Many people don't allow themselves to have even the slightest problem, either physically or mentally. We can learn to live with our symptoms and not always regard them as the enemy. If you completely fall into this negative mood when symptoms set in, it is indeed very difficult to accept when symptoms come. But you can do it!

This will make you feel better!

Third, it's time to get excited about maintaining a regular life and sleep schedule and strengthening your social support system!

A regular daily routine is an important foundation for maintaining physical and mental health. And it's an exciting journey to learn to develop and maintain social support! You can start by maintaining good relationships with family and friends, and communicating more often.

It's important to know that a strong social support system can help you overcome the distress of illness. For bipolar patients in particular, the understanding and support of family and friends is especially important — and you can get it!

So, in your daily life, it's a great idea to let the people around you know a little about this disease. That way, they can have a positive expectation of your future behavior!

And finally, bipolar disorder is not the end of the road! It's actually the starting point for you to begin adjusting and getting your life back on track. So, make sure you strengthen your self-management skills and follow your doctor's advice to prevent a relapse. And remember, you've got this! You can do it!

The world and I love you together!

"I feel that there is really no hope in life, and I have no motivation to do anything." The OP needs to decide what kind of hope they want. Without hope, there is no motivation to do anything.

If you don't have a goal, you can't set off.

"I cried every day in my dormitory for the whole month, uncontrollably several times a day. I wanted to cry whenever I saw or did anything." The questioner is so motivated to "cry," perhaps feeling that only "crying" can be helpful at this time.

"I tried to communicate with my friends, but they didn't care and were always cold and perfunctory." The fact that the OP used the word "seem" shows that it is also the OP's speculation. Your friends simply don't know how to help you, or they know that they are unable to help you!

I can only avoid it by being indifferent, not caring, and perfunctory.

"I'm really afraid that others will think I'm being melodramatic and exaggerating my symptoms to get attention." The questioner can and should ask other people if they think what you think.

"What will be different about 'one more time' that will make the questioner unable to bear it?"

If you don't "do it again," the questioner will "let go" and "believe."

"My state of mind also comes and goes. Each time, the worst period lasts about a month. By the time I have the courage to see a doctor or talk to someone about it, I'm actually almost better. As a result, I just think, 'I'll do it next time.' I'm wondering how the questioner can find motivation to 'live in the present' if she doesn't find something to do for herself in the moment.

There's no way to walk towards a future without hope. This is a subconscious thing.

Let's look at the question again: "What do I do when I have no motivation for anything and feel useless?" The answer is simple: the questioner is not unmotivated for anything, and they are not too useless.

He's probably a bit stingy and doesn't want to use his motivation externally, but instead focuses it all on himself.

I am certain that my reply will be of some help to you. Best wishes!