Dear questioner,
Good day!
It is as though I am seeing my own child when I look at you, and I want to give you a warm hug.
It is possible that you may be experiencing some negative emotions at this time, which may result in your noticing certain negative aspects of your behaviour. These could include feelings of laziness, a lack of motivation to engage in tasks, a tendency to spend extended periods watching television, and a sense of irritation when faced with your mother's gentle guidance.
And your teachers saw only the best in you.
1. From an early age, you displayed positive characteristics that made you a well-behaved child.
2. You were very helpful around the family business, assisting your parents in managing the supermarket.
3. You have a knack for studying.
As a result, you received consistent affirmation from your father from an early age, and were regarded as a model student by your parents, neighbors, teachers, and classmates.
For some reason, your academic performance has declined, but you still managed to get into a second-tier university. This may not have met your parents' expectations, and it may also be a bit different from your own dreams, but you should know that even a second-tier university is still the dream of many children and families, and it is hard to achieve. If you look back, you will see that many of your classmates went to third-tier universities or vocational colleges, and some didn't even get into a junior college.
Perhaps it would be helpful to try not to dwell on the past and focus instead on the present. The past is gone, and there's no use in feeling sorry for yourself about it. Instead, try to find ways to appreciate the present and look forward to a bright future.
Perhaps the issue is that you're struggling to find your center. It seems that your family dynamic might be contributing to this challenge. It's possible that you've been playing the victim in some ways.
I'm happy to hear that you're seeking help and that you're open to making positive changes in your life. I believe that with the guidance of our teachers, you will find the answers you're looking for and make a complete turnaround.
The teacher's intention is not to give a lecture. The principles are intended to guide practice, and it is only through practice that real change can occur.
If I might offer you three pieces of advice, I would say:
?1. It might be helpful to get up immediately and end the "bad behavior."
If you are at home, you might consider going to bed early and waking up early, reducing the time spent on your phone and watching TV, and helping your parents with chores, just like when you were little and helped your parents take care of the supermarket business. You could also clean the house and cook for your parents.
When you stand up, your parents will no longer have cause to say you are noisy and annoying. They will see that you have returned to your old self, a well-behaved and sensible child, so there will be no further need for them to say anything to you.
?2. It would be beneficial to learn as soon as possible in order to regain excellence.
If you are at school, I would encourage you to study hard and do well in every subject. With your foundation, I am confident you can do well in every subject.
While successfully completing your course of study, you may wish to consider setting a goal. After graduating from a second-tier university, you might decide to go on to study for a master's degree. Alternatively, you could choose to take the civil service exam or enter the workforce.
In today's world, there are many avenues for pursuing graduate studies, even with a second-class bachelor's degree from a private university. If the reputation of the university is not as strong, there are still options for applying to well-known universities, which can enhance the value of your degree. Additionally, many provincial and municipal governments are now offering low-threshold positions for college graduates at junior colleges. Civil servant positions are also an option for those interested.
It would be beneficial to get active and cultivate relationships.
You mention that you feel you lack a certain physical appearance and specific skills, and that you're not particularly knowledgeable about the world. I would gently suggest that none of this is necessarily a problem. A person's physical appearance and initial knowledge base are not necessarily predictors of future development. With the right support, you can learn and grow in any area of your life.
You might find it helpful to take out a piece of paper and a pen and write down what you are good at, what you like, what you are proud of, and what you have achieved. This could help boost your confidence and help you identify areas that you can focus on strengthening, so that you can become your own bright spot and create your own brand.
There is no need to be proud to refuse to take advantage of your sister's social connections, nor to belittle yourself and think you have nothing to offer.
School is a small society, and if you can manage your relationships with teachers, classmates, and roommates in a positive and constructive manner, you will be well-positioned to integrate smoothly into society when you enter it later.
Additionally, I would like to suggest that you consider actively participating in school club activities. You may wish to join multiple clubs, such as book clubs, choirs, calligraphy associations, and dance associations. Through these activities, you may be able to make connections with individuals who share similar interests and discover what you truly enjoy. Once you have identified your strengths, it may be beneficial to focus on them and persevere with them for the rest of your life.
I am so proud of you, my child. Your future is bright, and I am excited for you!
It would be beneficial to take action! Creating a good and harmonious family atmosphere, building good relationships at school, and building and improving the perfect you all require you to take the first step and keep going.
While life can undoubtedly be ordinary, it is important to ensure that we do not dwell on any regrets.
If I might make a suggestion, it would be to act now.
If I might make a suggestion, why not go for the light?
If you're ready, I'd like to encourage you to take the next step.
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
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I understand how you're feeling, and it's okay to not be okay. Everyone hits rough patches. Just remember, your worth isn't defined by one setback. Maybe this is a chance to explore what truly makes you happy and redefine success on your own terms. Sometimes, taking a step back from expectations can open up new paths.
It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden. It's important to acknowledge that everyone has their struggles, even if they're not visible. You've been strong for so long; it's alright to take time for yourself now. Consider talking to someone who can offer support, like a counselor or a trusted friend. Sharing your feelings might lighten the load.
You've shown strength in many ways, from helping at home to doing well in school. One grade doesn't define your entire future. There are countless successful people who faced setbacks before finding their path. Focus on what you love, like TV dramas; maybe there's a way to turn that passion into something more, such as writing or media studies.
Your family's reaction may hurt, but try to see it as temporary. People often react out of disappointment rather than lack of love. They want the best for you. Perhaps opening a dialogue with them about your feelings could help bridge the gap. Communication can lead to understanding and healing over time.
Feeling lost is part of growing up. You're not alone in this. Lots of students feel pressure after high school. Explore different interests and skills outside academics. Volunteering, joining clubs, or learning a hobby can build confidence and reveal talents you didn't know you had.