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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, my dear friend! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.
I'm really happy I saw your request for help! I hope my sharing can give you some support and help. I also hope you can become aware of yourself, because you are always caught up in making plans and cannot truly implement a task, which causes you pain. I applaud you for being able to recognize this and for choosing to come here for help!
It can be really helpful to think about why you're making plans in the first place. Is it because you feel like you're not good enough, or that you don't quite fit in? Do you worry that if you don't meet everyone's expectations, you'll be rejected?
If you can't accept others' negative comments about yourself, you might feel anxious, panicky, or uneasy. We all feel that way sometimes!
It can be really tough to implement something when our true intention and motivation for doing it is to gain more recognition, affirmation, and encouragement from others. We might not believe we are capable of doing it well, even if we do it well enough. And that's okay! We all have different feelings, perceptions, and evaluation standards. What do you think?
So when you can try to realize why you always get caught up in the trouble of over-planning, it is actually that you are avoiding doing something by doing the planning. This is totally normal! We all feel frustrated and a bit lost when we can't make those around us happy after trying our best. This is something you need to try to realize, and you've got this!
It's only when you can see why you're planning in the first place that you can start to change things for the better. For instance, you can learn to accept yourself more, build up your confidence, and feel more worthy of yourself. Once you're sure of who you are on the inside, you'll find that other people's attitudes and comments don't affect you as much.
Plus, you'll have a more realistic view of others' and your own attitudes and opinions. You'll also be able to handle negative comments from others with grace.
So, let's all try to relax a little! Perfection is overrated. What really matters is growth.
Keep up the great work! Keep improving, completing, and perfecting the process.
Hi, I'm Lily, the little Q&A Pavilion listener. I love the world and I love you!
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I can relate to your struggle with aligning core values with specific life domains. It seems like the key is not just to have a plan but to ensure that each domain of your life reflects those values in its own unique way. For instance, kindness in finance could mean ethical investing or supporting charitable causes within your budget.
It's challenging to create a comprehensive life plan that covers all aspects meaningfully. Perhaps instead of focusing on one grand plan, you could develop smaller, more manageable plans for different areas of your life, each informed by your core values. This might make it easier to integrate these values into your daily actions and decisions.
The anxiety from planning can be paralyzing. Maybe it would help to take a step back and start with a simpler approach. You could begin by identifying a few shortterm goals that are directly tied to your core values. Achieving these could provide a sense of progress and reduce some of the pressure.
I understand how overwhelming this process can be. One thing that has helped me is to think about my plan as a living document that evolves over time. Instead of trying to get everything perfect from the start, I allow myself to adjust and refine the plan as I gain new insights and experiences.
It sounds like you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself to create the perfect plan. Sometimes, it's okay to acknowledge that uncertainty is part of life. By embracing flexibility, you can create a framework that guides you without being too rigid. This might alleviate some of the anxiety and allow you to move forward.